Yintoni i-Puberty? Makhe sithethe ngeli xesha libalulekileyo kumntwana wakho!

Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, udlula kwiinguqu ezininzi, emzimbeni nasengqondweni, akunjalo? Eli lixesha esilibiza ngokuba lixesha lokufikisa. Eli lixesha lendalo nelibalulekileyo ebomini bomntwana ngamnye. Ngoko ke, masithethe ngalo ngokweenkcukacha. Wena nomntwana wakho ninokujongana neengxaki ezininzi ngeli xesha. Ungakhathazeki, masichaze yonke into ngokulula.

Kuthetha ukuthini ngokwenene ukufikisa?

Ngamafutshane, ukufikisa kubhekisa kutshintsho lomzimba nolwehomoni oludlula emzimbeni womntwana wakho njengoko etshintsha ukusuka ebuntwaneni ukuya ekuvuthweni ngokwesondo. Kufana nomqondiso wendalo kuwe othi, "Ngoku ulungele ukuba ngumntu omdala." Ngeli xesha, umzimba womntwana wakho awudluli nje kuphela kutshintsho olukhulu, kodwa ukwadlula notshintsho olukhulu engqondweni yakhe nakwiimvakalelo zakhe. Ixesha apho olu tshintsho luqala kwaye luphela ngalo kumntwana ngamnye linokwahluka kancinci ngokuxhomekeke kwisini sakhe, uhlanga, kunye neemeko zokusingqongileyo.

Kweli nqaku, sibhekisa 'kwinkwenkwe' njengomntwana onamasende akhe aphuhlileyo kwaye avelisa ihomoni ebizwa ngokuba yi-'Testosterone'. 'Intombazana' ngumntwana onamaqanda akhe aphuhlileyo kwaye avelisa ihomoni ebizwa ngokuba yi-'Estrogen'. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba abanye abantwana banokuba notshintsho oluninzi emzimbeni ukuba bathatha amayeza okuthintela ukufikisa okanye unyango lweehomoni olubangela iimpawu zobufazi/zamadoda.

Iyintoni injongo yokuba ngumntu omdala?

Ukufikisa yinkqubo yendalo apho umzimba womntwana wakho uguquka ube ngumntu omdala. Ngeli xesha, amalungu omzimba omntwana wakho aphambili kunye neenkqubo zomzimba ziyavuthwa, kwaye umzimba wakhe ulungiselela ukuzala ngokwesondo . Umntwana wakho uya kukhula kakhulu kungekuphela nje ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa nangengqondo nangokweemvakalelo.

Kodwa into enye ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba nangona umntwana esiba ngumntu omdala emzimbeni de afikelele kwiminyaka yokufikisa, uphuhliso lwengqondo yakhe alupheli de abe phakathi kweminyaka engamashumi amabini ukuya ekupheleni . Yiyo loo nto isikhokelo sethu, uthando, kunye nokuqonda kubaluleke kangaka kuye ngeli xesha.

Ukuqala kokufikisa kuqala njani?

Eli libali lesayensi, kodwa ndiza kulichaza ngokulula ukuze uqonde. Kukho inxalenye ekhethekileyo yengqondo yomntwana wakho ebizwa ngokuba yi-"Hypothalamus." Ukufikisa kuqala xa le "Hypothalamus" iqala ukuvelisa ihomoni ebizwa ngokuba yi-"Gonadotropin-releasing hormone" okanye "GnRH".

Emva koko, i-`(Hypothalamus)` ithumela i-`(GnRH)` hormone kwenye inxalenye ebalulekileyo yengqondo, i-`(Pituitary gland).` Emva koko, i-`(Pituitary gland)` ikhupha ezinye ii-hormone ezimbini, i-`(Luteinizing hormone)` (`LH`) kunye ne-`(Follicle-stimulating hormone)` (`FSH`).

Ezi hormone ziya kwaye zivuselele ii-gonads - ii-ovari kumantombazana kunye nama-testes kumakhwenkwe. Kulapho ke ezo glands ziqala khona ukukhupha ii-hormone zesondo - ikakhulu i-estrogen kumantombazana kunye ne-testosterone kumakhwenkwe. Ezo hormone zezona zibangela utshintsho lomzimba nolwengqondo esilubonayo ngexesha lokufikisa. Ayisiyondlela imangalisayo leyo?

Amantombazana aqala nini ukufikisa?

Uninzi lwamantombazana (lawo anee-ovari) aqala ukufikisa phakathi kweminyaka esi-8 neli-13 ubudala. Oku kudla ngokuba malunga neminyaka emibini ngaphambi kwamakhwenkwe. Ezinye izifundo zibonise ukuba amantombazana amnyama namaHispanic angaqala ukufikisa ngaphambi kancinci kunamantombazana amhlophe (malunga neminyaka esi-7 1/2 ubudala). Ngoko ke ungothuki ukuba abahlobo bentombi yakho banomahluko omncinci.

Abafana baqala nini ukufikisa?

Abafana (abo banamasende) badla ngokuqala ukufikisa phakathi kweminyaka eli-9 neli-14 ubudala. Oko kwenzeka emva kweminyaka emibini kunamantombazana. Nangona kunjalo, kunokubakho umahluko phakathi kobuhlanga apha. Abafana abamnyama nabaseHispanic nabo banamathuba amaninzi okuqala ukufikisa ngaphambi kwexesha kunamakhwenkwe amhlophe.

Zithini ezi zinto zibizwa ngokuba yi-"Tanner Stages" okanye amanqanaba okukhula ngokwesondo?

I-Tanner Staging, okanye i-Sexual Maturity Rating (SMR), yindlela esetyenziswa ngoogqirha ukurekhoda nokubeka iliso ekuphuhlisweni kweempawu zesondo zesibini ebantwaneni ngexesha lokufikisa. Ngamafutshane, sisikhokelo sokuba zeziphi izigaba zokufikisa umntwana wakho anokudlula kuzo kunye nexesha ezinokwenzeka ukuba zenzeke ngalo.

Kodwa oku kubaluleke kakhulu : Kukho uluhlu olubanzi lwezinto ezithathwa 'njengeziqhelekileyo' xa kufikwa kwixesha lokufikisa kunye namanqanaba okufikisa. Wonke umntwana ukhula ngesantya sakhe. Olu "Tanner Staging" lukhokelo nje oluqhelekileyo, alungomthetho ongqongqo omawulandelwe. Ngoko ke musa ukuthelekisa ukukhula komntwana wakho nabanye abantwana, kulungile?

Kwenzeka njani ukuba amantombazana athathe iiTanner Stages?

Kukho iiTanner Stages ezahlukeneyo zotshintsho lwamabele kunye nokukhula kweenwele zesitho sangasese kumantombazana. Kukwakho nolunye utshintsho lomzimba oluvelayo. Ezi Tanner Stages zisikhokelo esihle sotshintsho onokululindela emzimbeni wentombi yakho. Kukho amanqanaba amahlanu okufikisa kumantombazana.

• Inqanaba loku-1: Eli linqanaba langaphambi kokuzalwa. Ngeli xesha, amantombazana awahlukanga ngokucacileyo. Nangona kunjalo, amadlala e-adrenal ayakhula kwaye ama-ovari awo ayakhula.
• Inqanaba lesi-2: Kulapho ke kuqala khona utshintsho emzimbeni. Ngokwesiqhelo, phakathi kweminyaka esi-8 neli-13 ubudala, amantombazana aqala ukuva oku kulandelayo:
• Amabele aqala ukuhluma, kwaye iindawo ezimnyama ezijikeleze iingono (ii-areola) ziba nkulu.
• Iinwele zesitho sangasese ziqala ukukhula kakuhle kakhulu kumacala omabini e-labia.
• Ukuphakama kuyanda nge-2 3/4 intshi (malunga neesentimitha ezi-7) ngonyaka.
• I-clitoris iba nkulu kancinci.
• Isibeleko siyakhula.
• Usenokunuka umbilo. Ukusebenzisa i-deodorant kuya kunceda.
• Inqanaba lesi-3: Utshintsho lomzimba luyakhawuleza ngeli xesha. Phakathi kweminyaka eli-9 neli-14:
• Amabele ayaqhubeka nokukhula.
• Iinwele ezisemagxeni ziqala ukubonakala, kwaye iinwele ezisemagxeni ziyaqhubeka nokukhula. Iinwele ezisemagxeni ngoku zirhabaxa, zijijekile, kwaye zimile njengonxantathu ojonge phezulu.
• Ukuphakama kukhula ngokukhawuleza, ngaphezulu kwee-intshi ezi-3 (malunga neesentimitha ezi-8) ngonyaka.
• I-acne inokwenzeka kuba ulusu luba namafutha.
• Inqanaba lesi-4: Kulapho ukufikisa kufikelele kwinqanaba eliphezulu. Phakathi kweminyaka eli-10 neli-15:
• Amabele ayaqhubeka nokukhula. Indawo emnyama ejikeleze ingono (i-areola) iyahlukana nezicubu zebele kwaye ibonakala njengeqhuma elahlukileyo.
• Iinwele ezikwindawo yangasese zisekwimo kanxantathu, kwaye ngoku zininzi kakhulu iinwele kangangokuba andikwazi nokuzibala.
• Ukuphakama kungaqhubeka nokukhula ngee-intshi ezi-2 3/4 (malunga neesentimitha ezi-7) ngonyaka.
• I-acne isenokuqhubeka.

Eli linqanaba lesine apho uninzi lwamantombazana luqala khona umjikelo wabo wokuya exesheni, okanye ukuya exesheni. Ngokuqhelekileyo iqala malunga neminyaka eli-12 ubudala (idla ngokuba malunga nobudala obufanayo noomama noodadewabo). Amanye amantombazana angaqala kwangethuba okanye kamva. Ukuya exesheni kudla ngokuqala malunga neminyaka emibini emva kokuba amabele eqalile ukukhula kwaye iinwele zasesibelekweni ziqale. Ukuba awukaqali ukuya exesheni emva kweminyaka emithathu emva kokufikisa, bona ugqirha.

• Inqanaba lesi-5: Eli linqanaba lokugqibela. Ukukhula kudla ngokuphela kweli nqanaba. Amantombazana afikelela ebudaleni ngokwasemzimbeni. Iinwele zesini zinokwelula ziye emathangeni, kwaye amanye amantombazana anokuba nomgca weenwele ofikelela ezinqeni. Uninzi lwamantombazana lufikelela kubude bawo obuphezulu xa eneminyaka eli-16 ubudala, kodwa amanye asenokungafikeleli kubude bawo obupheleleyo de abe neminyaka engama-20 ubudala. Amanye amantombazana asenokungafikeleli kweli nqanaba lesihlanu leenwele zesini; oku kusenokuba yimeko yawo 'eqhelekileyo'.

Kwenzeka njani ukuba iiTanner Stages zabafana zenzeke?

Kukho iiTanner Stages ezahlukeneyo zotshintsho lwesini samadoda kunye nokukhula kweenwele zesitho sangasese. Kukwakho nolunye utshintsho lomzimba. Kubazali, ezi Tanner Stages zisikhokelo esihle sotshintsho onokululindela emzimbeni wonyana wakho. Kukho amanqanaba amahlanu okufikisa kubafana.

• Inqanaba loku-1:Eli likwalixesha langaphambi kokuba umntwana abe ngumntwana. Ngeli xesha, abafana ababonakali bahlukile, kodwa amadlala abo e-adrenal ayakhula.
• Inqanaba lesi-2: Kulapho utshintsho lomzimba luqala khona. Ngokwesiqhelo, phakathi kweminyaka eli-9 neli-14, abafana baqala ukuva oku kulandelayo:
• Uphuhliso lwezitho zangasese (amasende kunye ne-scrotum ziyakhula).
• Iinwele ezintle ziqala ukubonakala zijikeleze ipenisi nangaphantsi kwamakhwapha.
• Ukuphakama kuyakhula (ngesiqhelo phakathi kwe-2 kunye ne-2 1/2 intshi (malunga neesentimitha ezi-5-6) ngonyaka), nto leyo enokubangela iintlungu zokukhula.
• Ngotshintsho kwindlela umzimba omile ngayo, inani lezicubu zamafutha emzimbeni liyancipha.
• Usenokunuka umbilo, kwaye usenokufuna i-deodorant.
• Inqanaba lesi-3: Utshintsho lomzimba luyakhawuleza. Phakathi kweminyaka eli-10 neli-16 ubudala, abafana bafumana oku kulandelayo:
• Ipenis kunye namasende ziyaqhubeka nokukhula. Ukuphuma komoya ebusuku (amaphupha amanzi) kunokwenzeka.
• Uboya be-pubic kwindawo yesini buba mnyama, burhabaxa, kwaye bukhula bufana nonxantathu.
• Ukuphakama kuyaqhubeka nokukhula (ukusuka kwiisentimitha ezi-2 3/4 (malunga neesentimitha ezi-7) ngonyaka ukuya kuthi ga kwiisentimitha ezi-3 (malunga neesentimitha ezi-8)).
• Ukubila kuyanda, nto leyo enokubangela ivumba elibi lomzimba.
• Ilizwi liyatshintsha (ngelixa ilizwi liqhekeka (Liqhekeka)).
• Ubunzima bemisipha buyanda.

Kweli nqanaba lesithathu, abanye abafana (malunga nama-50 ekhulwini) banokukhula kwamabele, imeko ebizwa ngokuba yi-"Gynecomastia". Nangona kunjalo, oku kudla ngokuphela ekupheleni kokufikisa. Oku kuxhaphake kakhulu phakathi kweminyaka eli-11 neli-15 ubudala. Ukuba oku kubangela iingxaki zomzimba okanye zentlalo, kufuneka uthethe nogqirha womntwana wakho.

• Inqanaba lesi-4: Ixesha apho ukufikisa kufikelele esiphelweni. Phakathi kweminyaka eli-11 neli-16 ubudala, amakhwenkwe:
• Ubukhulu bepenis buyanda, ulusu lwescrotum kunye namasende amnyama. Imibimbi ebomvu ebizwa ngokuba yi-rugae iqala ukwakheka kumasende.
• Uboya bomzimba bukhula bufikelele kumanqanaba obudala. Iinwele kwindawo yangasese zirhabaxa kwaye zinonxantathu.
• Ukuphakama kukhula ngokukhawuleza, ngokuqhelekileyo ngee-intshi ezi-4 (malunga neesentimitha ezili-10) ngonyaka.
• Kuvela i-acne.
• Ilizwi lihlala liqhekeka.
• Inqanaba lesi-5: Eli linqanaba lokugqibela. Ukufikisa kuphela kweli nqanaba. Abafana bagqibezela ukukhula kwabo nophuhliso lwabo lomzimba.
• Kusenokuba kweli nqanaba apho abantu abaninzi baqala khona ukuba neenwele zobuso.
• Uboya besisu bunokufikelela emathangeni, kwaye abanye abafana banokuba nomgca weenwele ofikelela emqolo.
• Uninzi lwabafana luyayeka ukukhula lude xa luneminyaka eli-17 ubudala, kodwa abanye banokuqhubeka bekhula de babe neminyaka engamashumi amabini.

Ukufikisa kuzichaphazela njani iimvakalelo?

Njengoko umntwana wakho efika ebusheni, usenokubona okanye ungaluboni utshintsho olukhulu kwiimvakalelo zakhe. Ukwanda ngequbuliso kweehomoni zesini kunye noxinzelelo oluvela kuluntu kunokubangela ukuba umntwana abe notshintsho kwiimvakalelo, umsindo ngequbuliso, kunye neengxabano namalungu osapho. Khawucinge ukuba kungakanani okwenzekayo ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwemizimba yakhe!

Ngeli xesha, umntwana wakho udlula kwiinguqu ezinkulu kubuntu bakhe nakubomi bakhe bentlalo. Basenokuba neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo, kuquka ukungabi naluxabiso, umnqweno, ukudideka, kunye noloyiko malunga nesondo sakhe. Ngoko ke umonde nokuqonda kwakho kubaluleke kakhulu ngeli xesha.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kuvela iingxaki ezinkulu zeemvakalelo okanye zokuziphatha – ezinje ngokuxhalaba, ukudakumba, utshintsho olukhulu lweemvakalelo, okanye ubundlobongela – kubalulekile ukubona ugqirha womntwana wakho. Umntwana wakho angazuza kwi-psychotherapy, eyile therapy yokuthetha, kwaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, amayeza.

Iphela nini i-toughtood?

Kumantombazana, ukufikisa kudla ngokuphela phakathi kweminyaka eli-15 neli-17. Kumakhwenkwe, kudla ngokuphela phakathi kweminyaka eli-16 neli-17. Kwakhona, wonke umntwana wahlukile, ngoko ke ezi zigaba zeminyaka zinokuhluka.

Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukufikelela ekufikiseni?

Ukufikisa kudla ngokuthatha iminyaka emibini ukuya kwemihlanu ukugqiba. Kodwa wonke umntwana wahlukile, ngoko ke kunzima ukutsho ukuba ixesha lokufikisa liza kuthatha ixesha elingakanani. Kunzima ukwazi ukuba kuza kuthatha ixesha elingakanani na. Kodwa khumbula, umzimba womntwana wakho udlula kwinqanaba lendalo ebomini.

Zeziphi iihomoni ezibandakanyekayo ekufikeni?

Kukho iihomoni ezibalulekileyo ezibandakanyekayo ekufikiseni, esikhe sathetha ngazo kancinci ngaphambili, akunjalo?

• I-Gonadotropin-releasing hormone (GnRH): Yile nto iqala ukufikisa kumntwana ngamnye.
• I-Luteinizing hormone (LH): Le hormone ivuselela iiseli ezikwii-ovari zabasetyhini ukuba zivelise iihomoni ezinxulumene ne-estrogen, kwaye ivuselela iiseli ezikwii-testicles zamadoda ukuba zivelise i-testosterone.
• I-Follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH): Le hormone ivuselela ukuveliswa kwe-estrogen kwii-ovari, kwaye ivuselela neeseli ezikwimibhobho evelisa isidoda yamasende ukunceda ukuvelisa isidoda.
• I-Testosterone: Le yeyona hormone iphambili yesini kumakhwenkwe. Ngexesha lokufikisa, ukwanda kwe-testosterone kubangela utshintsho oluninzi, kuquka ukwanda kobude, ukukhula kweenwele emzimbeni nakwizitho zangasese, ukwanda kwepenis, amasende, kunye ne-prostate gland, kunye nokwanda kwenkanuko yobulili.
• I-estrogen:Le yeyona hormone iphambili yesondo kumantombazana. Ngexesha lokufikisa, ukwanda kwe-estrogen kubangela iimpawu zesini zesibini ezifana nophuhliso lwamabele kunye notshintsho kwimo yomzimba (ukugoba). Ikwachaphazela nokuya exesheni, kunye nezinye iihomoni.
• Iprogesterone: Le yenye ihomoni yesini yabasetyhini. Inegalelo kutshintsho lwamabele ngexesha lokufikisa, kwaye ikwabalulekile nakwixesha lokuya exesheni kunye nokukhulelwa okunempilo.

Ii-adrenal glands zomntwana wakho zivelisa olunye uhlobo lwe-hormone ebizwa ngokuba yi-androgens. Ezi hormone zezona zibangela iimpawu zesini zesibini - ikakhulu ukukhula kweenwele ze-pubic neze-underarche (adrenarche). Nangona oku (adrenarche) kwenzeka ngokwanda kwee-hormone zesini ngexesha lokufikisa, ii-adrenal glands zinokuvelisa (androgens) ezichaphazela iinwele ze-pubic. Intombazana enye kwabane iya kuba nayo (adrenarche) ngaphambi kokuba ikhule amabele (thelarche).

Ziziphi iingxaki ezinokuvela ngexesha lokufikisa?

Kukho iingxaki ezimbini eziphambili ezinokubakho ngexesha lokufikisa: ukufikisa ngaphambi kwexesha kunye nokufikisa okulibazisekileyo . Ezi meko zinokubangela:

• Ukunqongophala kokutya, oko kukuthi, iingxaki zokutya.
• Ukuchanabeka kwiihomoni ezivela kwindawo ezingqongileyo.
• Iithumba ezichaphazela ukuveliswa kweehomoni.
• Iimeko zemfuza.

Ngamanye amaxesha kusenokungabi lula ukufumana isizathu sale nto.

Yintoni ukufikisa ngaphambi kwexesha?

Oogqirha bacinga ukuba ukufikisa ngaphambi kwexesha kuxa iimpawu zesondo zesibini ziqala ngaphambi kweminyaka esi-8 kumantombazana nangaphambi kweminyaka esi-9 kubafana (iSigaba sesi-2 seTanner), kwaye ezinye izigaba zokufikisa zenzeka ngokukhawuleza emva koko.

Yintoni ukufikisa okulibazisekileyo?

Oogqirha bacinga ukuba ukufikisa okulibazisekileyo kulandelayo:

• Ukuba intombazana ineminyaka eli-13 ubudala kwaye ayikaqali ukuvelisa amabele (iSigaba sesi-2 seTanner).
• Ukuba inkwenkwe ineminyaka eli-14 ubudala kwaye amalungu ayo esini awakaqali ukukhula (iSigaba seTanner) 2.

Kwakhona, ukuba intombazana ayikaqali ukuya exesheni kwiminyaka emithathu yeTanner Stage 2, okanye xa ineminyaka eli-15 ubudala, oogqirha banokuthi yi-primary amenorrhea. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna iingcebiso zonyango.

Ndingathetha nini nogqirha malunga nokufikisa komntwana wam?

Ukuba umntwana wakho unenye yezi zinto, kufuneka ubone ugqirha:

• I-acne enzima engasayi kuphela.
• Intlungu enganyamezelekiyo eyenzekayo xa unyuka intaba.
• Iimpawu zokudakumba, ixhala, okanye enye imeko yempilo yengqondo.
• Ukuya exesheni okungacwangciswanga nangona sele kudlule unyaka wokuqala wokuqalisa ukuya exesheni.
• Iintlungu ezingaphaya kwesiqhelo zokuya exesheni kunye nomqolo obuhlungu.

Kwakhona, xelela ugqirha wakho ngezi zinto:

• Ukuba unyana wakho ubonakalisa iimpawu zokufikisa ngaphambi kokuba afikelele kwiminyaka eli-9 ubudala .
• Ukuba unyana wakho uneminyaka eli-15 ubudala kwaye akabonakalisi zimpawu zokufikisa.
• Ukuba intombi yakho ibonisa iimpawu zokufikisa ngaphambi kokuba ifikelele kwiminyaka esi-8 ubudala .
• Ukuba intombi yakho ineminyaka eli-13 ubudala kwaye ayibonakalisi zimpawu zokufikisa.

Ukuba ubona izinto ezinje, kungcono ungoyiki uze uthethe nogqirha.

Ndingamnceda njani umntwana wam ngeli xesha lokufikisa?

Ixesha lokufikisa lixesha lotshintsho olukhulu kuwe nakumntwana wakho. Nantsi indlela onokumnceda ngayo umntwana wakho:

• Bazise ngotshintsho olwenzekayo emizimbeni yabo . Thetha ngokukhululekileyo nangokungenazintloni.
• Bafundise ngokuzala ngokwesondo, ukubaluleka kwemvume, kunye neendlela zesondo ezikhuselekileyo .
• Banike isiqinisekiso nesibindi xa besoyika, bedidekile, okanye benezinye iimvakalelo ezinzima malunga nokufikisa.
• Yiba ngumzekelo omhle kubo malunga nokwamkelwa komzimba kunye nendlela yokuphila enempilo.
• Hlonipha imfuno yabo yobumfihlo obungakumbi kunye nokuzimela.
• Ngenela apho kukho imiba yokhuseleko kwaye ubeke imida efanelekileyo.

Ixesha lokufikisa linokuba lixesha elinomdla, kodwa elinzima, ebomini bomntwana wakho, nakubomi bosapho lwakho. Kunye notshintsho lomzimba, umntwana wakho usenokuba udlula kwiinguqu ezininzi zeemvakalelo. Khumbula, ugqirha womntwana wakho ukhona ukukunceda wena kunye naye ngayo nayiphi na imibuzo okanye iinkxalabo. Banokumhlola umntwana wakho baze babone ukuba uyakhula njengoko kulindelekile na.

Yeyiphi eyona nto ibalulekileyo esifuna ukuyithatha kweli bali?

Kulungile, ke ezi zezona zinto ziphambili ekufuneka uzikhumbule kwinto esithethe ngayo. Ukufikisa yinxalenye yendalo yobomi bomntwana ngamnye. Ngeli xesha, kukho utshintsho olukhulu, emzimbeni nasengqondweni.

• Wonke umntwana wahlukile: Indlela umntwana afikelela ngayo ebuntwini, kunye nexesha elithathayo ukwenza njalo, isenokungafani neyomnye umntwana. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Musa ukuzithelekisa nabanye.
• Thetha ngokukhululekileyo: Kubalulekile ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo nomntwana wakho malunga nolu tshintsho kunye nendlela aziva ngayo. Mamela imibuzo yakhe.
• Icebiso likagqirha: Ukuba unemibuzo okanye unamathandabuzo, ingakumbi ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ukufikisa kuqala kwangethuba kakhulu okanye kade kakhulu, ungathandabuzi ukucela icebiso kugqirha.
• Uthando lwakho nokuqonda kwakho: Ngeli xesha, umntwana wakho udinga uthando lwakho, inkxaso yakho, nokuqonda kwakho ngaphezu kwanoma yintoni na ngaphambili. Mnike ukuziva ekhuselekile kwaye engumntu ohlala ekhona.

Nangona eli lixesha elinzima, ungaba ngumthombo wamandla kumntwana wakho kolu hambo luhle lokuba yindoda/ibhinqa elikhulu! Ukuba ufuna ukwazi okungakumbi ngale nto, buza nje.

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