Kei te whakaaro koe kua paku rerekē te tangata e arohaina ana e koe, arā, tō hoa rangatira? Kāore ia e menemene ana pērā i mua? He āhua hoha, he āhua koretake rānei ngā mea katoa? Mā te kitenga i tētahi mea pēnei ka nui te raruraru me te pouri i a koe. Tērā pea kei te pāngia ia e te mate hinengaro e kiia nei ko te pouri. He wheako tino uaua tēnei māu me ia anō hoki. Nō reira, kia titiro tātou me pēhea tātou e mārama ai ki tēnei, kia māmā ake ai tēnei haerenga mā kōrua.
He aha ngā tohu noa o te pouri?
Ehara te pouri i te mea he pouri noa iho, he mate hohonu ake, he mate kino ake. Tērā pea ka āhua pouri, ka hoha hoki tō hoa rangatira i waho. I ētahi wā, ka āhua pai noa iho rātou i waho, kāore he huringa. Nō reira, kia tūpato ki ēnei tohu.
| Āhuatanga | Hei whakamārama noa iho... |
|---|---|
| Te ngaronga o te hiahia ki tetahi mea | Ko ngā mea i pārekareka ki ahau i mua, pērā i ngā mahi whakangahau, te noho tahi me koe, inaianei kua kore he hiahia, he hiahia rānei. |
| Te pouri, te hara rānei i ngā wā katoa | Te pōuri tonu, kāore he take. Te whakaaro nō rātou te he o ngā mea katoa. |
| Ngā raruraru moe | Kāore e taea e koe te moe i te pō (te kore moe), kei te hiamoe rānei koe i te rā katoa, kei te moe nui atu i te mea e tika ana. |
| Ngā huringa tinana | He maha ngā wā ka pā mai te āwangawanga e kore ai e taea te noho ki te wāhi kotahi, te ritenga kē rānei, arā, te kōrero, te whakaaro, tae noa ki te hikoi. |
| Ngā whakaaro mō te ora | (He mea tino nui tēnei) Ina kino haere te āhuatanga, ka ara ake pea ngā whakaaro ki te whakamomori me te whara i a koe anō. Ka taea e koe te kī pēnei i te, "Aue, me i kore ahau i whānau mai." |
Whakatūpato: Ki te kōrero tō hoa mō te whara i a ia anō, ki te tuku tohutohu rānei, kaua e whakahawea . Kawea tonutia ia ki te Tari Whawhati Tata (ETU) o te hōhipera tata, ki te rapu tohutohu hauora rānei.
Ngā mea hei mōhio māu ina whakaipoipo ana koe i tētahi e pāngia ana e te pouri
He uaua te noho tahi me te tangata e pāngia ana e te pouri i ētahi wā, engari ki te mārama tika koe, ka taea e koe te wikitoria.
Kāore pea koe i te mōhio kei te pouri ia.
Ehara i te mea ko te takoto noa i te moenga me te tangi tonu te mea e whakaaturia ana i runga i te pouaka whakaata me ngā kiriata. Ko ētahi tāngata e menemene ana, e whakaatu ana i te harikoa i waho, engari i roto kei te tino pouri. Ka kiia hoki tēnei ko te 'menemene pouri'. Ka haere ēnei tāngata ki te mahi, ka kōrero ki ngā hoa, engari ka mahi i ēnei mea katoa me te huna i ō rātou kare ā-roto pono.
Whakaarohia, ki te ngana tō hoa ki te noho ko ia anake i te nuinga o te wā, ehara i te mea nā te mea kua hoha ia ki a koe, engari nā te mea kei te raru ko ia anake me ngā mea kei roto i tōna hinengaro.
Tērā pea ka pāngia koe e te whakahē.
Ka taea e te pouri te whakaiti i tōna kaha me tōna hiahia ki tetahi mea. Tērā pea ka ngaro tōna hiahia ki te haere tahi me koe, ki te kōrero ki a koe, ki te moe tāne rānei. Ehara tēnei i te he nāu. Engari i tēnei wā, tērā pea ka tino mamae koe, ka tino mokemoke hoki.
E rua ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi i tētahi wā pēnei.
1. Kaua e 'whakatikatika' i tō hoa.
He āhuatanga uaua te pouri. Kāore e taea e koe te 'whakatika' i tēnei āhuatanga māu ake. Engari i te rapu rongoā mā rātou, me te tātari i ō rātou kare ā-roto katoa, ko te mea pai rawa atu māu ko te whakamōhio atu kei reira koe hei tautoko i a rātou ahakoa te aha. Whakarongo mai ina hiahia rātou ki te kōrero. Āwhina i a rātou ki te kimi i tētahi tākuta mēnā e hiahiatia ana.
2. Kaua e whakaroa i tōu ao.
Ki te ngana koe ki te pouri me tō hoa nā te mea kei te pouri rāua, ka noho pūmau kōrua i te wāhi kotahi. Nō reira, whakaarohia hoki tō hauora hinengaro. Kaua e wareware ki tō moe, ki tō kai, ki tō whakakori tinana, me ō mahi whakangahau. Ki te kaha koe, ka taea e koe te āwhina i a rāua.
He mate pōuri rua pea tēnei?
He rerekē ngā āhuatanga e rua o te Mate Pouri Nui me te Pouri Ā-ira-rua. Mēnā he Pouri Ā-ira-rua tō hoa, ka rerekē ā rāua whanonga.
- Ngā panonitanga o te wairua: Tērā pea ka tino pouri ia i tētahi wā (te wā pouri), ā, i tētahi atu wā ka tino harikoa, ka hihiko, ka kore e marino (te wā mania). Ka tauwhitiwhiti ēnei wā e rua.
- Ngā huringa whakatau: I roto i ēnei huringa kare ā-roto e rua, ka taea e te tangata te whakatau i ngā mea kāore i te tino kitea. Hei tauira, ka whakapau moni pea rātou i te wā e pōuri ana.
- Te pānga ki ngā whanaungatanga: Tērā pea ka nui rawa tō hiahia ki ngā whanaungatanga ina hihiko koe, engari ka ngaro katoa tō hiahia ina pouri koe.
Nā te mea he rerekē ngā maimoatanga mō ēnei āhuatanga e rua, he mea nui kia toro atu ki te tākuta kia tika ai te tautuhi mate.
Ka taea e te maimoatanga te āwhina?
Āe, tino tika. Ki te whakaaro koe mō tētahi heke mai me tō hoa rangatira, he mea tino nui kia rapu āwhina ngaio kōrua.
- Whakaora Takitahi: Ka taea e tō hoa te haere ki te whakaora hinengaro takitahi ki te ako ki te whakahaere me te noho tahi me te mate. Ka taea hoki e koe te haere ki te whakaora hinengaro takitahi ki te ako me pēhea te tiaki i tō hauora hinengaro me te tautoko i a ia.
- Te Whakaora i ngā Tāne me ngā Wahine: Mā te rapu tohutohu ngātahi, ka whiwhi kōrua i ngā tohutohu ngaio mō te pupuri i te kaha o tō kōrua whanaungatanga, me te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero pai tetahi ki tetahi ahakoa tēnei wero.
Ki te mea he mea nui koe ki tō hoa, kaua e tukua te tātaritanga o te pouri kia whakararu i a koe i te whanaungatanga. Kāore pea te haerenga e maeneene i ngā wā katoa. Engari mā te manawanui, te mārama, me te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tika, ka taea e tēnei momo whanaungatanga te angitu me te ataahua, pērā i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Ehara te pouri i te mea ko te pouri anake, engari he mate tūturu e hiahia ana kia rongoātia.
- Kaua e ngana ki te "whakatika" i tō hoa rangatira, engari tautokohia rāua me te aroha me te mārama. Whakarongo ki a rāua.
- He rite tonu te hiranga o tō hauora hinengaro. Kaua e wareware ki ō mahi whakangahau, ki te whakakori tinana, me ngā mea e hari ai koe.
- Āta whakatenatena i a rātou kia rapu āwhina ngaio. Mēnā e tika ana, āwhina i a rātou kia kite i te tākuta.
- Kia tūpato ki ngā tohu whakatūpato o te whara i a koe anō. Ki te kite koe i tētahi, me mahi tonu.
- Ahakoa te tautoko tika me te māramatanga, ka taea e te whanaungatanga ki tētahi e pāngia ana e te pouri te noho hei whanaungatanga kaha, angitu hoki.
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