Kati buli omu alowooza ku ye yekka? Ka twogere ku Narcissism

Oluusi owulira nti abantu ennaku zino naddala abali ku mikutu gya yintaneeti , beerowoozaako bokka ne beefuula abalungi? Kiringa buli wamu waliwo ebbidde lya "nze", "ebyo bye ntuuseeko", "obulamu bwange", si bwe kiri? Bw’otunuulira TikTok, YouTube, ne Instagram, kirabika omuze kwe kulaga ensi buli katono akakwata ku bulamu bwo. Abantu abamu kino bakiyita ‘ekirwadde kya Nazi’. Kale ffenna tweyongera okwefaako bokka n’okwefaako bokka? Kino ka twogere mu buziba katono.

Mu ngeri ennyangu, okwefaako yekka kye ki?

Mu ngeri ennyangu, okwefaako yekka (narcissism) mbeera ya birowoozo omuntu mw'akkiriza nti "wa njawulo okusinga abalala, nti ebyetaago bye biri waggulu w'ebirala byonna," era nti omuntu yeetwala ng'ekikulu ekisukkiridde. Kino tekitegeeza nti kintu kirungi oba kibi. Okubeera n’okwekkiririzaamu okutono n’okwenyumiriza mu muntu kirungi eri obulamu. Naye kino bwe kisusse we wava ebizibu.

Embeera eno eri ku spectrum eyawukana okusinziira ku muntu. Abo abali ku nkomerero ya waggulu, wakati wa 1% ne 6% ku bantu, bayinza okuba n’obulwadde bw’obwongo obuyitibwa Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) .

Enneeyisa eno ey’Abanazi esobola okulabibwa mu ngeri bbiri enkulu. Kino okukitegeera, laba ekipande ekiri wansi.

Twatuuka tutya wano?

Abanoonyereza bagamba nti waliwo ensonga eziwerako ezivuddeko okweyongera kuno. Ekimu kye "kwetwala mu kitiibwa" ekyatandika mu mawanga g'amawanga g'obugwanjuba mu myaka gya 1970. Abaana baategeezebwa okuva mu buto nti "oli wa njawulo" ne "osobola okukola kyonna." Wadde nga kino kyali kya kigendererwa kirungi, oluusi kyavaako endowooza ey’ekikugu, ey’okwefaako bokka okusinga okwongera ku busobozi bw’abaana. Okunoonyereza kutuuse n'okuzuula nti abazadde bwe "basusse okwekenneenya" abaana baabwe, kwe kugamba, bwe babawaana okusinga obusobozi bwabwe, abaana beettanira ebirowoozo ebyo bye bimu ne bafuna engeri ez'okwefaako.

Olwo, olw’okujja kwa emizannyo gya ttivvi egy’amazima n’okulinnya kw’emikutu gy’empuliziganya, embeera eno yeeyongera okukyuka. Kyafuuka kya bulijjo okulaga buli kimu ekikwata ku bulamu bwe mu lujjudde, okwekubya ebifaananyi, n’okussa essira ku ndabika ye.

Ekyo kitegeeza nti, omuwendo gw’abantu abatuufu aba Nazi mu bantu guyinza okuba nga tegweyongedde. Naye eddoboozi lyabwe n'obuyinza bwabwe byeyongedde nnyo olw'emikutu gy'empuliziganya . Kale tulaba nga buli muntu bwatyo.

Kiki ekituufu ekikwata ku mikutu gya yintaneeti?

Social media kifo kya bantu abalina engeri za narcissistic. Okunoonyereza kulaga nti abantu abalina engeri ennyingi ey’okwefaako yekka bamala ebiseera bingi ku mikutu gya yintaneeti, bawandiika emirundi mingi, balina emikwano mingi, era batera okufuuka omuze gw’okukozesa emikutu gy’empuliziganya.

Naye kino kye kikwata ku balala kya bulabe.

• Okugeraageranya n'okweraliikirira : Okuwulira ng'olina ennaku n'okweraliikirira obulamu bwo bw'otunuulira obulamu bw'abalala "obusengekeddwa" era obulabika ng'obw'essanyu. Kino era tukiyita FOMO (Fear of Missing Out).
• Ensonga z‟obulamu bw‟omutwe: Okugeraageranya kuno buli kiseera kuleetedde okwennyamira, okweraliikirira n‟okubeera bokka okweyongera mu bavubuka.
• Endowooza enkyamu ku mubiri:Emibiri "egituukiridde" egirabibwa ku mikutu gya yintaneeti gifuuse ekinene ekivaako okweyongera kw'obulwadde bw'okukyukakyuka kw'omubiri, embeera abawala n'abalenzi abato mwe bafaayo ennyo ku ndabika yaabwe ey'omubiri ne balowooza ku nsobi ze batalina.

Ekituuka ku "Vulnerable Narcissists".

Social media kifo kizibu nnyo eri "Vulnerable Narcissists." Balaba "Grandiose Narcissists" nga bajaguza obuwanguzi bwabwe n'okuteeka ebifaananyi ebirungi, era bawulira obuggya n'obusungu nti tebafuna kusiimibwa kwe kumu. Kino kirina akakwate akabi nnyo ku bulamu bwabwe obw’omutwe.

Ekirala eky’ennaku abazadde bagabana buli kikolwa ky’abaana baabwe, buli katono okuva ku lunaku lwe bazaalibwa, ku mikutu gya yintaneeti. Kibuuzo kya maanyi engeri ebiyinza okuva mu kwolesa buli kimu eri ensi nga towadde kifo kyonna ku by’ekyama by’omwana gye binaakosa omwana mu biseera eby’omu maaso.

Kale, kino tukola ki?

Kino kiyinza okukuwulikika ng’ekitiisa. Naye waliwo amawulire amalungi. Okunoonyereza kulaga nti bwe tukaddiwa, bwe twetikka obuvunaanyizibwa obusingawo (obufumbo, abaana), era bwe twolekagana n’ebizibu mu bulamu, mu butonde okwefaako yekka kukendeera. Kino kiri bwe kityo kubanga tuwalirizibwa okulowooza ku balala okusinga ffe.

Kyokka singa ggwe oba omuntu gw’omanyi alina embeera eno, waliwo ebintu ebitonotono by’osobola okukola.

• Kkomya ku nkozesa yo ey’emikutu gy’empuliziganya: Beera mu birowoozo ku nkozesa yo n’abaana bo ku mikutu gya yintaneeti. Bulijjo jjukira nti si buli ky’olaba nti kituufu, era nti kifo ekiraga ebirungi byokka mu bulamu bw’abantu.
• Wuliriza rada yo ey'omunda: Bw'oba oyogera n'omuntu, bw'olaba nti ayogera nnyo ku ye, ng'ateeka abalala wansi, oba nga tafaayo ku nneewulira zaabwe, manya "narcissism vibes" ezo. Bwe kiba kisoboka, weewale mpola n’abantu ng’abo.
• Noonya amagezi g’abakugu: Abantu abalina obuzibu bw’okwefaako (NPD) tebatera kukkiriza nti balina ekizibu. Eno y’ensonga lwaki tebatera kunoonya bujjanjabi. Wabula bw’oba ​​owulira nti olina engeri zino mu nneeyisa yo, oba ng’omuntu alina engeri z’okwefaako yekka akosa obulamu bwo obw’omutwe, kikulu obutakwatibwa nsonyi n’ofuna amagezi okuva eri omusawo oba omukugu mu kubuulirira ku by’obulamu bw’obwongo. Kye kintu ekisinga obulungi ky’osobola okwekolera.