He aha te āhua o te ao me ngā māhanga? - He kōrero mō te whaea (Te Oranga me ngā Māhanga)

Kei te tatari koe kia whānau māhanga? Kei te whakaaroaro rānei koe mō tēnā? He manaakitanga takirua ngā māhanga e tae mai ana ki tō kāinga i te wā kotahi. Engari, e kōrero pono ana rānei tātou mō ngā wero me ngā uauatanga e puta mai ana i taua harikoa? I tēnei rā ka kōrero tātou mō te kōrero mō tētahi whaea ko Maureen tōna ingoa, i pāngia e tēnei momo wheako. Mā roto i tana kōrero, ka ngana tātou ki te mārama ki te āhua o te ao me ngā māhanga .

Te kōrero a Maureen: Ngā māhanga i muri i te IVF

Tokorua ngā tamariki a Maureen Downey rāua ko tana tāne, ko Bo Emerson. I whakaaro rāua ki te whānau i tētahi tamaiti tuatoru, engari he maha ngā materoto i pā ki a Maureen. Nō reira, i whakatau rāua ki te whakamahi i tētahi maimoatanga hou mō te whakawhānau tamariki, arā, ko te IVF (In-Vitro Fertilization), kia whānau ai he tamaiti.

E 42 tau te pakeke o Maureen i taua wā. I whakatōngia e ngā tākuta ētahi kukune e rua ki roto i tōna kōpū. Kāore rātou i tino hiahia ki ngā māhanga, engari i whakaaro rātou he pai mēnā ka pēnā rātou. "Mō te tangata kāore anō kia whānau tamariki i mua, he mea mārama kei te hiahia rātou ki ngā māhanga nā te mea koinei pea te whai wāhitanga mō rātou," te kī a Maureen. "Engari ko te tuatoru o ngā tamariki anake tā mātou i hiahia ai. Nō reira, kāore au i whakaaro he māhanga taku e hiahia ana. Engari i tumanako ahau ka pai ngā kukune e rua."

He rerekē te haputanga o ngā māhanga i tērā e tumanakohia ana?

E ai ki a Maureen i pai te haere o tana haputanga , kāore he raruraru nui. Ko te tikanga kāore ia i noho ki te moenga. Heoi, i mua tata atu i ana haputanga e rua o mua, me whakarērea e ia tana mahi. He maha hoki ngā mea hou i pā ki a ia kāore anō kia pā ki a ia i mua.

"I pā mai te mamae o te uma ki ahau, kāore anō kia pā ki ahau i mua. I te wā tuatahi i pā mai ai, i mahara ahau kei te pāngia ahau e te mate manawa. He tino kino. He maha hoki ngā mamae me ngā ngaunga iti i roto i tōku tinana. Ki te pono, he tino hoha, he tino ngenge te marama me te haurua whakamutunga o te hapūtanga. Kāore au i pēnei i te wā e whānau ana aku tamariki tuatahi e rua."

I te nuinga o te wā, ina whānau māhanga koe, ka nui haere te kōpū, ka nui ake te pēhanga ki ngā whekau o te puku. Ka mamae pea te uma, ka uaua te manawa, ka mamae hoki te tinana. Mena kei te pāngia koe e ēnei tohu, he pai ake te kōrero ki tō tākuta mō tēnei.

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I aha i muri i te whānautanga o ngā pēpi?

I te 39 wiki, arā, e tata ana ki te wā katoa o te whānautanga, i whakaritea kia whānau a Maureen me te pokanga.I whānau mai a Rebecca rāua ko Joey mā te pokanga tākihi kua whakaritea. Ahakoa te āhua nei i pai ngā mea katoa, he nui atu ngā raruraru i pā ki a Maureen i tana i whakaaro ai i muri i te whānautanga.

Kāore i pai te mimiti o tōna kōpū, nō reira ka tīmata te toto nui. Ka kiia tēnei mate ko te Postpartum Hemorrhage .

"I muri i te whānautanga o ngā pēpi, he uaua ake ngā mahi i taku i whakaaro ai. Ki taku whakaaro kua ngaro te hautoru o te toto i roto i tōku tinana. I hoki ahau ki te kāinga, he ngoikore rawa, kāore e taea te hikoi, ā, he tino mate toto kore."

He āhuatanga ohorere hauora tēnei momo toto nui. I Sri Lanka, i roto i ēnei āhuatanga, ka whakaurua tonutia te tūroro ki te Wāhanga Maimoatanga Ohotata (ETU) ka tukuna ki a ia te maimoatanga e tika ana.

E ai ki a Maureen i pau te tau katoa i mua i tōna kaha me tōna hauora, ā, mā tēnā ka mārama tātou ki te ngoikore o ia.

Te tau tuatahi: he wā uaua atu i te mea i whakaarohia

E ai ki a Maureen, ehara ia i te tauhou ki te whakatipu tamariki. Nā te mea kua whakatipu ia i ā rāua tamariki tokorua i mua, kua rite katoa ngā mea i mua i tana kawe mai i ngā māhanga ki te kāinga. I rite katoa te rūma o te pēpi, ngā kākahu, me ērā atu mea e tika ana.

"I te pō tuatahi i hoki mai ai mātou i te hōhipera, i mahara mātou kei a mātou ngā mea katoa e hiahiatia ana e mātou. I whakaritea pai ngā kākahu ma i roto i ngā pouaka. Engari i taua pō tuatahi, i tino mākū ngā pēpi, ā, i ruaki maha ngā pēpi, ā, me haehae e mātou ngā tapanga o ngā kākahu hou i roto i ngā pouaka, kātahi ka kakahuria. Kāore mātou i rite mō tēnā."

He ohorere nui tēnei mā Maureen. E mea ana ia, "I tino whakapiki ake ahau i taku paearu mō te uaua o tēnei mahi."

" He rite tonu taua tau tuatahi ki tētahi moemoeā i roto i taku mahara. I tētahi taha, kāore he tangata hei āwhina i ahau. I tētahi atu taha, he ohorere nui ki tōku tinana, kua ngaro te nui o te toto, ā, kua ngoikore hoki. Haunga tēnā, he tino hoha i taua wā, me te whāngai ū i a māua tokorua."

He rite te noho tahi me ngā māhanga ki te 'circus'?

E ai ki a Maureen he pai ki a ia te taiao haruru, kore okiokinga.

"Ki te whakaaro koe he pai ake te whānau mā te tamaiti kotahi anake, he nui te rerekētanga mōu i ngā māhanga. He rite rātou ki tā rātou ake 'sirkus haereere' iti ."

"He tino haruru rātou. He uaua ngā mea katoa. Ina koa i te wā e tamariki ana ngā pēpi, he tino uaua te haere ki te toa, ki te whakanoho i ngā pēpi e rua ki ngā nohoanga motuka, ki te pupuri i a māua tokorua ki roto i te motuka. Kua taunga māua ko taku tāne ki te haruru. Engari ina tae mai tētahi hoa kotahi anake tāna tamaiti ki tōku whare, kua kite ahau i a rātou e pekepeke ana. Ki taku whakaaro nā te mea tokowhā ā māua tamariki i te kāinga. Engari ko te nuinga o te haruru i ahu mai i ngā māhanga."

E whakaatu mai ana te pūrākau a Maureen he manaakitanga, he wero hoki ngā māhanga e whakamātautau ana i te manawanui, te kaha, me te tautoko tino kaha o ngā mātua tetahi i tetahi.