Kule mihla, abazali baxhalabile kakhulu ngabantwana babo, akunjalo? Ngaba umntu omele anyamekele umntwana xa usiya emsebenzini uza kumnyamekela ngokufanelekileyo? Ngaba umntwana oye esikolweni usesikolweni ngokwenene? Ujonge ntoni kwi-Intanethi? Ngenxa yemibuzo enjalo, abanye abazali bayalingeka ukuba bajonge abantwana babo ngoncedo lwetekhnoloji. Kodwa ngaba oku kuya kuzisa uxolo lwengqondo, okanye kuya kuyenza nzima ngakumbi ubudlelwane nomntwana? Makhe sithethe ngale nto nzulu kancinci.
Ingaba "uxolo lwengqondo" oluvela kwitekhnoloji luyinyani?
Namhlanje, kukho izixhobo zobuchwepheshe ezimangalisayo zokujonga abantwana. Iikhamera ezincinci ezinokufakwa ngasese ekhayeni (`ii-nannycams`), isoftware edwelisa yonke iwebhusayithi umntwana ayityelelayo, okanye izixhobo ze-`GPS` ezinokufihlwa ebhegini yomntwana okanye kwiwotshi aze abonise indawo ezikuyo zimbalwa nje kwezininzi. Abo bathengisa ezi zixhobo bathi zinokunciphisa kakhulu umthwalo kubazali abaxakekileyo.
Enyanisweni, ngamanye amaxesha ukujonga izinto nge-elektroniki kunokuba luncedo kakhulu. Khawuthelekelele ukuba unomntu ekhaya oza kunyamekela umntwana wakho ngelixa usiya emsebenzini. Kodwa unamathandabuzo amakhulu engqondweni yakho. Sivile ngabazali abakwazileyo ukubona umzuzu onje ngenxa yekhamera efakwe endlwini, eshiya umntwana wabo ekhala imini yonke ngelixa umnakekeli exakekile ngezinye izinto. Kwakhona, amanye amaziko okugcina abantwana ngoku anika abazali indawo yokubona umntwana wabo nge-'Webcam'. Kuluyolo kubazali ukubona indlela umntwana wabo achitha ngayo usuku lwabo nangona esebenza.
Ngaba kukungenelela kobumfihlo?
Nangona ezi zinto zintle, abazali abaninzi bazibona ezi zixhobo bengazithembi. Abanye oomama bathi, "Ndizifumana zingaqhelekanga kwaye zisoyikisa ezi zinto. Ukuba oomama bethu bebesihlola ngolo hlobo, besiya kubaleka ekhaya." Ngokutsho kwabo, uloyiko olusezingqondweni zabazali abasebenzisa ezi zixhobo luyanda.
Ingakumbi, ukujonga umntwana oqhuba kakuhle kwaye engenzi mpazamo ngale ndlela kufana nokumkhuthaza ukuba enze iimpazamo. Kumenza umntwana acinge, "Umama noTata abandithembi."
Umbuzo obuzwa zizazi zengqondo ngulo, "Ngaba ukwenza oku ngenxa yomntwana, okanye ukwenza oku ukuze wanelise amathandabuzo akho kunye nomdla ongeyomfuneko?" Kufuneka ucinge kabini ngayo.
Ukholo okanye ukuqaphela? Oku kutshintsha njani ngokweminyaka
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka siyiqonde apha kukuba akufuneki siphathe umntwana omncinci ngolu hlobo,Imfuneko yokunyanga umntwana omncinci (okwishumi elivisayo).
Abantwana abancinci
Ngamafutshane, umntwana oneminyaka emi-3-4 ubudala akanalo ulwazelelelo olukhulu lokuba ngasese. Ngoko ke kunokuba mnandi kumntwana ukubona abazali bakhe bemjonga umntwana wabo ebantwaneni abancinci nge-'Webcam'. Banokuvuyela ukuthi, "Mama, ndikubukele udlala."
Abantwana abancinci (Abakwishumi elivisayo)
Kodwa, umntwana omncinci libali elahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Lelo lixesha apho ekude kancinci nabazali bakhe kwaye ezama ukuzenzela igama lakhe. Badinga inkululeko ethile. Bayazenza iimpazamo, kodwa bafunda kwezo mpazamo. Ngoko ke, ukujonga umntwana ngasese kule minyaka kutshabalalisa ngokupheleleyo ukuthembana kwakhe kuwe. Kufana nokuthi ebusweni bakhe, "Ulisela, andikuthembi."
Ungafumana umbono olungileyo ngale nto kule theyibhile.
| Imeko | Ifanelekile okanye ayifanelekanga? |
|---|---|
| Ukuba unamathandabuzo malunga nomntu onyamekela umntwana omncinci | Kungafanelekile okwethutyana ukuqinisekisa ukurhanelwa. |
| Ukubonelela ngezixhobo zeWebcam kwindawo yokugcina abantwana kunye nolwazi lwabazali bonke | Ngokwesiqhelo akukho ngxaki. Yinkqubo evulelekileyo. |
| Ukumjonga ngasese umntwana omncinci, oziphethe kakuhle ongenangxaki | Akufanelekanga kwaphela. Oku kuyaphula ngokupheleleyo ukuthembana kwaye kukhuthaza ukuziphatha okuvukelayo emntwaneni. |
| Ukuba umntwana ubandakanyeka kwingxaki enkulu efana neziyobisi okanye ubusela | Kungafanelekile, ngemvume yamaqela omabini, ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo nomntwana kwaye njengenxalenye yenkqubo yokwakha kwakhona ukuthembana. |
Ukuba uza kujonga, kuya kufuneka ukwenze ngendlela eyiyo.
Kulungile, masithi umntwana wakho uphule umthetho wakho kakhulu. Umzekelo, ufumanisa ukuba usebenzisa iziyobisi , uxoka, okanye usebenzisana nabantu ababi. Kwimeko efana nale, ezi zixhobo zinokuba luncedo ngelixa umntwana ekwilingo lokuvavanya umntwana. Kodwa kukho imithetho ebalulekileyo ekufuneka ilandelwe.
Iingcali zithi ungaze uzenze ezi zinto ngasese . Oko kuya kuyenza ibe mandundu imeko.
Endaweni yoko, kufuneka uthethe nomntwana wakho ngale nto ngokukhululekileyo. Cacisa, "Nyana/ntombi, ngenxa yento oyenzileyo, ndilahlekelwe kukuthemba ebendinako kuwe. De kube loo kuthembana kubuyiselwe, kuya kufuneka ndikubeke esweni ngale ndlela ukuze ukhuseleke." Oku akufanele kuboniswe njengesohlwayo, kodwa njengento oyenzayo yokwakha kwakhona ukuthembana okulahlekileyo.
Kutheni abazali bephantsi koxinzelelo olungaka?
Kutheni abazali beziva befuna ukwenza ezi zinto? Esinye sezizathu yindlela yokuphila exakekileyo yanamhlanje. Abazali baphantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu ngenxa yeengxaki zomsebenzi kunye neendleko zokuphila. Ngenxa yoko, banexesha elincinci lokuchitha nabantwana babo. Abantwana abasafani nakuqala, bahambahamba ukususela kusasa kude kube sebusuku ngeeklasi, imali yokufunda, kunye noqeqesho lwezemidlalo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali nabantwana buya busiba bude kancinci kancinci.
Ngenxa yolu mgama, abazali bajika baye kubuchwepheshe ukuze bafumane okwenzekayo kubomi bomntwana wabo. Kodwa into ekufuneka bayenze yahlukile.
Ngamanye amaxesha, xa umntwana wakho ethetha ngomculo awuthandayo, iimuvi, kunye nemidlalo, unokuzifumana ezo zinto zikruqula. Kodwa, mamela ngononophelo nokuba uthetha ngezinto ezingabalulekanga kangako kuwe . Kulapho baya kuba nokuthembana nokunxibelelana ngokwaneleyo ukuze bathethe nawe ngemiba enzulu efana neziyobisi okanye isondo. Kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuza kwindawo apho bamenyiwe khona kunokunyebelezela ebomini bomntwana wakho.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Cinga kabini phambi kokuba usebenzise izixhobo zokubeka esweni. Oku kunokutshabalalisa eyona nto ixabisekileyo onayo nomntwana wakho: ukuthembana .
- Kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi komntwana omncinci nomntwana okwishumi elivisayo. Ukuvumela abantwana abancinci ukuba babe bodwa kwaye bakhululeke kubalulekile ekukhuleni kwabo ngokwengqondo okunempilo.
- Ukuba kufuneka uqwalaselwe kwimeko apho ukuthembana komntwana kuye kwaphulwa kakhulu (umz., ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi), mxelele umntwana oku ngokukhululekileyo kwaye ukwenze oku njengenxalenye yenkqubo yokwakha kwakhona ukuthembana.
- Ungaze umjonge ngasese umntwana wakho. Oku kuya kuyenza mandundu intsebenziswano yakho kwaye kukuthintele ekusombululeni ingxaki.
- Yakha ubudlelwane obuqinileyo nomntwana wakho. Mamela ngenyameko okwenzekayo kwihlabathi lakhe. Oku kuya kwenza kube lula ukuba athethe nawe ngazo naziphi na iingxaki. Ukuba kukho ingxaki, thetha nogqirha wakho malunga nokumthumela umntwana wakho ukuze afumane ingcebiso.
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