Kodi muli ndi mavuto ndi moyo wanu wogonana? Tiyeni tikambirane za katswiri wodziwa za kugonana!

Kugonana ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri m'miyoyo yathu. Koma nthawi zina, mavuto ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana angabuke pankhaniyi. Zimenezi zikachitika, anthu ena amavutika popanda kuuza aliyense chifukwa cha manyazi ndi mantha. Koma kodi mukudziwa kuti pali akatswiri omwe angathandize ndi zinthu ngati zimenezi? Amenewa ndi omwe tikambirane lero, `Othandiza Anthu Ogonana`.

Kodi katswiri wogonana uyu ndi ndani?

Mwachidule, `Wothandizira Pankhani Yogonana` ndi katswiri wazaumoyo wovomerezeka amene amamvetsetsa zopinga zamaganizo ndi zamaganizo zomwe zimakhudza moyo wanu wogonana ndipo amakuthandizani kupeza mayankho ake. Taganizirani izi, nthawi zina sitingathe kugonana kapena kutaya chidwi chifukwa cha mantha, nkhawa, kapena zomwe sizinali bwino kale. Ndicho chimene anthu awa amathandizira nacho.

"Katswiri Wothandiza Anthu Ogonana" akhoza kukhala wantchito wothandiza anthu, katswiri wodziwa bwino ntchito, kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo. Koma chofunika kwambiri, ayenera kukhala ndi maphunziro apadera pa thanzi la kugonana ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana. Sangapereke uphungu uwu kwa aliyense. Amagwira ntchito ndi anthu kapena maanja kuti awathandize kuthetsa mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana, mwachitsanzo, mantha okhudzana ndi kugonana ( nkhawa yokhudzana ndi magwiridwe antchito) kapena mavuto muubwenzi wapamtima (nkhani zokhudza chibwenzi).

Kodi katswiri wogonana amachita chiyani?

Tsopano tiyeni tiwone zomwe kwenikweni 'wothandizira pa nkhani ya kugonana' amachita.

Amathandiza kuchiza mavuto osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi kugonana, makamaka omwe amayamba chifukwa cha zinthu zamaganizo kapena zomwe zimakhudzidwa ndi zinthu zamaganizo. Amathandizanso pa mavuto okhudzana ndi moyo wogonana komanso maubwenzi. Zonsezi zimachitika m'malo othandizirana, osaweruzana, aulemu, komanso otetezeka.

Koma apa pali chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kukumbukira. Akatswiri ogonana sachiza matenda amthupi omwe amakhudza kugonana. Mwachitsanzo, sangathe kuchiza kuchepa kwa testosterone . Chifukwa chake, ngati muli ndi vuto lililonse ndi ntchito yanu yogonana, choyamba muyenera kuwona dokotala wa banja lanu, dokotala wa gynecologist (ngati ndinu mkazi) kapena katswiri wa urologist (ngati ndinu mwamuna) kuti adziwe ngati pali chifukwa chakuthupi.Ngati palibe chifukwa chakuthupi, kapena ngati pali zotsatira zamaganizo pamodzi ndi chifukwa chakuthupi, ndiye kuti thandizo la `Sex Therapist` likufunika.

Akatswiri ochiza matenda ogonana amagwiritsa ntchito njira zingapo zochiritsira zotsimikiziridwa ndi sayansi kuti akonze miyoyo ya anthu ogonana. Nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito chinthu chotchedwa psychotherapy. Mwachidule, ichi ndi chithandizo cholankhula. Chimaphatikizapo kulankhula za momwe mukumvera, malingaliro anu, ndi makhalidwe anu, kuwamvetsetsa, ndikuyesera kusintha kofunikira. Pali mitundu ingapo ya chithandizo cha maganizo chomwe chimagwiritsidwa ntchito pochiza matenda ogonana :

• Chithandizo cha Maganizo (CBT)
• Chithandizo chochokera ku malingaliro
• Njira zoganizira mozama
• Njira zolankhulirana za mabanja

Chinthu china n'chakuti, 'Othandizira Kugonana' amateteza kwambiri zachinsinsi chanu komanso chinsinsi chanu. Ndipotu, ndi gawo la malamulo awo aukadaulo. Othandizira omwe amaphwanya chinsinsi cha odwala amatha kutaya chilolezo chawo chaukadaulo.

Kodi muyenera kupita kwa katswiri wothandiza anthu ogonana chifukwa chiyani?

Kuchita zogonana (osati kungogonana kokha, komanso kuchita zinthu zodzionetsera komanso kudziseweretsa maliseche) ndi nkhani yovuta yomwe imakhudza mbali zonse zitatu: zamaganizo, zamaganizo, komanso zakuthupi. Ngati muli ndi chilakolako komanso kufunikira kogonana, kugwira ntchito bwino kwa kugonana ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri pa moyo wanu. Kumakhudzana ndi thanzi labwino la thupi ndi maganizo, komanso kukhutira ndi ubale wanu.

Ogwira ntchito zachipatala ndi aphunzitsi ogonana amagawa zochitika zogonana m'magawo anayi akuluakulu. Izi zimatchedwa nthawi yoyankhira kugonana:

• Chilakolako/Libido: Izi zikutanthauza chilakolako chofuna kugonana, chilakolako chofuna kugonana.
• Kudzuka/Kusangalala: Kukonzeka kwa thupi kuchita zogonana.
• Kugonana kwa munthu ndi munthu: Chimake cha kukhutitsidwa ndi kugonana.
• Kuthetsa: Njira yomwe kudzuka kumachepa ndipo thupi limabwerera mwakale.

Mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana angabuke pa gawo lililonse la nthawiyi. Kudziwa momwe mumayankhira m'maganizo ndi mwakuthupi pa gawo lililonse sikungongowonjezera luso lanu logonana, komanso kungakuthandizeni kuzindikira zomwe zimayambitsa vuto la kugonana.

"Katswiri Wothandiza Anthu Ogonana" angathandize pa nkhani zamaganizo ndi zamaganizo zokhudzana ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana okhudza kugonana. Nazi zitsanzo zingapo:

• Kusowa chilakolako chogonana.
• Kusowa chilakolako chogonana.
• Kuvuta kufika pachimake (anorgasmia).
• Ululu panthawi yogonana (dyspareunia). Mwachitsanzo, ululu woyambitsidwa ndi kutsekeka kwa nyini (vaginismus).
• Kuvuta kupeza kapena kusunga erection (kulephera kugwira ntchito bwino kwa erectile).
• Kutulutsa umuna msanga, kuchedwa kutulutsa umuna, kapena mavuto ena okhudzana ndi kutulutsa umuna.

Kuwonjezera pa izi, `Wothandizira Pachibwenzi` angakuthandizeni ndi mavuto ena ambiri:

• Kupereka maphunziro oyenera okhudza kugonana ndi kuchotsa malingaliro olakwika.
• Kuzunzidwa kapena kuzunzidwa pogonana.
• Kumva nkhawa, mantha, kapena manyazi okhudzana ndi kugonana.
• Mavuto omwe amabwera chifukwa cha malingaliro a chikhalidwe, chipembedzo ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu pankhani yogonana.
• Konzani kulankhulana pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu pankhani yokhudza kugonana komanso ubale wapamtima .
• Chilakolako chogonana chosagwirizana pakati pa okwatirana.
• Mavuto muubwenzi chifukwa cha mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana.
• Kaonekedwe koipa ka thupi ndi momwe kamakhudzira kugonana.
• Kukhala bwino ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana (STIs).
• Matenda a Hypersexual kapena chizolowezi chogonana.
• Kukonda zolaula.

Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani panthawi yogonana?

Chabwino, tsopano tiyeni tiwone zomwe zimachitika panthawi ya `Sex Therapy`, kutanthauza kuti, mukapita kukawonana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo.

Pa nthawi imeneyi, inu ndi katswiri wanu wa zachiwerewere mumagwira ntchito limodzi kuti muzindikire ndikusintha malingaliro ndi machitidwe omwe akusokoneza moyo wanu wogonana. Mutha kukumana ndi katswiri wanu wa zachiwerewere nokha, kapena mutha kupita ndi chibwenzi chanu/chibwenzi chanu, mwamuna/mkazi wanu, kapena mnzanu wogonana naye.

Dokotala wanu angakufunseni mafunso okhudza zinthu monga:

• Za thanzi lanu komanso mbiri yanu yogonana .
• Za maphunziro okhudza kugonana omwe mwalandira.
• Zikhulupiriro zanu ndi malingaliro anu okhudza kugonana .
• Kodi ndi mavuto ati enieni okhudza kugonana omwe muli nawo?

N’zoona kuti kulankhula za kugonana nthawi zina kungakhale kovuta komanso kochititsa manyazi. Akatswiri ogonana amadziwa bwino izi. Ndicho chifukwa chake amayesetsa kupanga malo omwe mungalankhule momasuka komanso mopanda mantha.

Kumbukirani, popeza chithandizo cha psychotherapy chimangokhala cholankhula, muyenera kutenga nawo mbali mwachangu mu ndondomekoyi. Kudalirana ndi ubale pakati pa inu ndi katswiri wanu wa psychotherapy ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti chithandizochi chipambane.

'Wothandizira pa nkhani yogonana' wanu angakupatseni 'ntchito ya kusukulu'.Mungathenso kupereka. Izi zikutanthauza zochita ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe mungachite kunyumba, m'njira yoteteza chinsinsi chanu. Izi zitha kukhala zinthu monga "kuyesa" mwachitsanzo, "kusewera gawo". Kapena zingakhale masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe mumachita nokha kapena ndi mnzanu kuti mumange kudalirana komanso ubwenzi.

Chinthu chimodzi chomwe muyenera kudziwa apa ndichakuti panthawi ya maphunziro a 'Sex Therapy', sipadzakhala kukhudzana kapena kuchita zogonana pakati pa inu ndi katswiri wa chithandizo. Zimenezo sizingatheke. Ngati simukumva bwino ndi mbali iliyonse ya chithandizocho, onetsetsani kuti mwauza katswiri wanu wa chithandizo. Kapena, muli ndi ufulu wosiya kumuona ndikupereka madandaulo okhudza izi.

Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa katswiri wokhudza kugonana ndi mlangizi wokhudza kugonana?

Mwina munamvapo za mawu awiri akuti `Sex Therapist` ndi `Sex Counselor`. Onsewa ndi anthu omwe aphunzitsidwa bwino za kugonana. M'maiko ngati United States, onsewa ayenera kukhala ndi satifiketi kuchokera ku bungwe lotchedwa `American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). Ku Sri Lanka, ayeneranso kukhala ndi ziyeneretso zovomerezeka pa izi.

Kusiyana kuli m'njira imene awiriwa amaonera nkhani zogonana.

• Katswiri Wothandiza Pankhani Yogonana: Amagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala amisala, kapena njira yolankhulirana, kuti athandize pa mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana. Mavutowa akhoza kukhala osavuta kapena ovuta. Amafika pachimake pa vutoli ndikuyang'ana zomwe zimayambitsa maganizo ndi malingaliro.
• Mlangizi wa Zachiwerewere: Amagwiritsa ntchito njira yoganizira zochita. Amapereka maphunziro pa mavuto a nthawi yochepa, amaphunzitsa njira zosiyanasiyana, ndipo nthawi zambiri amayang'ana kwambiri kupereka chidziwitso ndi kupereka upangiri wothandiza.

Kodi mungakhale bwanji katswiri wogonana?

Kukhala `Wothandizira Pankhani Yogonana` sikophweka. Kumafuna maphunziro ndi maphunziro ambiri. Njira yonse ndi yonga iyi (izi zitha kusiyana pang'ono malinga ndi dziko):

• Digiri ya Bachelor: Digiri yoyambira ku yunivesite.
• Digiri ya Master kapena digiri ya Doctoral: Digiri ya Master kapena Doctorate mu gawo lofanana, monga psychology kapena social work. Kuphatikiza apo, muyenera kukhala ndi chidziwitso cha zachipatala.
• Maphunziro apadera: Kuphunzira za psychotherapy n'kofunikira. Komanso, muyenera kumaliza maola angapo a maphunziro okhudzana ndi maphunziro okhudza kugonana (monga maola pafupifupi 90).
• Chilolezo: Muyenera kupeza chilolezo choyenera kuti muchite chithandizo cha kugonana m'dziko kapena m'boma loyenera.

Mungathe kuona kuchokera pamenepa kuti izi si uphungu chabe, ndi gawo lakuya komanso laukadaulo. Nthawi zambiri zimatenga zaka zosachepera zisanu ndi zinayi kuti munthu akhale katswiri wodziwa za kugonana. Izi zikuphatikizapo chilichonse kuyambira digiri yoyambira, digiri ya postgraduate, ndi maphunziro azachipatala. Izi zikusonyeza momwe anthuwa alili odzipereka pantchitoyi.

Kodi uthenga umene tikufuna kutenga kuchokera mu nkhaniyi ndi wotani?

Kulankhula za kugonana ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana nthawi zina kumakhala kovuta, kochititsa manyazi, kapena koopsa. Zimenezo ndi zachilendo. Koma kumbukirani kuti simuli nokha.

`Wothandizira pa nkhani yogonana` ndi munthu amene angakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa mitundu iyi ya zopinga zogonana, kuzigonjetsa, ndikukhala ndi moyo wathanzi komanso wathunthu.

Ndi akatswiri pankhaniyi. Ali ndi chidziwitso chabwino cha kafukufuku waposachedwa komanso njira zabwino kwambiri zochiritsira zomwe zingakuthandizeni.

Choncho, ngati muli ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi moyo wanu wogonana, musawasunge nokha ndipo musavutike, koma musaope kupempha thandizo kwa `Sex Therapist` woyenerera. Ndi thandizo lalikulu lomwe mungadzichitire nokha.

Wothandizira pa nkhani yogonana, mavuto a kugonana, thanzi la maganizo, uphungu wa kugonana, psychotherapy, mavuto a kugonana, mavuto a ubale