Ngaba nawe uziva uxinezelekile emva kokubeleka? Masithethe 'nge-Birth Trauma'

Ukuzala sisiganeko esikhethekileyo nesitshintsha ubomi bomama, akunjalo? Sonke sinethemba lokuya ekhaya sonwabile kwaye sisempilweni nomntwana. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, izinto ezenzeka ngaphambi, ngexesha, okanye emva kokubeleka zinokubangela intlungu enkulu kunye noxinzelelo. Oku sikubiza ngokuba yi-'Birth Trauma'.

Yintoni kanye kanye le 'ntlungu yokuzalwa'?

Ngamafutshane, 'Ukwenzakala Ekuzalweni' yiyo nayiphi na intlungu okanye ukothuka okufumanayo ngexesha lokubeleka. Izibalo kumazwe afana ne-United States zibonisa ukuba umama omnye kwabathathu ujongene namava anjalo abuhlungu.

Cinga ngako, oku kwahlukile kumntu wonke. Mhlawumbi ukuba bekukho imeko engxamisekileyo esongela ubomi ngexesha lokubeleka, okanye ukuba ukuzala kuthathe ixesha elide kunokuba bekulindelwe okanye bekunzima kakhulu, izinto ezinjalo zinokubangela 'ukulimala kokuzalwa'.

Amava abuhlungu anje anokuchaphazela ubomi bakho kangangeenyanga, kwaneminyaka. Akachaphazeli umama obeleke kuphela. Angachaphazela neqabane lakho, abasebenzi bezempilo abakuncedileyo, okanye nabani na owabona ukubeleka. Angakhokelela nakwiPostpartum Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) kunye nePostpartum Depression .

Kutheni oku kusenzeka? Zithini izizathu 'zokubangela i-Birth Trauma'?

Zininzi izizathu zokuba ukuzala umntwana kube buhlungu kakhulu. Olu buhlungu lunokuba lolwenyama okanye olwengqondo. Ezinye zezizathu zinokukuchaphazela, ezinye zinokuchaphazela umntwana wakho, okanye kukho izinto ezichaphazela zombini. Ezinye iingxaki zinokwenzeka ngexesha lokukhulelwa, ngelixa ezinye zenzeka emva kokuzala.

Izizathu zomzimba

Ezi zihlala zinxulumene nokwenzakala ngexesha lokubeleka, okanye into esinokuyibona okanye esiyichukumise.

• Ukulimala kokuzalwa: Oku akwenzeki rhoqo, kodwa kunokwenzeka. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho ubhajwa emjelweni wokuzalwa aze alimale. Okanye mhlawumbi isibeleko sakho siyaqhekeka uze kufuneka wenze utyando olungxamisekileyo.
• Iingxaki zokuzalwa: Umzekelo, ukufuneka wenze utyando olungxamisekileyo lwe-C-section , okanye ukusebenzisa i-forceps okanye i-vacuum ukususa umntwana. Kwakhona, ukopha kakhulu (ukuphuma kwegazi emva kokubeleka) okanye ukukrazuka okukhulu kwesini kunokubangela ukwenzakala emzimbeni.
• Iimeko ezingxamisekileyo ezisongela ubomi:Ukuzala umntwana ngamanye amaxesha kuyinto engaqhelekanga. Nangona kungaqhelekanga, ezinye iziganeko ezisongela ubomi zinokwenzeka. Ezi ziganeko zibangela intlungu kubo bonke ababandakanyekayo.

Izizathu zengqondo

Ezi zizinto zengqondo, oko kuthetha ukuba zizinto ozivayo ngenxa yamava.

• Umntwana wakho usenokufuna unyango: Ukuba umntwana wakho uzelwe enesimo esithile sempilo, ugqirha wezingane angamsa umntwana kwi -NICU (i-Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) emva nje kokuzalwa. Oomama abaninzi abayi kukwazi ukubona okanye ukuchukumisa umntwana wabo kangangeeyure ezininzi. "Ngaba umntwana wam uza kuphila?" yinkxalabo enkulu kunye nexhala.
• Ukuziva ungaxhaswa: Ngexesha lokubeleka, ungaziva ngathi awufumananga nkxaso nonyango obulufuna , nokuba liqela lezonyango okanye abantu obathandayo. Khawucinge ukuba bekuya kuba njani ukuba ubuziva ngathi akukho mntu ukumameleyo okanye okuqondayo xa usentlungwini?
• Ukuvakalelwa ngathi awunalawulo: Nokuba zithini na izinto ozifunayo, izinto zingavakala ngathi azikho phantsi kolawulo lwakho. Indlela engalindelekanga yokuzala umntwana inokuba nzima kuba awunalawulo lokuba kuza kwenzeka njani okanye nini.
• Ukungafumani amava obuwalindele: Mhlawumbi ubucinga ukuba ukuzala kuya kuba ngamava amahle, anoxolo, naphumzayo. Kodwa ukuba kuvela into eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo, kunokuba ngumthombo wosizi nomothuko. Kuyadabukisa ukucinga, "Akukuko oku ebendikuphupha," akunjalo?

Ngubani onokuba nethuba 'lokufumana iTrauma yokuzalwa'? (Izinto ezibangela umngcipheko)

Kukho izinto ezithile ezibangela umngcipheko wokuba umntu abe 'nentlungu yokuzalwa'. Ezinye zazo zezi:

• Ukuba ukhe wahlangabezana nobunzima bokuzala ngexesha lokubeleka okanye ukukhulelwa kwangaphambili.
• Ukuba umntwana wangaphambili uswelekile, wazalwa eswelekile okanye waphunyelwa sisisu .
• Ukuba kukho imbali yokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo okanye ukuxhatshazwa.
• Ukuba sele uneengxaki zempilo yengqondo ezifana nokudakumba , ixhala , okanye i-PTSD .

Uyazi njani ukuba 'une-Birth Trauma'? (Iimpawu kunye neempawu)

Ukuba wena okanye umntu osondeleyo kuwe usandul’ ukufumana umntwana, khangela iimpawu ezithile ezinokuthi zibonise ‘ukwenzakala ekuzalweni’. Abantu ababona ukuzalwa (njengeqabane lakho noogqirha) nabo banokubonisa ezi mpawu.

Ezinye zeempawu 'zoMkhuhlane woKuzalwa' zezi:

• Unamaphupha amabi ngokuzala, okanye usoloko ucinga ngezinto ezikuphazamisayo. Xa ucinga ngenkumbulo yakho kwakhona,Ukuhlaselwa luloyiko kunokwenzeka, okanye ungaziva ulusizi okanye umsindo onganyamezelekiyo.
• Bayaphepha nantoni na ebakhumbuza ngokubeleka. Oku kuthetha ukuphepha ukuhamba kwiipaseji zesibhedlele, ukungafuni ukubona abafazi abakhulelweyo, njl. Abanye abantu banokuphepha neentsana zabo.
• Uhlala uxhalabile, uxhalabile, kwaye uyoyika, uzibuza, "Kuza kwenzeka ntoni kumntwana wam?" Oku kunokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba umntwana wakho wenzekele ngexesha lokuzalwa okanye kwafuneka ahlale kwi -NICU . Usenokuhlala uxhalabile, "Ngaba umntwana wam uza kuphinda agule, ngaba uza kufuna unyango olukhethekileyo kwakhona?"
• Uziva uphantsi kakhulu, ucinga ukuba, "Ndingumntu osileleyo, ndingunobangela wako konke oku." Abantu abaninzi abanesifo sokudakumba emva kokuzalwa nabo bane-'birth trauma'.
• Ukuze siphephe le meko , singasebenzisa iindlela zokuziphatha ezingalunganga, njengokusela utywala, ukutshaya, ukusebenzisa iziyobisi, okanye ukuchitha imali eninzi kakhulu.

Kuza kwenzeka ntoni ukuba le meko iyaqhubeka? (Iziphumo zexesha elide)

Ukushiya i-trauma yokuzalwa inganyangwanga kunokukuchaphazela iminyaka emininzi. Kunokuchaphazela nosapho lwakho kunye nabahlobo.

Iziphumo ezinokwenzeka kumama:

• Iintlungu ezingapheliyo: Ungayiphepha okanye uyilibazise unyango lweemeko ezinje ngokukhula kwamalungu omzimba esinqeni (ukuhla kwamalungu omzimba esinqeni) ezinxulumene nokuzala kunye nomonakalo wemithambo-luvo.
• Ukuzahlula kumntwana wakho okanye ubunzima bokunxulumana nomntwana wakho: Olu xinzelelo lunokwenza kube nzima kuwe ukunxulumana nomntwana wakho. Usenokude ulingeke ukuba umtyhole umntwana. Oku kunokukhokelela ekubeni uzive unetyala ngakumbi kwaye uhlazeke. Usenokucinga, "Andingomama olungileyo na?" Kodwa khumbula, asilotyala lakho, sisiphumo soxinzelelo.
• Uxinzelelo okanye iingcinga zokuzibulala: Ukuba uneengcinga zokuzilimaza, usana lwakho, okanye omnye umntu, nceda utsalele umnxeba okanye uthumele umyalezo ku-988 ngoko nangoko, okanye uthethe nomntu omthembayo.

Iziphumo ezinokwenzeka kumntwana:

Ukulimala kokuzalwa kunokuchaphazela nomntwana wakho. Kunokubangela ukulibaziseka kokukhula okanye kwandise umngcipheko weengxaki zempilo yengqondo ezifana nokuxhalaba.

Ezinye izifundo zibonise ukuba ukwenzakala kunokudluliselwa ngee-genes . Oko kuthetha ukuba ukwenzakala kukwi -DNA yakho.Inokuba nefuthe elihlala lihleli kwindlela oziphatha ngayo. Kwakhona, uphando lubonisa ukuba xa umntwana ekhulela kwikhaya apho abanakekeli besenzakele khona, loo mntwana usenokuba neempendulo ezibuhlungu. Umzekelo, ukuba uyoyika izibhedlele noogqirha, umntwana wakho usenokuba noloyiko lokukuxelela xa egula.

Ngaba ukuzala umntwana kunokubangela i-PTSD?

Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo kunokubangela. Ukuzala umntwana kunokubangela i-Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) . Nangona izifundo zahlukile, malunga nomntu omnye kwabalishumi uba ne-PTSD emva kokuzala.

Ungenza ntoni ukuba une-'Birth Trauma'? Ungalufumana njani uncedo?

Ukuqonda iimpawu zokulimala kokuzalwa kunokuba nzima. Kunokuba nzima nangakumbi ukufumana isisombululo nokucela uncedo. Ukuba uhlala uzibuza, "Ngaba ndihlaselwa kukuzalwa?", mhlawumbi unayo. Ziphulaphule. Musa ukuba neentloni okanye uzive unetyala ngamava akho okanye indlela achaphazela ngayo ubomi bakho. Ukufihla iimvakalelo zakho kunye neempawu zakho kuya kwandisa kwaye kube mandundu oko ukutyhubelayo.

Ukuba unentlungu yokuzalwa, inyathelo lokuqala elifanelekileyo kukubona ugqirha. Yabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho, amava akho nabo. Baxelele ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwentlungu onayo kunye nendlela ekuchaphazela ngayo. Banokukwazi ukukuthumela kumboneleli wezempilo yengqondo ogxile kwintlungu yokuzalwa okanye kwi-PTSD.

Zithini iindlela zonyango?

Indlela ochacha ngayo emva kokwenzakala kokuzalwa yahlukile kumntu wonke. Kuxhomekeke kwinto eyenzekileyo ngexesha lokuzalwa kwakho kunye nokuba yayinzima kangakanani. Nazi ezinye iindlela onokuzithatha ukuze uhlangabezane nokwenzakala kokuzalwa:

• Thetha nogqirha wakho: Ugqirha wakho unokucebisa iingcebiso , amayeza, okanye ezinye iindlela zonyango. Banokukunceda uqonde okwenzekileyo ngexesha lesiganeko esibuhlungu kunye nesizathu sokuba senzeke. Thetha nabo malunga nendlela oziva ngayo, ukuze bakuncede ufumane unyango olukufaneleyo.
• Yabelana ngebali lakho: Nangona kunokubonakala kunzima ukulixela, ukwabelana ngebali lakho linyathelo lokuqala elihle lokunqoba ukwenzakala kokuzalwa. Ukuba ukuthetha ngalo kunzima, zama ukubhala ngalo okanye urekhode ividiyo. Cinga ngokwabelana ngebali lakho njengendlela yokukhupha iimvakalelo zakho ezimbi kunye neengcinga zakho.
• Ziqhelise ukuzinyamekela: Beka impilo-ntle yakho kunye nokuphumla kwakho phambili. Zinike ixesha lokwenza izinto ozithandayo. Fumana iindlela ezintsha zokuzola ingqondo yakho kunye nokuphumla. I-YogaIzinto ezinje ngokuhamba, ukucamngca, njalo njalo zinokuba luncedo kakhulu.
• Joyina iqela lenkxaso: Fumana iqela lenkxaso lasekuhlaleni okanye elikwi-intanethi apho abanye oomama abadlula kwimeko efanayo nawe. Kunokuba ngumthombo omkhulu wamandla xa abanye abaye bahlangabezana nobunzima bokuzalwa bekumamela kwaye bekuqonda.

Kuza kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuze umntu aphile kule meko?

Kwahlukile kumntu wonke. Unokuba nomvandedwa wokuzalwa kangangeenyanga ezimbalwa, okanye kungathatha amashumi eminyaka. Kuxhomekeke ekubeni ufuna uncedo na kwaye yintoni na loo nto ibuhlungu.

Ukuchacha akwenzeki ngendlela efanayo okanye ngendlela efanayo kubo bonke abantu. Kwaye akusoloko kuhamba ngendlela ethe tye. Musa ukuziva kakubi ngohambo lwakho lokuchacha, nokuba kunzima okanye kuhamba kancinci kunabanye obaziyo.

Uzinyamekela njani xa unesifo sokuzalwa esibizwa ngokuba yi-'birth trauma'?

Ukuvuma iimvakalelo zakho nokufuna uncedo zezona zinto zibalaseleyo onokuzenza ukuze uzinyamekele. Ukonzakala kuyinyani, kwaye iimvakalelo zakho zifanelekile. Cinga ngokubona ingcali yezengqondo zokuzala okanye ingcali ye-PTSD enokukunceda uphile. Nokuba uncediswa ziingcali, kuthatha ixesha ukuba uphile emva kokuzalwa okubuhlungu. Yiba nomonde kuwe njengoko ujongana neemvakalelo zakho.

Ngaba kufuneka ndiye kugqirha? Ndifanele ndithethe nini?

Ukuba intlungu yokubeleka ichaphazela ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, qiniseka ukuba ubona ugqirha. Ezinye iziphumo zokubeleka zezexeshana, kodwa ezinye azinjalo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uqhubeke ubandezeleka ngenxa yoxinzelelo lweemvakalelo okanye intlungu yomzimba yokubeleka. Kukho unyango olunokukunceda uzive ungcono. Ukuba uzibuza ukuba, "Ndifanele ndithethe nogqirha?" mhlawumbi ufanele uthethe. Ungathetha nangeemvakalelo zakho kutyelelo lwakho lwasemva kokubeleka.

Kuqhelekile ukuba namaphupha namathemba ngokuzalwa komntwana wakho. Uphupha ngokubeleka okukhawulezileyo, ukuzala okulula, kwaye ubambe umntwana osandul’ ukuzalwa osempilweni nowonwabileyo ezandleni zakho. Kodwa ukuzisa umntwana emhlabeni kunokuba yinto engalindelekanga kakhulu. Nokuba ufuna kangakanani na ukuyilawula, izinto ezenzeka ngexesha lokubeleka zihlala zingaphaya kwamandla akho. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho wenzakele kakhulu. Okanye mhlawumbi ubucinga ukuba uza kuvuya kakhulu xa udibana nomntwana wakho, kodwa endaweni yoko uzive usoyika.

Abantu abaninzi abazinanzi iimvakalelo zabo okanye bazijongele phantsi kuba becinga ukuba oko kubenza babonakale bebuthathaka, bengaphumeleli, okanye ukuba amaxhala abo ayinto engenamsebenzi. Usenokucinga ukuba nguwe wedwa umntu emhlabeni ongabaliseliyo ibali lokuzala kwabo. Kodwa oku kuqheleke kakhulu kunokuba unokucinga.Ukulimala kokuzalwa akunakucinywa, kodwa awunakukwazi ukuzinceda. Ungathetha nogqirha wakho malunga neemvakalelo zakho uze umcele ukuba akucebise ngonyango oluya kukunceda uphile.

Umyalezo wokugqibela oya ekhaya

Ukuzala lucelomngeni kwaye luyintsikelelo. Ayizizo zonke izinto ezintle. Ukuba uziva ungonwabanga, wothukile, okanye uneentlungu ezinxulumene nokuzala, nceda ungakufihli oko.

• Awuwedwa. Kukho nabanye abaninzi abadlula kwiimeko ezifanayo.
• Iimvakalelo zakho zibalulekile. Musa ukuzithatha lula.
• Musa ukoyika ukucela uncedo. Ukuthetha nogqirha, umcebisi, umhlobo othembekileyo, okanye ilungu losapho kunokuba luncedo kakhulu.
• Kuthatha ixesha ukuphiliswa, zinike ixesha. Yiba nobubele kuwe.

Khumbula, umama onamandla akangomntu ongajongani neengxaki, kodwa ngumntu ofuna uncedo lokujongana nazo xa zivela. Unothando nenkxaso yethu yonke kolu hambo!

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