Hnawlna Chu Eng Nge Ni? Kan sawiho ang u!

Nunnaah hian thil engemaw kan um zui vek a ni lawm ni? A châng chuan ruahmanna angin thil a kal ṭha famkim a, a châng chuan, "ni lo" emaw, "tun ṭumah chuan ni lo" emaw kan tawk ṭhin. Hnawlh nih chu thil harsa leh hrehawm tak angin a lang thei. Mahse, i hria em? Hei hi nunah thil awmze nei tak, mi zawng zawngin engtik lai pawha kan hmachhawn thin a ni.

Hnawlna chu eng nge ni?

A awlsam zawngin, hnawlna chu i beisei thil emaw, i duh em em thil emaw, i thil dil emaw chu hnial a nih hian a thleng thin. Hei hi thil pawimawh tak, pawi tak a ni thei a, chu chu hna interview i thawhrim hnua hnawl i nih ang chi hi a ni. A nih loh leh, nitin thil tenawm tak a ni thei a, chu chu ṭhiante zînga i sawi fiamthu chu tumahin an nuihzat loh lai ang kha a ni thei bawk. Engti kawng pawhin, a sting a ni lawm ni?

Engvangin nge hnawlna hian a na em em?

I ngaihtuah mai thei, "Engvangin nge thil tenawm tak avang hian ka thinlung hi a na em em?" Engvângin nge hnawlna chu kan tân a nasa êm êm?

Ngaihtuah teh: mihring kan nih angin, kan pianphungah chuan mi dangte pawm, hmangaih, leh pawla tel ve kan duh a ni. Hei hi rilru lam mamawh bulpui tak a ni. Chuvangin, mi pakhatin min hnawl hian kan pianphungah chuan hnawhchhuah, duh loh, emaw, kan tha tawk lo ang maiin kan inhria thin.

Mak tak maiin, scientific zirchianna thenkhatah chuan taksa natna register tu thluak peng ang chiah hi hnawl kan nih avanga rilru natna kan tawn hian a thawk chhuak bawk tih hmuhchhuah a ni! Hei hian kan thluak hian emotional hurt hi "pain" chi khat angin a enkawl tak tak tihna a ni. Chuvang chuan hnawlna hi tuar harsa tak a ni thei.

Thil lian, thil tenawm – Hnawlna hi hmun tinah a awm

Kan sawiho tawh ang khan hnawlna hi thil thleng lian tak takah chauh a innghat lo. Heng entîrnate hi han en teh:

• University course-a i thawhrimna leh beiseina sang tak i neih kha i luh loh kha.
• School sports team ( sports ) chu i siam ngei ang tih ngaihtuah chungin, list-ah i hming a bo tih i hmu chauh a ni.
• I duhzawng mi pakhatin a ngaihsak lo che a, i ding reng laiin midang zawng zawng nen hlim takin an inbia thin.
• I "ṭhian ṭha ber" tia i ngaih ṭhian pakhat chu hrilh lovin a zin chhuak a.

Chu chu hun pawimawh tak, hrehawm tak tak a ni. Mahse, nitin thil thleng tlemte pawh a awm bawk:

• Group pakhata fiamthu i sawi khan nuihzatthlak a hlawh lo.
• Chawhmeh ei dawhkanah chuan tumahin ṭhutna an chhanhim lo che.
• I ṭhian pakhat hnenah message i thawn a, an hmu a nih pawhin an chhang lo .
• Mi pakhat chuan i chaw siam chu "a thlum lo" a ti.

Hetiang thil thleng tenau tak tak pawh hi a pile up hunah kan phurrit thei hle. Kan inngaihhlutna , inrintawkna, leh kan inngaihtuahnaah nghawng lian tak an nei thei a ni.

Engtin nge hnawlna i hmachhawn?

Chuti a nih chuan, engtin nge hetiang dinhmun hi hlawhtling taka i hmachhawn theih ang? Engtin nge hrehawmna, lungngaihna leh thinrimna i tihziaawm? Step khat hnu step khatin han thlir ila.

1. I rilru natna hrethiam la, hmun pe rawh

A pawimawh ber chu hnawl i nih huna i rilru put hmang thup tum loh hi a ni. Lungngaihna te, thinrimna te, beidawnna te, a nih loh leh hlauhna te—heng zawng zawng hi mihring rilru put hmang pangngai, pianpui a ni. "Keimah chauh hi hetiang hian ka inhria em?" emaw, "Ka chak loh vangin hetiang hian ka awm a ni." I lungngaih chuan nangmah chauhin hun engemaw chen hmang la, tap rawh. I thinrim a nih chuan nangmah emaw, midang emaw tihnat loh zawngin sawi chhuak rawh (pillow vuak emaw, tlan chhuahna emaw hmangin!). I rilru put hmang hriatthiam a, chu chu i process phalsak hi damna kawng hmasa ber a ni.

2. Nangmah chauh i ni lo tih hre reng ang che

Hei hi a pawimawh hle. He khawvelah hian engtik lai pawha hnawl loh mi hmuh chu i harsat hle ang. Tûn laia mi hlawhtling ber ber i hmuhte pawh—i duhzâwng lemchan thiam, zai thiam, infiammi, a nih loh leh sumdâwngtute—chu an dam chhûngin vawi tam tak hnawl an ni tawh a. Hei hi nangmah chauhin i neih buaina a ni lo; nangmah chauh a ni lo. Chu chu hriat chian chuan thlamuanna a thlen thei che a, inhlat taka awm lo tûrin a ṭanpui thei bawk che a ni.

3. I ngaihtuahna tha lote chu ‘Tawi’ rawh

Hnawlna a lo awm chuan min tibuaitu ngaihtuahna tha lo tak tak a lo awm tan thin. "Ka tangkai lo," "Tuman min duh lo," "Ka tan thil a hlawhtling ngai lo," emaw, "Ka sual vek a ni" tih ang chi te. Heng ngaihtuahnate hi a lo chhuah hian thudik famkim anga pawm mai mai suh.

Chu ngaihtuahnate chu a dik tak tak em tih leh engtiang chiahin nge a dik tak tak tih chu inzawt rawh.

Entir nan:

• "Mi tangkai lo tak ka ni" tia i inngaih chuan, "Chu chu a dik tak tak em? Tun hmain thil tha ka la ti lo em ni? Hetiang hi ka ti tha a, chutiang chu ka ti tha em em a ni lawm ni?"
• "Tuman min duh lo" tih i ngaihtuah chuan, "Tumah an awm lo tak tak em? Ka nu leh pate hian min hmangaih a, ka thianpa pawhin min hmangaih ve tho," tiin zawt rawh.

I ngaihtuahna ṭha lote chu dodâlna hmangin, zawi zawiin i chunga an thuneihna chu i tihtlem thei a ni.

4. Nangmah ngeiin i hlutna i sawifiah a, midang tumah i sawifiah lo

Miin a hnawl che vang mai mai chuan i hlutna chu zero-ah a tlahniam tihna a ni lo. I hlutna te, i theihna te, i mizia te hi midangte’n nangmah an ngaihdan leh thutlukna an siam danah a innghat lo. Nangmah ngeiin i nihna, i talent leh i duhthusam i nei a. Chu thilte chu hlut rawh. Hnawlna hi thilthleng pakhat chauh a ni a; i nun pum pui emaw, i self-worth emaw chu a thunun tir suh.

5. He thil tawn atang hian zir la, pivot rawh

A châng chuan, hnawlna apiang aṭangin zirlai hlu tak kan zir thei a ni.

• I thil tum kha a takah chuan a fit tha lo tih i hrechhuak mai thei. Chutiang a nih chuan, i nihna leh i hmangaihna nêna inmil zâwk kawng thar emaw, thiltum thar emaw i thlang thei a ni.
• I thawhrimnaah hian gap tlemte a awm tih i hre mai thei a, chu chu i siam ṭhat chuan a dawt leh hunah chuan a rah chhuah chu a danglam mai thei. Chutiang tihsualte chu i tih leh loh nan hma i la thei a ni.

Hnawlna chu kawng a tawp tawh tihna a ni lo; kawng tha zawk lam panna mai a ni mai thei. Thil thlengte ngaihtuah reng emaw, hun kal tawha tang tlat emaw ai chuan, i ngaihtuahna chu thiltum thar, i ngaihven zawng, leh thiltih thar lam hawiin, i rilru chu dah rawh.

6. Ṭanpuina dil hlau suh

Heng zawng zawng tih zawh hnu pawh hian a chang chuan mahni chauha hmalam pan chu a harsa hle thei a ni. A natna chu a nasa hlein a lang thei. Chutiang hunah chuan, i rintlak mi nêna inbiakna chuan thlamuanna leh ṭanpuina nasa tak a pe thei a ni.

• Hei hi i thian tha ber a ni thei.
• I nu leh pa emaw, i unau emaw, i chhungte emaw.
• Zirtirtu a ni.
• A châng chuan, professional counselor , psychologist , psychiatrist , a nih loh leh heng thila zirtîr therapist thiam tak hnên aṭanga ṭanpuina dîl chu a hlu hle a ni. Hei hi zak suh la, chak lohna chhinchhiahna nia inhria suh. Khawsik emaw, khawsik emaw avanga doctor i hmuh ang bawkin, rilru lama harsatna nei tanpuina zawng chu duhthlanna fing leh hrisel tak a ni.

Engtin nge hnawl hnuah i chak lehzual?

Hnawlna chu thil hrehawm tak a ni—chu chu rinhlelh rual a ni lo. Mahse, chatuan atan a tichak lo che a ngai lo. Dik tak chuan, heng thil tawnte hi chak zawk leh nun harsatna hmachhawn thei zawk turin i hmang thei a ni. Hei hi resilience an ti a : nun harsatna, daltu leh tlakchhiatna atanga harhchhuah thuai theihna.

• I chaknate hmuchhuak rawh: Mi tin hian talent leh chakna bik kan nei vek a. I thiamna leh i mizia ṭhate chu chhui chhuak la, chu chu tihhmasawn lehzual tûrin rilru pe rawh.
• Thil \ha ngaihtuahna hmang rawh:Engkim hi dum emaw, var emaw anga en ai chuan, dinhmun tinrengah a tha lam emaw, zir tur emaw zawng tum ang che.
• Celebrate small wins: While working toward big goals , i hlawhtlinna tenau te chu ngaihlu la, hlim rawh. Hei hian zawi zawiin i inrintawkna a tipung ang.
• Mahni inkhawngaihna practice rawh: Thil tihsual i neih emaw, hnawlna i hmachhawn emaw chuan nangmah leh nangmah inpuh loh leh sawisel suh. I chungah ngilnei rawh. "Mihring ka ni a, tihsual ka nei thei a, rilru natna ka nei thei a, chu chu thil pangngai tak a ni," tih hi han ngaihtuah teh.

Hriat reng tur chu, tlu mai mai a ni lo; tho leh leh tur a ni! Tlu apiang hi chak zawka tho chhuah theihna hun remchang atan hmang thin ang che.

Take-Home Thuchah a ni

Vawiina kan sawiho atang hian hnawl hi nunah thil pangngai a ni tih a chiang tur a ni. Tu chungah pawh, kum eng pawhah, engtik lai pawhin a thleng thei. Tumah hi chu a laka him lo an awm lo.

A pawimawh ber chu hnawlna hian i hlutna zawng zawng a sawifiah loh hi a ni. I rilru natna hriatthiam dan zir la, hrisel takin enkawl rawh. Mahni chauha enkawl harsa lutuk nia i hriat chuan i rintlak tak hnen atanga tanpuina dil hreh ngai suh. Thil tawn apiang a\angin zirlai hlu tak tak zir la, chak zawkin lo thanglian la, nun hi inrintawkna nen hmachhawn rawh. I ngaihtuah aiin i chak zawk hle tih hre reng ang che!

Hnawlna, Rilru hriselna, Mahni inngaihhlutna, Emotional Management, Resilience, Counselling