E mōhio ana koe me pēhea te whakapuaki tika i ō whakaaro, me te whakaute? Me kōrero tātou mō te Manaaki!

I tēnei rā ka kōrero tātou mō tētahi mea tino nui o ō tātou oranga. He mea tēnei hei āwhina i a koe ki ō hoa, ki tō whānau, ki tō wāhi mahi, ki tō wāhi ako, i ngā wāhi katoa. Koia te Whakapūmau . Kua rongo pea koe i tēnei kupu. Ki te kī ngāwari, ka kiia tēnei ko te "Whakapūmau" te kaha ki te kōrero i ō whakaaro, i ō hiahia, me ō whakaaro i roto i te huarahi mārama, pono, whakaute hoki , me te kore e whara i a koe anō, i ētahi atu rānei.

He aha rawa te tikanga o te "Manaakitanga"?

Whakaarohia, ko te '(Te Whakahīhī)' he huarahi kōrero hauora noa iho. Ko te kaha ki te whakapuaki pono i ō whakaaro mōu ake, me te whakaute hoki ki ētahi atu. He maha ngā āhuatanga e pā ana ki a tātou i ia rā. Ahakoa he whakaatu i te hiahia ki tētahi, he pātai ki tētahi kaiako, he kōrero pai rānei i roto i tētahi uiui mahi, i tētahi uiuinga whare wānanga rānei, he mea tino nui te '(Te Whakahīhī)'.

Heoi, ehara tēnei '(Te Whakahīhī)' i te mea e puta noa mai ana ki te katoa. Tērā ētahi tāngata, he māia rawa tā rātou kōrero (He Tino Pāhekoheko) . Arā, kāore rātou e kōrero i ngā mea kei roto i ō rātou hinengaro, ā, ka pōkaikaha ō rātou mahunga ki ngā kōrero a ētahi atu. Tērā ētahi atu, he tino pukuriri tā rātou momo (He Tino Kaha) . Arā, kāore rātou e whakaaro ki ētahi atu, ā, ko ā rātou ake mea anake tā rātou e kōrero ana, e hamama ana. Nō reira, ko tēnei '(Te Whakahīhī)' te wāhi waenga i waenganui i aua pito e rua.

Anei ētahi mea hei ārahi i a koe ki te "whakaari pakari":

• Ka taea e koe te kōrero i ō whakaaro, te whakapuaki rānei i ō kare ā-roto.
• Ka taea e koe te tono mō tāu e hiahia ana, tāu e matea ana.
• Ka taea e koe te whakahē i ngā whakaaro o ētahi atu me te whakaute .
• Ka taea e koe te tuku mai i ō whakaaro me ō whakaaro.
• Ka taea e koe te kī "kāo" me te kore e whakama.
• Ka taea e koe te kōrero mō tētahi atu.

He aha te hiranga o tēnei ki a tātou?

Mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero māia ka āwhina i a tātou ki te whakatutuki i tā tātou e hiahia ana. Engari kāore e mutu i reira. Ko te tikanga o te māia ko te whakaute i a tātou anō me ētahi atu.

Ka tukuna e ngā kaikōrero māia te karere e whakapono ana rātou ki a rātou anō. Kāore rātou e mataku rawa, e akiaki rawa rānei i ētahi atu. E mōhio ana rātou he mea nui ō rātou kare ā-roto me ō rātou whakaaro. He māia rātou.

He ngāwari ki te hunga māia te kimi hoa. Ka whakawhitiwhiti kōrero rātou me te whakaute i ō rātou ake hiahia me ngā hiahia o ētahi atu. He pai hoki rātou ki te whakatau i ngā tautohe me ngā whakahē. Ko te hunga e whakaute ana i ētahi atu ka whakautehia hoki.

He māia rawa? He tino pākiki rawa? He tika noa iho rānei?

Me pēhea koe e mōhio ai kei hea koe i runga i tēnei tauine "Manaakitanga"? Anei ētahi tauira:

A Nimali (Tino Pōturi): Ki te pātai koe ki a Nimali he aha te kiriata e hiahia ana ia ki te mātaki, tera pea ka mea ia, "Kāore au i te mōhio... he aha tāu e hiahia ana ki te mātaki?" He maha tonu tana tuku i ētahi atu ki te whakatau, engari ka pouri ia nā te mea kāore i riro i a ia tana i hiahia ai. E pouri ana hoki ia nā te mea ko ōna hoa anake kei te kōrero. Ahakoa ka ngana a Nimali ki te whakauru atu ki te kōrero, ka puhoi rawa tana kōrero, ā, ka kōrero pōhēhē ētahi atu mōna.

Surekha (Tino Kaha): Kāore he raruraru o Surekha ki te whakapuaki i ōna whakaaro. Engari ina pērā ia, ka kitea ia he tangata nui, he tangata whai whakaaro nui. Ko Surekha te rangatira o te kōrero, he maha ana wā ka whakakore i ngā kōrero a ētahi atu, ā, he onge tana whakarongo ki ngā kōrero a ētahi atu. Ki te kore ia e whakaae ki a koe, ka whakamōhio atu ia ki a koe – engari he maha ngā wā mā te whakatoi, mā te whara rānei i ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi. He ingoa rongonui ia mō te tino rangatira , me te kore e whakaaro ki ētahi atu.

Chamalge (Manaaki): Ki te pātai koe ki a Chamal mō ōna whakaaro, ka pono tana kōrero ki a koe. Ki te kore ia e whakaae ki a koe, ka kōrero ia ki a koe – engari kaua e whakaiti i a koe, e mea rānei koe he hē koe. E hiahia ana hoki a Chamal ki ō whakaaro. Ka whakarongo ia ki ō kōrero. Ahakoa kāore a Chamal e whakaae ki a koe, e whakaaro tonu ana koe e whakaute ana ia i ō whakaaro.

He aha ngā mea ka puta mai ina puritia e tātou ō tātou whakaaro ki a tātou anō (he tino noho puku)...

Ko te hunga mangere rawa, ka whakaaro pea rātou kei te whakamahia rātou e ētahi atu. Tērā pea ka mamae, ka riri, ka pōuri rānei rātou.

Ki te huna tonu koe i ō whakaaro me ō kare ā-roto, e kore e taea e ētahi atu te mōhio me te mārama ki a koe. Kāore he painga o ō whakaaro me ō whakaaro ki te tīma.

Ki te tīmata koe ki te whakaaro kāore ō whakaaro, ō kare ā-roto rānei e whai mana ana, ka whakaitihia pea tō whakapono ki a koe anō . Ka whakaitihia hoki pea te tūponotanga ka whakaaetia, ka whakautua hoki ō whakaaro pai. I ētahi wā ka arahi pea tēnei ki tētahi āhua pēnei i te pouri .

Kia maumahara: he mea nui anō hoki tō reo. Kaua e whakamōmona!

He aha te mea ka tupu mēnā ka kaha rawa tō riri ki ngā mea katoa?

Ko te hunga e ahua pukuriri rawa ana, ka uaua ki te pupuri hoa. Tērā pea ka raru pea ētahi atu i roto i ā rātou kōrero, ā, ka whakapuaki i ō rātou whakaaro i roto i te huarahi tino kaha, tino kaha hoki. Ka taea e tēnei te mea ka whakaaro ētahi atu kāore rātou i te arohia, kāore hoki i te whakautehia.

Tērā pea ka taea e te hunga whai momo pukuriri te akiaki i ētahi atu kia mahi i tā rātou e hiahia ai, engari he maha ngā wā ka kitea rātou e whakakahoretia ana, e kore rānei e paingia e ētahi atu. Kāore rātou i te pērāKei te ngaro haere te whakaute.

He aha te kore ai e "whakaaro nui" te katoa?

He aha ētahi tāngata e kōrero "whakapūmau" ana, ko ētahi he tino mangere, he pukuriri rānei? Ko tētahi take mō tēnei ko ō rātou āhua . Ko tētahi atu take ko ngā tikanga e hangaia ana e tātou me ngā wheako kua pā mai ki a tātou. Heoi, ka ako tātou kia "whakapūmau", kia "korekore", kia "pupuri" rānei mā te mātakitaki i te whanonga a ētahi atu – inā koa ko te hunga e whakatipu ana i a tātou.

Anei ētahi mea ka meinga ai te tangata kia tino mangere rawa :

• Te kore whakapono ki a ia anō, ki te uara rānei o ōna ake whakaaro.
• Te whakaaro nui rawa ki te hiahia kia paingia koe e ētahi atu, me te hiahia kia paingia koe e ētahi atu.
• Te āwangawanga mō te whakaae mai o ētahi ki ō whakaaro, te whakahē rānei i a koe.
• Te tino aro ki ngā whakahe, te pāngia rānei e te whakahē i mua i te wā kāore ōna whakaaro i whai whakaarohia.
• Ko te tikanga o te "māia" ko te kore whakawhanake i ngā pūkenga e tika ana.

Koinei ngā āhuatanga ka taea ai e te tangata te whanonga tino pukuriri :

• Te whakawhirinaki nui rawa atu .
• Te whakaaro nui rawa ki te whakatutuki i ōna ake hiahia, me te whakapuaki noa i ōna ake whakaaro.
• Kāore i te ako ki te whakaute me te whai whakaaro ki ngā whakaaro, ki ngā matea rānei o ētahi atu.
• Kāore rātou i ako ki te whakarongo ki ētahi atu, me te pātai i ō rātou whakaaro.

Koinei ngā mea e ārahi ana i te tangata ki te whanonga tika (`Manaaki`) :

• Te whai whakaaro pai ki a koe anō .
• Ki te whakapono he mea nui ngā whakaaro o te tangata, he mea nui ngā kare ā-roto o te tangata, ā, kei a ia te tika ki te whakapuaki i aua kare ā-roto.
• Te manawanui (arā, te kaha ki te aro atu ki ngā whakahē, ki te whakakorenga, me ngā arai).
• Te whakaute i ngā hiahia me ngā matea o ētahi atu.
• Te whai tauira pai mō te `(Te māia)`.
• E mōhio ana koe i whakaaetia ō whakaaro, ā, i maiohatia hoki tōu ngākau māia i mua.

Me pēhea tātou e kaha ake ai te "māia"?

Ko te whai māia ko te whakaharatau i ētahi pūkenga kōrero me te whai i te waiaro tika. Kua whānau mai ētahi tāngata me te kaha ki te māia. Me whai wā anō ētahi atu. Engari, ka taea e te katoa te whakawhanake i tēnei.

Anei te huarahi:

Tuatahi, whakaarohia ko tēhea o ēnei momo whakawhitiwhiti kōrero e toru (`(Whakahīhī)`, `(Kāore)`, `(Pāngare)` rānei) e tino mōhio ana koe. Kātahi ka whakatau mēnā me iti ake tō whakama, me iti ake tō riri, me nui ake rānei tō whakahīhī i tō āhua tūturu.

Hei whakaiti i te ngākau mārire, hei whakanui ake hoki i te kaha o te whakaaro nui, me mahi ēnei e whai ake nei:

• Kia tūpato ki ō whakaaro, ki ō kare ā-roto, ki ō hiahia, ki ō pai. Me mōhio koe ki ēnei mea i mua i te kōrero ki ētahi atu.
• Ki te pātai mai tetahi ki a koe he aha tāu e hiahia ana, tirohia mēnā ka mea koe, "Kāore au i te mōhio," "Kāore au e aro," "Kāore he raruraru." Kati te kōrero pēnā. Whakamātauria te kōrero i tāu e hiahia ana, inā koa mō ngā mea iti. Hei tauira, ki te pātai mai tetahi, "Kei te hiahia koe ki te mea kakariki, ki te mea whero rānei?" ka taea e koe te kī atu, "He pai ki ahau te mea kakariki – ngā mihi."
• Whakaharatauhia te tono mea. Hei tauira: "Me tono pūnu ahau, tēnā?" "Me hiahia ahau ki tētahi pene - kei a tetahi tētahi atu?" "Me tono nohoanga ahau?" Mā tēnei ka hanga i ngā pūkenga me te māia e hiahiatia ana e koe ki te tono mō ngā mea nui ake ina hiahiatia.
• Kōrero mai ō whakaaro . Kōrero mai mēnā i pai, i kino rānei koe ki tētahi kiriata i mātakihia e koe, me te take.
• Whakaharatauhia te whakamahi i ngā kōrero "ahau" pēnei i te "E hiahia ana ahau..." "E hiahia ana ahau..." "Kei te pēhea ahau..." rānei .
• Kimihia he tauira pai, he tangata māia – arā, kāore e tino whakama, kāore hoki e tino pukuriri. Tirohia mēnā ka taea e koe te whai i ngā āhuatanga pai o taua tangata.
• Kia maumahara koe he rite tonu te hiranga o ō whakaaro me ō whakaaro ki ō te katoa. Mā te mōhio ki tēnei ka āwhina i a koe kia "Manaaki." Ka tīmata te manaaki me te waiaro o roto e whakanui ana i ētahi atu, e whakanui ana hoki i a koe anō.

Hei whakaiti i te kaha o te riri, hei whakanui ake hoki i te kaha o te riri, me mahi e koe ēnei:

• Tukua ētahi atu kia kōrero i te tuatahi.
• Kia tūpato ki te hunga e whakararuraru ana i a koe e kōrero ana. Mēnā ka tupu tēnā, hopukia, ka mea atu, "Āe, aroha mai - nāu i kī!", ā, tukua te tangata kē kia whakaoti i tana kōrero.
• Pātai atu ki tētahi atu kia homai he whakaaro, ka whakarongo ki tā rātou whakautu.
• Ki te kore koe e whakaae, ngana ki te whakapuaki i tō whakaaro me te kore e whakaiti i te tangata kē. Hei tauira, kaua e kī, "He whakaaro kuware tēnā," ngana ki te kī, "Kāore au i te tino pai ki tēnā whakaaro." Engari, kaua e kī, "He tangata kino ia," ngana ki te kī, "Ki taku whakaaro kāore ia e aro ki ētahi atu tāngata."
• Kimihia he tauira pai, he tangata māia – arā, kāore e tino whakama, kāore hoki e tino pukuriri. Tirohia mēnā ka taea e koe te whai i ngā āhuatanga pai o taua tangata.

Ka taea e te hunga whai māia ā-tūroa te whakawhanake ake i ō rātou pūkenga:

• Te "Manaaki" – arā, kaua e tino whakama, kaua e tino whanoke –Kimihia ngā tauira pai. Tirohia mēnā ka taea e koe te whai i ō rātou āhuatanga pai rawa atu. (Tērā pea ka kitea e koe koinei tonu te tohutohu e hoatu ana e mātou hei āwhina i ngā momo whakama, pukuriri rānei. Nā te mea kāore mātou e mutu te ako!)
• Whakaarohia te wā e tino kaha ana koe ki te whakahihi . He rerekē ngā whanonga a te tangata i ngā āhuatanga rerekē. Mō te tini o te tangata, he ngāwari te whakahihi i ētahi āhuatanga (pērā i te taha o ngā hoa), engari he wero i ētahi atu (pērā i te taha o ngā kaiako , i ngā tāngata hou rānei). I ngā āhuatanga uaua, ngana ki te pātai ki a koe anō, "He aha taku e kī ai mēnā kei te taha ahau o aku hoa pai?"

Ina kōrero māia koe, e whakaatu ana tēnei kei te whakapono koe ki a koe anō. Ko te whakawhanake i te māia he taahiraa kotahi ki te noho hei tangata e hiahia ana koe, hei putanga pai rawa atu o koe!

Ko te mea tino nui me kawe e koe ki te kāinga (Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga)

Āe, kua mārama kē koe ki tā tātou i kōrero ai, arā, "(Te Māia)". Kia maumahara, ehara tēnei i te mea ka taea te whakarerekē i roto i te pō kotahi. Engari mā te mahi, ka tino kite koe i te rerekētanga.

• He mea tino nui ō kare ā-roto, ō whakaaro, me ō hiahia. Kaua e huna.
• Kaua e noho puku, kaua e riri. Kua kōrerohia e tātou ngā āhuatanga me ngā ngoikoretanga o ngā mea e rua.
• Ko te tikanga o te māia ko te whakapuaki pono i ō whakaaro, te whakaute i ētahi atu me te whakaute i a koe anō.
• Tīmata ki ngā mea iti. Whakaharatauhia te kī i tētahi mea māmā pēnei i te, "He pai ake ki ahau taua tae i tēnei tae."
• Whakarongo pai ki ngā kōrero a ētahi atu. Ehara i te mea ko te kōrero noa i tāu ake mea te mea nui ki te māia.
• Ahakoa he hē tāu, he mea rānei me kī kāo, kaua e whakama.

Ngāna ki te whakauru i ēnei tohutohu iti ki roto i tō oranga o ia rā. Ka kite koe i te pai ake o ō whanaungatanga, me te māmā ake o tō wairua. Ka toa koe!

Whakawhitiwhiti Kōrero, Hauora Hinengaro , Manaakitanga, Whakawhirinaki ki a Ia Anō, Hononga Tangata, Whakahaere Kare ā- roto, Oranga Hauora