Naute i neih hnua i rilrua zawhna lian ber chu, ‘Hnathawh lamah ka kir leh nge naute nen inah ka awm?’ tih hi a ni. Hei hi nu tharin a hmachhawn tur thutlukna lian ber leh buaithlak ber a ni lo maw? Nu thenkhat chuan naute an neih hma atang tawhin hnathawhna hmuna kal leh hi an lo ngaihtuah tawh a. Midangte chuan ‘in lama awm’ an duh thu an lo rel tawh bawk. Mahse naute chu i kuah a awm tawh chuan engkim a danglam thei. Vawiin hian he thutlukna lian tak hi kan sawi dawn a, i ngaihtuahnate leh nangmah leh i chhungte tana tha ber tur i thlan dan tur kan sawi dawn a ni.
Nu thar inhnialna chu
Nu thar zawng zawng hian hnathawhna hmuna kal nge in lama awm tih hi harsatna an tawk vek a ni. A chang chuan kan ruahman angin thil a kal lo. Ngaihtuah teh, i thawkrim a, i lehkha i zir nasa a, hna tha tak i nei bawk. Naute i neih hnu thla engemaw zat hnuah hna thawk leh i tum a ni mai thei. Mahse vawikhat chu naute chu i kuah a, chu hmel te tak te chu i en chuan, "Aw, engtin nge he naupang te hi kalsanin hna ka thawh theih ang?"
A lehlamah chuan, "Hna ka thawk leh dawn lo, naute nen in lamah ka awm mai ang," tih i ngaihtuah mai thei. Mahse, rei vak lo hnuah chuan in lama awm chu boring leh lonely a ni tih i hrechhuak mai thei. I ṭhiante emaw, i thawhpui emaw tel lo chuan mahni chauha awm i ni thei a, i theihna chu i hloh ang maiin i inhria thei bawk.
Mental health expert-te chuan i nun chungchangah thutlukna lian tak, nghet tak i siam tur a ni lo, naute i beisei lai emaw, i neih hnu kum khatnaah emaw pawh i siam tur a ni lo. A chhan chu nu i nih huna i rilru put hmang tur chu tumahin an sawi lawk thei lo.
Nu thenkhat chuan an naute enkawl hi an ngaina hle ang tih an ngaihtuah a, mahse hun engemaw chen hnuah chuan monotony hian an thinrim a, an lungkham thei hle. Mi dangte chuan in lama awm nuam an tihzia chu mak an ti hle. Chuvangin hei hi chhanna dik leh dik lo a awm lo . He thutlukna hi i rilru put hmang, support network i neih leh i chhungkaw dinhmun ah a innghat vek a ni.
He thutlukna siam huna ngaihtuah tur thilte
Hnathawh tur leh kal loh tur i rel hmain, uluk taka ngaihtuah tur thil tlemte a awm. Eng nge an nih i en ang u.
| Ngaihtuah tur | Engtin nge kan ngaihtuah ang |
|---|---|
| Economic dinhmun a ni | A awlsam zawngin, hnathawhna hmuna i kal loh chuan inchhung senso i enkawl thei dawn em ni? I pasal hlawh chauh hi sum lakluhna tur a ni ang em? Hnathawh tur i kal tak tak a nih chuan nanny emaw daycare emaw man atan engzat nge i sen ang? Hemi atan hian i hlawh a\anga a tam zawk i hman \hin chuan hnathawhna hmuna kal hian sum leh pai lama hlawkna a awm em tih ngaihtuah rawh. |
| Naupang enkawlna mamawh chu | Naupang tê tê chuan enkawlna nghet leh rintlak a mamawh a ni. Naupangin nu leh pa hnen a\angin a theih ang anga enkawlna a dawn chuan a \ha ber. Mahse, hnathawhna hmuna i kal chuan tuin nge naute chu enkawl ang? I nu, i pi a ni em? A nih loh leh midang? Engtiang chiahin nge i rin? Day care center tha leh quality tha tak pawh hi duhthlan tur tha tak a ni thei bawk. |
| I rilru inbuatsaihna | Hei hi a pawimawh ber a ni. In lama i awm a, chu chuan thinrim leh lungngaihna a siam che a nih chuan chu chu naupang tan a tha lo. Tin, hnathawhna hmuna kal a, inthiam lohna nasa tak i neih chuan, ‘In lamah ka awm tur a ni’ tia i ngaihtuah fo chuan chu pawh chu naupang tan a tha lo. Naupang tana pawimawh ber chu i hlim hi a ni. |
| Nau hnute pek | Hnathawh tur i nih chuan hnute pek hi a harsa thei hle. Mahse thil theih loh a ni lo. Pump leh hnathawhna hmuna facility a awm leh awm loh enfiah te chu ruahmanna siam lawk a ngai a ni. |
"Nu tha tak ka ni ang em?"
Vawi tam tak chu nute hian, "Hnathawh tur ka kal ang em? In lamah ka awm tur em?" Mahse a chhan dik tak chu " Nu tha tak ka ni ang em ?" A bik takin i nu nen inzawmna ropui tak i neih loh chuan he hlauhthawnna hi a nasa lehzual thei a ni. Chutih lai chuan chu hlauhna chu he hnaah hian kal tur nge kal loh tih zawhna hmangin i sawi chhuak thin.
Mom dangte chuan engtin nge an sawi ang? ("Mommy Wars" tih kha)
Hei pawh hi harsatna lian tak a ni. In lama awm tura i rilru i siam chuan hnathawk nute chuan mak tak maiin an en ang che. "Tunlai hian hmeichhe naupangte chu in lamah an awm reng em?" mi pakhatin a zawt mai thei. Hnathawh tur i tum a nih chuan in lama awm nute chuan, "Aw ka pathian, naupang hi pawisa aiin a hlu zawk lo em ni?"
Hetianga sawiseltute hi anmahni chhungrilah buaina lian tak an nei tih hriatthiam hi a pawimawh ber a ni. Mi zawng zawng hian an thutlukna chu a dik tih finfiah an tum a ni. Chutianga tih dan awlsam ber chu mi dang thutlukna sawisel hi a ni. Chuvangin midang thusawi chu mimal takin la suh.
Hnathawh tur i duh vangin i kal mai thei a, i career a hlut avangin i kal mai thei. Mi dang chu chhungkaw sum leh pai lama harsatna avang hian hna a thawk thei bawk . Mi tin dinhmun a inang lo vek.
Engtin nge i chhungkaw tana tha ber tur i thlan?
Hei hi tug-of-war ang a ni. Balance act a ni. Hnathawh tur i tum a nih chuan i tih theih thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:
- I fa tân hun siam rawh: A theih phawt chuan i fate sikul hna leh hun bîkah te tel ve rawh. Hnathawh aṭanga i haw hunah chuan chu hun chu i fate tân hmang vek rawh. Mut tir la, tichuan i hna chu i thawk thei tawh ang.
- Kar tawp chu naupangte hnenah pe rawh: Kar tawp lama i hnathawh tur leh thil lei tur tih ai chuan i fate duhzawng thil tih nan hun ruat la, anmahni nen inkhelhpui tur leh kea kal turin hun siam rawh.
- Hnathawh chungchangah thu tha takin sawi rawh: I fate hmaah, "Aw, he hna hi pawisa ka mamawh avangin ka kal dawn a ni," tih ai chuan, "Mommy hian he hna hi a ngaina a, a hlim tir a ni," tih ang chi te sawi rawh.
In lama awm reng tura i rilru i siam chuan:
- I tan hun siam rawh: Nilengin i fa bula awm chu a hahthlak thei hle. I duhzawng thil ti la, lehkhabu chhiar la, i ṭhiante ko la, a nih loh leh ni tin i tân hun tlem tal dah rawh.
- Mom dangte nen inzawmna siam rawh: Nangmah ang in lama nu dangte nen inzawmna siam la, inbiakna nei la, i fate nen inkhel dun rawh. Mahni chauha awm loh nan a pui ang che .
A tawpah chuan hei hi i nun, i chhungte, i fa a ni. Thu tlûkna i siam chuan nangmah, i pasal leh i fate hlimna a thlen a nih chuan, chu chu thu tlûkna dik a ni . Hemi chungchangah hian i rilru a buai emaw, i lungkham emaw a nih chuan, i ṭhian rintlak tak, chhungte, a nih loh leh i doctor , emaw, a ṭul chuan rilru lam hriselna lama counselor emaw chu biak rawh. Thlamuanna ropui tak a ni thei.
Take-Home Thuchah a ni
- Naute neih hnua hnathawhna hmuna kal emaw, in lama awm emaw chungchangah hian chhanna "dik" leh "dik lo" a awm lo . Mimal thutlukna a ni.
- He thu tlûkna i siam hian thil pathumte hi ngaihtuah vek rawh: i chhûngkaw sum leh pai dinhmun te, i fa enkawl dân te, leh nangmah ngei pawhin i rilru a ṭhat dân te .
- Midang thusawi emaw, sawiselna emaw ngaihsak suh. Chhungkaw tin a inang lo, nu tin dinhmun a inang lo.
- Eng thutlukna pawh siam la, chumi chungchangah chuan inthiam lohna nei suh. Nu hlim tak chu fa tan chuan nu tha ber a ni.
- Hemi chungchangah hian stress emaw, lungkhamna emaw i neih chuan sawi hlau suh. A tul chuan damdawi lam thurawn la rawh.
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