Ubomi butshintsha kakhulu kumama omtsha emva kokuba umntwana wakho ezelwe, akunjalo? Nangona kusenokwenzeka ukuba uziva uvuyo olukhulu, usenokuba nokudinwa okukhulu, ukudideka, okanye nomsindo omkhulu ngezinto ezincinci. Ngaba uzifumana uvutha ngumsindo ngequbuliso okanye ufuna ukukhalaza ngento encinci ecaphukisayo? Ukuba kunjalo, nceda uqonde kuqala ukuba awuwedwa kule nto. Namhlanje, masithethe ngaloo msindo ogqithisileyo abanye oomama abawuvayo emva kokubeletha—imeko eyaziwa ngokuba yi-"Postpartum Rage."
Yintoni i-Postpartum Rage?
Ngamafutshane, i-Postpartum Rage ibhekisa kumsindo oqatha, okunzima ukuwulawula, ukucaphuka, okanye iimvakalelo zobundlobongela ezifunyanwa ngabanye oomama emva kokubeleka, ingakumbi kwiiveki nakwiinyanga ezilandelayo. Ezinye izifundo zibonisa ukuba i-Postpartum Rage idla ngokuvela kunye nezinye iimeko eziqhelekileyo zempilo yengqondo, ezifana nokudandatheka emva kokubeleka kunye nokuxhalaba emva kokubeleka.
Kuqhelekile ukuba imeko yakho yengqondo kunye nempilo yakho yengqondo itshintshe emva kokuba nomntwana. Cinga ngale nto: iihomoni zakho ziyatshintshatshintsha kakhulu , imisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla iphazamiseke ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ulungelelanisa uxanduva olutsha phantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu. Xa ubandakanya ukungalali kakuhle , olu tshintsho lweemvakalelo lunokuqina. Nangona kunjalo, eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba ezi mvakalelo zezexeshana . Awuwedwa; ukuba ulwa nalo msindo, ukucaphuka, okanye ukukhungatheka, uncedo luyafumaneka.
Enyanisweni, iingcali zisasebenza ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo ukuba kutheni abanye abantu befumana le ngqumbo ingalawulekiyo emva kokubeleka. Ukongeza, i-Postpartum Rage okwangoku ayichazwanga njengoxilongo olusemthethweni lwezonyango. Nangona kunjalo, ababoneleli bezempilo bayayiqonda into yokuba ikhona kwaye baxhotyiswe kakuhle ukukuxhasa. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza oku kukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo nogqirha wakho malunga neempawu zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ukuze bakwazi ukufumanisa eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokukunceda.
Kubalulekile: Ukuba uzifumana unengcinga zokuzilimaza wena, usana lwakho, okanye omnye umntu, nceda uqhagamshelane neenkonzo zongxamiseko (ezifana ne-911) okanye isebe lezongxamiseko lasekuhlaleni ngokukhawuleza ukuze ufune uncedo. Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntu omthandayo udlula koku, mnike inkxaso kwaye umkhuthaze ukuba afune iingcebiso zonyango lobuchwephesha ngeNirogi Lanka okanye umboneleli wakhe wasekuhlaleni.
Ingaba le ngqumbo iyinxalenye yoxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka?
Umsindo emva kokubeletha kunye noxinzelelo emva kokubeletha ziingxaki ezahlukeneyo kodwa ezinxulumene kakhulu . Umsindo emva kokubeletha ubonakala ngokugqabhuka komsindo ngequbuliso, okungalawulekiyo. Nangona kunjalo, ungafumana lo msindo uqatha kunye neempawu zoxinzelelo emva kokubeletha, njengosizi olunzulu, ukuziva unetyala, okanye ukuba wedwa.
Okubalulekileyo kukuba, ungayifumana le ngqumbo nokuba ungenalo uxinezeleko oluqhelekileyo . Ngokufanayo, ayinguye wonke umntu onesifo soxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka ofumana uxinezeleko.
I-Postpartum Rage ayikafundwa nzulu okwangoku, kwaye iingcali ezininzi aziyibeki njengesifo sengqondo esizimeleyo ngendlela efanayo ne-Postpartum Depression. Nangona kunjalo, iingcali zonyango ziyaqonda ukuba le ngqumbo kunye noxinzelelo zihlala zikhona kunye.
Ngubani onokujamelana nobushushu bePostpartum Rage?
Ingxolo emva kokubeletha inokuchaphazela nabani na osandul’ ukuzala . Ixhaphake kakhulu kwiiveki ezintandathu zokuqala ukuya kunyaka omnye emva kokuzalwa. Abantu abanembali yeemeko zempilo yengqondo ezifana neBipolar Disorder okanye iimpawu ezikhoyo zePostpartum Depression banokuba semngciphekweni omkhulu.
Kuqheleke kangakanani oku?
Kukho izifundo ezimbalwa ezigxile kuphela kwi-Postpartum Rage, njengoko idla ngokubekwa phantsi kweempawu zePostpartum Depression. Nangona kunjalo, iingxaki zempilo yengqondo emva kokubeleka zixhaphake kakhulu kunokuba abantu becinga . Phantse umntu omnye kwaba-4Oomama banokuba nengxaki ethile yempilo yengqondo emva kokubeleka.
Zithini iimpawu ze-Postpartum Rage?
Ngokungafaniyo nezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo eziqhelekileyo ezifana noxinzelelo okanye ixhala, uphawu oluphambili lwe-Postpartum Rage ngumsindo . Kwixinzelelo, umntu unokuziva elusizi okanye ekhala rhoqo; kwixhala, umntu unokuziva eloyika okanye exhalabile rhoqo. Nangona kunjalo, ezi mpawu zinokudibana , oko kuthetha ukuba unokuziva ulusizi, umsindo, kunye nexhala ngaxeshanye.
Iimpawu zomsindo emva kokubeleka ziyahluka kumntu nomntu. Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo ziquka:
- Ukuqhuma ngequbuliso komsindo ngenxa yezinto ezincinci ezingakukhathaziyo ngokuqhelekileyo.
- Umnqweno onamandla wokukhwaza , okanye ukukhwaza rhoqo.
- Iminqweno yomzimba , efana nokubetha ivili lokuqhuba okanye ukutshixa iingcango.
- Ukugxila kwiziganeko okanye imiba ixesha elide ngokungaqhelekanga, uhlala ugcwele umsindo.
- Ukuziva ngathi umsindo wakho awulawuleki .
- Ukuthetha ngokugqithisileyo okanye ukuqhwanyaza rhoqo kunokuqhelekileyo.
- Ukucaphuka rhoqo, ukukhungatheka, okanye ukuziva "uphelelwe lithemba."
- Ukuziva ungakwazi ukumelana neemvakalelo zakho .
Ukuba unengxaki yokucaphuka emva kokubeletha, usenokuziva unomsindo, unomsindo, okanye ukhathazekile. Abanye bakuchaza oku ngokuthi "ukuziva ngathi igazi lakho liyabila" okanye ukuba nomnqweno omkhulu wokubetha umqamelo okanye ukukhwaza ukuze ukhulule uxinzelelo.
Yintoni ebangela i-Postpartum Rage?
Abaphandi bahlala befumana ulwazi olutsha malunga nokuphazamiseka kweemvakalelo emva kokuzalwa (ixesha elingaphambi nasemva kokuzalwa). Zininzi izinto ezinokubangela i-Postpartum Rage, eziquka:
- Ukwehla ngokukhawuleza kwamanqanaba e -estrogen kunye ne-progesterone hormone .
- Imbali yobuqu okanye yosapho yokudakumba okanye ukuxhalaba .
- Ukuphazamiseka kwendlela yokulala (ingakumbi ukungalali ngokwaneleyo — oku kunokubangela ingxaki enkulu koomama abatsha).
- Indlela egqithisileyo yokuziva iimvakalelo ezintsha kunye noxanduva lokunyamekela umntwana.
- Utshintsho olubalulekileyo emzimbeni wakho, kwindlela ophila ngayo, okanye kubudlelwane bakho.
Ezinye izifundo zibonisa ukuba ulindelo loluntu okanye lomntu ngamnye lokuba ngumzali lunokuba negalelo kwi-Postpartum Rage. Umzekelo, ukuziva ugwetywe ngabanye ngendlela yakho yokukhulisa abantwana, ukuqonda ubunyani bokuba ngumama akuhambelani nolindelo lwakho, okanye ukuziva ngathi unengxaki yokulawula uxanduva lwakho. Nokuba luxinzelelo oluvela kumalungu osapho okanye uxinzelelo lokungahlangabezani nemigangatho yakho yemisebenzi yasekhaya, olu xinzelelo loluntu nolwangaphakathi ngokuqinisekileyo lunokudlala indima.
Kutheni ndiziva ndinomsindo kangaka emva kokuba nomntwana?
Ukuba uziva unomsindo ongaqhelekanga okanye uphoxekile zizinto ezincinci emva kokuba nomntwana wakho, ndifuna ukukukhumbuza ukuba awuwedwa . "Umsindo emva kokubeletha" yinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye idla ngokuvela kunye okanye njengophawu loxinzelelo emva kokubeletha okanye ixhala emva kokubeletha. Nangona kunjalo, inokuzibonakalisa ngokwayo.
Kwiiveki ezilandela ukuzala, ubomi bakho buyatshintsha ngeendlela ezininzi, kwaye uninzi lwale nguqu lungaphaya kwamandla akho . Nceda uthethe nogqirha wakho malunga nendlela oziva ngayo. Musa ukuziva uneentloni okanye ufihle iimvakalelo zakho . Umboneleli wakho wezempilo ukhona ukuze akuphulaphule aze akunike unyango olufunayo.
Ifunyanwa njani "i-Postpartum Rage"?
"Umsindo ongasemva kokubeletha" awuloxilongo olusemthethweni lwezonyango kwi- Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5-TR®) . Iingcali zonyango ngokubanzi zilujonga njengophawu lwePerinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADs) .
Ababoneleli bakho bokhathalelo lokukhulelwa badla ngokubuza imibuzo yokuhlolwa kwengqondo yakho—ingakumbi malunga nokudakumba kunye nokuxhalaba—ngexesha lokuhlolwa kwakho emva kokuzalwa. Iimpendulo zakho ezinyanisekileyo ziyabanceda bagqibe ukuba ufuna izixhobo ezongezelelweyo okanye inkxaso. Banokubuza nokuba uqhubana njani nobomi bakho obutsha nomntwana wakho. Nceda unyaniseke kubo ; bakhona ukuqinisekisa ukuba ufumana inkxaso oyifaneleyo. Ugqirha wezingane womntwana wakho unokukubuza imibuzo ukujonga iimpawu zokudakumba, ukuxhalaba, okanye umsindo.
Ziziphi iindlela zonyango lwe-"Postpartum Rage"?
Musa ukuthandabuza ukuxelela ugqirha wakho wokubelekisa, umbelekisi, okanye ugqirha wosapho ngendlela oziva ngayo. Banokumisela isicwangciso sonyango esifanelekileyo kwiimpawu zakho ezithile, ezinokuquka:
- Amayeza: Amanye ama-SSRI okanye ama-SNRI anokunceda "ukunciphisa umngcipheko" kwaye akuncede ukulawula umsindo wakho ngempumelelo.
- Unyango lwengqondo: Ukudibana nogqirha wengqondo ukuze nixoxe ngeemvakalelo zenu nize nifunde iindlela zokujongana neengxaki kunokuba luncedo kakhulu.
- Amaqela eNkxaso: Ukujoyina amaqela e-intanethi okanye ubuso ngobuso nabanye abazali abatsha kunokukunceda uqinisekise iimvakalelo zakho kwaye kukukhumbuze ukuba awukho wedwa kolu hambo.
- Utshintsho kwindlela ophila ngayo: Ukwenza utshintsho oluncinci kwimisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla kunokukunceda uzive ngathi ungumntu onjani kwakhona. Umzekelo, ukufumana umntu oza kumjonga umntwana iiyure ezimbalwa ukuze ube nexesha lakho wedwa, okanye ukucela iqabane lakho ukuba limnike ukutya kube kanye ebusuku ukuze niphumle ngakumbi.
Ndingayinciphisa njani ingozi "yokuphuphuma komsindo emva kokubeletha"?
Izinto ezithile zinokwandisa umngcipheko wokuba nomsindo emva kokuzalwa, kuquka:
- Imbali yeemeko zempilo yengqondo okanye ukudakumba.
- Ukungabikho kwenkxaso yoluntu. (Inkxaso evela kwiqabane lakho nakumalungu osapho ibalulekile).
- Ukuba nomntwana onezidingo ezikhethekileyo zempilo.
- Amava okuzala abuhlungu kakhulu.
- Imingeni ekukhuliseni abantwana besebancinci, efana nobunzima bokuncancisa, i-colic yosana, okanye ukungalali ngokwaneleyo.
- Iziganeko zobomi ezibangela uxinezeleko, ezinje ngoqhawulo-mtshato, ukulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo, okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi.
Nangona ungenakukwazi ukuyithintela ngokupheleleyo i-Postpartum Rage, ungazikhusela ngempilo yakho yengqondo. Ukuba uzibona unezinye zezinto ezibangela umngcipheko ezingasentla, nceda uqhagamshelane nenkxaso kwangethuba.
Ihlala ixesha elingakanani "i-Postpartum Rage"?
Akukho xesha limiselweyo lokuba ezi mpawu ziphele. Kuxhomekeke kubukhali bemeko yakho nendlela osabela ngayo kunyango . Into enye eqinisekileyo: iimeko zempilo yengqondo emva kokubeleka zezexeshana . Ngenkxaso efanelekileyo, unyango, nexesha elifanelekileyo, uya kuqala ukuziva ngathi ungumntu onjani kwakhona.
Ndingamelana njani ne "Postpartum Rage"?
Awuwedwa, kwaye iimvakalelo zakho zifanelekile. Ugqirha wakho angakunceda ufumane isicwangciso sonyango esifanelekileyo. Ungazama nala maqhinga okuzinyamekela:
- Thetha nomntu omameleyo: Nxibelelana nogqirha wengqondo, umhlobo othembekileyo, okanye umntu omthandayo.
- Beka phambili ukuzinyamekela: Kunzima ngomntwana omtsha, kodwa zama ukuzibekela amaxesha amancinci—nokuba yimizuzu eli-15 nje ukuze ukonwabele ikomityi yeti ngoxolo.
- Phinda ujonge izinto ozithandayo: Zama ukwenza imisebenzi owawuyithanda ngaphambi kokuba umntwana afike.
- Cela uncedo: Musa ukoyika ukwabela abanye imisebenzi yasekhaya okanye imisebenzi yangaphandle.
- Gxila kwimpilo-ntle: Zama konke okusemandleni akho ukutya ukutya okunesondlo, ukuhambisa umzimba wakho, kunye nokunyamekela impilo yakho yomzimba.
- Chonga izinto ezikubangela umsindo: Zinike ixesha lokuqonda ukuba zeziphi iimeko ezithile ezikubangela umsindo. Ukuqonda ezi ndlela kunokukunceda ulawule iimpendulo zakho.
Ndifanele ndimbone nini ugqirha?
Ukuba unomsindo omkhulu okanye uvakalelwa kukuba awukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho, funa uncedo lobuchwephesha ngoko nangoko . Kuqhelekile ukuba neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo emva kokuzalwa; ungabi neentloni ukucela uncedo okanye ukufuna unyango. Nxibelelana nengcali yezempilo yengqondo, ingcali yakho yokubelekisa, okanye ugqirha wakho oyintloko. Ukuba usengozini okanye usengxakini, nceda utsalele umnxeba ku-911 okanye uye kwicandelo elikufutshane lezonyango ezingxamisekileyo. UNirogi Lanka ugxininisa ukuba ukhuseleko kunye nokuphila kakuhle zezona zinto ziphambili.
Ngaba "Umsindo Wasemva Kokubeletha" uyafana "ne-Postpartum Psychosis"?
Hayi, azifani. "I-Postpartum Psychosis" yimeko engxamisekileyo yempilo yengqondo ebonakaliswa kukulahlekelwa kukuqonda inyani, kubandakanya ukubona izinto ezingekhoyo, ukukhohlisa, kunye nokudideka. Abantu abane-postpartum psychosis basengozini enkulu yokuzilimaza bona okanye iintsana zabo. "I-Postpartum Rage" ayibi nkulu njenge-postpartum psychosis, kwaye ayibandakanyi iimpawu ezifanayo nezo zidweliswe apha .
Yintoni umahluko phakathi kwe-"Postpartum Rage" kunye ne-"Postpartum Depression"?
Uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeletha luchaphazela malunga noomama abatsha aba-1 kwaba-7. Ukuba uhlangabezana noku, unokujongana nobunzima beemvakalelo, ukukhala rhoqo, ukudinwa okukhulu, ukuziva unetyala okukhulu, okanye ixhala, nto leyo enokwenza ukunyamekela umntwana wakho kubonakale kunzima kakhulu. Nge-Postpartum Rage, usenokuba neemvakalelo ezinzulu zomsindo okanye iimvakalelo ezifanayo eziguquguqukayo . Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo ziquka ukukhungatheka, ukucaphuka, ukugqabhuka ngequbuliso komsindo, okanye kwanomnqweno wokukhwaza. Ngokungafaniyo noxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeletha, iimvakalelo zosizi okanye ixhala azixhaphakanga kwingqumbo yasemva kokubeletha, nangona kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba zombini ezi meko zinokwenzeka ngaxeshanye.
Ngaba unokufumana i-Bipolar Disorder emva kokukhulelwa?
Ewe, iingcali zonyango zinokuxilonga iBipolar Disorder nangaliphi na ixesha, kuquka nasemva kokubeleka. Ukuba ubona utshintsho olungaqhelekanga kwimo yakho emva kokuzala umntwana wakho—umzekelo, amaxesha angxamisekileyo amandla amakhulu alandelwa kukudandatheka okukhulu, okanye ngokuchaseneyo —nceda uthethe nogqirha wakho ngoko nangoko . Abo bafumana imingeni yempilo yengqondo emva kokubeleka banokuba semngciphekweni omkhulu weBipolar Disorder, edla ngokuba mandundu kukungalali kakuhle kunye notshintsho olukhulu lweehomoni.
Umsindo yimvakalelo enamandla. Ukuba uziva unomsindo ongapheliyo, ukhathazekile, okanye unomsindo kangangeeveki okanye iinyanga emva kokuzalwa komntwana wakho, oku kungaba luphawu lomsindo emva kokuzalwa. Ukuba uzifumana uphelelwa ngumsindo ngenxa yezinto ezincinci, okanye uziva unqwenela ukukhala okanye ukubetha into ethile, nceda uqhagamshelane nomboneleli wezempilo ukuze akunike inkxaso. Kuqhelekile ukuba neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo njengoko uqhelana nobomi nosana olusandul' ukuzalwa; lutshintsho olukhulu ebomini olunokuthi luvakale lunzima ngamanye amaxesha. Khumbula, ezi mvakalelo zezokwexeshana, kwaye unyango olusebenzayo luyafumaneka ukukunceda uzive ngathi unguye kwakhona. Indima kagqirha wakho kukuxhasa, kungekhona ukukugweba.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
Siyathemba ukuba olu lwazi luza kukunceda uqonde kakuhle umsindo emva kokuzalwa. Nazi izinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzikhumbule:
- Awuwedwa: Ukuva umsindo omkhulu emva kokubeleka akuyonto oyibonayo wena wedwa; oomama abaninzi bayabelana ngolu hambo.
- Asikuko ukuba unetyala: Izinto ezifana nokuguquguquka kwamahomoni, ukungalali ngokwaneleyo, kunye noxinzelelo lweembopheleleko ezintsha zonke zidlala indima ebalulekileyo.
- Musa ukoyika ukucela uncedo: Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba umsindo wakho okanye ukungazinzi kwakho kuya kusiba nzima, nceda uthethe nogqirha, umcebisi, okanye umntu omthembileyo ebomini bakho.
- Kukho unyango olusebenzayo: Amayeza, unyango, amaqela enkxaso, kunye nohlengahlengiso lwendlela yokuphila kunokukunceda ukulawula nokunqoba ezi mvakalelo.
- Oku kungokwexeshana: Ngenkxaso nenkathalo efanelekileyo, uya kuziva ungcono.
- Ukuba unengcinga zokuzilimaza okanye zokuzilimaza umntwana wakho, funa uncedo olungxamisekileyo ngoko nangoko: Oku kubalulekile.
Njengomama omtsha, wenza umsebenzi omangalisayo. Kubalulekile ukuzinyamekela nawe. Apha eNirogi Lanka, sikunqwenelela amandla nempilo entle kolu hambo!
