Ese iyo umuntu agukunze, wari uzi ko ashobora kugukunda utabizi?

Tharindu (w'imyaka 23) waje kwa muganga uwo munsi yari afite isoni cyane kandi afite inseko nke mu maso. Yanyeganyeje umutwe, afite isoni nke, ambaza ikibazo cyanjye bwite.

"Muganga Priya, mfite ikibazo gito mu mutwe wanjye. Hari umukobwa wo muri kaminuza yacu wambwiye ejo ko ankunda. Sinigeze ntekereza cyane kuri we mbere. Ariko kuva aho menyeye ko ankunda, nakomeje kumutekerezaho igihe cyose, kandi numva natangiye kumukundaho gato. Ese hari ikibazo kiri mu bwonko bwanjye, muganga, cyangwa iki ni ikibazo cyo mu mutwe?" Tharindu yabajije afite amatsiko menshi.

Naramwenyuye maze mbwira Tharindu nti: "Tharindu, wihangayika. Nta kibazo kiri mu bwonko bwawe. Iki ni igitekerezo kizwi cyane mu bijyanye n'imitekerereze kimenyerewe ku bantu bose ku isi. Ibi tubyita ingaruka zo gukundana . None rero uyu munsi, reka tuvuge uburyo iyo tumenye ko umuntu adukunda, dukururwa n'uwo muntu tutabizi."

Ingaruka zo gukunda ibintu mu buryo bunyuranye ni izihe?

Inyigisho yo gukundana ivuga ko iyo tumenye ko hari umuntu utwitayeho, mu bisanzwe dukunda kumva dukunzwe kandi tumushishikajwe.

Dukurikije imitekerereze y’abantu, iki kizwi nk'imwe mu mpamvu zizewe kandi zikomeye zigira ingaruka ku mibanire y’abantu.

Ubwonko bwacu bukira bute kuri ibi? (Inyigisho y'Ubwonko yo Gukurura)

Iyo tuzi ko hari umuntu utwereka urukundo cyangwa ubugwaneza, impinduka nyinshi za shimi ziba mu bwonko bwacu:

1. Dopamine (imisemburo y'ibyishimo): Iyo umuntu atubwiye ko adukunda, biduha kumva tunyuzwe kandi dufite agaciro. Ubwonko bubifata nk'igihembo maze bugasohora imisemburo ya dopamine.
2. Oxytocin (umusemburo uhuza umubiri): Iyi hormone ifasha mu gutuma umuntu yumva afite umutekano kandi akunda abandi.
3. Uturemangingo tw’indorerwamo: Utu tunyangingo twihariye tw’ubwonko dukora akazi ko kwigana mu bwenge bwacu amarangamutima y’urukundo n’ubugwaneza abandi batwereka.

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Kutamenya neza

Iyo umuntu atubwiye ko adukunda, ubwenge bwacu bwo mu mutima buhita bubaza ikibazo: "Kuki ankunda?"

Ubwonko bwacu bugerageza gushaka ibisubizo kuri ibi, bityo, tutabizi dutangira kwita cyane ku mico myiza y'uwo muntu, nko kugira neza, inseko nziza, no gusetsa. Kubera iyo mpamvu, imitima yacu nayo irushaho kumukunda.

Uburyo bwiza bwo gutanga ibitekerezo

Urukundo n'ingufu zikurura umuntu ni imbaraga zinyura mu byerekezo byombi:

• Undi muntu akwereka ko umukunda → wumva ko ufite agaciro → umukunda → umufata neza → urukundo rwe rurarushaho kwiyongera.

Uru rugendo ruhoraho rutuma umubano hagati y’ibyo byombi ukomera mu gihe gito cyane.

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Nubwo dushobora kumva dukunzwe n'umuntu bitewe n'inyungu zacu, tugomba kumenya ibimenyetso bikurikira by'akaga mbere yo kwinjira mu rukundo rushya:

• Guterana amagambo mu rukundo: Gutanga impano nyinshi, gushimirana, no kugerageza kwegerana cyane mu ntangiriro z'urukundo (iyi ishobora kuba amayeri yo kugutegeka nyuma - gukoresha uburyo bwo kukwigarurira).
• Gukoresha Amarangamutima: Iyo umuntu agerageje kubona ibyo akeneye agukoresha amarangamutima mu gihe yigira nk'uwishimiye.
• Kudaha agaciro imipaka: Niba uhatirwa gukora icyo bashaka cyose utitaye ku bwisanzure bwawe bwite, ibitekerezo byawe, n'imipaka yawe.

Ibyo gukora n'ibyo udakwiye gukora