Kei te mahara koe ki te rā i kī mai ai tō tākuta he mate pukupuku tōu? Tērā pea kei te mōhio koe ki tētahi e tata ana ki a koe kua haere i tēnei ara? Ina kōrerotia aua kupu, ka rite ki te mea kua hinga tō ao katoa. Ko ngā mea katoa i hangaia e koe, i whakaponohia e koe, ka memeha haere i roto i te wā poto. He wheako tino uaua, he wheako taumaha hoki.
I ngā wā pōuri e whai ake nei, ka pōuriuritia tō hinengaro e ngā pātai—ko te nuinga ka tīmata me te 'He aha?' "He aha ahau?" "He aha taku he?" Tērā pea ka rapu koe i ngā whakautu kāore e tino puta mai, ā, he maha ngā wā ka waiho koe kia tino ngenge te ngākau.
"He tino kaha koe"—He tino whakamarie tēnei?
I tēnei wā uaua, he maha ngā wā ka kōrero ngā hoa me te whānau he ngākau pai ki ngā mea e mamae ai koe, kaua e āwhina. Tērā pea kua rongo koe i ngā kōrero pēnei i te, "Nā te Atua tēnei mate i homai ki a koe nā te mea e mōhio ana ia he kaha koe ki te whakahaere," me te pea rānei, "Kaua e manukanuka, ka tere te memeha."
He pono, he pai ngā whakaaro o ēnei tāngata; e hiahia ana rātou ki te whakamarie i a koe. Heoi, kāore e taea e rātou te mārama katoa ki te wehi, te mamae, me te koretake o te whawhai ki te mate pukupuku. Nō reira, kāore ēnei kupu kau e tino whakamarie ana i a koe, ā, he maha ngā wā ka mutu ka nui ake tō mokemoke.
Kia tīmata ngā maimoatanga—ina koa ko ngā maimoatanga kaha pēnei i te chemotherapy —ka uaua haere te āhua. He maha ngā pānga taha ka puta he huringa tinana, ā, mō te tini, ko te ngaronga o te makawe tetahi o ngā arai e kitea nuitia ana, e werohia ana hoki.
Kua kite koe i te rerekētanga o tō āhua, ka uaua te taunekeneke a te hunga e mōhio ana koe ki a koe? Kua rongo koe i ētahi wā kei te karohia koe e rātou?
I te nuinga o te wā, ehara tēnei i te mea āta whakaarohia. Kāore rātou i te mōhio me aha te kōrero, me pēhea rānei te whakamarie i a koe, nō reira ka ngana rātou ki te karo i te āhuatanga. Mā te whakakotahi i ēnei āhuatanga katoa ka puta te whakaaro me te mea ko koe anake i te ao.
Me pēhea te tautoko i tētahi tangata e pāngia ana e te mate pukupuku: He aha ngā mea hei kōrero, me ngā mea hei karo?
Mena kei te whawhai tetahi hoa, tetahi mema rānei o te whānau ki te mate pukupuku, he mea nui te noho hei pūnaha tautoko. Heoi anō, he mea nui anō te mōhio me pēhea te tuku i taua tautoko. Anei tētahi aratohu hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatere i aua kōrero.
| Ngā Mea Kāore e Āwhina hei Kōrero | Ngā Mea Āwhina hei Kōrero |
|---|---|
| "E mōhio ana ahau ki ō kare ā-roto." (Ki te kore koe e haere i tēnei ara, e kore e taea e koe.) | "Ki te hiahia koe ki te kōrero mō tēnei mea, kei konei ahau hei whakarongo." |
| "Kia mau tonu te whakaaro pai. Ka pai ngā mea katoa." | "Kei te pēhea koe i tēnei rā? He aha tāku e taea ai te āwhina?" |
| "E mōhio ana ahau ki tētahi atu i pāngia e tēnei mate, ā, kua ora ake." (He ahurei te haerenga o ia tangata.) | "He tino whakahīhī ahau ki te āhua o tāu whakahaere i tēnei mea." |
| "Kaua e manukanuka ki te ngaronga o te makawe, ka tupu anō." | "Ahakoa te aha ka tupu, he rite tonu tōu uara ki ahau." |
Hei whakarāpopototanga: Kaua e aroha ki a ia, engari ngana ki te mārama.
Ki te kore koe e mōhio he aha te mea hei kōrero, he kaha nui te pupuri noa i tōna ringa me te kī atu, "Kei konei ahau hei hoa mōu". Ki te hiahia rātou ki te kōrero, whakarongo pai. Whakautehia ō rātou kare ā-roto. Koinā te tautoko pono.
Te mana o te tautoko ohorere
Ina pōuri koe, ina mamae hoki, i ētahi wā ka puta mai te āwhina i ngā wāhi kāore i whakaarohia e koe. I a koe e mahi ana i ngā mahi, i runga pahi, i te hikoi rānei i te tiriti, tera pea ka tūtaki koe ki tētahi e pā ana ki ngā āhuatanga o tōu ao, kua pā kē rānei ki a ia.
I te kitenga i tō taupoki māhunga (pōtae matepukupuku), ka whakatata atu pea tētahi tangata tauhou ki a koe ki te kōrero, "Kua haere hoki ahau i tēnei ara," te tuku kupu whakatenatena ngāwari pēnei i te, "Kia kaha, ka taea e koe te wikitoria i tēnei pakanga."
Ahakoa he wā poto pēnei ka homai he kaha me te whakamarie e kore e taea te hopu e ngā kupu. I taua wā tonu, ka mōhio koe, "Kāore au i te mokemoke. Kei reira ētahi atu e mārama ana ki te mamae me ngā kare ā-roto e pā ana ki ahau." He mea tino nui te tautoko hinengaro e homai ana e tēnei. He rite ki te kite i te hihi o te māramatanga i a koe e kopikopiko ana i te pōuri.
He aha te hiranga o te whakapuaki i tēnei wheako?
- Ka whakaiti i te mokemoke : Ka whakamahara i a koe ehara i te mea ko koe anake te tangata e pāngia ana e tēnei.
- Whakamana i ō kare ā-roto: Ka kitea e koe tētahi hei kōrero atu mō ō wehi, ō pouri, ō riri rānei, me te kore e whakahengia.
- He tohutohu whai hua: Ka taea e koe te tiki tohutohu ā-ringa mō te whakahaere i ngā pānga taha o te maimoatanga .
- Ka whakaaweawe i te tumanako: Mā te kitenga i te hunga kua ora, kua hoki ki te ao noa ka nui te tumanako ka puta mai.
Mena kei te hiahia koe ki tēnei momo tautoko, kōrero ki tō tākuta kia mōhio ai koe ki ngā Rōpū Tautoko Matepukupuku ā-rohe.
Te oranga i muri i te mate pukupuku: He koha i riro mai
Ahakoa he wheako mamae te mate pukupuku, i muri i te whakaoranga, ka tino rerekē tō tirohanga ki te ao. He rite ki te whiwhi taonga. Ka tīmata tātou ki te titiro ki ētahi atu tāngata me te atawhai me te aroha. Ka hohonu ake tō tātou aro ki te mamae o ētahi atu.
Ko te mea nui, kua mōhio koe inaianei ki te aha te mea hei kōrero whakamarie ki tētahi atu e whawhai ana ki te mate pukupuku. Tērā pea ka tūtaki koe ki tētahi tangata pēnei i te hūpermakete, i te toa rānei.
I taua rā, ka taea e koe te toro atu ki a rātou, te whakapuaki i tō kōrero, me te noho hei puna kaha mō rātou. Nā te mea, he mea tino utu nui te tautoko mai i tētahi wāhi ohorere.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- He kare ā-roto noa te wehi, te pōuri, te riri, me te mokemoke i muri i te tātaritanga matepukupuku. Kaua e whakama mō ēnei kare ā-roto.
- Kaua e noho mokemoke nā te mea kua rerekē tō āhua, nā te mea rānei kei te wehe kē atu ētahi atu i a rātou anō. Āwhina kia mārama rātou ki a koe.
- He tino kaha te tautoko mai i tētahi kua pā ki taua haerenga anō. Ka kawea mai e ia te tumanako me te kaha ki a koe.
- Ki te pāngia tētahi hoa, tētahi mema rānei o te whānau e te mate pukupuku, kaua e aroha noa ki a rātou; whakarongo ki a rātou, me te ngana hoki ki te mārama ki ō rātou wheako.
- He uaua tēnei haerenga, engari kāore koe i te mokemoke. Whakapā atu ki tō tākuta me ngā rōpū tautoko ina hiahia āwhina koe.
