I rilrua awm dik tak, zah takin sawi dan i hria em? Assertiveness chungchang hi han sawi ila!

Vawiin hian kan nunah thil pawimawh tak tak kan sawi dawn a ni. Hei hi i thiante nen, i chhungte nen, i hnathawhna hmunah, i lehkha zirna hmunah, a tawi zawngin , hmun tinah te tanpui thei tur thil a ni. Chu chu Assertiveness a ni . He thu hi i hre tawh mai thei. A awlsam zawngin, hei hi ``Assertiveness`` kan ti a, i rilruah thil awm, i mamawh, leh i ngaihtuahnate chu chiang tak, dik tak, leh zah taka sawi theihna , mahni leh midangte tihnat loha sawi theihna hi a ni.

``Assertiveness'' tih hi eng nge ni tak tak?

Ngaihtuah teh, `(Assertiveness)` hi thusawi hrisel tak mai a ni . I ngaihdan dik tak leh midangte zah taka sawi chhuah thiamna a ni. Nitin dinhmun tam tak kan hmachhawn thin. Mi pakhat hnena duhthusam sawi chhuah emaw, zirtirtu hnena zawhna zawh emaw, hna emaw, university interview-a thusawi thiam emaw pawh ni se, `(Assertiveness)` hi a pawimawh hle.

Mahse, he `(Assertiveness)` hi mi zawng zawng tana pianphung anga lo thleng a ni lo. Mi thenkhat an awm a, zak takin an tawng thin (Too Passive) . Chu chu, an rilrua awm chu an sawi lo va, mi dang thusawiah chuan an lu an bu nghat a ni. Midang thenkhat pawh an awm a, an style hi a aggressive hle (Too Aggressive) . Chu chu mi dang an ngaihtuah lo va, mahni thil sawiin an au chhuak mai mai tihna a ni. Chuvangin, he `(Assertiveness)` hi chu chutiang extreme pahnih inkara middle ground dik tak chu a ni.

Hengte hi ``Assertive`` taka che tura titu thil thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

• I ngaihdan i sawi thei a, i rilru put hmang pawh i sawi thei bawk.
• I duhzawng, i mamawh chu i dil thei a ni.
• Mi dangte nen zah takin i inrem lo thei.
• I ngaihdan leh rawtna te i thehlut thei ang.
• Inthiam lohna nei lovin "ni lo" i ti thei.
• Midang tan pawh thu i sawi thei.

Engvangin nge hei hi kan tan a pawimawh em em?

Assertive communication hian kan duhzawng kan hmuh theih nan min pui thin. Mahse, chutah chuan a tawp lo. Assertive nih hian mahni leh midangte kan zah tihna a ni.

Assertive speaker te hian mahni inrintawkna thuchah an thawn thin. An hlau lutuk lo va, midang an nawr lutuk lo. An rilru put hmang leh ngaihdan a pawimawh tih an hria. An inringtawk hle a ni .

Assertive te hian awlsam takin ṭhian an siam thin. Mahni mamawh ang bawkin midang mamawh zah takin an inbiak thin. Inrem lohna leh inrem lohna chinfel kawngah pawh an thiam hle. Midang zahtute chu an zah let leh thin.

Zak lutuk? A khauh lutuk em? A nih loh leh a dik mai mai em?

Engtin nge he ``Assertiveness`` scale-a i dinhmun hi i hriat theih ang? Entirna thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

Nimali's (Too Passive): Nimali hi eng movie nge en duh tih i zawt a nih chuan, "Ka hre lo... eng nge i en duh ang?" Thutlukna siam turin midang a phal tlangpui a, mahse a duh ang a hmuh loh avangin a lungawi lo hle. A ṭhiante chauh an inbia tih pawh a hrehawm hle bawk. Mahse Nimali chuan inbiaknaah tel ve a tum pawhin a tawng zawi hle a, midangte pawhin an hriat lohvin an sawipui thin.

Surekha (Too Aggressive): Surekha hian a ngaihdan sawi kawngah harsatna a nei lo. Mahse a tih chuan a ring nasa hle a, ngaihdan nei tak angin a rawn lang chhuak thin. Surekha hian inbiakna chu a thunun a, mi dangte a titawp fo va, mi dangte thusawi chu a ngaithla tam lo hle. I thusawi a pawm loh chuan a hriattir che a ni – mahse a tlangpuiin sarcasm hmang emaw, mi rilru tihnat emaw hmangin a ni. Bossy tak leh midang ngaihtuah lo tih hmingthang tak a nei.

Chamalge (Assertive): Chamal-a ngaihdan i zawh chuan dik takin a hrilh ang che. I thusawi a remti lo a nih chuan a hrilh ang che – mahse, i hnuaichhiah emaw, i dik lo anga inhriatna emaw angin a hrilh lo. Chamal pawhin i ngaihdan a ngaihven hle mai. I sawi tur chu a ngaithla thin. Chamal hian a pawm lo che a nih pawhin i ngaihdan a zah ang maiin i la inhria.

Kan ngaihtuahna chu mahni chauha kan dah (too passive) hian eng nge thleng...

Pasive lutuk mite chuan mi dangin an hmang niin an inhriat fo mai thei. An rilru a na a, an thinrim a, an lungawi lo thei bawk.

I ngaihtuahna leh rilru put hmang chu i chhungril lama bottle-a i dah chuan midangte chuan an hre tak tak thei lovang che a, an hrethiam thei lovang che. I ngaihdan leh rawtna te hian team tan engmah a hlawkpui dawn lo.

I ngaihtuahna emaw, i rilru put hmang emaw chu hlut loh anga i inhriat ṭan chuan, chu chuan i inrintawkna a ti tlem thei a ni . I ngaihtuahna tha tak takte pawm leh chhanna chance pawh a ti tlem thei bawk. Hei hian a chang chuan depression ang state pawh a thlen thei bawk .

Hriat reng tur: i aw pawh a hlu hle. Ti ngawih ngawih suh!

Engkim maiah i aggressive lutuk a nih chuan eng nge thleng ang?

Mi rilru na lutuk anga langte chuan ṭhian neih chu an harsat phah thei a ni. Inbiaknaah midangte an hneh thei a, an ngaihdan chu chak tak leh chak takin an sawi chhuak thei bawk. Hei hian mi dangte chu ngaihsak loh leh zah loh anga inhriatna a siam thei a ni.

Aggressive style nei mite chuan mi dangte chu an duhzawng ti turin an ti thei a, mahse mi dangte hnawl emaw, duh loh emaw an hmu fo thin. An ni loZahawmna a bo mek a ni.

Engvangin nge mi zawng zawng hi ``(Assertive)'' an tih loh?

Engvangin nge mi thenkhat chuan ``Assertively'' an tawng a, thenkhat erawh chu passive emaw aggressive tak emaw an nih? Hei hi a chhan pakhat chu an mizia a ni . A chhan dang chu kan tih dan leh kan thil tawn te hi a ni. Mahse, midang – a bik takin min enkawltu te – awm dan en hian ``Assertive'', ``Passive'', emaw ``Aggressive'' nih kan zir thin.

Mi pakhat chu passive lutuka awm tir thei thil thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni :

• Mahni inrintawk lohna emaw, mahni ngaihtuahna hlutna emaw.
• Midang tihlawm duhna leh midangte duhsak duhna ngaihtuah lutuk.
• Midangin i ngaihdan an pawm ang nge an hnawl ang che tih ngaihtuah.
• Sawiselna laka sensitive tak nih emaw, a hmaa mahni ngaihdan ngaihtuah loh laia hnawlna tawk tawh emaw.
• ``Assertive'' tih awmzia chu thiamna mamawh tihhmasawn loh tihna a ni.

Hengte hi mi pakhat chu a chetsual lutuk tirtu chu a ni :

• Inrintawkna nei lutuk .
• Mahni mamawh phuhruk tura ngaihtuah lutuk leh mahni ngaihdan chauh sawi chhuah.
• Mi dangte ngaihdan emaw, mamawh emaw zah leh ngaihtuah thiam loh.
• Midang thusawi ngaihthlak leh ngaihdan zawh thiam an la zir lo.

Hengte hi mi pakhat chu a dik taka awm (`Assertive`) tura hruaitute chu an ni :

• Mahni inrintawkna tha neih .
• Mahni ngaihdan a pawimawh tih ringin, a rilru put hmang chu a hlu a, sawi chhuah theihna a nei bawk.
• Resilient (chu chu sawiselna, hnawlna leh tlakchhiatnate hmachhawn thiam tihna a ni).
• Midang duhdan leh mamawh zahsak.
• `(Assertiveness)` tan entawn tur tha tak neih.
• I ngaihdante chu pawm a nih thu leh i assertiveness chu tun hmain ngaihlu a ni tih hriat.

Engtin nge tlem chuan ``Assertive'' deuh kan nih theih ang?

Assertive nih chuan inbiakpawhna thiamna ṭhenkhat practice leh rilru put hmang dik neih a tel a ni. Mi thenkhat chu assertive theihna neia piang an ni. Midangte chuan practice tlem tal an mamawh a ni . Mahse, mi zawng zawng hian hei hi kan tipung thei a ni.

Hetiang hi a ni:

A hmasain, heng inbiakpawhna kawng pathum (`(Assertive)`, `(Passive)`, emaw `(Aggressive)`) zingah hian eng nge i hriat chian ber tih ngaihtuah rawh. Tichuan, i pianpui aia zak lo zâwk, chetsualna nei lo zâwk, a nih loh leh i sawi chhuah tam zâwk a ngai em tih chu ngaihtuah rawh.

Passiveness tihtlem leh assertiveness tihpun nan a hnuaia mi ang hian ti rawh:

• I ngaihtuahna, i rilru put hmang, i duh zawng, i duh zawngte chu fimkhur rawh . Midangte i hrilh hmain heng thilte hi i hriat chian a ngai a ni.
• Miin i duhzawng a zawh che chuan, "Ka hre lo," "Ka ngaihtuah lo," emaw, "Chu chu harsatna a ni lo," i tih chuan chhinchhiah rawh . Chutiang chu sawi tawh suh. I duhzawng sawi thiam la, a bik takin thil tenawm tak takah chuan. Entirnan, mi pakhatin, "Green zawk i duh em, a sen i duh em?" "Green zawk hi ka duh – lawmthu ka sawi e," i ti thei ang.
• Thil dil chu practice rawh . Entirnan: "Spoon ka nei thei ang em, khawngaihin?" "Pen ka mamawh - tu emaw chuan extra an nei em?" "Seat ka nei thei ang em?" Hei hian i mamawh huna thil pawimawh zawk dil theihna tur thiamna leh inrintawkna a siam ang.
• I ngaihdan min hrilh teh . Movie i en kha i duh leh duh loh min hrilh la, a chhan pawh min hrilh bawk ang che.
• " I duh..." "Ka duh..." emaw "I feel..." tih ang chi " I" statement hman dan practice rawh.
• Role model tha tak, assertive tak zawng rawh – chu chu zak lutuk lo, chetsual lutuk lo tihna a ni. Chu mi mizia ṭha berte chu i entawn thei em tih en rawh.
• I ngaihdan leh ngaihdan te hi midang zawng zawng ang bawkin a pawimawh tih hi inhriat nawn tir rawh . Hei hi hriat hian ``Assertive'' i nih theih nan a pui ang che.`` Assertiveness hi chhungril lam rilru put hmang atanga tan a ni a, midang ngaihlu leh nangmah ngaih pawimawh a ni.

Aggressiveness tihtlem leh Assertiveness tihpun nan a hnuaia mi ang hian ti rawh:

• Midangte sawi hmasa rawh se.
• I thusawi laiin miten an rawn tibuai che a nih chuan fimkhur rawh . Chutiang a nih chuan man la, "Aw, ngaidam rawh - i sawi!" tin, mi dang chuan ti zo rawh se.
• Midang hnenah ngaihdan zawt la, an chhanna chu ngaithla rawh.
• In inrem loh hunah chuan midang hmusit lovin i ngaihdan sawi chhuah tum ang che . Entirnan, "Chu chu ngaihdan âwm lo tak a ni," tih ai chuan, "Chu ngaihtuahna chu ka duh tak tak lo," tih tum rawh. A nih loh leh, "Mi hlauhawm tak a ni" tih ai chuan, "Mi dang a ngaihsak ka ring lo," tih tum zawk rawh.
• Role model tha tak, assertive tak zawng rawh – chu chu zak lutuk lo, chetsual lutuk lo tihna a ni. Chu mi mizia ṭha berte chu i entawn thei em tih en rawh.

Mihring pianphung anga insum thei tak takte chuan an theihna an tipung lehzual thei a:

• ``Assertive`` nih – chu chu zak lutuk lo, zak lutuk lo – .Entawn tur tha zawng rawh. An mizia ṭha ber berte chu i entawn thei em tih en rawh. (Hei hi style zakzum emaw, aggressive emaw tanpui tura kan thurawn ang chiah hi i hmu mai thei. Chu chu zir kan chawlhsan ngai loh vang a ni!)
• Engtikah nge i assertive ber tih ngaihtuah rawh . Mite chu dinhmun hrang hrangah an awm dan a inang lo. Mi tam tak tan chuan dinhmun thenkhatah (ṭhiante nena ang chi) assertive nih chu thil awlsam tak a ni a, mahse thil thenkhatah chuan ( zirtirtu emaw mi tharte nen ang chi) chuan harsatna a ni. Thil harsa takah chuan, "Ka thian tha ber berte bulah awm ila engtin nge ka sawi ang?"

Assertive taka i thusawi hian nangmah i ring tih a tilang a ni. Assertiveness tihhmasawn hi i nih duh mi, nangmah version tha ber nih theihna tura step khat a ni!

In lama i hruai tur pawimawh ber (Take-Home Message) .

Okay, chuti a nih chuan tunah chuan kan sawi thin kha, ``(Assertiveness)'' tih kha i hre chiang ta. Hei hi zan khat thil thua tihdanglam theih thil a ni lo tih hre reng ang che. Mahse practice nen chuan danglamna i hmu ngei ang.

• I rilru put hmang te, i ngaihdan te, i mamawh te hi a hlu em em a ni. Thup suh.
• Passive takin awm suh, aggressive takin awm suh. An pahnih ins and outs kan sawi tawh a.
• Assertive tih awmzia chu i rilru dik taka sawi, midang zah leh mahni inzah tihna a ni.
• Thil tenawm tak tak atang hian tan la rawh. "He rawng ai hian chu rawng chu ka duh zawk" tih ang chi thil awlsam tak sawi hi practice rawh.
• Mi dangte sawi chu ngun takin ngaithla rawh . Assertiveness chu mahni thu sawi mai mai a ni lo.
• Thil tihsual emaw, tih loh tur emaw i tih a ngai a nih pawhin, chu chu inthiam lo takin inhria suh.

Heng tips te te hi i nitin nunah hian telh tum ang che. In inzawmna chu a ṭhat lehzual ang a, a hlim lehzual ang tih i hmu ang. I chak zawk!

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