Ngamanye amaxesha umntu uthi kuthi, "Phuma uye kuzilolonga, yonke into iza kulunga." Elo licebiso elihle. Kodwa uqala njani ukuzilolonga xa ungenawo namandla okuvuka ebhedini kusasa kwaye ungafuni nokuhlamba umzimba wakho? Ngumbuzo omkhulu lowo.
Xa uxinezelekile kakhulu, oko kukuthi, uxinezeleko, kunzima ukufumana amandla okwenza nantoni na. Ingakumbi izinto ezifana nokuzilolonga, ukudibana nabahlobo kunye nosapho, kunye nokutya kakuhle. Ngamanye amaxesha nokusela amayeza achazwe ngugqirha wakho kunokuvakala ngathi ngumsebenzi onzima.
Kodwa ukuqhawula lo mjikelo unzima woxinzelelo yindlela ekuphela kwayo yokulawula ubomi bakho kwakhona. Ngoko ke, masithethe ngento onokuyenza ukulawula le meko.
Ingaba olu luxinzelelo ngenene? (Ngaba luxinzelelo?)
Ukuqonda ukuba unesifo sokudakumba linyathelo lokuqala lokuba ngcono. Wonke umntu uziva edakumbile kwaye exhalabile ngamanye amaxesha. Kuqhelekile. Nangona kunjalo, le meko yokudakumba ihlala iintsuku okanye iiveki. Kwaye inokuchaphazela kakhulu amandla akho okwenza imisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla kunye nokujongana neengxaki zobomi.
Khawucinge nje, indlela owawukuthanda ngayo ukudlala ikhilikithi nabahlobo bakho, ukubukela imuvi, okanye ukuya kuhambo olufutshane. Kodwa ngoku awusafuni kwenza nayiphi na kwezo zinto. Ukruqukile yiyo yonke into. Yiloo ndlela oziva ngayo xa ukruqukile.
Jonga ukuze ubone ukuba unazo na iimpawu ezikwitheyibhile engasezantsi.
| Uphawu | Ingcaciso elula |
|---|---|
| Ukubekwa wedwa koluntu | Ukuzama ukuba wedwa, kude nosapho nabahlobo. |
| Ukuziva uphoxekile | Iimvakalelo ezinje "akukho nto ihamba kakuhle", "ubomi bam buphelile". |
| Ukudinwa bubomi | Iingcinga ezihlala zihleli malunga nokulahlekelwa bubomi okanye ukufa komntu. |
| Ukudinwa komzimba | Ukuziva ungenamandla okwenza nantoni na, uhlala udiniwe. |
| Andonwabanga | Akusekho nto imnandi kwizinto ezazikuzisela uvuyo (umz. ukumamela ingoma, ukubukela imovie). |
| Utshintsho ebuthongweni | Ukulala ngalo lonke ixesha okanye ukungalali konke konke. |
| Utshintsho kwindlela yokutya | Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla wokutya okanye ukutya kakhulu. |
| Umsindo oqhelekileyo | Ukucaphuka ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yezinto ezincinci, uzive uxhalabile. |
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba, ukuba unale mpawu, ayilotyala lakho okanye ubuthathaka. Le yimeko enokunyangeka.
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Ukuba uziva uxinezelekile kangangokuba awukwazi nokuvuka ebhedini, ukuhlamba umzimba wakho, okanye ukwenza nayiphi na imisebenzi yasekhaya, kwaye ukuphuma endlwini kuvakala ngathi kukunyuka intaba enkulu, ngoko ke ukusebenzisa amayeza yeyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza .
Amayeza okudakumba anokukunceda unciphise amanqanaba akho oxinzelelo, akuncede ugxile kwimisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla, kwaye akuncede uthathe inxaxheba kwizinto ezifana nonyango. Ngamanye amazwi, anokukunceda uphume kuloo mjikelo unzima.
La mayeza akwanceda ekuthinteleni iingcinga ezimbi ukuba zingaphumi engqondweni yakho ("Oku akusayi kuze kube ngcono", "Ndiza kuhlala ndinje"). Kunzima kakhulu ukuphuma kule meko logama nje ezo ngcinga zikhona. Ukuba izinto ezifana 'neengxaki zengqondo' ebomini bakho zibangela oku, kukwanceda kakhulu ukufumana ingcebiso kunye namayeza.
Khumbula ezi zinto xa usebenzisa amayeza:
- Umonde ubalulekile:Ezinye izidambisi-ntlungu ziqala ngedosi ephantsi. Jonga ukuba ufumana naziphi na iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga. Emva kweveki okanye ezimbini, ukuba kuyimfuneko, idosi inokwandiswa kancinci kancinci. La mayeza awasebenzi ngobusuku obunye. Amanye athatha ixesha ukusebenza. Kudla ngokuthatha malunga neeveki ezintandathu ngaphambi kokuba uqalise ukuziva naziphi na iziphumo. Ngoko ke yiba nomonde kwaye uhlale unxibelelana nogqirha wakho.
- Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo: Oogqirha namhlanje baneentlobo ezininzi zemithi yokuthomalalisa uxinezeleko abanokukhetha kuzo. Ukuba enye ayisebenzi, banokutshintsha idosi, batshintshele kwenye iyeza, okanye bongeze elinye iyeza.
- Ukukhetha amayeza: Ukukhetha amayeza kusekelwe kwiimpawu zakho eziphambili kunye nemiphumo enokubakho. Umzekelo, ezinye iziyobisi zokudakumba zinokubangela ukozela. Ngoko ke, umntu onengxaki yokulala ebusuku unokuzuza kuloo mayeza.
Okubaluleke kakhulu: Ukuba usela amayeza okudakumba, thetha nogqirha wakho rhoqo, ingakumbi xa uqala amayeza amatsha okanye wenza naluphi na utshintsho. Ngale ndlela, unokulawula ngokukhawuleza naziphi na iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezivelayo.
Indlela yokujongana nale meko ngokutshintsha indlela yokuphila
Kunye namayeza kunye neengcebiso, utshintsho oluncinci kwindlela ophila ngayo lunokukunceda woyise le meko. Ukuzilolonga imihla ngemihla, ukutya ukutya okunesondlo, kunye nokudibana nabahlobo kunye nosapho kubalulekile.
Yinyaniso ukuba ezi zinto kulula ukuzithetha kunokuzithetha xa uxinezelekile, kodwa azinakwenzeka.
"Zenze ngathi awunaxinzelelo, kwaye kwiintsuku ezimbalwa uza kuqala ukuziva uphilile."
Oku akuthethi ukuba uzenze ngathi akukho ngxaki, kodwa kuthetha ukuthatha inyathelo ulindele ukuba izinto ziphinde zihambe kakuhle.
Ngaba masiqale ngeshedyuli encinci?
Okufuneka ukwenze kukwenza ishedyuli encinci.
- Ixesha lokuvuka kusasa
- Ixesha lokuhlamba
- Amaxesha okutya
- Ixesha elincinci lokuzilolonga (malunga nemizuzu eli-15)
- Lixesha lokulala ebusuku.
Zama ukusebenza ngokwesi sicwangciso. Kusenokuba nzima ekuqaleni, kodwa emva kwexesha elithile kuya kuba ngumkhwa. Emva koko uya kuziva ukuba izinto ziya kuba lula kancinci kancinci, kwaye uya kuqala ukuziva wonwabile njengangaphambili.
Imikhwa esempilweni efana nale inokunceda ekuthinteleni le meko ukuba ingaphindi yenzeke kwixesha elizayo. Abantu abanengxaki yokudakumba banokubuyela kule ndawo imnyama ngenxa yeengxaki eziza nobomi.
Asinakutshintsha ii-genes zethu, kodwa singayitshintsha indawo esikuyo ukuze sithintele oku ukuba kungenzeki kwakhona. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza oko kukwakha ukuqina kwakho. Oko kuthetha ukuba, musa ukuzenza ikheswa. Hlala unxibelelene nabahlobo kunye nosapho. Ezo nxibelelwano loluntu zizikhuselo eziya kukukhusela kwiingxaki zexesha elizayo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukudakumba akubobuthathaka, sisifo esinokunyangeka.
- Ukuqonda nokuqonda iimpawu zakho linyathelo lokuqala lokuchacha.
- Musa ukuba neentloni okanye ukoyika, bonana nogqirha okanye ugqirha othembekileyo uze ucele ingcebiso.
- Amayeza okudakumba kunye nonyango ziluncedo kakhulu ekunyangweni oku.
- Nika amayeza ixesha lokuba asebenze. Yiba nomonde kwaye ulandele imiyalelo kagqirha wakho.
- Utshintsho oluncinci kwindlela yokuphila (ukusebenza ngokweshedyuli, ukwenza umthambo omncinci) kunokwenza umahluko omkhulu.
- Ungaze ubandezeleke wedwa. Hlala unxibelelene nabantu obathandayo. Ngabo amandla akho amakhulu.
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