Ingabe unezinkinga ngempilo yakho yocansi? Ake sixoxe ngodokotela wezocansi!

Ucansi luyinto ebaluleke kakhulu empilweni yethu. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, kungavela izinkinga nezinkinga ezahlukene kulokhu. Uma lokho kwenzeka, abanye abantu bayahlupheka ngaphandle kokutshela muntu ngenxa yamahloni nokwesaba. Kodwa bewazi ukuthi kukhona ochwepheshe abangasiza ngalezi zinto? Labo yibo esizokhuluma ngabo namuhla, 'Ochwepheshe Bezokwelapha Ucansi'.

Ubani lo Mhlengikazi Wezocansi?

Kalula nje, 'uMeluleki Wezocansi ' unguchwepheshe wezempilo onelayisensi oqonda izithiyo zengqondo nezingokomzwelo ezithinta impilo yakho yocansi futhi akusize uthole izixazululo zazo. Cabanga ngakho, ngezinye izikhathi asikwazi ukuya ocansini noma ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo ngenxa yokwesaba, ukukhathazeka, noma okuhlangenwe nakho okungathandeki kwangaphambilini. Yilokho laba bantu abasiza ngakho.

"Udokotela Wezokwelapha Ngocansi" angaba yisisebenzi sezenhlalakahle, udokotela ojwayelekile, noma ngisho nodokotela wengqondo. Kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu, kumele babe nokuqeqeshwa okukhethekile ngempilo yocansi nezinkinga zobulili. Abakwazi ukunikeza noma ubani lesi seluleko . Basebenza nabantu ngabanye noma imibhangqwana ukuze babasize baxazulule izinkinga zobulili, isibonelo, ukwesaba ucansi ( ukukhathazeka ngokusebenza kahle) noma izinkinga ebudlelwaneni obuseduze (izinkinga zokusondelana).

Wenzani uchwepheshe wezocansi?

Manje ake sibone ukuthi yini ngempela eyenziwa 'nguchwepheshe wezocansi'.

Zisiza ekwelapheni izinkinga ezahlukahlukene zocansi, ikakhulukazi lezo ezibangelwa izici zengqondo noma ezithonywa izici zengqondo. Zisiza futhi ngezinkinga ezihlobene nokuphila kocansi kanye nobudlelwano. Konke lokhu kwenziwa endaweni esekelayo, engahluleli, enenhlonipho, nephephile.

Kodwa nansi into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule. Abelaphi bezocansi abalaphi izimo zomzimba ezithinta ucansi. Isibonelo, abakwazi ukwelapha i-testosterone ephansi . Ngakho-ke, uma unezinkinga ngomsebenzi wakho wobulili, kufanele uqale ubonane nodokotela womndeni wakho, udokotela wezifo zabesifazane (uma ungowesifazane) noma udokotela wezifo zomchamo (uma ungowesilisa) ukuze anqume ukuthi kukhona yini imbangela engokomzimba.Uma kungekho sizathu esibonakalayo, noma uma kukhona umphumela wengqondo kanye nesizathu esibonakalayo, khona-ke usizo 'loMeluleki Wezocansi' luyadingeka.

Abelaphi bezocansi basebenzisa izindlela eziningi zokwelapha ezifakazelwe ngokwesayensi ukuthuthukisa izimpilo zabantu zocansi. Bavame ukusebenzisa into ebizwa ngokuthi i-psychotherapy. Kalula nje, lokhu kuyindlela yokwelapha ngenkulumo. Kuhilela ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho, imicabango, kanye nokuziphatha kwakho, ukuyiqonda, kanye nokuzama ukwenza izinguquko ezidingekayo. Kunezinhlobo eziningana ze-psychotherapy ezisetshenziswa ekwelashweni ngocansi :

• Ukwelashwa Kokuziphatha Kokuqonda (i-CBT)
• Ukwelashwa okusekelwe emizwelweni
• Ukungenelela okusekelwe ekucabangeni
• Amasu okuxhumana kwemibhangqwana

Enye into ukuthi, 'Odokotela Bezokwelapha Ngocansi' bavikela kakhulu ubumfihlo bakho kanye nobumfihlo bakho. Eqinisweni, kuyingxenye yekhodi yabo yokuziphatha yobungcweti. Odokotela bezokwelapha abaphula ubumfihlo beziguli bangalahlekelwa yilayisensi yabo yobungcweti.

Yini okufanele uyenze kudokotela wezokwelapha ngocansi?

Umsebenzi wocansi (hhayi nje ucansi, kodwa futhi nendlela yangaphandle kanye nokushaya indlwabu) kuyinto eyinkimbinkimbi ehilela zonke izici ezintathu: ngokomzwelo, ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Uma unesifiso sokwenza ucansi, umsebenzi wocansi onempilo uyingxenye ebalulekile yekhwalithi yempilo yakho. Kuxhunyaniswe nenhlalakahle yomzimba neyengqondo, kanye nokwaneliseka kobudlelwano.

Izisebenzi zezempilo kanye nabafundisi bezocansi bahlukanisa umsebenzi wocansi ngezigaba ezine eziyinhloko. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi umjikelezo wokuphendula ngokocansi:

• Isifiso/Isifiso Sobulili: Lokhu kusho isifiso sokwenza ucansi, isifiso sokwenza ucansi.
• Ukuvusa/Ukujabula: Ukulungela komzimba ukwenza ucansi.
• I-Orgasm: Isiqongo sokwaneliseka ngokocansi.
• Isixazululo: Inqubo lapho ukuvuka kuncipha khona futhi umzimba ubuyela esimweni esijwayelekile.

Izinkinga zocansi zingavela kunoma yisiphi isigaba salo mjikelezo. Ukwazi ukuthi usabela kanjani ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba esigabeni ngasinye ngeke nje kuthuthukise ulwazi lwakho lwezocansi, kodwa futhi kungakusiza ukuthi ubone izimbangela zokungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi.

"Udokotela Wezokwelapha Ngocansi" angasiza ngezici zengqondo nezingokomzwelo ezihlobene nokungasebenzi kahle kocansi okuhlukahlukene. Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa:

• Ukuntuleka kwesifiso socansi.
• Ukuntuleka kokuvuka kocansi.
• Ubunzima bokufinyelela i-orgasm (i-anorgasmia).
• Ubuhlungu ngesikhathi socansi (i-dyspareunia). Isibonelo, ubuhlungu obubangelwa ukuqina kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane (i-vaginismus).
• Ubunzima bokuthola noma ukugcina ukuma (ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile).
• Ukuphuma komchamo ngaphambi kwesikhathi, ukuphuma komchamo ngesikhathi sokuphuza, noma ezinye izinkinga zokuphuma komchamo.

Ngaphezu kwalokhu, 'uMeluleki Wezocansi' angakusiza ngezinye izinselele eziningi:

• Ukunikeza imfundo efanele ngocansi nokususa imibono eyiphutha.
• Ukubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi noma ukuhlukumezeka ngokocansi.
• Imizwa yokukhathazeka, ukwesaba, noma amahloni ahlobene nocansi.
• Izinkinga ezibangelwa imibono yamasiko, yenkolo kanye neyezenhlalo ngocansi.
• Thuthukisa ukuxhumana phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho mayelana nocansi kanye nokusondelana .
• Isifiso sobulili esingalingani phakathi kwabalingani.
• Izinkinga zobudlelwano ezibangelwa ubunzima bocansi.
• Isithombe somzimba esibi nokuthi sithinta kanjani ucansi.
• Ukuphila ngempumelelo nezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi (ama-STI).
• Isifo socansi oluxubile noma ukulutheka ngokocansi.
• Umlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile.

Kwenzekani ngesikhathi seseshini yokwelapha ngocansi?

Kulungile, manje ake sibone ukuthi kwenzekani ngesikhathi seseshini 'yokwelashwa ngocansi', okungukuthi, uma uya kudokotela wezokwelapha.

Phakathi nalezi zikhathi, wena nodokotela wakho wezocansi nisebenzisana ukuhlonza nokushintsha imicabango nokuziphatha okuphazamisa impilo yakho yocansi. Ungahlangana nodokotela wakho wezocansi wedwa, noma ungahamba nesoka lakho/intombi yakho, umyeni/umfazi, noma umlingani wakho wezocansi.

Udokotela wakho angase akubuze imibuzo mayelana nezinto ezifana nalezi:

• Mayelana nempilo yakho kanye nesizinda sakho socansi .
• Mayelana nemfundo yocansi oyitholile.
• Izinkolelo zakho kanye nesimo sakho sengqondo mayelana nocansi .
• Yiziphi izinkinga zobulili obhekene nazo?

Kuyiqiniso ukuthi ukukhuluma ngocansi ngezinye izikhathi kungaba yinto exakile futhi ehlazisayo. Abelaphi bezocansi bayakwazi kahle lokhu. Yingakho bezama konke okusemandleni abo ukudala isimo lapho ungakhuluma khona ngokukhululeka nangaphandle kokwesaba.

Khumbula, njengoba ukwelashwa kwengqondo kumayelana nokukhuluma, udinga ukuba yingxenye esebenzayo kule nqubo. Ukwethembana nobudlelwano phakathi kwakho nodokotela wakho kubalulekile empumelelweni yalolu hlobo lokwelapha.

'Uchwepheshe Wezokwelapha Ngocansi' wakho angakunika 'umsebenzi wasekhaya'.Unganikeza futhi. Okusho ukuthi, imisebenzi kanye nokuzivocavoca ongakwenza ekhaya, ngendlela evikela ubumfihlo bakho. Lokhu kungaba izinto ezifana "nokuhlola"`, isibonelo, "ukudlala indima"`. Noma kungaba ukuzivocavoca okwenzayo wedwa noma nomlingani wakho ukwakha ukwethembana nokusondelana.

Into eyodwa okufanele uyazi lapha ukuthi ngesikhathi seseshini 'yokwelashwa ngocansi', ngeke kube khona ukuthintana ngokomzimba noma izenzo zocansi phakathi kwakho nomelaphi. Lokho akunakwenzeka. Uma uzizwa ungakhululekile nganoma yisiphi isici sokwelashwa, qiniseka ukuthi utshela umelaphi wakho. Noma, unelungelo lokuyeka ukumbona bese ufaka isikhalazo ngakho.

Uyini umehluko phakathi koMeluleki Wezocansi kanye noMeluleki Wezocansi?

Kungenzeka ukuthi uke wezwa ngamagama amabili athi `Uchwepheshe Wezocansi` kanye `Umeluleki Wezocansi`. Bobabili laba bantu bangabantu abathole ukuqeqeshwa okubanzi kwezocansi. Emazweni afana ne-United States, bobabili laba bantu kumele baqinisekiswe yinhlangano ebizwa ngokuthi `i-American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). ESri Lanka, kumele babe neziqu eziqashelwayo zalokhu futhi.

Umehluko usendleleni laba ababili ababhekana ngayo nezindaba zocansi.

• Udokotela Wezokwelapha Ngocansi: Basebenzisa i-psychotherapy, noma i-talk therapy, ukusiza ngezinkinga zocansi. Lezi zinkinga zingaba lula noma zibe nzima. Bafinyelela emnyombweni wenkinga futhi bafune izimbangela zengqondo nengokomzwelo.
• Umeluleki Wezocansi: Basebenzisa indlela ethile esekelwe esenzweni. Banikeza imfundo ngezinkinga zesikhashana, bafundisa amasu ahlukahlukene, futhi bavame ukugxila ekudluliseleni ulwazi nasekunikezeni iseluleko esiwusizo.

Ungaba kanjani uchwepheshe wezocansi?

Ukuba 'uchwepheshe wezocansi' akulula. Kudinga imfundo nokuqeqeshwa okubalulekile. Indlela evamile ifana nalokhu (lokhu kungahluka kancane kuye ngezwe):

• Iziqu zeBachelor: Iziqu eziyisisekelo ezivela eyunivesithi.
• Iziqu ze-Master noma ze-Doctoral: Iziqu ze-master noma ze-doctorate emkhakheni ohlobene, njenge-psychology noma umsebenzi wezenhlalo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuzodingeka ube nolwazi lwezokwelapha.
• Ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile: Ukuqeqeshwa kwezokwelapha ngokwengqondo kuyimpoqo. Futhi, udinga ukuqedela amahora amaningana ezifundo eziphathelene nemfundo yezocansi (isb., cishe amahora angama-90).
• Ilayisensi: Kumelwe uthole ilayisensi efanele yokwenza ukwelashwa ngocansi ezweni noma esifundazweni esifanele.

Ungabona kulokhu ukuthi lokhu kungaphezu nje kweseluleko, kuyizinga elijulile nelichwepheshile. Ngokuvamile kuthatha okungenani iminyaka eyisishiyagalolunye ukuba yi-'Sex Therapist' eqinisekisiwe. Lokhu kufaka phakathi konke kusukela kudigri eyisisekelo, iziqu ze-postgraduate, kanye nokuqeqeshwa kwezokwelapha. Ngakho-ke lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi laba bantu bazinikele kangakanani kulo mkhakha.

Yimuphi umyalezo esifuna ukuwuthatha ekhaya kule ndaba?

Ukukhuluma ngocansi nezinkinga zocansi ngezinye izikhathi kungaba nzima, kube namahloni, noma kwesabise. Lokho kuvamile. Kodwa khumbula, awuwedwa.

`Uchwepheshe Wezokwelapha Ngocansi` ngumuntu ongakusiza ukuthi uqonde lezi zinhlobo zezithiyo zocansi, uzinqobe, futhi uphile impilo egcwele nenempilo.

Bangochwepheshe kulo mkhakha. Banolwazi oluhle ngocwaningo lwakamuva kanye namasu okwelapha angcono kakhulu angakusiza.

Ngakho-ke, uma unezinkinga ezihlobene nempilo yakho yocansi, ungazigcini wedwa bese uhlupheka, kodwa ungesabi ukufuna usizo ku-'Sex Therapist' ofanelekile. Kuwusizo olukhulu ongazenzela lona.

Uchwepheshe wezocansi , izinkinga zocansi, impilo yengqondo, ukwelulekwa ngocansi, ukwelashwa kwengqondo, ukungasebenzi kahle kocansi, izinkinga zobudlelwano