Yu smɔl pikin kin kray we dɛn lɛf yu? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt separeshɔn wɔri!

Mama ɛn Papa, una fɔ rili sabi una smɔl pikin we de tay pan una, we de ala ɛn kray, we una de rɛdi fɔ go wok ɔ jɔs de muf rawnd smɔl. Sɔmtɛm dis kin fil lɛk bɔrku pwɛl hat ɛn wɔri, bɔt fɔ tru, na nɔmal tin fɔ yɔŋ pikin dɛn divɛlɔpmɛnt. Rilaks, dis na sɔntin we ɔlmost ɔl mama ɛn papa kin ɛkspiriɛns. Tide, lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis sik wae dɛn kɔl Separation Anxiety ditayli.

Wetin na dis separeshɔn wɔri we pikin dɛn kin gɛt?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, di wɔri we yu de wɔri bɔt fɔ separet na we yu smɔl pikin, ilɛksɛf na bebi ɔ pikin we de smɔl, kray ɛn vɛks we yu de fa frɔm dɛn ɔ we yu nɔ de si am. dis na rili nכmal stej fכ pikin divεlכpmεnt. i kin stat we di pikin ol arawnd 6 to 12 mכnt . Fɔ sɔm pikin dɛn, i kin las te dɛn ol lɛk 3 ia so .

Yu no wetin mek dis kin apin to smɔl pikin dɛn? We dɛn yɔŋ, dɛn nɔ kin ɔndastand se "ivin if sɔntin nɔ de na pɔsin in yay, i stil de." Wi kɔl dis ``(Objɛkt Pɛrmanɛns)`` . Dat min se, di ebul fɔ ɔndastand se sɔntin ɔ pɔsin stil de de, ilɛksɛf dɛn nɔ de si am. So, we bebi nɔ si yu, i kin tink se yu nɔ go kam bak. Bɔt as di pikin de big, i kin ɔndastand se yu jɔs de go fɔ sɔm tɛm ɛn yu go kam bak.

Dis na nɔmal tin? Ɔ na sɔntin we wi fɔ fred?

I nɔmal fɔ fil bɔku pen we yu lɛf yu pikin na wokples ɛn waka kɔmɔt na di domɔt, de kray na yu fut. Bɔt mɛmba se dis na fɔ shɔt tɛm nɔmɔ, na fɔ shɔt tɛm nɔmɔ . Infakt, dis na gud sayn fɔ se yu ɛn yu pikin gɛt tayt padi biznɛs . I jɔs tek sɔm tɛm fɔ mek yu pikin ebul fɔ pas dis stej. Tɛm lɛk dis kin mek yu ɛn yu pikin strɛs smɔl. Bɔt if yu gɛt di abit fɔ se gudbai kwik kwik wan ɛn tɛl yu pikin ustɛm yu go kam bak, yu go ebul fɔ ridyus di pen we yu kin fil we yu separet.

Na ɔda tin ya fɔ ɔndastand. Separation Anxiety ɛn Stranger Anxiety na tu difrɛn tin. Bɔt sɔntɛnde, de sik kin tan lɛk dis. Stranger Anxiety na wae pikin kin frayd ɛn nɔr kin fil fayn wae i si pɔrsin wae i nɔr no. Dat na nכmal divεlכpmεnt trayt bak fכ pikin dεm we gεt dis ej.

Wetin na di sayn dɛm we de sho se pikin de biev lɛk dis?

Di wɔri we bebi ɛn smɔl pikin dɛn kin wɔri bɔt fɔ separet kin gɛt dɛn sayn ya:

• Kray ɔ mek fus, ivin if yu go na ɔda rum ɛn dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ si yu.
• Fɔ ala lawd wan ɔ fɔ trowe tantrum we yu tray fɔ lɛf dɛn.
• Hang on to your own body , nɔ fɔ lɛf yu fɔ go.
• Kray we yu drop dɛn na daycare ɔ ɔda pɔsin in os.
• Tray fɔ kip yu klos we yu de slip.

dis bihayvya kin dכn sכmtεm we di pikin ol 2 כ 3 ia . Bɔt mɛmba se nɔto ɔl pikin dɛn na di sem . Yu pikin kin nid smɔl mɔ tɛm fɔ kɔmɔt pan dis pat. Dat na nɔmal tin.

Ustɛm dis kin bi abnɔmal tin? A fɔ go to dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn?

Separeshɔn wɔri na wan kɔmɔn tin wae kin de afta yu pikin dɔn bigin fɔ go skul, bɔrku tɛm afta i dɔn ol 3. I impɔtant fɔ tink bɔt if i de afɛkt yu pikin in ebul fɔ go skul ɔr fɔ de na skul.

Wae pɔrsin kin wɔri bɔt aw pɔrsin kin separet wae kin de pas 3 ia kin bi sayn wae de sho se pɔrsin kin wɔri bɔt aw pɔrsin kin separet . Dis na frayd ɛn pwɛl hat wae de kam wae pɔrsin de fil fɔ separet wae kin rili bad ɛn nɔr fayn fɔ di pikin in ej ɛn wae kin afɛkt ɛvride layf, maynd wɛl bɔdi, ɛn soshal wɛl bɔdi.

Na nɔmal tin fɔ mek yɔŋ pikin dɛn gɛt smɔl wɔri fɔ separet we dɛn de na nyu say ɔ sityueshɔn. Fɔ ɛgzampul, di fɔs de we yu de na skul, yu pikin kin kray ɛn tayt to yu, ɛn i nɔ kin gri fɔ kɔmɔt de. Bɔt afta wan ɔ tu dez, dɛn fɔ yus to di nyu envayrɔmɛnt ɛn dɛn bihayvya ya fɔ dɔn. If nɔto dat, if dis wɔri de kɔntinyu de afta de, wik afta wik , i kin bi sayn fɔ ``Separation Anxiety Disorder''.

If yu pikin dɔn pas 3 ia ɛn i de wɔri bad bad wan ɔ de fred se dɛn go separet frɔm yu , mek shɔ se yu tɔk to yu dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn bɔt dis. Tɛl yu dɔktɔ wetin yu de si ɛn wetin yu pikin de tɛl yu bɔt di separeshɔn. Dɔn di dɔktɔ kin no di sik ɛn rifer yu fɔ tritmɛnt if nid de.

Wetin mek mi pikin kin kray ɛnitɛm we a kɔmɔt? Wetin na di rizin we mek dis de apin?

Di men rizin fɔ dis na bikɔs yu pikin nɔ kin fil sef we yu nɔ de nia am. Yɔŋ pikin dɛn, we min bebi ɛn smɔl pikin dɛn, kin rili dipen pan di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ dɛn fɔ mek dɛn sef ɛn sef. Dɔn bak, as wi bin dɔn tɔk, dɛn stil de lan di kɔnsɛpt fɔ ``Objɛkt Pɛrmanɛns'' . Dis min se ilɛksɛf sɔntin ɔ pɔsin nɔ de na dɛn yay igen, dɛn nɔ kin ɔndastand gud gud wan se dɛn stil de de. So, dɛn kin fil se dɛn nɔ gɛt sef we yu nɔ de nia yu, ɛn dɛn nɔ kin ɔndastand gud gud wan se yu go kam bak, so dɛn kin vɛks ɛn kray.

Aw wi kin dil wit dis prɔblɛm? Wetin wi go du as mama ɛn papa?

I kin tranga fɔ kɔrej pikin we de wɔri fɔ separet. Bɔt yu kin ebul fɔ kɔntrol di tin we de apin bay we yu mek smɔl chenj dɛn to yu rutin ɛn kip gudbay shɔt ɛn swit. Dis go mek yu pikin ebul fɔ no wetin go apin, ɛn i go mek dɛn gɛt kɔnfidɛns se yu go kam bak. Afta sɔm tɛm, yu pikin go kol ɛn i go fayn if yu nɔ de.

Na sɔm tin dɛn we yu kin du fɔ mek yu separet fayn fayn wan:

• ### Gi yu pikin sɔm tɛm fɔ yus to nyu pɔsin.

Nyu pɔsin we de kia fɔ pikin/bɔdi de kam na yu os? Bifo yu tek ova wantɛm wantɛm, mek yu pikin yus to dɛn de. Una spɛn wan ɔ tu de wit una tri (yu, di pikin, ɛn di nyu wan). Ple. Da we de, ilɛksɛf yu de fa fɔ sɔm tɛm, yu pikin go fil fayn wit di nyu pɔsin.

• ### Tray fɔ mek smɔl 'trial' rizɛvshɔn

Bifo yu lɛf yu pikin in wan fɔ di wan ol de, tray fɔ lɛf am fɔ shɔt tɛm, lɛk wan ɔ tu awa fɔs. Ilɛksɛf yu nɔ gɛt say fɔ go, yuz da tɛm de fɔ du sɔntin fɔ yusɛf. Dis na fayn chans fɔ kia fɔ yusɛf fɔ yusɛf! I de ɛp yu pikin bak fɔ yus fɔ de apat.

• ### Establish wan rɛgyula rutin ɛn yus to am.

Tɛl yu pikin ustɛm yu go si dɛn bak, ɛn tɔk klia wan bɔt dat. Di mɔ we yu pikin kin abop se yu go kam bak we yu se yu go kam bak, na di mɔ i go izi fɔ mek dɛn gri wit gudbay. I kin ɛp bak fɔ tɔk insay langwej we yu pikin ɔndastand. Sɔntɛm dɛn nɔ go ɔndastand di tɛm na klok, bɔt dɛn go ɔndastand tin dɛn lɛk, "Mama go kam afta yu grap na bed," ɔ "Papa go kam afta wi dɔn ple na ivintɛm." If yu tɔk to yu pikin dairekt wan bɔt wetin yu dɔn plan, dat go ɛp yu pikin fɔ ɔndastand se fɔ separate na nɔmal tin ɛn nɔto sɔntin we i fɔ fred.

• ### Kip fayvɛl as shɔt ɛn padi as yu ebul.

We yu tɛl yu pikin gudbay, du am kwik ɛn wit gladi at . Gi dɛm wan lɔng ɔg, nɔ luk sɔri, smayl, ɛn se, "A go kam bak jisnɔ, bɔy pikin/dɔta." If yu de wɔri, yu pikin kin fred mɔ. Di we aw yu de biev we yu nɔ gɛt wanwɔd ɛn we yu gɛt kɔnfidɛns, dat go ɛp yu pikin fɔ fil di sem we.

Fɔ dɔn, di mɛsej we impɔtant pas ɔl fɔ mama ɛn papa dɛn

We yu si yu pikin de fil bad ɛn de wɔri if yu nɔ de, dat kin mek yu nɔ ebul fɔ bia. I kin at pasmak we yu tink se na bikɔs ɔf yu. Mɛmba dɛn tin ya bɔt aw pɔsin kin wɔri bɔt aw pɔsin kin separet:

Dis nɔto yu fɔlt. Kray ɛn klin na nɔmal tin fɔ bebi ɛn pikin dɛn we de smɔl. Nɔ fil gilti fɔ go wok ɔ fɔ go na di bafa fɔ sɔm tɛm. Yu pikin go kol insay shɔt tɛm, ɛn i nɔ go te igen i go yus to yu.

Bɔt if yu pikin nɔ rich skul yet (ɔ i dɔn pas dat) ɛn i kin gɛt siriɔs prɔblɛm ɔltɛm we i nɔ de wit yu, tɔk to yu dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn. E kin bi sayn fɔ Separation Anxiety Disorder, wae dɛn kin trit. Yu nɔ nid fɔ dil wit dɛn tin ya yu wan, so gɛt ɛp.

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