Ngaba wakha waziva uloyiko olukhulu okanye ukothuka xa ubona indoda? Mhlawumbi loo mntu akazange akwenze nto, okanye ade afune ukukulimaza nangayiphi na indlela. Kodwa uziva uxhalabile, ubila, kwaye ufuna ukubaleka. Ukuba ukhe waba nalo mava, namhlanje siza kuthetha ngesihloko esinokuba sibaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Ngokwezonyango, esi sisifo sibizwa ngokuba yi-Androphobia.
Ngamafutshane, yintoni i-Androphobia?
Igama elithi androphobia lenziwe ngamagama amabini esiGrike. Igama elithi "Andros" lithetha 'indoda' kwaye elithi "Phobia" lithetha 'uloyiko'. Ngoko ke, ngokulula nje, i-androphobia luloyiko olungaqhelekanga, olugqithisileyo, nolungenangqiqo lwamadoda. Olu asiloloyiko nje oluqhelekileyo. Olu luloyiko, oluyingxaki yokuxhalaba.
Abanye abantu baziva olu loyiko kuphela xa indoda ivelela. Abanye banokuba nalo olu loyiko nokuba babona ifoto yendoda okanye beva ilizwi lendoda. Olu loyiko lunokuba nzulu kangangokuba lunokuba nefuthe elikhulu kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, emsebenzini, kwanakubudlelwane bakho nabantu.
Ingaba oku kukungalungi?
Le yindawo apho abantu abaninzi badideka khona. I-Androphobia ayikuko ukuthiya amadoda. Ukuthiya amadoda kubizwa ngokuba yiMisandry . Yinto eyahlukileyo leyo. Kukho intiyo, umsindo kuyo.
Cinga ngale ndlela. Umntu uyoyika izinja. Oko akuthethi ukuba uyazithiya izinja. Uyoyika xa ebona inja, uyoyika ukusondela kwenye. Kodwa akazithiyi izinja. I-Androphobia yinto efana naleyo. Luloyiko, asilulo intiyo.
Kutheni umntu enale meko?
Kunzima ukufumana unobangela ocacileyo nowodwa woku. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, le meko iqala ebuntwaneni. Amava amabi, awoyikisayo kunye nendoda ebuntwaneni anokuba yimbangela enkulu.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba olu loyiko alulotyala lakho. Luhlobo nje lwempendulo yengqondo enxulumene namava akho angaphambili.
Ezi zinto zilandelayo zinokubangela i-androphobia:
| Unobangela | Ingcaciso elula |
|---|---|
| Amava Abuhlungu | Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokweemvakalelo ebuntwaneni, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, kunye nobundlobongela basekhaya zezona zizathu ziphambili. Ezi ziganeko zinokukhokelela kwisifo soxinzelelo emva kwengozi (PTSD) kunye nolu loyiko. |
| Ukubona okanye ukuva (Ukubona Isiganeko) | Nokuba awuzange ube namava amabi, ukubona umama wakho, udadewenu, okanye omnye umntu exhatshazwa yindoda nako kunokubangela olu loyiko. |
| Amanani Athusayo | Uloyiko oluqhelekileyo lwabantu lunokuvela kwizinto ezifana nokusongelwa rhoqo kunye nokukhalinyelwa ngutitshala, utata, okanye omnye umntu onegunya lendoda ngexesha lobuntwana. |
| Imfuza kunye nempembelelo yoSapho | Ukuba omnye wabazali bakho une-phobia okanye esinye isifo sokuxhalaba, kusenokwenzeka ukuba nawe ube nayo. Kwakhona, ukuba kunye nomntu one-androphobia kunokukwenza ube noloyiko olufanayo. |
Ngubani onokuba noloyiko olunjalo?
Abafazi banamathuba aphindwe kabini okufumana esi sifo sokoyika kakhulu kunamadoda. Ukongeza, abantu abanezi meko zilandelayo nabo basengozini enkulu yokuhlaselwa yi-androphobia:
- Ukuba nezinye iiphobias.
- Ezinye iingxaki zokuxhalaba.
- Ingxaki yokuxhalaba.
- Ingxaki yokusebenzisa iziyobisi.
Zithini iimpawu zomntu one-androphobia?
Ezi mpawu zinokwahluka kumntu nomntu. Nangona abanye abantu besenokuziva kancinci, abanye banokuziva zinzima kakhulu ukuba zingathwalwa. Xa umntwana omncinci evakalelwa lolu loyiko, usenokukhala, akhale, okanye abaleke aze azame ukuzimela.
Njengomntu omdala, nangona besazi ukuba uloyiko abaluvayo alunangqiqo kwaye alunangqiqo, abakwazi ukulawula indlela umzimba osabela ngayo.
| Iimpawu Zomzimba | Iimpawu Zengqondo Neemvakalelo |
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Ugqirha ufumanisa njani ukuba le yi-Androphobia?
Akukho vavanyo lucacileyo loku. Ingcali yezengqondo okanye ingcali yezengqondo ingaxilonga le meko emva kokuxoxa kakuhle ngeempawu zakho. Ezi zinto zilandelayo zihlala ziqwalaselwa xa kuxilongwa:
- Ukoyika amadoda kakhulu kangangeenyanga ezingaphezu kwezi-6 .
- Ukuziva usoyika ngoko nangoko xa ukufutshane nendoda okanye ucinga ngayo.
- Olu loyiko lukhokelela ekuphepheni ngabom iindawo apho kukho amadoda.
- Olu loyiko lunempembelelo enkulu kwimisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla (emsebenzini, kubudlelwane nabantu) .
- Uloyiko oluvayo lukhulu kakhulu kunoloyiko lokwenyani .
Ngaba kukho naluphi na unyango oluphumelelayo koku?
Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo! Le yimeko enokunyangeka. Abantu abaninzi bayasinda phantse ngokupheleleyo kule meko ngonyango lwengqondo, kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko, amayeza. Ezi zezona ndlela zonyango ziphambili.
| Indlela Yonyango | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo (i-CBT) | Oku kuquka ukukunceda utshintshe indlela ocinga ngayo ngamadoda, iindlela zokucinga ezidala olo loyiko. Uziqeqesha nokutshintsha indlela osabela ngayo kuloyiko xa luvela. Ukuba olu loyiko lunxulumene namava adlulileyo abuhlungu, oko kuxoxwa ngako kolu nyango. |
| Unyango lokuvezwa | Le yindlela esebenzayo kakhulu. Into oyenzayo kukuzibeka kwindawo oyoyikayo, engamadoda, kwindawo elawulwayo nekhuselekileyo. Okokuqala ujonga umfanekiso wendoda, uze ubukele ividiyo, uze ujonge umntu okude, uze usondele, uze unciphise uloyiko lwakho kancinci kancinci. Olu nyango luphumelela kwi-90% yabantu abane-phobias. |
| Amayeza | Amayeza okulwa noxinzelelo angasetyenziswa okwethutyana. Anokunceda ukulawula iimpawu, ingakumbi xa uqalisa unyango lwengqondo. Abanye abantu banokufuna amayeza okwethutyana. Oku kugqitywa ngugqirha wakho. |
Yintoni enokwenzeka ukuba awufumani unyango?
Kunzima kakhulu ukuzama ukuhlala nolu loyiko. Ukuba alunyangwa, olu loyiko lunokuba mandundu kwaye lukhokelele kwezinye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo.
- Uxinzelelo: Kukho ithuba elikhulu lokuba uxinezeleko lukhule xa uhlala usoyika kwaye uzimele.
- Uhlaselo Loloyiko: Ingqokelela yeempawu zomzimba ezikhawulezileyo nezinamandla ezihamba noloyiko olukhulu. Oku kunokuvakala ngathi kukuhlaselwa yintliziyo.
- Ingxaki Yokuxhalaba: Ukuhlaselwa luloyiko rhoqo kunye noloyiko oluqhubekayo lokuhlaselwa kwakhona.
Ukuba ngequbuliso uziva uloyiko olukhulu olubangela iintlungu esifubeni, ubunzima bokuphefumla, okanye ukuphefumla okunzima, yiya kwigumbi likaxakeka esibhedlele (ETU) ngoko nangoko. Kubalulekile ukuba ugqirha aqinisekise ukuba luhlaselo lwentliziyo okanye luhlaselo loloyiko.
Nanini na xa ubona ugqirha,
Ukuba ufumana nayiphi na kwezi zilandelayo, bonana nogqirha ngaphandle kokulibazisa.
- Ukuba ukuhlaselwa luloyiko kwenzeka.
- EyakhoUkuba olu loyiko lukuchaphazela kangangokuba luphazamisa ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla okanye ubuthongo bakho.
- Ukuba uneempawu zokudakumba (ukudinwa yinto yonke, usizi, ukuphelelwa lithemba).
- Ukuba ukhe wasebenzisa utywala okanye iziyobisi ukulawula olu loyiko.
Thetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto ngokukhululekileyo. Angakuthumela kwingcali, njengogqirha wengqondo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-Androphobia ayilothiyo lwamadoda, luloyiko olungaqhelekanga nolunzulu lwamadoda.
- Oku akungobuthathaka bakho, yimeko yempilo efuna unyango.
- Idla ngokuba sisizathu sale nto ngamava abuhlungu ayenzeka ebuntwaneni.
- Iindlela zonyango lwengqondo ezifana ne-Exposure Therapy kunye ne-CBT zisebenza kakhulu ekupheliseni olu loyiko phantse ngokupheleleyo.
- Eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukungabandezeleki wedwa, kodwa kukubona ugqirha othembekileyo uze ucele uncedo.
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