I fa hian naupang dangte a tibuai em? (Bullying) Hemi chungchang hi han sawi ila!

I fain sikulah emaw, hmun dangah emaw naupang dangte a tihbuai, a tihbuai, a nih loh leh a tihbuai thu i hriat chuan engtin nge i ngaih ang? A mak takzet a, a lungchhiatthlak takzet a ni lawm ni? Mahse chutiang thil i hriat chuan eng ang pawhin harsa mah se, a pawimawh ber chu chhui nghal a, a tul anga hma lak hi a ni. He bullying hi tawngkam emaw, taksa lam emaw pawh a ni thei. Mahse, tihtawp a nih loh chuan naupang chu khawtlang nun kalh zawnga a awm theihna chance a sang hle a, sikulah a hlawhchham thei a, ṭhian a siam thei lo va, ṭhian a nei thei lo bawk.

Engvangin nge kan fate hian hetiang hian an tihbuai? A chhante chu engte nge ni?

A nihna takah chuan naupangte’n midang an tihbuai chhan hi a tam hle. Eng nge an nih i han thlir teh ang.

Insecure feelings leh thiltihtheihna lantir

Naupang thenkhat chuan mahni inrintawk lohna an nei nasa hle. "Ka tha tawk lo em ni?", "Midangte hi kei aiin an fing zawk em?" Chuvângin, anmahni aia chak lo deuh nia an ngaih mi, taksa emaw, rilru emawa an tihbuai hian, mi pawimawh, mi lar, a nih loh leh thunun thei angin an inhria thei a ni . Ngaihtuah teh, class-a naupang te tak te i tihbuai a, an ei tur hmanga i target hian, mi tihbuaitu chu "hero" ang maiin a inhria thei a ni. Mahse, chu chu a dik lo hle a ni lawm ni?

"Hei hi a dik lo" tih hre lo.

Vawi dangah chuan naupangte hian a dik lo tih an hriat loh avangin an tibuaitu an ni. Naupang thenkhat chuan an san zawng, an rih zawng, an hmel, an hnam leh an sakhaw hrang hrang avanga danglam naupangte nuihzat emaw, hnawhchhuah emaw chu a pawi lo tih an hrethiam lo. "Fiamthu" mai mai niin an ngai.

Thiltih rilru na leh tharum thawhna pattern pakhata tel

Naupang ṭhenkhat tân chuan, mi tihduhdahna chu mi rilru na tak, tharum thawhna lantîrnaah a tel thei a ni. Hêng naupangte hian an rilru natna, thinrimna, rilru natna, leh lungngaihna ang chite enkawl tûrin ṭanpuina an mamawh fo ṭhîn. Midangte nena thawhhona tha tak nei thei tur thiamna an nei lo mai thei. Chutiang hunah chuan counseling, emaw ``therapy,'' ang chi thil hian an rilru put hmang hmachhawn turin a pui thei a, mi tihduhdahna tihtawp a ni thei a, an khawtlang nun thiamna pawh a tichangtlung thei bawk.

In lama hmuh theih thilte entawn

Naupang thenkhatin in lama an thil hmuhte an entawn avanga midang an tihbuai thin hi a pawi hle. Naupangte chuan an chhungkuaah rilru na tak, ngilnei lo tawngkam leh nungchang hmu thinte chuan midangte pawh chutiang bawka enkawl dan an zir thin. Chutiang bawkin, in lama nuihzat leh hausak naupangte chuan mi tihduhdahna chu anmahni aia chak lo zawka an hriat naupangte thunun theihna kawng ṭha tak a ni tih an hre thei a ni.

Hetiang tihduhdahna laka naupangte chhanchhuah nan eng nge kan tih ang?

I fain midang a tihbuai tih i hriat chuan heng thilte hi hlauthawng lovin, mahse thutlukna siamin tih tum ang che.

1. Bullying hi thil pawi tak a ni!

A hmasa berin i fa chu chiang takin hrilh rawh.Chu bullying chu a pawi ngai lo va, a chhunzawm zel chuan in lamah te, sikulah te, khawtlang nunah te nghawng na tak a nei thei tih a sawi bawk. Bullying chungchangah in lamah dan siam la, khauh takin zawm rawh. Naupang chu hremna atan chanvo laksak a nih chuan naupangin a hriat tak tak tur thil a ni tur a ni. Entirnan, i fain naupang dangte chu `email`, `text message`, emaw `social networking site` hmanga a tihbuai a nih chuan phone emaw computer emaw chu rei lo te chhung chu bansan rawh. I fa chu in lamah, unau chungah emaw, mi dangte chungah emaw, rilru na taka a awm chuan titawp nghal rawh. Chu ai chuan, chu hmun chhuahsan tûra hrilh ang chi, tharum thawhna tel lo tûr kawng dik takin chhân lêt rawh.

2. Midang zah tur leh ngilnei turin zirtir rawh!

I fate chu hnam, sakhaw, pianhmang, mamawh bik, mipa leh hmeichhia, a nih loh leh sum leh pai dinhmun inthlauhnate nuihzat emaw, ngaihthah emaw chu thil dik lo a ni tih zirtîr rawh. Midangte danglamnaah fimkhur rawh, chu chu ``Empathy`` tih hi practice tihna a ni. A theih chuan nang leh i fa chu hnam hrang hrang naupangte nen khawtlang pawlah in zawm tur a ni. Hei hian i fate chu mi hrang hrang nena inhriat tawnna leh thawhpui theihna hun remchang a pe ang.

3. I fate khawtlang nun dan zawng chhuak rawh!

I fate sikul (a nih loh leh khawi hmunah pawh) nungchang nghawngtu chu hriatthiam tum ang che. Naupang thiante nu leh pa te, zirtirtu te, kaihhruaina petu te leh sikul principal te nen inbia ang che. Naupang dangte hian an tibuai em? I fate ṭhiante chu engtin nge an awm? Sikul-a naupangte chunga nawrna awmte chu engte nge ni? I fate chu heng inzawmnate leh a inmil theihna tura nawrna awmte chungchang sawipui la, sikul pawn lama thil tihnaah tel tir rawh. Chu chuan ṭhian thar siamin, anmahni nêna inlaichînna ṭha tak siam tûrin a ṭanpui ang.

4. Nungchang tha fuih rawh!

Positive reinforcement hi negative discipline aiin a chak zawk hle. I fain thil a tih ṭhat hun chu hre rawh. An nungchang \ha leh \ha taka an awm chuan chhinchhiah la, fak rawh. "Vawiin khan chu zawhnaah chuan i fapa/fanu chuan hna ropui tak a thawk a, chu chu ka lawm hle a ni," tih ang chi hi sawi rawh.

5. School nen inzawmna nei reng rawh!

Sikulah bullying a awm a nih chuan administration leh zirtirtute nen thawk hovin action plan siam rawh. I fain sikula an nungchang i hriat chian chuan mawhphurhna nei zawkin khawtlang nun duhthlanna tha zawk siam turin a pui ang.

Ngaihtuah teh, a chang chuan naupangte hian ngaihven an duh avangin an tibuai thin. An hnathawh \ha kan fak hian chu ngaihsakna chu hrisel takin an hmu \hin.

In lamah i tan ang u!

In lama unau nena insual hi thil pangngai a ni a, in tinah te chuan a thleng thin. Dik tak chuan, taksa lama tharum thawhna hlauhawm a awm loh chuan, chutiang insualna ata awm loh chu a finthlak hle. Engpawhnise,Hming lam leh hming lam chungchangah fimkhur rawh. Naupang tinte chu mimal takin bia la, pawm theih leh pawm lohte hriat nawn tir fo ang che.

Nangmah ngei pawhin i nungchang pawh ngaihtuah ve teh. I fate hmaa i thusawi dan te, harsatna leh inhnialna i hmachhawn dan te ngaihtuah la. Naupang au chhuak, tawngkam tha lo hmang, midang tihhniam, in lama nasa taka sawisel, emaw, unau emaw, nu leh pa/enkawltu emaw atanga taksa tihduhdahna hmutu te hian sikul pawnah pawh chutiang bawk chu an ti duh zawk a ni.

I fate hmaah emaw, i fate hmaah emaw, chetsual taka i che chuan anni pawhin an zui ve mai mai a rinawm. Chu ai chuan, a chhe lam ni lovin, mi dangte ṭhatna lam ngaihtuah zawk rawh. I nunah harsatna i neih hunah i fate hnenah i lungawi lohnate leh chutiang rilru put hmang i hmachhawn dante chu zalen takin sawipui rawh.

Dik tak chuan, a châng chuan i fate chu an tihsual siam ṭhat nân i thunun a, sawisêlna i pêk a ngai a ni. Mahse chu chu thu khauh tak emaw, puhnaah emaw chantir suh. Naupang nungchang i duh loh chuan an thlak danglam hmuh i duh thu leh an tih theih i rin thu sawi uar rawh.

Tu dang hnên nge ṭanpuina kan hmuh theih ang?

In lama thil buaithlak dangin i fate nungchang a nghawng nia i ngaih chuan sikul leh i khawtlang aṭangin ṭanpuina zawng rawh. Guidance counselor te, puithiam te, therapist te, leh i chhungkaw doctor te hian an pui thei a ni. I fa chu inhnialna nei, rilru na tak, emaw, thinrimna tihreh dan lama harsatna nei tawh a nih chuan, therapist emaw, behavioral health professional emaw-in evaluation neih chu ngaihtuah rawh.

I fate he tihduhdahna hi titawp tûra ṭanpui chu a lungchhiatthlâk thei ang bawkin, nungchang ṭha lo chu a mah chauhin a tawp lo tih hre reng ang che. I fate’n sikul-ah te, hnathawhna hmunah te, an dam chhung zawnga an inlaichinnaah te hlawhtlinna leh hlimna an neih i duh dante kha han ngaihtuah teh. Tuna he tihduhdahna hi tihtawp chu chutiang thil tumte thlenna kawngah chuan hmasawnna lian tak a ni.

Take-Home Thuchah a ni

Okay, chuvangin kan sawi tawh atang hian naupang tihduhdah hi kan ngaihthah tur a ni lo tih hi i hriat chian tur a ni.

• A chhan hrethiam rawh: I fain hetianga a tih chhan hi zawng chhuak rawh. Insecurity a ni em? Ngaihtuah ngai a ni em? Nge, in lama i hmuh thil a ni em?
• A rang lama hma la rawh: Hei hi thil pawimawh takah ngai la, i fa chu biak la, a ṭul angin hma la rawh.
• A \ha leh \ha lo zirtîr rawh: Mite zah thiam tûr te, ngilnei tûr te, mi dangte inthlauhna ngaihtuah thiam tûr te zirtîr rawh.
• A \ha lam hawiin fuih rawh: I fain thil \ha a tih hunah fak rawh. nghawng lian tak a nei a ni.
• School-ah hian tel ve rawh u: Zirtirtu u, he harsatna chinfel dan tur zawng turin principal nen thawk ho rawh u.
• Nangmah ngei pawh entawn tlak ni rawh:In chhung boruak chu remna leh hmangaihna nei takin siam rawh. Harsatna i chinfel dan hi i fate tan entawn tlak tak a ni.
• A tul chuan professional tanpuina zawng rawh: A châng chuan therapy ang chi thilte hi a ṭangkai hle thei.

I theihnghilh suh u, naupang tinte \ha taka \hang lian tur leh khawtlang tana \angkai tak ni tura \anpui hi kan mawhphurhna a ni.

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