Aw yu filin intɛlijɛns de? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt am simpul wan!

Wi ɔl de tɔk bɔt sɛns, nɔto so? If pɔsin stɔdi gud gud wan, if i pas ɛgzam, wi kin se, "O, i gɛt gud bren." Bɔt yu no se IQ nɔmɔ nɔ go du fɔ mek yu gɛt sakrifays ɛn gladi at na dis wɔl? Wan ɔda spɛshal intɛlijɛns de, ɛn dat na imɔshɔnal intɛlijɛns, ɔ wetin wi kɔl am na Inglish, ``Imɔshɔnal Intɛlijɛns.''

Wen wi se intelligence, na jos `IQ`?

Yu go mɔs dɔn yɛri pipul dɛn de tɔk tin lɛk, "Oh, a nɔ nid fɔ stɔdi so, mi `IQ` rili ay." `IQ` tinap fɔ `(Intellectual Quotient)`. Dis na fɔ no if pɔsin ebul fɔ lan ɛn tink . I kin tɛl yu to sɔm mak aw dɛn go du fayn na skul ɛn yunivasiti. Bɔt, nɔto `IQ` nɔmɔ de mɛzhɔ wi abiliti. Jɔs tink bɔt aw bɔku ɔda talɛnt dɛn de na dis wɔl?

• Sɔm pipul dɛn de we rili sabi fɔ tink insay tri dimɛnshɔn (spatial intelligence) , lɛk akitɔk ɛn peinta.
• Fɔ ɔda pipul dɛn , myuzik sɛns na sɔntin we dɛn bɔn wit. Dɛn gɛt wɔndaful abiliti fɔ no ritm, myuzik, ɛn pitch.
• Semweso, atletik abiliti, atis abiliti, industrial abiliti... dis ɔl na difrɛn kayn intɛlektual abiliti.

So, pan dɛn tin ya, ɔda spɛshal intɛlijɛns de we rili impɔtant na wi layf, bɔt sɔntɛnde wi nɔ kin tek am na kɔna. Dat na imɔshɔnal intɛlijɛns, ɔ ``Imɔshɔnal Intɛlijɛns'' .

So wetin na dis mental intelligence? (Imɔshɔnal Intɛlijɛns - EQ)

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, `(Emotional Intelligence)` na wi ebul fɔ ɔndastand, yuz, ɛn manej wi imɔshɔn dɛm . Sɔm kin kɔl dis `EQ` (Emotional Quotient), we ɔda wan dɛn kin kɔl am `EI` (Emotional Intelligence). Jɔs lɛk aw pɔsin we gɛt ay `IQ` kin gɛt ay mak pan ɛgzam, na so pɔsin we gɛt ay `EQ` kin rili gɛt sakrifays pan sɔshal rilayshɔn ɛn imɔshɔnal sityueshɔn. Tink bɔt am dis we, fɔ gɛt gud `EQ` tan lɛk "fɔ ebul fɔ ɔndastand pipul, fɔ bi gud fɔ liv wit pipul" . We wi de tɔk to pɔsin, we wi de wok, if wi ebul fɔ ɔndastand am ɛn bi gud wit am, i go rili ɛp wi fɔ gɛt sakrifays pan ɔltin na layf. Infakt, sɔm stɔdi dɔn sho se sɔntɛnde `EQ` impɔtant pas `IQ` fɔ du wɛl na skul ɛn fɔ gɛt sakrifays pan wok.

Yu gɛt bɔku gud padi dɛn? Yu tink se i izi fɔ yu fɔ ɔndastand ɔda pipul dɛn prɔblɛm? Yu go ebul fɔ kɔntrol di we aw yu de vɛks? Ɔl dɛn tin ya gɛt fɔ du wit yu ` EQ` .

Sɔm pipul dɛn kin bɔn wit dɛn `EQ` abiliti ya. Bɔt fɔ ɔda pipul dɛn , dɛn nid fɔ tren ɛn divɛlɔp dɛn. Di gud nyus na dat ɔlman kin ebul fɔ mek i bɛtɛ! Nɔ lɛk `IQ`, `EQ` na sɔntin we wi kin wok pan ɛn impɔtant smɔl smɔl. Bɔt, yu fɔ no wetin fɔ du wit am, nɔto so?

Aw yu kin inkrisayz yu imɔshɔnal intɛlijɛns (EQ)?

Imɔshɔnal intɛlijɛns, ɔ `EQ`, nɔto wan tin. Na wan kɔmbaynshɔn fɔ sɔm difrɛn abiliti dɛn. Lɛ wi tek wan luk pan wetin dɛn bi ɛn aw fɔ divɛlɔp dɛn.

1. Yu fɔ no aw yu de fil.

Ɔmɔs difrɛn filin dɛn wi ɔl kin gɛt ɔlsay na di de? Sɔm filin (lɛk sɔprayz) kin te ɛn nɔr kin te, ɔda wan (lɛk gladi ɛn sɔri) kin de na wi maynd fɔ sɔm tɛm, ɛn dis kin shep wi maynd. fכ ebul fכ no εn lεbul dεn εvride imכshכn dεm na di mכst imכtant pat pan EQ. Fɔ no bɔt wi imɔshɔn dɛn dis we – dat na fɔ jɔs tink se, “O, a de fil dis we rayt naw, nɔto so?” – de ɛp wi fɔ kɔntrol wi yon filin. I de ɛp wi bak fɔ ɔndastand aw ɔda pipul dɛn de fil. Bɔt sɔm pipul dɛn, ivin afta wan de, i tan lɛk se dɛn nɔ kin bisin bɔt wetin dɛn de fil. Tray fɔ no sɔntin we yu de fil jɔs lɛk aw yu fil am. Gi am nem na yu maynd (fɔ ɛgzampul, “A fil rili gladi rayt naw,” “A fil so frustrate rayt naw”). Mek dis bi abit ɛvride. Afta sɔm tɛm, yu go no aw yu no aw yu de fil.

2. Tray fɔ ɔndastand aw ɔda pipul dɛn de fil (Empathy) .

Wi ɔl bɔn wit di ebul fɔ ɔndastand ɔda pipul dɛn. Wan ɔda impɔtant pat pan EQ na di ebul fɔ imajin aw ɔda pipul dɛn kin fil na wan patikyula tɛm. Ɛn bak, fɔ ɔndastand wetin mek dɛn de fil da we de. Ivin we wi nɔ no aw pɔsin rili de fil, wi kin kɔl am fɔ sɔri fɔ ɔda pɔsin . Dis sɔri-at de ɛp wi fɔ bisin bɔt ɔda pipul dɛn, fɔ gɛt gud padi biznɛs, ɛn fɔ gɛt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn. Na dis sɔri-at de gayd wi fɔ no wetin fɔ tɔk to pɔsin we i de fil bad, ɛn aw fɔ biev bifo am. Imajin, yu padi in at pwɛl afta we i nɔ ebul fɔ du ɛgzam. Yu nɔ go fil da sɔri-at de 100%. Bɔt if yu kin tink se, "Aw a go fil if a bin de na dis sityueshɔn?", ɔndastand dɛn sɔri-at, ɛn tɔk wan wɔd we de kɔrej dɛn, dat na skil na EQ.

3. Kɔntrol di we aw yu de fil ɛn ansa di rayt we.

Wi ɔl kin vɛks. Wi ɔl kin fil bad. I impɔtant fɔ sho wetin wi de tink ɛn fil sɔntɛnde. Bɔt fɔ kɔntrol di we aw yu de ansa min fɔ no ustɛm, usay, ɛn aw fɔ sho aw yu de fil. If yu ɔndastand aw yu de fil ɛn no aw fɔ kɔntrol am, yu go ebul fɔ kɔntrol yusɛf.If di tɛm nɔ rayt fɔ sho da filin de, stɔp di ansa. Pɔrsin wae gɛt gud EQ no se fɔ ansa dɛn filin di kayn we wae nɔr gɛt rɛspɛkt, nɔr gɛt rizin, harsh, ɔr de fil bad, dat kin pwɛl dɛn rilayshɔnship. Fɔ ɛgzampul, imajin se yu vɛks pan yu bɔs na di ɔfis. Yu tink se i rayt fɔ ala wantɛm wantɛm, slam di domɔt, ɛn kɔmɔt de? Ɔ yu tink se i fayn fɔ wet fɔ sɔm tɛm, afta di wamat dɔn stɔp, wit kol at go tɔk bɔt yu prɔblɛm? Pɔsin we gɛt gud EQ kin pik di sɛkɔn opshɔn. Na bikɔs i no aw i impɔtant fɔ kɔntrol di we aw i de fil ɛn ansa di rayt we. Dis kin mek yu nɔr gɛt strɛs na yu maynd ɛn, to sɔm mak, i kin protɛkt yu frɔm sik dɛm na yu bɔdi lɛk ay blɔd prɛshɔn.

4. Pik yu yon mud.

Wan ɔda tin we kin mek wi ebul fɔ kɔntrol di we aw wi de fil na fɔ pik di we aw wi de fil. Mud na di filin stet wae de las fɔ shɔt tɛm. Wi gɛt di pawa fɔ disayd us mud we fit fɔ wan givɛn sityueshɔn ɛn afta dat wi go insay da mud de. If pɔsin pik di rayt we aw i de fil, i kin ɛp fɔ kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt maynd, fɔ pe atɛnshɔn, ɔ fɔ tray bak bifo i giv ɔp. Pipul wit gud EQ no se moods nɔto jɔs sɔntin we wi kin gɛt insay. We wi no us mud bɛtɛ fɔ wan patikyula tin ɛn aw fɔ go insay da muud de, dat kin ɛp wi fɔ kɔntrol dɛn. Imajin, yu gɛt impɔtant prɛzɛntɛnshɔn. Bifo am, yu kin fil lɛk se yu de fred smɔl. Bɔt, if yu ebul, bay wilful fɔ mek biliv pan yusɛf we se, "Nɔ, a de du dis fayn, a kin du am," ɛn go insay wan smɔl gladi gladi mud, dat na pat pan EQ bak.

Imɔshɔnal intɛlijɛns (EQ) na sɔntin we de divɛlɔp smɔl smɔl.

Imɔshɔnal Intɛlijɛns na sɔntin we de divɛlɔp as wi de ol. If nɔto dat, ɔl big pipul dɛn go biev lɛk smɔl pikin dɛn! Dɛn go de ala, kray, rol oba, bit, ɛn nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol di we aw dɛn de fil. Sɔm pan di skil dɛm wae de mek pɔrsin in filin intɛlijɛns kin divɛlɔp kwik kwik wan. I kin tan lɛk se dɛn izi fɔ du. Fɔ ɛgzampul, i kin izi fɔ no aw pɔsin de fil we yu no wetin fɔ pe atɛnshɔn pan. Bɔt fɔ manej aw yu de ansa to aw yu de fil ɛn fɔ pik aw yu de fil, lɛk EQ, kin tan lɛk se i at fɔ masta smɔl. Di rizin fɔ dis na bikɔs di pat pan wi bren we de tɔk bɔt aw fɔ kɔntrol wisɛf nɔ de machɔ te wi pas wi tɛn ia. Bɔt we yu de praktis, dɛn bren rod dɛn de kin bigin.

Jɔs lɛk aw smɔl plant de gro to big tik, wi `EQ` sɛf de divɛlɔp wit tɛm, ɛkspiriɛns, ɛn tray.

Wi ɔl kin mek wi sɛns we de insay wi strɔng bay we wi no aw wi de fil, ɔndastand aw wi rich usay wi de, ɔndastand aw ɛn wetin mek ɔda pipul dɛn de fil di we aw dɛn de fil, ɛn tɔk bɔt aw wi de fil we nid de. Dis nɔ go apin wan nɛt, bɔt i fayn fɔ mek yu tray tranga wan.

Sɔmari ɛn tin dɛn fɔ mɛmba

Okay, so na sɔm tin dɛn we yu nid fɔ mɛmba frɔm wetin wi dɔn tɔk bɔt tide:

• Nɔto `IQ` nɔmɔ, bɔt `EQ` impɔtant bak na layf: `(Imɔshɔnal Intɛlijɛns)` na di ebul fɔ ɔndastand ɛn kɔntrol wi imɔshɔn dɛm, ɛn fɔ ɔndastand ɔda pipul dɛm.
• `EQ` kin impɔtant: Nɔ lɛk `IQ`, `EQ` na sɔntin we wi kin inkrisayz tru ɛfɔt.
• Praktis dɛn tin ya fɔ mek yu EQ bɔku:
• Yu fɔ no aw yusɛf de fil.
• Ɔndastand aw ɔda pipul dɛn de fil ( empathy ).
• Kɔntrol di we aw yu de fil ɛn ansa di rayt we.
• Pik yu yon we aw yu de fil .
• `EQ` na sɔntin we de divɛlɔp smɔl smɔl: i kin tek tɛm ɛn prɛktis. Nɔ fred, jɔs tray smɔl smɔl.

Mɛmba se, fɔ divɛlɔp yu maynd skil nɔ go jɔs ɛp yu fɔ liv gladi ɛn sakrifays layf, bɔt i go ɛp yu bak fɔ kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt yu maynd wɛlbɔdi ɛn fɔ mek yu padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn strɔng. So, mek wi bigin tink bɔt dis smɔl ɛn wok pan am tide, nɔto so?

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