Ngaba nawe uzenzakalisa ungaqondanga? (Ingxaki Yokuzilimaza Engabulaliyo) - Masithethe ngale nto!

Ngamanye amaxesha xa kuvela iingxaki zobomi uze uzive uthwele umthwalo onzima engqondweni yakho, kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuthwala. Ngaba oko kuye kwenzeka kuwe? Ngamaxesha anje, abanye abantu bayalingeka ukuba bazilimaze ngeendlela ezincinci ukuze banciphise intlungu yengqondo abayivayo. Nangona oku kuyinto enokubonwa phakathi kwabantu abaninzi ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, uninzi lwexesha akukho mntu uthetha ngayo ngokukhululekileyo. Yiyo loo nto, namhlanje siza kuthetha kancinci ngale nto.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuzenzakalisa? Kutheni sikwenza oko?

Ngamafutshane, ukuzenzakalisa kwenzeka xa ulimaza umzimba wakho ngabom ngandlela ithile. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-"Nonsuicidal Self-Injury Disorder". Into ebalulekileyo apha kukuba abantu abazilimaza ngale ndlela abananjongo yokuphelisa ubomi babo. Bakwenza oko ngenxa yezinye izizathu.

Khawucinge nje, kutheni umntu efuna ukuzilimaza? Kukho izizathu ezininzi eziphambili:

• Njengendlela yokumelana neemeko: Kwabanye abantu, ukuzenzakalisa kunokubonelela ngesiqabu okanye isiqabu sokwexeshana kuxinzelelo. Kwabanye, isenokuba yindlela yokuzibonakalisa ukuba bangayinyamezela kangakanani intlungu. Abanye abantu bayakwenza oku ukuze banciphise iimvakalelo ezimbi ezifana nokudakumba, umsindo, kunye nokukhungatheka.
• Ukuguqula iimvakalelo ngaphakathi: Abanye bazenzakalisa ngale ndlela ukuze bazijezise okanye bakhuphele umsindo wabo kubo. Ngokungathi abanayo enye indlela yokukhulula umthwalo ezingqondweni zabo.
• Njengomqondiso wokucela uncedo: Ngamanye amaxesha, abantu banokwenza oku ukuze bazise abanye ngobunzima babo kunye noxinzelelo lwabo , okanye bathi ngokungathanga ngqo, "Ndifuna uncedo."

Ungazilimaza njani ngolu hlobo?

Zininzi iindlela zokuzilimaza. Ezinye zixhaphake kakhulu kunezinye. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka siqonde ukuba indlela nganye inomngcipheko othile . Nazi ezinye zeendlela ezixhaphakileyo:

• Ukusika ngento ebukhali: Abanye abantu basebenzisa izinto ezibukhali, njengee-razor blades okanye iziqwenga zeglasi, ukusika nokukrwela ulusu lwabo.
• Ukutsha: Ukutshisa ulusu ngezinto ezifana neentonga zesinyithi ezishushu, iziqwenga zecuba, izinti zematshisi, njl. Ngamanye amaxesha neekhemikhali zasekhaya, ezifana neemveliso zokucoca indlu, zinokusetyenziselwa oku.
• Ukuzibetha/ukuzityumza: Ukuzilimaza ngokubetha iindawo zomzimba wakho kwiindawo eziqinileyo, njengokubethela isandla sakho eludongeni. Oku kunokubangela imivumbo yangaphakathi (ukulimala okubangelwa yimpembelelo) .
• Ukukrwela/ukukrwela:Enye indlela kukukrwela ulusu ngezipikili zakho lude lonakale.

Zithini iimpawu zale meko? Uyibona njani?

Ukuba ungumntu ozenzakalisayo, ungazama ukuzifihla kwabanye. Unganxiba iihempe ezineemikhono emide kunye neebhulukhwe ezinde, nokuba kushushu, ukuze ugqume amanxeba. Okanye ungabalisela amabali ngendlela ukwenzakala okubangelwe ngayo yingozi. Nangona kunjalo, abanye banokuphawula ezinye zeempawu:

• Amabala okanye amabala anemilo ethile okanye iqela elithile kwindawo enye.
• Amanxeba amaninzi okutsha anobukhulu okanye imilo efanayo.
• Ukulimala, imivumbo, okanye ukudumba okubangelwa yimikrwelo emitsha, ukulunywa, okanye ezinye iingozi ezidla ngokubizwa ngokuba "ziingozi."
• Iingxaki zokulawula intshukumo. Umzekelo, ukungakwazi ukuyeka ukukha kwindawo enye eluswini lwakho.

Leliphi ilungu lomzimba elidla ngokonakala ngolu hlobo?

Iindawo zomzimba abantu abazilimazayo abanokuzenzakalisa kakhulu zezi:

• Izandla (ingakumbi iingalo )
• Izandla
• Ngaphambili kwamathanga abo
• Isisu

Ukongeza kwezi ndawo, umonakalo unokwenzeka nakwezinye iindawo zomzimba, kodwa awuxhaphakanga kangako.

Kutheni abantu bezama ukuzenzakalisa? Zithini izizathu?

Kunzima ukutsho ngqo ukuba kutheni umntu ezilimaza. Nangona kunjalo, ezinye izifo zengqondo zifunyenwe zidibene nayo. Ezinye zazo ziquka:

• Ixhala
• I-Autism
• Isifo se-Bipolar - Kule meko, iimvakalelo zolonwabo kunye nosizi zihlala zitshintshatshintsha.
• Ingxaki yobuntu obungenamda – ebonakaliswa kukungazinzi kolawulo lweemvakalelo.
• Uxinzelelo – Iimpawu ezinje ngosizi olukhulu kunye nokuphelelwa ngumdla kuyo nayiphi na into.
• Ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha, ukulawula iminqweno kunye nokuphazamiseka kokuziphatha – umzekelo, `(Ingxaki yokuziphatha)` kunye `(Ingxaki yokuqhuma eyenzeka ngexesha elithile)` (ukungakwazi ukulawula umsindo ngequbuliso).
• Iingxaki zokungavisisani – imeko yokuzihlukanisa nenyaniso malunga nokuba umntu ungubani na nokuba uphi. Ingakumbi `(dissociative identity disorder)` kunye `(dissociative amnesia)`.
• Iingxaki zokutya– Ingakumbi `(i-Anorexia nervosa)` (ukungatyi).
• Ingxaki yokuzibamba ngokugqithisileyo ( i-OCD ) – ukunyanzeliswa kokuphinda-phinda okanye ukucinga into enye ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
• Ingxaki yoxinzelelo emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu (PTSD) – uxinzelelo lwengqondo oluvela emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu.
• Iingxaki zokulala
• Iimeko kunye neengxaki zokusebenzisa iziyobisi - ezinje ngotywala, ingxaki yokusebenzisa utywala, kunye nengxaki yokusebenzisa intsangu.

Ngubani osengozini enkulu yokuba nale meko?

Kukho izinto ezininzi ezinokubangela ubungozi bokuzilimaza ngaphandle kokuzibulala:

• Ukuxhatshazwa okanye ukwenzakala: Abantu abaye baxhatshazwa okanye badibana nezinye iziganeko ezibuhlungu kakhulu ebuntwaneni banamathuba amaninzi okuzenzakalisa.
• Ubudala: Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zihlala ziqala phakathi kweminyaka eli-12 neli-14. Nangona kunjalo, zinokuqala kwangethuba. Xa ukuzilimaza kuqala, abanye abantu bayaqhubeka nokwenza njalo kangangeminyaka. Oku kuqhelekile kubantu abaselula , ingakumbi abo bakwiminyaka yaseyunivesithi .
• Ukuziqhelanisa ngokwesondo: Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo okanye abathandanayo (abancinci ngokwesondo) banezinga eliphezulu lokuzilimaza. Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba le ngozi iphezulu kuba bajongene namava amabi ebomini, njengoxinzelelo lwentlalo kunye nokugxekwa.
• Ukuzihlukanisa nabantu: Abantu abaziva bebodwa kwaye bebodwa, ingakumbi abantwana abakwiminyaka yokufunda esikolweni abaxhatshazwayo okanye ababodwa ngenxa yezinye izizathu, basengozini enkulu yokuzenzakalisa.

Oogqirha bayixilonga njani le nto?

Ingxaki yokuzilimaza engeyokuzibulala ngamanye amaxesha inokuba nzima ukuyiqonda kuba abantu abazenzakalisayo badla ngokuyifihla imiphumo yabo yokwenzakala kwaye abafuni ukuthetha ngayo.

Oogqirha abasebenzisi uvavanyo oluthile ukuze bayixilonge. Endaweni yoko, bahlola ukwenzakala kwakho, bekhangela amanxeba kunye neepateni zokulimala kwangaphambili. Babuza imibuzo malunga nembali yakho yezonyango kunye nemvelaphi yakho yoluntu. Bakwathetha nawe ngezinto ezenzekayo ebomini bakho kule mihla kunye nezinto ezikubangela uxinezeleko . Umzekelo, iingxaki zemali, ukufa kusapho, iingxaki esikolweni okanye emsebenzini, ukuxhaphazwa, okanye ukwahlukana.

Zithini iindlela zonyango zoku?

Ukuba ubona ugqirha kuba uzenzakalisa, baza kuqala bakunyange ukwenzakala kwakho ukuba kuyimfuneko. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, banokucebisa unyango kunye/okanye amayeza okukunceda ulawule naziphi na iimeko zempilo yengqondo kunye nezinto ezikubangela uxinzelelo ebomini bakho ezinokubangela oku.

Khumbula, ukucela uncedo luphawu lwamandla, kungekhona ubuthathaka.

Zithini iingozi ukuba azinyangwa?

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna unyango lokuzilimaza, kuba lunokuba neengozi ezininzi zexesha elifutshane nezexesha elide.

Iingozi zexesha elifutshane

Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuzenzakalisa kunokubangela iingxaki obungazilindelanga:

• Iingxaki zonyango: Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zinokukhokelela kwiintsholongwane , ekonakaleni kwemithambo-luvo , kunye namanxeba angapheliyo okanye aqatha . Kwezinye iimeko, oku kunokukhokelela ekwenzakaleni okukhulu okanye nasekufeni.
• Iingxaki zentlalo: Ukuzilimaza, nokuba kwenziwe ngabom okanye kungenjongo, kunokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bakho nosapho, abahlobo, okanye abanye abantu obathandayo. Kunokuchaphazela nendlela oziva ngayo kwiindawo zentlalo, ezifana nomsebenzi nesikolo.

Iingozi zexesha elide

Ukuzilimaza kunokukhokelela kwezinye iingxaki kwixesha elide:

• Ukuwohloka kwempilo yengqondo : Oku kunokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo zokuba neentloni, ukuziva unetyala, nokuzisola. Ungazama nzima ukufihla okanye ukufihla amanxeba okanye amanxeba, usoyika ukuba abanye baya kuwabona.
• Ukulimala okunzulu ngakumbi: Rhoqo, iindlela zokuziphatha zokuzilimaza ziyanda . Usenokuqala ukuzilimaza rhoqo, okanye ukwenzakala okwenzayo kunokuba nzima ngakumbi.
• Umngcipheko wokuzibulala: Kwimeko ebizwa ngokuba yi-"Nonsuicidal self-injury disorder," akukho njongo yokuzibulala. Nangona kunjalo, umngcipheko wokuzama ukuzibulala okanye ukufa ngenxa yokuzibulala uphezulu kakhulu kubantu abazenzakalisayo. Le yingxaki enkulu.

Ngaba oku kungathintelwa?

Kusenokungabi lula ukuthintela umntu ukuba azenzakalise kwasekuqaleni. Nangona kunjalo, ukufuna uncedo kumboneleli wezempilo yengqondo kunokunciphisa amathuba okuba umntu aqhubeke ezenzakalisa. Ngoko ke, ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo unengxaki yoku, kungcono ukufumana uncedo ngokukhawuleza.

Ufanele uye nini kugqirha ukuba uyazilimaza?

Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba wena (okanye umntu omthandayo) uyazenzakalisa,Nceda ubone ugqirha. Ukwenzakala kwakho kunokufuna unyango. Kuya kukunceda wazi ukuba awuwedwa. Ugqirha wakho ukhona ukukumamela nokukuxhasa. Baza kukucebisa unyango olungcono kuwe.

Ufanele uye nini kwiYunithi yoNyango oluNgxamisekileyo (i-ETU) ?

Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uza kuzenzakalisa okanye uzenzakalise abanye, yiya kwiGumbi loNgxamiseko (ER) ngoko nangoko, okanye utsalele umnxeba iSuwaseriya Ambulance Service ngo-1990. Ungatsalela umnxeba iNational Mental Health Helpline ngo-1926 ukuze ufumane uncedo lwempilo yengqondo eSri Lanka.

Ukongeza, ukuba ukwenzakala kwakho kukhulu, ingakumbi ukuba unezinye zezi mpawu, funa unyango olungxamisekileyo ngoko nangoko:

• Ubunzima bokuphefumla.
• Ukopha okungapheliyo.
• Ukukhubazeka komzimba.
• Ukulahlekelwa kukunyakaza engalweni okanye emlenzeni.

Iintlungu zibachaphazela njani aba bantu?

Esinye isizathu sokuba ukuzenzakalisa kube yindlela yokumelana neengxaki kwabanye yindlela imizimba yethu esabela ngayo kwiintlungu.

Xa kwenzeka into enokuba yingozi emzimbeni wakho, iziphelo zemithambo-luvo kwindawo yokwenzakala zithumela imiqondiso engxamisekileyo engqondweni yakho. Into enye eyenziwa yingqondo yakho ukuphendula ezi mpawu kukukhupha iikhemikhali ezibizwa ngokuba yi-beta-endorphins . Ezi khemikhali zikwenza uzive "ulungile" okwethutyana, njengokuba intlungu inciphile. Nangona kunjalo, esi siphumo asihlali ixesha elide. Ke ngoko, abantu abazilimazayo banokulingeka ukuba benze oku ngokuphindaphindiweyo xa befuna ukuziva bebhetele.

Kubantu abaninzi, ukuziphatha okuzilimazayo kunokuba nzima ukukuqonda. Nangona kunjalo, kwabo bazilimazayo, ukwenza oko kunokubonakala ngathi yindlela ekuphela kwayo abanokuthi bazive bebhetele okanye babe nolawulo oluthile kubomi babo. Nokuba abantu abananjongo yokuzilimaza, kusoloko kukho iingozi zokuzilimaza. Asiyondlela yokuziva kamnandi ekuhambeni kwexesha, kwaye kunokuba nefuthe elibi kwimpilo yakho yomzimba neyengqondo kunye nokuphila kakuhle.

Ukuba uziva ngathi uza kuzilimaza, okanye ukuba sele uzilimaza, akukho nto imbi ngokucela uncedo. Ukufuna unyango lokuzilimaza kufana nokufuna unyango lwesifo somzimba. Nokuba awuziva ngoku, ungafikelela kwinqanaba apho unokuziva ungcono ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwengqondo. Awuwedwa.

Okokugqibela, ezona zinto zibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzikhumbule

Ukuzilimaza yingxaki enzima, kodwa kukho uncedo kunye nonyango olufumanekayo.

• Awuwedwa: baninzi abantu abadlula kolu tshintsho, ngoko ke musa ukuba neentloni okanye uzive unetyala.
• Thetha:Thetha nomntu omthembayo – umhlobo, ilungu losapho, utitshala, okanye umcebisi wemisebenzi – malunga neemvakalelo zakho.
• Fumana uncedo lweengcali: Ugqirha wengqondo okanye umcebisi angakunceda woyise le meko. Banokwenza isicwangciso sonyango esikusebenzelayo.
• Funda amaqhinga okumelana neemeko: Xa uziva uphantsi, kukho ezinye iindlela zokujongana neemvakalelo zakho ngaphandle kokuzenzakalisa. Umzekelo, ukuzilolonga, ukumamela umculo, ukuzoba, okanye ukuziqhelanisa neendlela zokucamngca ezizolileyo.
• Zinike ixesha lakho, ungangxami: Kuthatha ixesha ukuchacha kule nto. Usenokuba neentsuku ezilungileyo nezimbi. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuhlala uzama.

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo unengxaki efana nale, nceda ucele uncedo. Lihlala likho ithemba.