Omwana wo omuto alwanagana n’enneewulira? Ka twogere ku bulwadde bwa Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)!

Omwana wo omuto asunguwala mangu olw’ebintu ebitonotono? Oba akaaba nnyo ng’awulira ennaku? Wali owuliddeko nga bazibuwalirwa okufuga enneewulira zaabwe? Kino kiyinza okuba ekizibu ennyo gye bali naawe. Kale leero tugenda kwogera ku kika ky’obujjanjabi eky’enjawulo ekiyinza okuyamba mu biseera nga bino. Ye `(Eddagala ly'enneeyisa ey'enjawulo)` oba `(DBT)`.

Obujjanjabi bw’enneeyisa mu ngeri ey’enjawulo (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) (DBT) kye ki?

Mu ngeri ennyangu, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) nkola ya njawulo ey’okubudaabuda eyamba abaana abato okukola n’okuddukanya enneewulira zaabwe enzibu, wamu n’okulongoosa enkolagana yaabwe n’abalala. Kika kya bujjanjabi obussa essira ku nneeyisa. Kino kitegeeza nti enneeyisa y’omwana n’engeri gy’alowoozaamu bikyuka, era omwana asomesebwa obukugu obwetaagisa okusobola okwaŋŋanga embeera enzibu n’ebizibu mu bulamu.

Lowooza ku kino, obulamu bwaffe bulinga ekiwujjo. Tugenda waggulu ne wansi ebiseera ebimu. Tulina okubeera n’enneewulira nnyingi ezijja n’okulinnya n’okukka kuno. Obukugu buno bwe tufuna okuva mu `(DBT)` bulinga ebyokulwanyisa mu ngalo zaffe. Obukugu buno butuyamba okukola ku kusoomoozebwa n’obulumi obujja mu bulamu, n’obutabula mu nneewulira ezo.

Ekigambo "dialectic" kitegeeza okuleeta bbalansi wakati w'ebintu bibiri ebirabika ng'ebikontana. Mu bujjanjabi buno, ebintu ebyo ebibiri bye bino "Okukkiriza" ne "Okukyusa." Kwe kugamba, wadde ng’ayamba omwana okutegeera n’okukkiriza enneewulira ze n’ebyo by’ayitamu, era amuyamba okukola enkyukakyuka ezeetaagisa okuva mu mbeera eyo n’okubeera n’obulamu obulungi, obw’essanyu. Ebintu bino ebibiri bikwatagana.

Kiki ekituufu ekibaawo ne `(DBT)`? Obukugu ki obukulu omwana bw’afuna?

Obujjanjabi bwa DBT tebukola kye kimu ku buli muntu, kubanga buli mwana wa njawulo. Naye okutwaliza awamu, obujjanjabi buno bussa essira ku kukulaakulanya obukugu buna obukulu. Ka tulabe kiki kye bali.

1. Okulowooza ku bintu

Kino kikulu nnyo. Okulowooza kitegeeza okufaayo mu bujjuvu ku by’okola mu kaseera ako, ku birowoozo ebijja mu birowoozo byo, ku nneewulira z’olina. Kitegeeza, awatali kusalawo nti, "Oh, mpulira bwentyo, kino si kirungi," naye okukyetegereza nga "Oh... mpulira bwentyo kati, nfuna ekirowoozo kino." Kiringa okwetunuulira okuva ebweru. Kino kikuyamba okufuga enneewulira zo n’ebirowoozo byo, mu kifo ky’okubibulamu.

Ng’ekyokulabirako, akafaananyi ng’omwana wo asunguwala nnyo mu bwangu. Bw'okola okulowooza, mu kifo ky'okudduka obusungu obwo, osobola okwetegereza ebintu nga, "Nnyiize mu kiseera kino, omutima gwange gukuba nnyo, emikono gyange gikankana." Kino kikuyamba okufuga engeri gy’okwatamu amangu enneewulira eyo.

2. Okulungamya enneewulira

Abaana baffe abato oluusi basobola okuwulira enneewulira ez’amaanyi ennyo ng’ennaku, obusungu, n’okutya. Mu kiseera ekyo, tebasobola kuzifuga. ``Okulungamya enneewulira`` kitegeeza okubayigiriza okutegeera enneewulira zino enzibu kye ziri, okuziddamu mu ngeri esaanidde, okukendeeza ku maanyi gazo, n'okwongera ku nneewulira ennungi nga zizze.

Mu kino, omwana ayiga nti:

• Laba ddala engeri gy’owuliramu.
• Tegeera ekyaleetawo enneewulira ezo.
• Engeri y‟okukendeeza ku buzibu bw‟enneewulira embi.
• Engeri y’okwongera ku birungi by’oyitamu mu bulamu bwo.

Obukugu buno bwe bukulaakulanyizibwa, omwana asobola okufuga enneewulira ze mu kifo ky’okuzizannyisa.

3. Okugumiikiriza okunyigirizibwa

Obulamu si bulijjo kkubo ddungi. Oluusi wabaawo ebiseera ebizibu era ebiruma mu ngeri etayinza kulowoozebwako. ``Okugumiikiriza okunyigirizibwa`` kitegeeza okuwa omwana amaanyi n'enkola ezeetaagisa okugumira ebiseera ebizibu era ebizibu bwe bityo, okubiyitamu nga tamenyeka n'okwongeza embeera.

Kino kiringa ekifo ekirungi eky’okusulamu ng’omuyaga guzze, okutuusa lwe guyitawo. Okuyita mu bukugu buno, omwana ayiga:

• Engeri z’oyinza okukkakkanya ebirowoozo byo mu bwangu.
• Weewugule mu biseera ebizibu.
• Enkola Ez’Okwekkakkanya.
• Kkiriza embeera eriwo mu kiseera kino.

Kino tekitegeeza nti tolina kunoonya kya kugonjoola kizibu. Naye oluusi, bwe waba tewali kugonjoola mangu, kikulu nnyo okugumira akazito ako.

4. Obulung’amu mu nkolagana n’abantu

Ng’abantu, tetubeera ffekka. Bulijjo tulina okukolagana n’abantu abalala. Obukugu ``Interpersonal Effectiveness`` butuyigiriza engeri y'okukuuma enkolagana ennungi n'abalala, engeri y'okwanjula ebyetaago byaffe n'ebirowoozo byaffe mu ngeri entegeerekeka era ennywevu nga tetulina busungu oba kunyooma (Assertiveness), n'engeri y'okugonjoola enkaayana mu magezi nga zizze.

Mu kino, omwana ayiga nti:

• Engeri y'okusaba ky'oyagala.
• Engeri y'okugamba nti "nedda" ku kusaba okuteetaagisa.
• Yogera endowooza zo ng’ossa ekitiibwa mu ndowooza z’abalala.
• Kuuma ensalo zo mu mukwano.

Obukugu buno bwe bunaakulaakulanyizibwa, omwana ajja kusobola okuba n’enkolagana ennungi ennyo n’emikwano, ab’omu maka ge, n’abasomesa.

Wano waliwo obukugu obuna obukulu omwana bw’afuna ng’ayita mu DBT:

• Okulowooza: Okukkiriza ebigenda mu maaso mu kaseera ako, ebirowoozo ebijja mu birowoozo byo, n’enneewulira z’owulira, nga bwe ziri, awatali kusalawo.
• Okulungamya enneewulira: Okutegeera n‟okuddamu mu ngeri entuufu enneewulira enzibu.
• Okugumiikiriza okunyigirizibwa: Okuyiga okugumira situleesi ey’amaanyi nga tomenyese.
• Obulung’amu wakati w’abantu: Okukulaakulanya obukugu okusaba ky’oyagala mu ngeri etegeerekeka obulungi, okukuuma enkolagana ennungi, n’okugonjoola obutakkaanya.

Obujjanjabi bwa DBT buyamba ani?

Obujjanjabi bwa DBT butegekeddwa nnyo okuyamba abaana abato abalwanagana n’enneewulira ez’amaanyi, abafuna obuzibu okufuga enneewulira zaabwe, abalina ebirowoozo by’okwetuusaako obulabe oba okwenyigira mu nneeyisa endala ez’akabi.

Ebibiri ku bikulu ebikwata ku DBT kwe kuwa omwana obuwagizi n‟okukakasa , n‟okusomesa obukugu okukola enkyukakyuka ezeetaagisa okubeera n‟obulamu obw‟essanyu, obulungi. Kwe kugamba, nga tukkiriza omwana, nga tugamba nti, "Ntegedde nti owulira bw'otyo, kya bulijjo," tubalungamya nga tugamba nti, "Naye ka tukole ebintu bino okuva mu mbeera eno."

Obujjanjabi bwa DBT buweebwa butya?

Obukugu mu DBT busomesebwa mu ngeri enkulu eziwerako:

• Entuula z‟obujjanjabi obw‟omuntu kinnoomu: Wano, omwana n‟omusawo boogera bokka, nga essira balitadde ku nsonga z‟omwana ez‟obuntu n‟enneewulira ze, n‟okubayamba okukozesa obukugu bwa DBT mu bulamu obwa bulijjo.
• Entuula z‟okujjanjaba mu kibinja ky‟amaka amangi: Wano ekibinja ky‟abaana ne bazadde baabwe oba abakuza baabwe we bakwatagana. Buli omu ayiga wamu obukugu bwa DBT era buli omu ayigira ku by’ayitamu. Kino kiyinza okukolebwa mu mbeera ya virtual oba mu buntu.
• Okutendekebwa ku ssimu: Singa omwana oba omuzadde afuna ekiseera ekizibu wakati w‟okubuulirira, asobola okukubira omusawo essimu n‟afuna obuyambi n‟obulagirizi ku ngeri y‟okukozesaamu obukugu bwa DBT mu kiseera ekyo.

Obukugu buno bwonna busomesebwa okukozesebwa mu bulamu obwa bulijjo. Abaana bwe banaagenda beegezaamu obukugu buno mpolampola, bajja kufuga obulungi enneewulira zaabwe, okulongoosa enkolagana yaabwe n’abalala, era bajja kufuna endowooza ennungi ku bulamu.

Nfuna ntya obujjanjabi bwa DBT eri omwana wange omuto?

Omwana wo bw’aba alwanagana n’enneewulira ez’amaanyi era ng’olowooza nti ali ku situleesi nnyingi, sooka oyogere n’omusawo w’amaka go. Asobola okukusindika ew’omusawo alina ebisaanyizo mu by’obulamu bw’enneeyisa ng’atendekeddwa mu Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Osobola n’okubuuza ku mpeereza zino ng’oyita mu basawo b’eby’omutwe n’abakugu mu by’empisa.

Kiyinza okutwala okunoonya okutono okuzuula ebifo ebiwa DBT mu Sri Lanka, naye bw’ogezaako, tojja kulemererwa kufuna. Amalwaliro agamu ag’obwannannyini n’ebifo ebibudaabuda abantu biyinza okuba n’ebifo bino.

Ekintu ekisinga obukulu okujjukira (Take-Home Message)

Okuyigiriza omwana wo omuto okubeera n’ebirowoozo, okuddukanya enneewulira ze, okugumira ebizibu by’obulamu, n’okukwatagana obulungi n’abalala kijja kugenda wala mu kuleeta enjawulo ennungi mu bulamu bwe n’okumuyamba okufuuka omuntu ow’enjawulo, omusanyufu.

DBT si bulogo. Kyetaagisa obudde, okwewaayo, n’obuwagizi okuva eri omwana wo. Naye ebyavaamu biba bya mugaso. Omwana wo ajja kuyiga obukugu obujja okuwangaala obulamu bwe bwonna. Kale, toggwaamu ssuubi. Funa obuyambi bwe weetaaga.

Jjukira nti toli wekka. Omwana wo si ye yekka ayolekedde ebizibu bino. Bw’ofuna obulagirizi n’obuwagizi obutuufu, osobola okuvvuunuka embeera yonna enzibu.

` Abavubuka, Enneewulira, Obulamu bw'obwongo, DBT, Okubuulirira, Obujjanjabi bw'enneeyisa, Sri Lanka