I ētahi wā, ka whakaaro koe me noho mokemoke koe, me te matara atu i te katoa? He wā anō kāore koe e hiahia ki te kōrero ki tētahi, kāore koe e hiahia ki te tūtaki ki tētahi, ā, he riri noa iho rānei koe? He tohu pea ēnei mea kua uru mai te pouri ki roto i tō koiora. Ehara i te mea ko koe anake te mea e pā ana ki tēnei, engari ki te hunga hoki e aroha ana ki a koe. He rite ki te wā e whiua ana e koe he kōhatu ki roto i te wai, ka horapa haere ngā ngaru e puta mai ana i tēnei mea.
He aha te pānga o te pouri ki ō whanaungatanga?
He maha ngā wā ka noho mokemoke, ka wehea te tangata e te pouri i te hapori. Ko ngā mea i pai ai koe ki mua, ko ngā haerenga me ō hoa, me ngā wā harikoa i noho tahi ai koe me te whānau ka tīmata te memeha haere. Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe kāore he tangata e mārama ana ki a koe. Waihoki, ko te riri mō ngā mea iti me te noho pōuri tonu he wāhanga o tēnei āhuatanga.
Kaua e whakaaro mai i tō tirohanga, engari mai i te tirohanga a ō hoa aroha. Kei te mātakitaki tō hoa rangatira, ō mātua, ō tamariki, me ō hoa pai i tēnei huringa. Tērā pea ka pouri rātou nā te mea kāore koe i te harikoa ki a rātou. Tērā pea ka whakaaro rātou kei te pouri koe nā te mea i hē tā rātou mahi. Tērā pea ka mamae hoki rātou ina ngana rātou ki te āwhina i a koe, ā, ka whakakahore koe.
Ko te mea nui, ka taea e ēnei raruraru whanaungatanga te whakakino ake i tō pouri . He rite ki tētahi porowhita kino. Ka kino haere ngā whanaungatanga, nō reira ka kino haere te pouri. I te kino haere o te pouri, ka kino haere ngā whanaungatanga.
Engari he rongo pai tēnei. Ko te tautoko e riro mai ana i a koe mai i tō whānau me ō hoa i tēnei haerenga koia tō kaha nui rawa atu . Mā te whakamahi tika i taua kaha, ka taea e koe te puta atu i tēnei āhuatanga.
Ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi hei pupuri i ngā whanaungatanga
He haerenga uaua tēnei, engari mā ngā takahanga iti, ka taea e koe te hanga anō i ēnei whanaungatanga.
1. Ngāna kia whakakorea te mokemoke
Ina pā mai te pouri, ka hiahia tātou katoa ki te haere ki tō tātou rūma, ki te kati i te tatau, ki te noho mokemoke. Engari koinei te mea whakamutunga e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi. He mea tino nui te tautoko a ō whanaunga i tēnei wā.
- Tīmatahia i te iti: Kaua e mahi i ngā mea nunui i te wā kotahi. Tangohia te waea ka waea atu ki tō hoa pai. Tukua atu rānei he karere.
- He wā poto: Ki te taea, pātai atu, "Me haere tāua ki waho ki te inu tī?" Me haere tahi rānei mō tētahi hikoi poto.
- Kōrerohia ō whakaaro: He huarahi pai te kōrero mō ō kare ā-roto hei āwhina i a koe anō. Engari kāore koe e hiahia ki te kōrero, he mea pai anō hoki te mātakitaki pouaka whakaata tahi, te noho puku rānei me tētahi atu.
2. Kōrero māhorahora ki ō whanaunga.
Kaua e tumanako ka whakaaro rātou ki ngā mea kei roto i tō hinengaro.
- Kōrerotia ō whakaaro me ō kare ā-roto ki a rātou.
- Ka taea e koe te kī atu, "Ko taku hiahia kia whakarongo mai koe ki tēnei inaianei tonu, kāore au e hiahia ki te hoatu otinga ki a koe." Ko reira rātou ka mōhio ai me pēhea te āwhina i a koe.
- Me whakamārama atu ki a rātou kei te aroha tonu koe ki a rātou, engari he uaua ki te whakaatu i tēnei wā tonu.
- Pātai atu hoki ki a rātou mō ō rātou kare ā-roto. He whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tēnei e rua ngā taha.
- Mena he tino uaua te kōrero, he tino āwhina te rapu i te rongoā whānau, i te rongoā whanaungatanga rānei.
3. Kaua e wehi ki te tono āwhina.
Tērā pea ka puta ake te whakaaro "He taumaha ahau ki te katoa". Ehara i a koe, engari ko te pouri i roto i tōu mahunga e kōrero ana. E hiahia ana tō whānau me ō hoa ki te āwhina i a koe. Engari kāore rātou e mōhio me aha.
- Tonoa he āwhina mahi: Kāore te āwhina e tohu ana i te tautoko kare ā-roto. He āwhina mahi iti pēnei i te "Ka taea e koe te haere ki te toa ki te kawe mai i ētahi kai māku?" "Ka taea e koe te tiaki i ngā tamariki mō tētahi wā?"
| Ngā mea hei aro nui atu | Ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi |
|---|---|
| āu tamariki | Tērā pea ka mataku, ka pōuri hoki āu tamariki nā tō huringa. Whakamāramahia te āhuatanga i roto i te reo māmā e mārama ai rātou. Me kī atu pēnei, 'Kei te paku pāngia a Māmā/Pāpā e te mate, koia ia kāore e haere mai ki te tākaro pēnei i ngā wā katoa. Engari kei te tango rongoā ia i te tākuta , ā, ka tere tonu tōna ora.' |
| Ngā raruraru moepuku | He mea tino noa te hekenga o te hiahia moepuku, te ngoikore rānei o te mahi nā te pouri me ētahi maimoatanga. Kāore he mea hei whakama. Kōrerohia tēnei ki tō hoa rangatira mō tēnei. Mā te kore aro ki te raruraru ka kino ake. Kia mahara ki te kōrero ki tō tākuta mō tēnei. Tērā pea ka taea e ia te hoatu he rongoā rerekē ki a koe, te hoatu rānei i ngā huarahi hei whakaiti i tēnei pānga taha. |
| Tari | Kāore koe i te herenga ture ki te kōrero ki tō rangatira mō tēnei. Engari, ki te pouri te hunga mahi mō ō whanonga, mā te kōrero i te pono ka pai ake tō rātou wairua. Tērā pea ka whiwhi koe i te tautoko mai i te tari. He āwhina nui tēnā māu. |
4. Hono atu ki tētahi Rōpū Tautoko
I ētahi wā, mā te kōrero ki te hunga e pāngia ana e tēnei mate, nui atu i tō whānau, ka taea e koe te whakakaha i a koe. Ka puta te whakaaro "Ehara i te mea ko au anake te tangata e pāngia ana e tēnei."
- Ka taea e koe te pātai ki tō tākuta , ki tō kaitohutohu rānei mō ngā rōpū tautoko i tō rohe. Tērā pea he rōpū ipurangi anō hoki.
I runga i ēnei mea katoa, he mea nui kia whiwhi koe i te maimoatanga hauora tika. Whāia ngā tohutohu a tō tākuta. Tangohia tō rongoā kia rite ki te whakahaunga. Kātahi ka māmā ake tēnei haerenga māu.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Ehara te pouri i te ngoikore, he mate e taea te rongoā.
- He mea tino nui kia wikitoria i te mokemoke, kia kōrero tuwhera ki te hunga e arohaina ana kia mau tonu ai ō whanaungatanga.
- Kaua e whakaaro he taumaha te tono āwhina. Kei te hiahia tō whānau me ō hoa ki te āwhina i a koe.
- Kia tino kōrero koe ki tō hoa rangatira me tō tākuta mō ngā take tairongo, pērā i ngā take moepuku.
- Kāore koe e hiahia ki te haere ko koe anake i tēnei haerenga. Mā te tiaki hauora tika, mā te tautoko a ō whanaunga koe e āwhina kia tere ai tō ora.
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