Ngaba umntwana wakho omncinci uyakhala ngelixa ulungiselela ukuya emsebenzini kusasa? Okanye uyakulandela uye ekhitshini okanye kwigumbi lokuhlambela aze ame ngasemnyango ekhala? Mhlawumbi uqhelene nezi zinto. Enyanisweni, le yinto ekhathaza oomama nootata abaninzi. "Kutheni umntwana wam esenza oku?", "Ngaba ndenza into engalunganga?" Mhlawumbi ukhe wazibuza. Kodwa ungakhathazeki. Eli linqanaba eliqhelekileyo lokukhula komntwana kwiimeko ezininzi. Makhe sithethe ngalo namhlanje.
Ngamafutshane, yintoni ixhala lokuhlukana?
Ukwahlukana Ixhala, okanye njengoko sisitsho ngesiSinhala, "பெர்வாத்தியான் விள்ளியான்" kuxa umntwana wakho okanye umntwana omncinci ekhala aze akhathazeke xa ungekho kubo nokuba lixesha elifutshane. Eli linqanaba eliqhelekileyo lokukhula komntwana . Lidla ngokuqala xa umntwana ephakathi kweenyanga ezi-6 ne-12 ubudala. Liphela kancinci kancinci xa eneminyaka emi-3 ubudala.
Kutheni oku kusenzeka? Cinga ngako, iintsana ezincinci, nokuba aziboni nto, azikwazi ukuqonda ukuba isekhona. Kwizonyango, oku sikubiza ngokuba yingcamango 'yokuhlala ixesha elide'. Kalula nje, xa uphuma egumbini, umntwana ucinga ukuba awusayi kuze ubuye. Ngoko ke bayoyika. Xa umntu okhuselayo emkile, baziva bengakhuselekanga. Yiyo loo nto bekhala ngolo hlobo.
Kodwa njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, uya kuqonda ukuba uza kuhamba okwethutyana aze abuye. Uya kufunda ukuba oku kwahlukana kokwexeshana. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntwana wakho uyakhala xa uhamba, luphawu lobudlelwane obuqinileyo phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho . Ngoko ke ungakhathazeki. Eli linqanaba nje umntwana wakho aza kulidlula emva kwexesha elithile.
Okubalulekileyo kukuba, kukho iintlobo ezimbini zeengxaki zokuxhalaba: Ukuxhalaba Ngokwahlukana kunye nokuxhalaba Ngomntu Ongamaziyo. Ukuxhalaba Ngomntu Ongamaziyo kuxa umntwana esoyika abantu angabaziyo. Kwakhona yinxalenye eqhelekileyo yokukhula komntwana.
Ngaba umntwana wakho unale meko? Nantsi indlela yokuyiqonda
Jonga ukuba umntwana wakho uyazenza na ezi zinto. Ezi zezona mpawu ziphambili zoXinzelelo lokuHlala.
| Uphawu/Ukuziphatha | Ingcaciso elula yendlela eyenzeka ngayo |
|---|---|
| Ukulila xa ungabonwa | Nokuba unyamalala okwethutyana, njengaxa usiya kwelinye igumbi okanye ekhitshini, umntwana uya kukhathazeka aze aqale ukulila. |
| Ukucaphuka xa uhamba | Xa uzama ukuya emsebenzini okanye ukuphuma, uqengqeleka phantsi, ukhala, ulwa nzima, kwaye ulila kakhulu. |
| Ukuxhoma emzimbeni wakho | Ayifuni ukukukhulula. Izama ukubambelela kwiimpahla zakho nasemilenzeni yakho. Ayifuni ukukukhulula. |
| Ukulila xa ushiywa kwindawo yokugcina abantwana okanye kwenye indawo | Usana luyakhala kakhulu xa lushiywa nomntu wokulunyamekela, nootatomkhulu noomakhulu, okanye kwindawo yokugcina abantwana. |
| Ukuba nawe kufutshane xa ulele | Xa umntwana wakho elele, ufuna ukuba kufutshane nawe. Akafuni ukulala yedwa ngaphandle kwakho. |
Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zihlala ziphela xa zineminyaka emi-2 okanye emi-3 ubudala. Kodwa khumbula, ayingabo bonke abantwana abafanayo. Abanye abantwana banokuthatha ixesha elide ukuphuma kweli nqanaba.
Le meko iba 'yinto engaqhelekanga' nini?
Ukuba olu xhala lokuhlukana luyaqhubeka emva kokuba umntwana eqale isikolo sabantwana abancinci, ingakumbi ukuba luphazamisana nomsebenzi wesikolo womntwana, lusenokuba yinto engaphaya kwesiqhelo.
Ukuba le meko iyaqhubeka idlule iminyaka emi-3, isenokuba luphawu lwesifo sengqondo esibizwa ngokuba yiSeparation Anxiety Disorder . Esi sisifo esingafanelanga iminyaka yomntwana kwaye sinokuchaphazela impilo yakhe yentlalo neyengqondo.
Cinga ngale ndlela. Kuqhelekile ukuba umntwana wakho akhale ngosuku lokuqala lwesikolo esitsha kuba akanakukushiya. Kodwa emva kosuku olunye okanye ezimbini, kufuneka aqhele imeko-bume entsha aze ayeke ukukhala. Ngaphandle koko, ukuba ukhala qho kusasa kangangeeveki kuba engenakukwazi ukuya esikolweni, oko kungaba luphawu lwe-Separation Anxiety Disorder.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uneminyaka engaphezu kwemi-3 ubudalaKwaye ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ukwahlukaniswa nawe kumenza abe noxinzelelo olukhulu kakhulu ukuba angaluthwala, eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukuthetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto. Mxelele ngokucacileyo ngento ayithethayo umntwana wakho nendlela aziphatha ngayo. Ugqirha unokugqiba ukuba oku kuqhelekile okanye kukho imeko efuna unyango.
Ungayilungisa njani le nto? Oko unokukwenza njengomzali
Usenokuziva ulusizi kakhulu xa umntwana wakho ekhala kwaye elusizi kuba ungakwazi ukumshiya. Kodwa kukho izinto ezilula onokuzenza ukulawula oku. Ezi zingenza eli xesha libe lula kumntwana wakho nakuni.
1. Gcina incoko imfutshane kwaye inobuhlobo.
Xa umshiya umntwana wakho, musa ukuhlala ixesha elide usithi ndlela ntle. Ukuthi "Owu, nyana wam, musa ukulila" ngokuphindaphindiweyo kuya kumenza umntwana axhalabe ngakumbi. Endaweni yoko, sala kakuhle kancinci nangothando . Ncuma, uthi "Mama, ndiza kubuya ngoku," uze umqabule. Umntwana wakho uya kuzola emva kokuba umkile. Musa ukuzama ukumka ngokuzimela. Ukuba wenza njalo, umntwana wakho uya kulahlekelwa kukuthemba aze aqale ukoyika kwixesha elizayo xa umkile.
2. Yazisa umntwana kumntu omtsha oza kumkhathalela umntwana
Ukuba ushiya umntwana wakho nomntu omtsha oza kumnyamekela, musa ukumshiya wonke ngaxeshanye. Vumela umntu oza kumnyamekela achithe usuku okanye ezimbini nawe. Oku kuya kunceda umntwana aqhele umntu omtsha aze azive ekhuselekile xa ungekho.
3. Yenza uvavanyo
Ngaphambi kokuba ushiye umntwana wakho eyedwa usuku lonke, zama ukumshiya ixesha elifutshane, njengeyure enye okanye ezimbini. Nokuba awunalo uhambo olukhethekileyo, thatha uhambo olufutshane, njengokuya evenkileni. Oku kuya kunika umntwana wakho ithuba lokuqhela ukuba ufika ubuye. Kwaye ungazinika ixesha lakho!
4. Misela inkqubo kwaye unamathele kuyo.
Landela inkqubo efanayo ngalo lonke ixesha ushiya umntwana wakho. Umzekelo, mxelele ibali okanye udlale umdlalo ngaphambi kokuba uhambe. Le nkqubo inceda umntwana wakho azi ukuba uza kulindela ntoni emva koko. Oku kunokunceda ukunciphisa ixhala.
5. Thetha ngolwimi umntwana aluqondayo.
Xelela umntwana wakho ukuba uza kubuya nini. Gcina ilizwi lakho. Emva koko umntwana wakho uza kuqala ukukuthemba. Ekubeni engaqondi ixesha elikwiwotshi, thetha izinto aziqondayo, ezinje ngokuthi "Mama, ndiza kubuya xa ugqiba ukutya ngokuhlwa" okanye "Ndiza kubuya kwangoko xa uvuka ebuthongweni." Menze umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba ukufika nokuhamba kwakho kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye akukho nto yokoyika.
Xa umntwana wakho ekhala, usenokucinga ukuba kungenxa yakho. Kodwa khumbula: Asikuko ukukhala nokubambelela kuwe. Oku kukhala nokubambelela ziindlela eziqhelekileyo zokukhula kwabantwana abancinci. Musa ukuziva unetyala ngokuya emsebenzini okanye ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela. Umntwana wakho uya kuzola emva kokuba umkile. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, uya kuqhelana nokuba khona kwakho.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Kuqhelekile ukuba uninzi lweentsana (ngesiqhelo phakathi kweenyanga ezi-6 kunye neminyaka emi-3 ubudala) zibe nexhala lokuhlukana. Linyathelo elibalulekileyo ekukhuleni kwazo.
- Umntwana wakho uyakhala xa uhamba kungengenxa yokuba ungumama okanye utata ombi, kodwa ngenxa yokuba kukho ulwalamano oluqinileyo nolunothando phakathi kwenu nobabini.
- Xa usithi ndlela-ntle kumntwana wakho, yigcine imfutshane, imnandi, kwaye ihlale injalo . Ungaze uzimele. Oko kuyamphula umntwana ithemba.
- Ukuba umntwana wakho uneminyaka engaphezu kwemi-3 ubudala kwaye olu xhala luchaphazela kakhulu ubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla (ingakumbi ukuya esikolweni), qiniseka ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho ngalo mba.
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