Ngaba umntwana wakho omncinci ngequbuliso uqala ukukhala, ukukhwaza, okanye ukulwa? Okanye ngamanye amaxesha uthula kakhulu aze abe yedwa, kwihlabathi lakhe? Kunzima kakhulu kubantwana abancinci, ingakumbi abancinci, ukuveza iimvakalelo zabo ezinkulu, imibuzo, kunye noloyiko lwabo ngamazwi baze bathi, "Mama, ndivakalelwa ngolu hlobo." Kodwa banolunye ulwimi oluhle abaluthethayo nathi. Oko kukudlala . Ewe, ukudlala lulwimi lwabo. Kweli nqaku, siza kuthetha ngonyango lokudlala, olusebenzisa ukudlala njengendlela yonyango yesayensi ukunceda impilo-ntle yengqondo yomntwana.
Kalula nje, yintoni iPlay Therapy?
Xa usiva igama elithi play therapy, unokucinga, "Ngoko ke umntwana wam udlala ekhaya, ngaba loo nto iyafana?" Hayi, yahlukile. Play therapy yindlela yonyango ekhethekileyo esebenzisa ukudlala njengesixhobo , phantsi kwesikhokelo sogqirha oqeqeshiweyo, ukunceda umntwana asombulule iingxaki zeemvakalelo, iingxaki zokuziphatha, okanye ubunzima obubangelwa ngamava abuhlungu.
Khawucinge nje, igumbi lengcali yokunyanga liyindawo ekhuselekileyo nekhululekileyo yomntwana. Amathoyizi alapho ngamazwi omntwana. Esebenzisa izinto ezinje ngoonodoli, izilwanyana, iimoto, izixhobo zokuzoba, nodongwe, umntwana uveza iimvakalelo ezisentliziyweni yakhe angenakuziveza ngamazwi, njengoloyiko, umsindo, usizi, nolonwabo. Into eyenziwa yingcali yokunyanga kukuqaphela indlela umntwana adlala ngayo nokuqonda ukuba yeyiphi ingxaki ajongene nayo ngelixa emkhokela.
Ngamafutshane, le ndlela inceda umntwana ukuba afumane izisombululo kwiingxaki zakhe ngokuzijonga ngekhaka lokudlala, endaweni yokuzijonga ngqo.
Olu nyango ludla ngokuba lolona lufanelekileyo kubantwana abaphakathi kweminyaka emi-3 neli-12 ubudala. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha lusetyenziswa kubantwana abadala okanye abantu abadala abaneengxaki ezithile zokufunda.
Ezinye zezinto ezenziwa ngumntwana wakho zingabonakala ngathi "zizinto ezimbi" okanye "ziinjongo ezimbi" kuwe. Kodwa ukuba uzijonga ngenye indlela, umntwana uzama ukuqonda ihlabathi elimngqongileyo kunye neziganeko ajongene nazo. Kolu nyango, imizamo yomntwana inikwa ulwalathiso olufanelekileyo kwaye yomelezwe ukuze ajongane neengxaki zexesha elizayo ngempumelelo.
Zithini iinjongo zolu nyango?
Ngenxa yokuba umntwana ngamnye wahlukile, iinjongo zonyango ziya kwahluka kumntwana ngamnye. Ingcali yezonyango iya kumisela ezi njongo emva kokuthetha nawe kwaye ithathele ingqalelo uluvo lwakho ngemeko yomntwana. Itheyibhile engezantsi idwelisa ezinye zeenjongo eziqhelekileyo zolu nyango.
| Injongo | Ingcaciso elula |
|---|---|
| Ukufundisa ukuba bathathe uxanduva ngokuziphatha kwabo. | Kuyanceda umntwana acinge, "Kutheni ndenze oku?" "Yintoni isiphumo somsebenzi wam?" |
| Ukufundisa iindlela eziphumelelayo zokujongana neengxaki. | Endaweni yokukhwaza xa unomsindo, nceda umntwana wakho afumane ezinye iindlela zokulawula iimvakalelo zakhe. |
| Ukufundisa ukusombulula iingxaki ngobuchule. | Ibonisa umntwana ukuba kukho izisombululo ezininzi kwingxaki, endaweni yokucinga ngendlela enye kuphela. |
| Ukufundisa ukuzihlonipha wena kunye nabanye abantu. | Ibafundisa ukuqonda ukuba baxabisekile kwaye bahloniphe iimvakalelo kunye nemida yabanye. |
| Ukufundisa ukuveza iimvakalelo ngokuchanekileyo. | Zisifundisa ukuveza iimvakalelo ezinje ngosizi, umsindo, kunye noloyiko ngaphandle kokuzifihla, kodwa ngendlela engabangeli ngxaki abanye. |
| Uvelwano nokuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye. | Kuyanceda umntwana acinge, "Uza kucinga ntoni omnye umntu ukuba ndenza oku?" |
Ngamanye amaxesha, ingcali yezonyango ivumela umntwana ukuba adlale ngokukhululekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha, banika isikhokelo esincinci sendlela yokudlala ngendlela emncedayo ukuba afezekise injongo yakhe. Wena, mzali, unokumenywa ukuba uye kwezinye iiseshoni. Ngale ndlela, ungafunda izinto ezifanayo umntwana wakho azifundayo, uqonde "isizathu" sokuziphatha kwakhe, kwaye umncede ekhaya.
Zeziphi iindlela ezisetyenziswa yingcali yezonyango?
Ingcali yezonyango ingakuqonda oko umntwana akucingayo ngokujonga amathoyizi awakhethayo kunye nendlela adlala ngayo. Nazi ezinye zemizekelo:
1. Ukukhulisa Umdlalo
Khawucinge ngomntwana wakho etyisa, ehlamba, kwaye egona unodoli ukuze alale. Le inokuba yindlela engabonakaliyo yokuba umntwana wakho abonise intswelo yakhe yothando olungakumbi kunye nenkathalo evela kubazali bakhe . Okanye, basenokuzibona njengonodoli. Le inokuba yindlela yokuba bafumane intuthuzelo kubo.
2. Ukutshabalalisa okanye ukuphazamisa izinto (Umdlalo woMhlaseli-uXhoba)
Ngaba umntwana wakho uphosa ibhokisi yezinto zokudlala phantsi ngoko nangoko aze enze ingxolo kwangoko nje akungena egumbini? Oku kunokubonisa ukuba uziva engalawuleki kubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla. Ukuba izinto azihambi ngendlela yakhe ekhaya okanye esikolweni, unokuzama ukubonisa amandla akhe okanye akhuphe umsindo wakhe ngokuphosa izinto zokudlala.
3. Ukuhlela okanye Ukulungisa Umdlalo
Ngaba umntwana wakho uchitha ixesha lakhe elininzi ehlela izinto zokudlala ngombala, ubungakanani, okanye ezipakisha kakuhle? Oku kuthetha ukuba ufuna ukudala ucwangco nolawulo kwihlabathi lakhe elibonakala lididekile . Usenokuba uzama ukuqonda ukuba "le yindlela izinto ezimele zibe yiyo."
4. Dlala Ngokulala
Ukuba umntwana wakho uhlala elalisa oonodoli okanye izilwanyana ezifakwe izinto, okanye ezenza ngathi ulala yena, oko kungaba luphawu lokuba uziva exinezelekile luxinzelelo lobomi . Usenokufuna ikhefu, indlela yokubaleka kwezi ngxaki okwethutyana. Mhlawumbi umntwana owoyika ukulala yedwa ebusuku okanye onexhala lokuhlukana naye unokusebenzisa olu hlobo lokudlala ukuze azole emini.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukudlala lolona lwimi lwendalo nolunamandla kakhulu kumntwana ukuveza iimvakalelo zakhe, uloyiko lwakhe, kunye neengxaki zakhe.
- Unyango Lokudlala alupheleli nje ekudlaleni. Luyindlela yonyango esekelwe kwisayensi eqhutywa phantsi kwesikhokelo sengcali eqeqeshiweyo.
- Olu nyango lunokuba luncedo kakhulu ukuba umntwana wakho uneengxaki zokuziphatha, umsindo ogqithisileyo, usizi, ukuziphatha okungafanelekanga, okanye ukhe waba namava abuhlungu.
- "Indlela yokuziphatha embi" yomntwana idla ngokuba kukukhalela uncedo. Kubalulekile ukuyiqonda nokuphendula kuyo.
- Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nempilo yengqondo yomntwana wakho okanye indlela aziphethe ngayo, musa ukuba neentloni okanye ukoyika ukuthetha nogqirha wakho. Yena angakunika isikhokelo esifanelekileyo.
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