Yu dɔn ɛva yɛri bɔt pipul dɛn we kin kam nia di wan dɛn we kidnap dɛn? Dɛn kɔl dis Stɔkhɔlm Sindrom!

Yu dɔn ɛva yɛri bɔt wan tin we kin apin we dɛn kidnap pɔsin ɛn ol am as slev ɛn yu kin fil sɔri fɔ di pɔsin we kidnap yu, sɔntɛm yu kin ivin fil se yu na padi? I strenj, nɔto so? Bɔt i kin rili bi wan kɔmpleks saykilɔjik kɔndishɔn. Tide wi go tɔk bɔt wan ɔnusual, bɔt rili impɔtant, saykilɔjik kɔndishɔn. Dis na wetin dɔktɔ dɛn kin kɔl Stockholm Syndrome.

Wetin na di sik we dɛn kɔl Stockholm Syndrome?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, Stɔkhɔlm Sindrom na di we aw pɔsin, we dɛn ol am ɔstej ɔ we dɛn du bad bad tin to am, i kin gɛt strɔng filin ɛn sɔri fɔ di pɔsin we du am ɔ di pɔsin we tek am. Imajin aw i wɔndaful ɛn kɔmpleks fɔ gɛt tayt padi biznɛs ɛn sɔri fɔ di pɔsin we de mɔna yu ɔ mek yu sɔfa.

Pan ɔl we dɛn bin no dis sik fɔs we pɔsin kidnap pɔsin, naw dɔktɔ dɛn se dɛn kin si am bak pan ɔda bad bad tin dɛn we kin mek pɔsin fil bad . Dat min se, wan strenj, we at fɔ ɔndastand, kin kam bitwin di pɔsin we de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit di pɔsin.

Bɔrku pipul dɛm wae sabi bɔt mɛntɛl hεlth kin si dis as wan we fɔ bia wit dis sik wae de pɔrsin wae de gɛt dis pwɛl hat sik kin yuse fɔ liv fɔ de, wik, ɛn sɔmtɛm fɔ lɔng tɛm wae pɔrsin kin gɛt trauma ɛn abiuz . Na wan strenj we fɔ mek di maynd adap to di denja tin ɛn protɛkt insɛf.

Bɔku ɔda kayn maynd sik dɛn de we fiba dis, ɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit am, we dɔktɔ dɛn dɔn no:

• Trauma bonding: Dis na bad bad bond wae de divεlכp bitwin di abuser εn di viktim tru siriכs trauma.
• Lan fɔ lɛ yu nɔ ebul fɔ du natin: Dis min se yu nɔ go ebul fɔ du ɛnitin bay we yu biliv se yu nɔ go ɛva ebul fɔ rɔnawe pan dis kayn tin ɛn no ɛp nɔ de.
• Battered person syndrome: Na saykilɔjik kɔndishɔn wae kin kam wae pɔrsin de trit yu bɔdi ɔr maynd fɔ lɔng tɛm ɛn na da abiuz de shep am.

Aw dis mek di nem ‘Stockholm’?

I gɛt in nem bikɔs ɔf wan spɛshal tin we bin apin we bin mek di wan ol wɔl pe atɛnshɔn to am. I bin apin insay 1973, na wan siti we dɛn kɔl Stɔkhɔlm, insay Swidan . Wan grup fɔ pipul dɛn bin kam fɔ tif wan bank ɛn dɛn bin ol bɔku pan di wan dɛn we de wok na di bank as ɔstej fɔ siks dez. Dis bin apin we di polis dɛn bin de rawnd dɛn. Di wɔndaful tin na dat afta we dɛn fri dɛn hostaj ya sɔm kayn we, sɔm pan dɛn nɔ bin ivin want fɔ tɛstify na kɔt agens di bank tifman dɛn . Nɔto dat nɔmɔ, bɔt i sɔprayz fɔ no se dɛn gɛda mɔni bak fɔ ɛp wit di ligal kes fɔ sev di tifman dɛn!

So, wan kriminɔlɔjis ɛn wan saykayatrist we bin dɔn du risach bɔt dis tin we apin dip wan na dɛn fɔs yuz di nem ‘Stockholm Syndrome’ fɔ ɛksplen dis strenj padi biznɛs ɛn sɔri-at we di bank wokman dɛn sho to di tifman dɛn. Dat min se, di sik we dɛn bin si na di siti na Stɔkhɔlm. Frɔm da tɛm de, dɛn dɔn de yuz dis nem fɔ tin dɛn lɛk dis.

Wetin na di sayn dɛm wae de sho se yu gɛt Stɔkhɔlm Sindrom?

If pɔrsin gɛt Stockholm Syndrome, i kin sho dɛn kayn sik ya. Bɔt mɛmba se nɔto ɔlman go gɛt ɔl dɛn sik ya, ɛn dɛn kin difrɛn frɔm wan pɔsin to ɔda pɔsin.

• Fɔ fil fayn fɔ di wan dɛn we de ol yu as slev ɔ di wan dɛn we de trit yu bad. Dat min se, pɔsin kin fil sɔri fɔ dɛn, sɔntɛm i kin want fɔ du am, i kin fil se i want fɔ protɛkt dɛn.
• Fɔ gri wit wetin dɛn biliv ɛn di we aw dɛn de biev, fɔ sɔri fɔ dɛn. Jɔs lɛk wetin dɛn de du, frɔm dɛn yon we, i tan lɛk se i rayt, de tray fɔ ɔndastand dɛn.
• Fɔ gɛt bad filin to di polis, ɔda ɔtoriti, ɔ di wan dɛn we de tray fɔ sev yu. Dat min se yu fɔ agens di wan dɛn we de kam fɔ sev yu ɛn nɔ abop pan yu.

Apat frɔm dɛn tin ya, dɛn kin si bak di sayn dɛm we fiba di wan dɛm wae gɛt Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) , we na wan kayn maynd sik wae kin apun afta pɔrsin kin fil bad. Dɛn tin ya na:

• Flashbacks: Dis min se i tan lɛk se di tin dɛn we apin de mek yu gɛt layf bak bifo yu yay, ɛn i tan lɛk se di sawnd dɛn, di smel dɛn, ɛn di filin dɛn de di sem tɛm.
• Fɔ fil nɔ izi, fɔ vɛks ɔltɛm, fɔ fil bad, ɛn fɔ wɔri. Fɔ vɛks ɛn vɛks pan smɔl smɔl tin dɛn.
• Nɔ ebul fɔ ɛnjɔy tin dɛn we bin de mek yu gladi, nɔ ebul fɔ rilaks.
• I nɔ kin izi fɔ mek yu pe atɛnshɔn to yu. Di mɛmori lɔs kin apin bak.
• Inshɔmnia, bad bad drim dɛn.

Wetin mek sɔm pipul dɛn kin gɛt dis sik?

Infakt, di wan dɛn we de stɔdi bɔt dis stil nɔ shɔ 100 pasɛnt wetin mek sɔm pipul dɛn we dɛn tek as ɔstej ɔ we de trit dɛn bad kin gɛt di sik we dɛn kɔl Stɔkhɔlm Sindrom, bɔt ɔda wan dɛn we dɔn bia wit wan bad bad tin we kin apin to dɛn nɔ kin gɛt dis sik. Bɔt sɔm tiori dɛn de we go ɛksplen wetin mek.

Wan tiori na dat dis na wan we we wi dɔn lan frɔm wan jɛnɛreshɔn to di ɔda wan frɔm wi gret gret granpa dɛn . Imajin, trade, wɔ bin de bitwin trayb dɛn, ɛn ɔltɛm di risk bin de fɔ mek ɔda soshal grup kech dɛn ɛn kil dɛn. Da tɛm de, we yu mek sɔm kayn padi biznɛs ɔ padi biznɛs wit di wan dɛn we kech yu, yu chans fɔ liv bin de go ɔp.Sɔm saykayatrist dɛn we de stɔdi bɔt aw tin dɛn we de apin na di wɔl biliv se dis we aw dɛn bin de du tin trade trade kin bi mɔtalman abit we dɔn ɛp mɔtalman fɔ liv.

Wan ɔda we aw pipul dɛn kin tink na dat, we dɛn de ol pɔsin ɔ we dɛn de trit am bad, dat kin mek i fil bad . Dat min se di prɛshɔn tumɔs fɔ mek di maynd ebul fɔ bia. Dɔn, as tɛm de go, if yu gɛt sɔm smɔl kayn gud ɔ sɔri-at frɔm di pɔsin we de du am (fɔ ɛgzampul, gi dɛn sɔm it, gi dɛn sɔm wata, tɔk to dɛn smɔl), yu kin chenj aw yu de fil fɔ ansa ɛn gɛt sɔri-at fɔ di pɔsin we de du am. Dɔn bak, yu kin fil se yu go ebul fɔ mek shɔ se yu sef bay we yu de wok togɛda wit di pɔsin we de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit am, pas fɔ fɛt am. We di pɔsin we de du yu bad nɔ du yu bad, yu kin tɛmpt fɔ tɛl tɛnki to da pɔsin de, ɛn sɔntɛm yu kin ivin si di pɔsin we du yu bad as "nɔto da kayn bad pɔsin de." Dis na wan tin we pɔsin nɔ kin no na in maynd atɔl .

Aw dɔktɔ dɛn no se dis na sik?

Na sɔntin we spɛshal we yu fɔ no. Di American Psychiatric Association nɔ ɔfishal wan put Stockholm Syndrome as wan sɛpret kɔndishɔn na dɛn las diagnostik manyual – di Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), we na di big wan na di wɔl, we ɔlman gri wit fɔ no di mental sik ɛn kɔndishɔn dɛm.

So, sɔm pipul dɛm wae de kia fɔ wɛl bɔdi biznɛs, lɛk dɔktɔ ɛn saykayatrist, kin no ɔr nɔr kin no dis sik wit da nem de. Bɔt dɛn ɔl no bɔt di we aw dɛn de biev we kin apin afta wan bad bad tin we kin apin to pɔsin, dat na di sayn dɛn we di pɔsin we dɛn du bad to kin sho. Di krayteria wae dɛn kin yuse fɔ no bɔt pɔst-traumatik strɛs disɔda (PTSD) ɛn akyu strɛs disɔda , ɛn sɔm pan di tritmɛnt dɛm, rili fiba di Stɔkhɔlm Sindrom. So wetin dɔktɔ kin du na fɔ plan di tritmɛnt bay di sayn dɛm ɛn ɛkspiriɛns.

Wetin na di tritmɛnt fɔ di sik we dɛn kɔl Stockholm Syndrome?

Dɛn nɔr ɔfishal wan kɔl Stɔkhɔlm Sindrom as mɛntɛl sik, so nɔr standad tritmɛnt nɔr de fɔ am. Bɔt lɛk aw wi bin dɔn tɔk, dɛn kin trit Stɔkhɔlm Sindrɔm di sem we lɛk aw dɛn kin trit pɔsin we gɛt strɛs we pɔsin kin gɛt afta i dɔn tranga (PTSD) . Dis kin bi mɔ tru saykotɛrapi ɛn/ɔ mɛrɛsin if nid de.

If yu ɔr pɔrsin wae de nia yu gɛt dis sik, na sɔm fayn fayn we fɔ bia wit de pwɛl hat sik wae yu dɔn gɛt.Yu kin lan.

Tɛrapi kin ɛp yu wit dɛn tin ya:

• Ɔndastand yu ɛkspiriɛns, wetin apin to yu, ɛn wetin mek yu fil di we aw yu fil.
• Ɔndastand se di filin fɔ sɔri fɔ di wan dɛn we kech yu ɔ di pɔsin we de trit yu bad na bin skil fɔ sev we yu bin gɛt da tɛm de fɔ liv ɛn bia wit di tin we apin. Aksept se nɔto yu fɔlt.
• Lan aw fɔ go bifo na yu layf strɔng ɛn bigin fɔ du nyu tin afta dis tranga ɛkspiriɛns.

If yu gɛt sɔm sayn dɛm, lɛk wae yu nɔr de slip, wae yu de wɔri, ɔr yu gɛt pwɛl hat, yu dɔktɔ kin gi yu mɛrɛsin fɔ ɛp yu fɔ slip fayn ɛn nɔr de wɔri ɔr pwɛl hat. Dɛn tin ya kin woke fayn wae yu kin yuse am wit saykotɛrapi.

Wi go ebul fɔ kɔmɔt na dis sityueshɔn? Wetin go apin tumara bambay?

Di fɔs tin fɔ se na dat nɔto ɔlman we dɛn de trit bad, we dɛn at pwɛl, ɔ we dɛn ol as ɔstej kin gɛt wan sik we dɛn kɔl Stockholm Syndrome . Dis na rili wan saykilɔjik riakshɔn we nɔ kin apin so ɔltɛm . Dat min se na sɔntin we nɔ kin apin so ɔltɛm.

Bɔt ivin if dis apin, saykotɛrapi ɛn if nid de, mɛrɛsin kin rili ɛp yu ɔ di pɔsin we yu lɛk fɔ wɛl frɔm dis sik ɛn go bifo wit nɔmal, gladi layf. So nɔ giv ɔp fɔ gɛt op. Di prɔses fɔ wɛl kin tek sɔm tɛm, bɔt if yu gɛt di rayt sɔpɔt, dɛn kin du am.

Yu tink se Stɔkhɔlm Sindrom kin apin nɔmɔ pan ɔstej sityueshɔn?

Pan ɔl we dɛn bin mek di nem Stɔkhɔlm Sindrɔm afta di siti na Stɔkhɔlm, usay dɛn bin tif na bank ɛn tek pipul dɛn as ɔstej, wi kin si di sem kayn we aw pipul dɛn kin biev ɛn fil bak pan pipul dɛn we dɔn gɛt ɔda bad bad tin dɛn we kin mek dɛn fil bad. Dis min se nɔto jɔs pipul dɛn we dɛn tek as ɔstej nɔmɔ i de du. Na sɔm ɛgzampul dɛn ya:

• Abiuz pan mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, bɔdi ɛn filin: Ɛspɛshali pan kes dɛm lɛk vaylɛns na os fɔ lɔng tɛm.
• Pikin we de trit pikin bad: Pikin kin mek padi biznɛs wit big pɔsin we de du bad bikɔs di pikin nɔ gɛt ɔda tin fɔ du ɔ fɔ protɛkt am.
• Di we aw di kɔch ɛn atlet dɛn de trit dɛn bad: Imajin se sɔm atlet dɛn kin gri fɔ wok we dɛn kɔch kin du bad bad wan, we kin mek dɛn atlet, ɛn we kin ivin bad bikɔs dɛn biliv se di kɔch no wetin bɛtɛ fɔ dɛn ɛn i kin mek dɛn win.
• Yuman sɛks trafik: Na ya bak, ripɔt dɔn de se pipul dɛn we dɛn de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit de mek sɔm kayn padi biznɛs wit di wan dɛn we de sɛl dɛn.
• Wi kin kɔmpia di blaynd devoshɔn we di mɛmba dɛn na sɔm rilijɔn kɔlt dɛn gɛt to dɛn lida dɛn to dis to sɔm mak.

Insay ɔl dɛn kayn tin ya, Stɔkhɔlm Sindrom na wan we fɔ bia wit di prɔblɛm . Bifo yu fil se yu de fred, fred, ɔ et di pɔsin we de du yu bad, yu kin bigin fɔ fil se yu tan lɛk mɔtalman ɛn sɔri fɔ dɛn.

Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na dat if yu ɔ pɔsin we de nia yu dɔn gɛt Stɔkhɔlm Sindrom, i impɔtant fɔ ɔndastand se di gud filin we yu gɛt fɔ di pɔsin we de du yu bad nɔto yu fɔlt. Na we fɔ ɔndastand aw yu de fil, aw yu de bia wit wetin apin to yu, ɛn aw yu de bia wit am. Yu dɔktɔ ɔ advaysa kin ɛp yu ɔr pɔrsin wae yu lɛk fɔ wɛl frɔm dis sik.

Fɔ dɔn, di tin dɛn we impɔtant pas ɔl fɔ mɛmba (Take-Home Message) .

Okay, so naw wi dɔn ɔndastand gud gud wan bɔt Stockholm Syndrome. Pan ɔl we na kɔmpleks tɔpik, i impɔtant fɔ no bɔt am. Na sɔm impɔtant tin dɛn we yu fɔ mɛmba:

• Stockholm Syndrome na wan saikolojik riakshɔn we nɔ kin apin so ɔltɛm, bɔt we kin apin, we pɔsin kin gɛt siriɔs trauma ɔr abiuz we di pɔsin we dɛn du bad to kin gɛt sɔri-at ɔr kin gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit di pɔsin we de du am.
• Dis nɔto di pɔsin we dɛn du bad to in fɔlt , na wan we fɔ bia wit di prɔblɛm we di maynd de yuz fɔ liv, we na wan we fɔ liv we i nɔ no .
• Dis sityueshɔn nɔto jɔs fɔ tek hostej, bɔt yu kin si am bak pan difrɛn abiuz ɛn traumatik tin dɛn .
• Pan ɔl we dɛn nɔ ɔfishal wan klas am as sik, i kin sho sɔm sayn dɛn we fiba post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) , ɛn di tritmɛnt dɛn we dɛn kin gi kin fiba.
• Wit saykotɛrapi ɛn, if nid de, mɛrɛsin, i rili pɔsibul fɔ wɛl frɔm dis kɔndishɔn ɛn go bak to nɔmal layf.
• If yu ɔr pɔrsin wae yu sabi de sɔfa wit dis sik, ɔr dɔn gɛt dis sik, i rili impɔtant fɔ go to pɔrsin wae gɛt dis sik ɛn fɔ gɛt sɔpɔt frɔm pɔrsin wae sabi bɔt mɛntɛl hεlth .

Nɔ ɛva fil yu wan, shem, ɔ fil gilti fɔ ɛkspiriɛns lɛk dis. Nɔ fred fɔ aks fɔ ɛp. Yu maynd wɛlbɔdi rili valyu. Yu gɛt di rayt fɔ protɛkt am.

` Stɔkhɔlm Sindrom, mental wɛlbɔdi, trauma, abiuz, hostej, saykolojik rispɔns, Stɔkhɔlm Sindrom, PTSD, kɔping mɛkanism