Kua pōuri kē koe, kua mokemoke, kua takoto kau hoki, kāore he take? Kāore koe e hiahia ki te ara ake i te moenga, ā, ka kite koe i a koe anō e hoha ana, e motuhia ana i te katoa? Ehara tēnei i te hoha noa iho, i te pouri noa rānei. I tēnei rā, ka kōrero tātou mō te pouri, te Mate Pouri Nui rānei, he mate hinengaro e puta ai ēnei kare ā-roto engari kāore i te tino māramahia e te tini o te hapori. Ina koa, ka kōrero tātou mō te pānga o tēnei āhuatanga ki ō whanaungatanga ki te hunga e karapoti ana i a koe.
He aha rawa te pouri? He aha i kiia ai he "mate e kore e kitea"?
He māmā noa iho, he mate hauora nui te pouri e pā ana ki te wairua, ngā kare ā-roto, ngā whakaaro, me ngā whanonga o te tangata. Ehara i te ngoikore, ehara hoki i te mea hei whakaaro noa iho.
Whakaarohia he whati te waewae o tētahi. Ka kitea e tātou. Ina whakamahia he rapa, he tokotoko rānei, e mōhio ana te katoa kei roto rātou i te raruraru, ā, me āwhina rātou. Engari ehara te pouri i te mea e kitea ana i waho. Koia mātou ka karanga ai he "mate e kore e kitea." Kāore pea koe e kite i te nui o tō pakanga i roto. Koia koe e whakapae ana i a koe anō, e whakaaro ana, "Āe, he aha te he o ahau? Me wikitoria e au tēnei."
Ko te mea nui kia mārama tuatahi koe me te hunga e arohaina ana e koe he mate tūturu te pouri, he mate ka taea te rongoā, pērā i te mate huka me te mate rumatiki.
He aha te pānga o te pouri ki ngā whanaungatanga?
He uaua te noho tahi me te tangata e pāngia ana e te pouri. Waihoki, ko te pupuri i ngā whanaungatanga ka rite ki te taumaha ki te tangata e pāngia ana e te pouri. He mea tēnei e pā ana ki ngā taha e rua. Kia mārama tātou ki tēnei.
| Ngā kare ā-roto/ngā whanonga o te tangata e pāngia ana e te pouri | Ngā kare ā-roto o te hunga e arohaina ana (wahine/tāne/whānau) mō tēnei mea |
|---|---|
| Te ngana ki te wehe i a koe anō: te karo i ngā huihuinga pāpori, ngā huihuinga whānau. Te noho i roto i tō rūma. | Ngā whakaaro pēnei i te "Kua hoha ia ki ahau?", "Kua riri ia nā tetahi mea i mahia e au?", "Kua kore ia e aroha ki ahau?" |
| Te riri ohorere, te pukuriri rānei: Te riri, te pōuri rānei mō ngā mea iti noa. | Te whara i a koe anō mā te whakaaro, "He aha ia i whawhai tonu ai ki ahau?", "Ahakoa tāna e kī, he hē." |
| Te ngaronga o te hiahia ki tetahi mea: Te ngaronga o te hiahia ki ngā mea i mahia tahitia e kōrua (te haere ki te kiriata, te haereere), te ngaronga o te hiahia ki te oranga ā-ira tangata. | Te āhua kua ngaro te "ora" i roto i te whanaungatanga. Te āhua nei kua whakakahoretia koe. |
| Ngenge: Te ngenge tonu . Te hiamoe tonu. | Ngā māramatanga hē pēnei i te "he mangere rawa ia", "kāore ia e āwhina ki ngā mahi o te whare". |
| Te whakapae i a koe anō: ngā whakaaro pēnei i te "He taumaha ahau ki te katoa", "Ehara ahau i te tangata pai". | Te pōuri me te pouri ina ngana tetahi ki te āwhina engari ka whakakahoretia. |
E mārama ana koe ki te uaua o tēnei mea? Kāore he tangata hei whakapae mō tēnei. E mamae ana rāua tokorua. Ko te tangata e pāngia ana e te pouri e te mate, ko te tangata kē e mamae ana i te whanonga.
He aha te koretake o te kupu tohutohu "whakakorea atu i roto i tō hinengaro"?
Koinei te tohutohu tino noa, ā, tino kino hoki, ka rangona e te tangata e pāngia ana e te pouri. Kāore tetahi o tātou e kī atu ki te tangata e pāngia ana e te mate huka kia "whakahaerehia tō huka kia nui te reo." Nā te mea e mōhio ana tātou he raruraru tēnei ki te mahi a te insulin o te tinana.
Waihoki, he mate tūturu te pouri e pā ana ki te kore taurite o ngā matū (ngā neurotransmitters) i roto i te roro. Kāore e ranea te "koa" anake. Me whai maimoatanga hauora tika. Mā te akiaki i tō hoa aroha ki te "whakatau i tā rātou whakaaro" me te "whakaaro pai" ka nui ake te whakapae i a rātou anō, ka nui ake hoki te noho mokemoke.
Nā, me aha tātou? Me hanga he piriti hei tiaki i ēnei whanaungatanga.
Ko te rongo pai, he āhuatanga te pouri ka taea te whakahaere pai mā te rongoā , ā, ka taea te hanga anō i ngā whanaungatanga pakaru mā te māramatanga me te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tika.
Mena kei te pāngia koe e te pouri:
1. Whakaae:Tuatahi, whakaae he mate hauora tōu. Ehara i te he nāu. Ehara i te ngoikore.
2. Kōrerohia: Kōrerohia ō kare ā-roto ki ō whanaunga. He uaua. Ahakoa te kī i tētahi mea ngāwari pēnei i te "Kei te pōrangi ahau i tēnei rā" me te "Kei te tino pouri ahau i tēnei rā" he mea nui pea. He nui ake te uara o tēnā i tō wahangu.
3. Rapua he āwhina ngaio: Koinei te taahiraa tino nui. Tirohia tō tākuta . Mena e tika ana, me tuku atu ki tētahi tohunga hinengaro, ki tētahi tohunga hinengaro/kaitohutohu rānei. Mā te rongoā me te kōrerorero whakaora koe e āwhina ki te puta i tēnei āhuatanga.
4. Kia manawanui: Kāore koe e kite tonu i ngā hua ina tīmata koe i te maimoatanga. Ka roa pea te wā. Kia manawanui ki a koe anō.
Mena he whanaunga koe nō tētahi e pāngia ana e te pouri:
1. Kia tūpato: Pānuihia ngā kōrero mō te pouri, kia tūpato. Kia mārama he mate tēnei. Kātahi ka mutu tō aro ki ngā whanonga a tō hoa.
2. Whakarongo: Kaua e tuku tohutohu, kaua hoki e rapu huarahi. Tuatahi, whakarongo ki tāna e kōrero ana, kaua e whakahē. Ko te mea pai anake ko te hoatu i te whakaaro "Kei a koe ahau."
3. Āwhina i ngā huarahi iti: Engari i te kī i tētahi mea whānui pēnei i te "mēnā he mea e hiahiatia ana e koe, me kī mai ki ahau mēnā he mea e hiahiatia ana e koe," me tono āwhina motuhake pēnei i te "Kei te haere ahau ki te toa, me tiki atu e au tētahi mea māu?" "Kei te hiahia kōrua ki te inu tī tahi?"
4. Whakatenatenahia ia kia rapu awhina hauora: Kaua e kī atu i ngā mea pēnei i te "He porangi koe," engari whakatenatenahia ia kia mahi i tēnei i runga i te aroha, pēnei i te "Me kōrero tāua ki te tākuta mō tēnei? Ka haere tahi tāua."
5. Whakaarohia koe anō: Ka taea e te tautoko i tētahi e pāngia ana e te pouri te whakangāwari i te hinengaro. Tiakina hoki tō hauora hinengaro. Me hiahia hoki koe ki tētahi hei kōrero māu, me te wā okiokinga hoki.
He pai rawa ngā whanaungatanga pakari hei ārai i te pouri. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te haere ko koe anake i tēnei haerenga. Mā te mārama, te manawanui, te aroha, me te tiaki hauora tika, ka taea e kōrua te wikitoria i tēnei "pakanga ngaro."
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Ehara te Mate Pouri Nui i te ngoikore, he mate tūturu e hiahia ana kia rongoatia e pā ana ki te matū o te roro.
- Ka taea e tēnei "mate ngaro" te whakakino nui i ō whanaungatanga ki tō hoa rangatira, ki tō whānau, me ō hoa.
- Kaua e tuku tohutohu pēnei i te, "Whakaarohia, kātahi ka wareware." Engari, whakarongo mai, kaua e whakahe.
- He mea nui te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera me te mārama tetahi ki tetahi hei hanga anō i ngā whanaungatanga.
- Mena kei te pāngia koe, tō whanaunga rānei, e ngā tohu o te pouri, he mea nui kia rapu tohutohu hauora tonu koe i te tākuta .
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