Yu want fɔ pik yu yon we aw yu de fil? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis!

Yu dɔn ɛva gɛt bad at ɛn jɔs nɔ ebul fɔ kɔmɔt pan am? Ɔ yu dɔn ɛva fil lɛk se yu gɛt bɔku tin fɔ du ɛn tink se, ‘A nɔ de fil fɔ du ɛnitin tide’? Sɔntɛnde wi kin tink se dɛn maynd ya na jɔs tin dɛn we kin kam to wi, we wi nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol. Bɔt fɔ tru, nɔto so i bi. Wi kin afɛkt ɛn chenj di we aw wi de fil, dat na di we aw wi de fil. Infakt, fɔ pik di kayn we aw pɔsin de fil we go fayn fɔ wan patikyula tin na pat pan wi filin intɛlijɛns. We yu pik di rayt we aw yu de fil, dat kin ɛp yu fɔ kɔntrol ɛnitin we yu de du.

Di we aw pɔsin de fil ɛn di we aw pɔsin de tink kin kam togɛda fɔ mek pɔsin gɛt sakrifays!

We wi de du sɔntin, di we aw wi de fil kin afɛkt aw wi ebul fɔ du am fayn fayn wan. Ɛn ɔda tin de, ɛn na di we aw wi kin sɛt wi maynd, we wi kin kɔl wi maynd. Naw yu go de tink se, ‘Wetin difrɛn bitwin di we aw pɔsin de fil ɛn di we aw i de tink?’ Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, di we aw pɔsin de fil na di filin we wi gɛt. Mindset na di tink ɛn aidia dɛm we kin kam na wi maynd wit da filin de. Di we aw wi de fil ɛn di we aw wi de tink de go togɛda, bikɔs di tin dɛn we wi de tink bɔt kin afɛkt di we aw wi de fil. Na wan kwik ɛgzampul: Imajin se yu de kɔmpit fɔ swim mitin dis aftanun. Uswan pan dɛn mud ɛn maynd we de dɔŋ ya go ɛp yu fɔ kɔmpit pan yu bɛst?

• Mud A: Fɔ fil se yu nɔ shɔ. Yu kin kɔntinyu fɔ tink se ɔda pipul dɛn go bit yu, ɛn sɔntɛm yu nɔ go fit wit di grup.
• Mud B: Fɔ vɛks, nɔ de rɛst. Yu tink se dis swimin go tek di tɛm we yu gɛt wit yu padi dɛn.
• Mud C: I gɛt zil ɛn i ful-ɔp wit kɔnfidɛns. Yu tink se if yu tray yu bɛst, yu tim gɛt big chans fɔ kam insay gud shep.

Infakt, yu kin ajɔst di bɛst rizɔlt wit di mud ɛn maynd we C gɛt, nɔto so? Bɔt imajin if yu bin de fil lɛk A ɔ B, ɛn yu bin de fred se da we de de afɛkt yu pefɔmɛns? Bɔt gud tin na dat, yu kin chenj di we aw yu de fil.

Aw wi kin pik di kayn we aw wi de fil?

Okay, so mek wi si aw fɔ pik ɔ chenj dis mud. Sɔm tin dɛn de we yu fɔ du fɔ du dis.

Step 1: No aw yu de fil naw.

Fɔ chenj di we aw yu de fil, yu nid fɔ no fɔs wetin yu de tink ɛn fil rayt naw. Dɔn yu kin disayd if di we aw yu de fil fayn fɔ di tɛm, if yu nid fɔ chenj to difrɛn we aw yu de fil, ɔ if yu de fil fayn. No aw yu de fil, stɔp ɛn tink bɔt wetin yu de fil ɛn wetin mek yu de fil da kayn we de. Put dɛn filin dɛn de insay wɔd dɛn. Lɛk, ‘O, a de fil bad bad wan rayt naw’ ɔ ‘A de fil se a de mi wan.’ Yu kin tɔk dis kwayɛt wan to yusɛf, lawd wan, ɔ to ɔda pɔsin.

Step 2: Aksept aw yu de fil.

We yu dɔn gi yu filin nem, tray fɔ ɔndastand wetin mek yu de fil da we de. Tink bɔt dis, yu kin fil se yu de bost Satide we ren kin kam, ɔ yu kin vɛks we yu gɛt fɔ stɔdi we ɔlman kin kɔmɔt na do. Dis ɔl na rili nɔmal filin. Ɔl di filin dɛn na tin we pɔsin kin gri wit ɛn wi kin ɔndastand. Bɔt yu nɔ nid fɔ stɔp insay dɛn. Wach aw yu de fil, dɔn disayd fɔ go bifo.

Step 3: Tink bɔt us mud go fayn fɔ di sityueshɔn we yu de insay.

If yu go na wan kɔmpitishɔn fɔ swim, di bɛst tin fɔ du na fɔ gɛt zil ɛn gɛt kɔnfidɛns. If yu want fɔ stɔdi gud gud wan, i go fayn fɔ mek yu gɛt zil, wach, ɛn gɛt kɔnfidɛns. Dɔn fɔ vɛks, nɔ rɛst, ɛn fɔ fil bad bɔt yusɛf nɔ go ɛp, nɔto so? Tek wan minit ɛn tink bɔt us kayn filin go ɛp yu fɔ rich yu gol.

Aw yu kin gɛt di bɛst maynd?

We yu dɔn no us maynd go fayn fɔ yu wok ɔ di tin we de apin to yu, go insay da we de di rayt tɛm. Tink bɔt dɛn 6 tin ya we bigin wit di lɛta ‘P’, we min ‘Positiv’, ɛn pe atɛnshɔn pan dɛn. Dɛn tin ya go ɛp yu fɔ ``rɛset'' yu mud.

• Di rizin: Tɔk klia wan bɔt wetin yu want fɔ du ɛn wetin yu want fɔ du. Fɔ ɛgzampul, yu go want fɔ dɔn yu stɔdi kwik kwik wan ɛn go na pati.
• Ples: Put yusɛf na gud ples - bikɔs di envayrɔmɛnt de afɛkt yu mud. If yu want fɔ stɔdi, i bɛtɛ fɔ fɛn tebul ɔ dɛsk na rum we kwayɛt pas fɔ go na kɔfi shɔp usay yu go mit yu padi dɛn ɛn pul yu maynd pan sɔntin.
• Pipul dɛn: Udat go ɛp yu fɔ fil di we aw yu nid fɔ fil? Wan klasmet we de stɔdi gud gud wan kin bi bɛtɛ pɔsin fɔ stɔdi pas in padi we de tɔk to ɔda pipul dɛn. Sɔntɛnde, fɔ jɔs tink bɔt pɔsin kin du fɔ mek yu fil se yu gɛt kɔnfidɛns, ɛnkɔrej yu, gɛt pawa, ɔ sɔpɔt yu.
• Plelist: Myuzik na wan pan di pawaful tin dɛn we kin afɛkt di we aw pɔsin de fil. Na bikɔs myuzik na we fɔ tɔk to pɔsin ɛn mek pɔsin fil bad. Krio plelis fɔ myuzik we go sɔpɔt yu layf di bɛst we ɛn we go fayn fɔ mek yu fil fayn.
• Di we aw yu de tinap:Mek yu bɔdi de insay di rayt mud. If yu de stɔdi, tray fɔ du ɛksɛsayz dɛn we go ɛp yu fɔ pe atɛnshɔn pan aw yu bɔdi de tinap, lɛk yoga ɔ tai chi. If yu nid fɔ gɛt bɔst, du wokɔt we go mek yu at rit. We yu de rɛdi fɔ slip, tray fɔ blo dip dip wan, strɛch , ɔ ɔda tin dɛn we go mek yu maynd kol.
• Promoshɔn: Yu de tɔk to yusɛf ɛn ɛnkɔrej yusɛf wit sɛlf-tɔk. Fɔ tɔk yusɛf na we fɔ yuz wetin yu de tink fɔ afɛkt di we aw yu de fil. If yu dɔn ɛva se to yusɛf, "Okay, lɛ wi siriɔs naw" ɔ "A kin du dis!", yu dɔn yuz sɛlf-tɔk fɔ mek yusɛf de insay di rayt mud. Dis nɔr kin jɔs mek yu gɛt maynd wae de sɔpɔt yu muud, i de ɛp yu bak fɔ kip am. Na dat de mek pep tok to atlet dem so effektiv.

Aw wi go kɔmɔt na di maynd we nɔ de ɛp wi?

We wi nid fɔ kɔmɔt pan di mud we nɔ fayn ɔ we nɔ de ɛp, tink bɔt U-tɔn, we bigin wit di lɛta ‘U’ . Tray dɛn we ya fɔ chenj di we aw pɔsin de fil:

• Undo: Du somtin to brok di chen of tinkin we de kip yu old mood go. Distract yusɛf wit sɔntin lɛk gem fɔ Sudoku, ɔ jɔs luk na di winda fɔ sɔm minit. Dɛn tin ya we de ambɔg yu na lɛk fɔ ribɔt yu maynd - dɛn de mek gap bitwin di we aw yu de fil.
• Unstick: Chenj yu bɔdi pozishɔn. If yu sidon, tinap. Du sɔm jɔmp jak dɛn. Stret yu bɔdi smɔl. Waka rawnd di rum. We yu de muv yu bɔdi, di we aw yu de tink ɛn di we aw yu de fil kin chenj.
• Unwind : Sidɔm kwayɛt wan, blo sloslo, ɛn pe atɛnshɔn pan ɛni briz. Stɔp yu maynd fɔ drɛf bak insay di mud we yu de tray fɔ chenj, ɛn ɛvri tɛm we yu de blo, tɛl yusɛf se: ‘A de blo insay’ ɛn ‘A de blo.’ Fokus pan fɔ fil kol.

Yu kin dɔn ɔlrɛdi de pik yu mud wae yu nɔr ivin no - bɔrku pipul kin naturally pik wan mud wae nɔr ivin tink bɔt am. Bɔt we yu praktis we dɛn fɔ pik di we aw yu de fil bay wilful, dat go ɛp yu fɔ sabi fɔ du am.So, di nɛks tɛm we yu fil wan strɔng imɔshɔn, wan mud, stɔp ɛn gi am nem. Aks yusɛf, ‘Na di rayt we aw a de fil fɔ wetin a de tray fɔ du?’ Sɔntɛnde, tink bɔt am, pɔsin we rili gladi fɔ tink bɔt dɛn wikɛnd plan dɛn na Frayde aftanun we dɛn gɛt klas - dat gladi at kin nɔ bi di rayt mud da tɛm de, nɔto so? So, i rili impɔtant fɔ pik di mud we fit di ɔkayshɔn.

So, wetin wi nid fɔ mɛmba frɔm ɔl dɛn tin ya?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, di we aw wi de fil, ɔ di we aw wi de fil, nɔto sɔntin we jɔs de apin to wi. Di impɔtant tin na fɔ mek wi ebul fɔ inflɔws dɛn, fɔ mek wi chenj dɛn. I tan lɛk se yu de lan nyu tin. Fɔs, i kin tan lɛk se i at smɔl, bɔt we yu dɔn yus to am, i kin rili izi.

Di ebul we yu ebul fɔ kɔntrol di we aw yu de fil ɛn ajɔst di we aw yu de fil fɔ fit di tin we de apin, dat na fɔ mek yu gɛt sɛns pan aw yu de fil , go ɛp yu bad bad wan fɔ du bɔku tin dɛn na layf.

So, tek smɔl tɛm fɔ tink if yu rɛdi fɔ kɔntrol yu maynd ɛn spɛn yu de di we aw yu want! Dis na sɔntin we yu go ebul fɔ du.

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