Kei te whakaroa koe ki te kōrero ki te tākuta mō tō pouri?

I ētahi wā ka ngenge koe i ngā mea katoa, kāore e hiahia ki te mahi i tetahi mea, ā, ka tino pouri, ka pōuri hoki? Ina pēnei koe, ka rapu rongoā koe mōna? Kāore rānei koe e whakaaro mōna? Ina hoki, ehara ko koe anake te tangata e pāngia ana e tēnei momo ahotea hinengaro, e kīia nei e tātou ko te '(Pouri)', engari kāore e rapu rongoā mōna. Ka tino kino ngā hua o tēnei. Ka taea te mamae whaiaro, te kore e taea te mahi tika i tāu mahi, te whakararuraru i te oranga whānau, te whanaketanga o ētahi atu mate, ā, i ētahi wā tino kino, ka whakaaro pea koe ki te whakamutu i tō oranga.

Nā te aha tātou i mataku ai ki te tono āwhina? He aha tātou i whakaroa ai? I ētahi wā he uaua ki te pātai ki te hunga kāore e haere mai ki te rongoā he aha. Nā te mea kāore rātou e haere mai ki te kite i a tātou. Engari i te mutunga, ina whakatau rātou, ka haere mai ki te kite i te tākuta, ka kōrero mai rātou he aha rātou i mataku ai ki te haere mai i te tuatahi, me te aha hoki i whakaroa ai rātou.

He aha ngā take e aukati ana i a tātou ki te rapu maimoatanga?

Ki te mea kei te pōuri koe, kei te ahotea hoki, ā, kei te ngana koe ki te whakatau i a koe anō, tirohia mēnā e pā ana ētahi o ngā take i raro nei ki a koe. Ki te pērā, whai i ēnei tohutohu hei whakakore i taua whakaaro hē, hei tiki hoki i te āwhina e hiahiatia ana e koe.

Kia titiro tātou ki ngā whakaaro hē matua mō tēnei mea, me ngā whakautu ka taea te hoatu ki a rātou.

He tino morearea te kore e whiwhi maimoatanga?

Ae. He tino kino te tatari kia "ka pai ake i te wā". Ki te kī ngāwari, ka kino haere te pouri mēnā kāore i rongoātia. Ka roa ake tō tatari ki te tīmata i te maimoatanga, ka uaua ake te whakahaere, ā, ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka hoki mai anō i muri i te whakamutua o te maimoatanga.

Ehara i te mea koinā anake, kua tino mōhiotia inaianei ka taea e te ahotea kāore i rongoatia te arahi ki te whanaketanga o ētahi atu mate kino, te kino rānei o ngā mate o nāianei.

• Mate ngakau: He hononga kaha kei waenganui i te ahotea me te mate ngakau.
• Ētahi atu mate: E whakaatu ana hoki ngā rangahau he hononga kei waenganui i ēnei mate me ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te momona, te mate huka, te mate a Alzheimer, me te mate pukupuku.

Nā reira, me aha koe: Kaua e tukua tō pouri kia whakahaere i tō oranga. Kia mahara ki te kōrero ki tō tākuta. Mena kei te raru koe ki te whakaaro mō te whiwhi maimoatanga mō te mate hinengaro, kia mahara ko te whiwhi maimoatanga ka āwhina i a koe ki te karo i ngā mate kino pēnei i te mate ngakau.

Te wehi ki ngā rongoā me ētahi atu huarahi kē atu

"E wehi ana ahau ki te tango rongoā, e wehi ana ahau kei waranga ahau ki tēnā." Koinei tētahi o ngā take nui e wehi ai te tini o te tangata ki te rapu rongoā. Ko ētahi e whakaaro ana, "Kāore au e hiahia ki te tango rongoā mō te toenga o tōku ao."

He pono he tino whai hua ngā rongoā ārai pouri. Heoi, ina kōrero tātou mō te maimoatanga, kāore e kōrero tonu ana mō te rongoā. I ēnei rā, kei reira ētahi atu maimoatanga whai hua me te rongoā anō hoki. Arā, te hinengaro hinengaro.

He aha te mahi whakaora hinengaro?

He kupu ngāwari noa iho tēnei, he rongoā kōrero. Hei tauira, he tikanga rongoā rongonui e kiia nei ko te `(Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy - CBT)`. Kei roto i tēnei ko:

• Te aro nui ki tō wā o nāianei.
• Te tirotiro i ō kare ā-roto, ō whakaaro, me ō tauira whanonga, me te āwhina i a koe kia mārama ki te pānga o ēnei ki tō koiora.
• Mā te mahi pera, ka āwhina i te whakapai ake i te kounga o tō oranga me te whakaiti i te ahotea.

Ka rite te whai huatanga o tēnei tikanga maimoatanga ki te rongoā i te wā poto. I ētahi wā, ka roa ake ngā hua i te rongoā.

Nā reira, me aha koe: Tirohia he tohunga hinengaro (kaitohutohu, tohunga hinengaro) me tō tākuta whānau hoki. Ahakoa me rongoā koe, kāore pea e roa. Kaua e whakawhirinaki ō whakatau ki ngā kōrero a ētahi atu mō te rongoā. He rerekē te urupare a te katoa ki te rongoā.

Me pēhea te whakakore i te whakama me te wehi?

"E whakama ana ahau ki te kōrero mō tēnei"

He tokomaha te hunga kāore e rapu āwhina mō ō rātou raruraru hauora hinengaro nā te mea e whakama ana rātou, e wehi ana rānei kei peia atu rātou. Engari ko te pono, ehara te pouri i te mea hei whakama. He mate hauora noa tēnei e hiahia ana kia rongoatia, pērā i te mate huka, te cholesterol tiketike rānei.

Ā, he mate tino noa tēnei. Nō reira, kua rongo pea tō tākuta i ngā mea i pātaihia e koe ki a ia i ngā rau mano wā i mua. Kāore he mea hou ki a ia e kōrerotia ana e koe.

Nā reira, me aha koe: Kia mahara, ka pāngia te katoa e tēnei āhuatanga i tētahi wā o ō rātou oranga. Kāore tō tākuta e kōrero ki tētahi atu i tāu e kōrero nei. He mea huna tēnei. Ki te whakama tonu koe ki te kōrero ki tō tākuta, whakaarohia te rapu i ētahi atu ratonga hauora hinengaro hei āwhina i a koe.

"E wehi ana ahau ki te kōrero mō ngā mea pouri"

Ka mataku ētahi tāngata ki te rapu rongoā nā te mea e whakaaro ana rātou me keri ake e rātou ngā mea mamae katoa i roto i ō rātou hinengaro. Ka whakaaro rātou, "Āe, kāore e taea e au te whakaara ake i aua mea."

He pono, i ētahi wā me kōrero koe mō aua wheako mamae kia ora ai koe. Engari, e kore rawa te kaiwhakaora hinengaro pai e akiaki i a koe. E mōhio ana ia ki te uaua o te kōrero mō ō kare ā-roto ki te tangata tauhou. Ka āta ārahi ia i a koe i roto i te tukanga. E kore rawa ia e pana i a koe ki tētahi taumata e kore ai koe e pai ki te mahi.

Nā reira, me aha koe: Kimihia he kaiwhakaora hinengaro e pai ai tō kōrero ki a koe. Pātai atu ki a rātou kia rite ki tā rātou e pātai atu nei ki a koe. Pātai atu ki a rātou me pēhea te haere o te maimoatanga. Ahakoa he mamae, kei a koe te whakatau.