He mea noa ki a tātou katoa ngā pēhanga o te ao, arā, te ahotea. Engari ki te pāngia koe e te pouri, ehara i te mea ngāwari te hoki mai i taua ahotea. Ina ngaro tō hoa aroha, ina ngaro tō mahi, ina whakarerea rānei koe, ka piki ake pea ō kare ā-roto o te hara me te kore tumanako. Kaua e manukanuka, kei reira ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi hei wikitoria i tēnei āhuatanga.
"Me mōhio koe ka taka anō koe ki taua poka pōuri. I taua wā, me hoki whakamuri koe," te kī a ngā tākuta. "Ko te whakaaroaro, te aro nui, te moe pai, te karo i te waipiro, me te noho tahi me te hunga e tino aroha ana ki a koe, koinei ngā mea ka kaha ake tō hinengaro. Ehara i te mea mā te whakaaro nui ki te 'Me kaha ake taku mahi.'"
Ahakoa te pūtake o tō pouri, ka taea e koe te whakahaere. I konei, ka kōrerohia e mātou ētahi o ngā mea e whakaohooho ana i te pouri me pēhea te whakaiti i tōna pānga ki a koe.
Ngaronga mahi
He wāhanga nui te mahi o ō tātou oranga. Ina ngaro tō mahi, ka ngaro ohorere tō whatunga hoa me ō hoa mahi katoa. "Ko te noho mokemoke pāpori e pā mai ana ki tēnei ka taea te waiho hei take o te pouri," te kī a ngā tākuta.
Kei te aha koe?
Ngāna kia whakahaere i tēnei āhuatanga. Whakahoutia tō CV (tono mahi), engari kia ngāwari hoki. "Tērā pea he maha atu ngā whai wāhitanga mahi i waho atu i tō mara i tō whakaaro," te kī a ngā tohunga. Koinei pea te wā pai ki te wehe atu i te pouaka o tō ara mahi o nāianei, me te whakaaro ki ētahi atu kōwhiringa. Mā te whakaaro whānui ake i te wā e rapu mahi ana koe ka āwhina i a koe kia nui ake tō mana whakahaere, kia iti ake hoki tō āwhina .
Te whakakorenga
Kāore he tangata e pai ki te whakaaro kāore koe e hiahiatia ana. Engari ko te whakakorenga mai i te mahi, i te hoa, i te tangata rānei e arohaina ana ka piki ake te pouri o ētahi tāngata. He pono rawa tēnei mō te hunga e pāngia ana e te Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD).
Kei te aha koe?
Whakamahia te tikanga e kīia nei ko te "kimi painga." He rite tēnei ki te kimi i tētahi "ara pai." Hei tauira, kua whakaatuhia e ngā rangahau kāore e tino pouri te tangata ina whakaaro rātou ki ngā āhuatanga pai o ngā rongo kino, pērā i te ngaronga o tētahi mahi, o tētahi whanaungatanga rānei.
Ngā raruraru marena, te whakarere rānei
He uaua te mutunga o tētahi whanaungatanga mō te katoa. He uaua ahakoa ko koe te tangata nāna i whakatau kia mutu, kāore rānei. "Me tumanako ka uaua te haere, ahakoa ko rātou te hunga e whakatau ana kia whakarere," te kī a ngā tākuta.
Kei te aha koe?
He mea tino nui te whakamahere mō tō heke mai, me te whai tumanako mōna. Hei mahi i tēnei, tirohia ngā mea o tō ao e tino makona ai koe. Kaua rawa e wehe atu i ō hoa aroha. He mea tino nui te karo i te noho mokemoke i muri i te wehenga. He āwhina nui hoki te rapu awhina i tētahi kaitohutohu whānau. Ka taea e ia te āwhina i a kōrua kia noho tahi, te āwhina rānei i a kōrua kia kore e mamae te tukanga wehenga.
Ngā raruraru whānau
He pai, he kino hoki ngā wā o ia whānau. Engari kāore koe e hiahia ki te whawhai ki ēnei raruraru ko koe anake.
Kei te aha koe?
Hei mātua, he maha ngā wāhi ka taea e koe te rapu āwhina. He kaiārahi whānau, he rōpū hoa, he hoa me te whānau rānei. He pono tēnei mō ngā tamariki me ngā taiohi. "Ko ngā tamariki kei roto i te hauora hinengaro pai rawa atu ko rātou he hunga whai whatunga pāpori tino kaha ."
Ngāna kia ārai i ngā raruraru whānau i mua i te putanga mai. Kōrero ki āu tamariki i ia wiki. Pātai atu mō te kura, ō rātou hoa, ā rātou mea e pai ana, e kore e pai ana ki a rātou. "Ka taea tēnei te mahi i roto i te whare, pērā i te wā e kai aihikirīmi ana koe, e hikoi ana rānei. Engari ki te mōhio tāu tamaiti kei te hoatu e koe taua wā ki a rātou, he kuaha nui tēnei hei whakatuwhera i a rātou, hei kōrero hoki."
| Ngā mea e whakaoho ana i te pouri | Ngā Mea Ka Taea e Koe te Mahi |
|---|---|
| Te ngaronga o tētahi e arohaina ana | Hoatu he wā ki a koe anō ki te tangi. Mēnā ka roa ake tō pouri i ētahi marama, tirohia tō tākuta. |
| Ngā tamariki e wehe atu ana i te kāinga (Kohanga Kore) | Whakaharatauhia te whakaaroaro aro nui. Whakatūpato, ako rānei i tētahi mea hou. |
| Ngā Huringa o te Huarere (Ngā Pōuri o te Takurua) | He mea tino nui te whakakori tinana. Kōrero ki tō tākuta mō te rongoā mārama, me ētahi atu kōwhiringa rānei. |
| Ngā huringa homoni | Kia mau ki te aroturuki i tō huringa paheketanga me ngā tohumate. Pātai atu ki tō tākuta mō ngā maimoatanga hei āwhina i a koe. |
Te ngaronga o tētahi e arohaina ana
He mea noa te pouri ina ngaro tetahi e tata ana ki a koe. Engari he rerekē ngā mea e rua o te pouri me te pouri. "He ahua whakaari te pouri kaha. Ko tōna tikanga he tangi tonu, he tino pakarukaru, kāore e taea te aro ki tetahi mea. Engari i roto i te pouri, he maha ngā tāngata e rongo ana i te ngoikore o te ngākau ."
Kei te aha koe?
Kia tūpato ki ō tohu. Ki te kore e taea e koe te mahi, kāore e taea te ara ake i te moenga, kua roa rānei e pouri ana, e ai ki ngā tohunga, "kua tae ki te wā ki te rapu awhina ngaio." Tirohia tō tākuta. Ka taea te mahi tohutohu mō te pouri i mua atu, i muri rānei i te matenga. Ka taea e ia te āwhina i a koe ki te tukatuka i ō kare ā-roto nui. Kaua hoki e whakapae i a koe anō mō te kī, "Kāore au i te pouri tika."
He uaua te whakanui i te huritau o te matenga o tētahi. He pai te whakamahere i tētahi mea mō taua rā. He mea ngāwari noa iho pēnei i te "wā whakaaroaro mō te hiranga o taua tangata ki a koe," he mea nui rānei pēnei i te huihui o te whānau me ngā hoa ki te kōrero mō te tangata.
Te ahotea o te tiaki i tētahi mate roa, i tētahi tūroro rānei
I ētahi wā, ko te pouri he tohu o tētahi mate e haere tonu ana. Mēnā kei te mate koe, kei te tiaki rānei koe i tētahi e arohaina ana e te mate, he ngāwari te ngenge o te hinengaro, o te tinana rānei.
Kei te aha koe?
Tērā pea ka tae mai he karere e kī ana kia "noho pai tonu." Engari he mea noa te pouri ina puta ngā mea kino. "Tukua koe kia rongo i taua kare ā-roto."
Engari he mea nui ake, tonoa he āwhina . Kōrerohia tika te mea e hiahiatia ana e koe. He kai pea i ngā rā e rua o te wiki. Me hiahia rānei koe ki tētahi hei noho tahi me tō hoa aroha i a koe e haere ana ki te whare takaro. Kaua e whakaaro he taumaha koe. He maha ngā wā ka hiahia ngā hoa me te whānau ki te āwhina. Ki te kōrerotia tika e koe ki a rātou te mea e hiahiatia ana e koe, ka taea te waiho hei "koha" ki a rātou.
Te pouri e pā ana ki te huarere (SAD)
He tokomaha te hunga e pāngia ana e te pouri hou, e te pouri kino rānei i te huringa o ngā wā. Ko te mate pāwera o te wā tēnei (SAD).
Kei te aha koe?
Kōrero ki tō tākuta. Tērā pea ka tūtohu ia i te whakamahi i te mārama, i te rongoā kōrero, i te rongoā ārai pouri rānei. Ka taea hoki e te korikori tinana, te whakakori tinana rānei, te hanga rerekētanga. "Ko te whakakori tinana te rautaki matua. Ka taea e ia te hanga rerekētanga nui."
Te whakamahi i ngā raau taero me te waipiro
Ko te hunga e pāngia ana e te pouri ka nui ake te tūponotanga ki te tahuri ki ngā tarukino me te waipiro. Waihoki, mā te mate whakamahi matū (SUD) ka kino ake tō pouri me ētahi atu tohu. He "whanaungatanga porowhita" tēnei.
Kei te aha koe?
Puritia he rārangi o tō whakamahinga tarukino. "Ko te hunga e inu nui ana i ngā wā katoa, e pāngia ana rānei e te waranga i mua, me pupuri he rārangi hei tirotiro kei roto i ā rātou ake rohenga inu, ā, kāore e piki haere i roto i te wā."
Mena kei te raru koe ki te whakahaere i tō whakamahinga tarukino, waipiro rānei, rapua he āwhina ngaio. Ka taea e te Kaitohutohu Tarukino me te Waipiro Whaimana (CADC) te āwhina i a koe ki te whakahaere i tō pouri me tō whakamahinga matū.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Tuatahi, tautuhia te mea e whakaoho ana i tō pouri. Kia mārama mēnā he raruraru kei te mahi, he raruraru kei roto i te whanaungatanga, he raruraru rānei.
- Kia kaha tō hinengaro. Mā te whakaaroaro, te moe pai, te whakakori tinana, me te noho tahi me te hunga tautoko ka tino āwhina i tēnei.
- He mea noa te pōuri. Engari kaua e noho pūmau i roto i aua kare ā-roto. Kaua e wehi ki te tono āwhina.
- Ki te mea he uaua ki a koe te whakatau i ēnei mea ko koe anake, kaua e mangere ki te rapu awhina i te tākuta, i te kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro whai tohu rānei . Ko tētahi o ngā mea nui rawa atu tēnei ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake.
- Kia mau ki tētahi mahinga hauora. He mea tino nui te kai pai, te moe nui, me te whakakori tinana auau mō tō hauora hinengaro.
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