Unotya zvikuru kudanana here? Ngatitaurei nezvePhilophobia!

Rudo chinhu chakanaka, handiti? Asi kune vamwe vanhu, pfungwa yekudanana kana kutanga hukama inogona kutyisa zvikuru uye kunetsa. Wakambonzwa saizvozvo here? Kana zvakadaro, uyu anogona kunge ari iwe. Tinodaidza kuti chirwere ichi philophobia.

Chii chinonzi philophobia?

Zvichitaurwa zviri nyore, Philophobia kutya rudo kwakawandisa uye kusina kujairika. Hakusi kungotaura kuti, 'Handidi rudo.' Kutya kwakadzama uye kwakasimba. Kutya uku kunoita kuti zviome zvikuru, uye dzimwe nguva zvisingaite, kuti vamwe vanhu vagadzire uye varambe vaine hukama hwerudo. "Philos" izwi rechiGiriki rinoreva vadiwa. "Phobos" zvinoreva kutya. Saka kana izvi zviviri zvikabatana, zvinoreva 'kutya rudo' zvinobuda.

Funga nezveMambokadzi wekutanga weEngland munhoroondo, Elizabeth, haana kumbobvira aroora, uye aizivikanwa sa'Mhandara Mambokadzi.' Vamwe vanotenda kuti aivewo nechirwere ichi chepfungwa dzepfungwa.

Saka chii chinonzi phobia?

Zvino ungave uchishamisika kuti, 'Chii chinonzi kutya uku?' Kutya kutya zvinhu zvisina kujairika, zvisingawanzoitiki zvisingatikuvadzi. Aya ndiwo matambudziko ekuzvidya mwoyo . Philophobia chirwere chekutya chaicho . Kureva kuti, unotya chinhu chaicho, pfungwa yekudanana panguva ino, kana mamiriro ezvinhu akadaro.

Philophobia yakajairika zvakadii?

Zvakaoma kutaura kuti vangani vanhu vane chirwere chepfungwa yepfungwa. Vanhu vazhinji vanongozvichengetera kutya kwavo kana kuti havatombozivi kuti vane kutya uku. Asi tinoziva kuti munhu mukuru mumwe chete pavanhu gumi uye mumwe pavanhu vashanu vechidiki muUnited States achasangana nekutya kwakati pane imwe nguva muhupenyu hwavo. Saka chirwere chepfungwa yepfungwa chinogona kuva chimwe chazvo.

Ndiani ari panjodzi huru yekuve nepfungwa dzepfungwa dzepfungwa?

Zvinowanzotaurwa kuti vakadzi vane mukana mukuru wekuva nerudzi urwu rwekutya. Kunewo zvimwe zvinhu zvakawanda zvinokonzera njodzi:

• Nhoroondo yemhuri: Kana wakamboona vabereki vako kana mumwe munhu wepedyo newe achitambura nekutya kana kuzvidya mwoyo, une mukana wakafanana wekutya. Kungofanana nekutya dandemutande, mwana wavo ane mukana wakafanana wekutya dandemutande.
• Kukanganiswa kwemajini: Imwe tsvakiridzo inoratidza kuti vamwe vanhu vane kusiyana kwemajini kunoita kuti vave nyore kubatwa nezvirwere zvekuzvidya mwoyo uye kutya.
• Kuva nedzimwe phobia: Zvakajairika kuva nekutya kunopfuura kumwe chete. Munhu anotya rudo anogonawo kutya kuzvipira (izvi zvinonzi gamophobia) , kutya kurambwa, kana kutya kusiiwa.

Sei ndichitya rudo zvakadaro?

Funga nezvazvo, sei munhu angatya chinhu chakanaka serudo? Kazhinji, paunotarisa midzi yekutya uku, kunogona kuteverwa nechiitiko chinorwadza muhudiki . Philophobia yakafanana nemhinduro yekudzivirira . Kana usingazvibvumiri kuda mumwe munhu, pfungwa dzako dzisingafungi dzinogona kufunga kuti uri kuzviponesa kubva pakurwadziwa uye kubva pakurwadziwa.

Heano zvimwe zvikonzero zvinogona kukonzera philophobia:

• Hukama hwakaipa hwekare: Fungidzira mwana aiona vabereki vake vachirwa kana kurambana achiri mudiki. Kana mubereki akafa, akasiyiwa, kana kuti akashungurudzwa achiri mudiki... Zvinogona kuoma zvikuru kuti mwana akasangana nezvinhu izvi ade vamwe. Ndizvo zvakafanana kune vakuru. Kana hukama hwekare hwaiva kusatendeka, kurambana, kushungurudzwa, kana kusiiwa, hazvishamisi kuti vanotya kudanana zvakare. Fungidzira, Nimali akarwadziwa zvikuru nemukomana wake wekutanga. Mushure meizvozvo, anonzwa kunetseka uye kutya paanofunga nezvekutanga hukama zvakare.

• Kutya kurambwa kana kusiiwa: Kana mumwe wevabereki vako akakusiya pawaiva mudiki, izvozvo zvinogonawo kuva chikonzero chekutya kwako rudo. Kana uchirambwa neshamwari nevadikani vako nguva dzose semunhu mukuru, unogona kutya rudo. Unganzwa sekuti 'mumwe munhu achandisiya zvakadaro.'

• Kumanikidzwa kwetsika kana chitendero: Dzimwe tsika hadzifungi zvakanyanya nezverudo, uye kuronga muchato kunorongwa. Ungatya kudanana nekuti unonzwa kuti hauna kodzero yekusarudza mumwe wako. Zvakare, kana uri LGBTQ+, ungatya kudanana kana chitendero chako kana tsika yako zvichipesana nehukama hwako. Nekutya kusarurwa nevanhu uye kurambwa nemhuri yako.

• Dambudziko reKubatanidzwa Kwevanhu Risingadzivisiki (DSED): Mwana asingagamuchire kutarisirwa, rudo, uye kuongwa kwaanoda kubva kuvabereki vake kana vamwe vakuru vaanovimba navo achiri mudiki anogona kutya rudo sezvaanokura. Vana vakadaro vanogona kushamwaridzana zviri nani nevasingazive pane avo vavanoda. DSED rudzi rweReactive Attachment Disorder .

Ndezvipi zviratidzo zvephilophobia?

Izvi zvinogona kukanganisa vanhu vanotya rudo nenzira dzakasiyana. Unogona kusangana nezvinotevera:

• Hukama hwepedyo hunova husingagoneki.
• Kana uri muukama , unonzwa kunetseka kukuru , uye unogara uchinetseka kuti hukama hwacho huchapera.
• Unonzwa kutya mumwe wako kana manzwiro ake .
• Vanodzinga vanhu kana kuti vanogumisa hukama kamwe kamwe.

Kana uine manzwiro erudo, unogona zvakare kuona zviratidzo zvemuviri zvakaita seizvi:

• Dzungu
• Muromo wakaoma
• Kunzwa kutya kwakanyanya kana kutya
• Kusvotwa, kurutsa, kana manyoka
• Kudikitira zvakanyanya
• Kufema nekukurumidza uye kurova kwemoyo
• Kudedera kana kudedera
• Kushaya mweya

Nzira yekuziva philophobia?

Saka, vanachiremba vanoongorora sei philophobia? Sangano reAmerican Psychiatric Association rine gwara rinonzi Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). Nyanzvi dzehutano hwepfungwa dzakadai senyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinoshandisa gwara iri kuongorora phobias zvichibva pazviratidzo uye kuti zvinokanganisa sei hupenyu hwako.

Vanachiremba vanoshandisa nzira idzi kuti vaongorore phobia chaiyo yakaita sephilophobia:

• Kutya rudo nguva dzose kunogara kwemwedzi mitanhatu .
• Kutya kwakasimba kana kuzvidya mwoyo kunomuka kana uchinzwa rudo.
• Zviratidzo zvekutya zvinoonekwa kana ukasangana nemunhu waunoda.
• Dzivisa kupa kana kugamuchira rudo nekuti kuzvidya mwoyo kana kutya zvinokukurudzira.
• Zviratidzo zvakakomba zvinokanganisa kugona kuumba hukama hune chinangwa uye hwepedyo.

Philophobia inorapwa sei?

Saka hapana mushonga weizvi here? Zviripo zvechokwadi. Mushonga unonzi Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) unogona kukubatsira kukunda philophobia. Uyu rudzi rwekurapa kwepfungwa. Zvichitaurwa zviri nyore, mushonga wekutaura. Unokubatsira kuona pfungwa nemaitiro anokuita kuti utye rudo.

Unogonawo kubatsirwa nerudzi rwekurapa kwekunzwa kumeso kunonzi Systemic Desensitization Therapy . Kurapa kwekunzwa kumeso kunonzi kunobatsira vanhu vanopfuura 90% vane kutya kwakasiyana.

Aya ndiwo mashandiro azvinoita:

• Uchadzidziswa kudzora zviratidzo zvako uchishandisa nzira dzekuzorora dzakadai sekurovedza muviri kufema zvakadzika uye kufungisisa.
• Unotanga wava nepfungwa yerudo zvishoma nezvishoma . Kutanga wafunga nezvarwo, wozotaura nezvarwo, wobva watarisana nemamiriro ezvinhu madiki.
• Inopa mabasa anoshanda achakubatsira kujaira kupa nekugamuchira rudo.

Ndezvipi zvinetso zvinogona kuitika nekuda kwephilophobia?

Chii chinoitika kana tikarega kutya rudo uku? Hupenyu husina rudo hunogona kukanganisa hutano hwako hwemuviri nehwepfungwa. Nekuda kweizvozvo, unogona kusangana nemamiriro ezvinhu akadai seaya:

• Kuzvidya Mwoyo, Kuora Mwoyo, kana Kutya Zvinetso.
• Kune varume, idambudziko rekushaya simba rekuita zvepabonde.
• Dambudziko rePost-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
• Dambudziko reKushandisa Zvinetso.

Unofanira kuona chiremba rini?

Unofanira kuona chiremba kana uine chimwe chezvinotevera:

• Kurwiswa kwekutya kuri kuuya.
• Kana uine kuzvidya mwoyo kunoramba kuchikukanganisa muhupenyu hwako hwezuva nezuva kana kurara.
• Kana uine zviratidzo zvekuora mwoyo kana matambudziko ekushandisa zvinodhaka zvisina kunaka .

Chii chandinofanira kubvunza chiremba wangu?

Kana ukaona chiremba, unogona kubvunza mibvunzo yakaita seiyi:

• Sei ndine kutya uku?
• Ndeipi nzira yakanakisisa yekurapa?
• Ndoedza kurapa kwepfungwa here?
• Ndichada kurapwa kwenguva yakareba sei?
• Mishonga inogona kubatsira here?

Pakupedzisira, yeuka...

Zvingori muropa kuti tese tiedze kuzvidzivirira kubva mukurwadziwa nekurwadziwa. Asi kana kutya kwako rudo kuri kukonzera kushushikana mumuviri kana mupfungwa, kana kukanganisa kugona kwako kuumba hukama, ndipo panotangira dambudziko.

Kupa nekugamuchira rudo kunofanira kuva chinhu chinounza mufaro.

Kana uchitya rudo nekuda kwephilophobia, nyika yako inogona kunzwa kusurukirwa. Asi yeuka, unogona kudzidza kugadzirisa kutya uku kuburikidza nezvinhu zvakaita seCBT uye desensitization therapy . Nekufamba kwenguva, uchakwanisa kuvaka hukama hwepedyo, hwerudo nemumwe wako, mhuri, neshamwari. Usatambura uri wega, kumbira rubatsiro. Hausi wega.

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