Ngezinye izikhathi akulula ukukhuluma nothile ngalokho okusezingqondweni zethu, akunjalo? Ikakhulukazi uma kuyisimo sengqondo esifana nokucindezeleka, sesaba ukucwaswa umphakathi nokungaqondwa kahle. Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi lokhu kumane kuwukudabuka noma ubuthakathaka. Kodwa ukucindezeleka akunjalo. Yisimo sezokwelapha esidinga ukwelashwa, njengesifo sikashukela noma umfutho wegazi ophakeme, futhi sinomthelela omkhulu empilweni yethu.
Kuyini ngempela ukucindezeleka?
Kalula nje, i-Major Depression Disorder (MDD) ingaphezu nje kokuzizwa uphansi usuku olulodwa noma ezimbili. Ingaba nemiphumela yesikhathi eside ekucabangeni kwakho, emizweni, ekuziphatheni, nasempilweni yakho yomzimba. Abanye abantu babheka lesi simo “njengokukhubazeka.” Lelo gama lingase lizwakale njengento enkulu kuwe. Kodwa lisho ukuthi lesi sifo singaphazamisa imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke, umsebenzi, kanye nempilo yomndeni kuze kube seqophelweni lapho ungakwazi ukusebenza kahle khona.
Njengoba nje umlenze ophukile ungenza kube nzima ngathi ukuhamba, kumuntu ocindezelekile, ngisho nokuvuka embhedeni ekuseni nokuqala usuku lwakhe kungaba yinselele enkulu. Ngakho lokhu akuyona into okufanele ube namahloni ngayo noma uyifihle. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma ngakho obala bese uthola ukwesekwa okudingayo.
Khumbula, ukugula ngengqondo kufana nesifo somzimba. Kudinga nokwelashwa nokuqonda.
Umsebenzi nokucindezeleka: Sikuphatha kanjani lokhu?
Sichitha isikhathi esiningi sempilo yethu emsebenzini. Ngakho-ke uma unesifo sokucindezeleka, kungathinta umsebenzi wakho. Abantu abaningi bayesaba ukukhuluma ngakho. Kodwa endaweni esekelayo, ukukhuluma ngakho kungaba impumuzo enkulu.
Ake sibheke isibonelo. Cabanga ngomuntu ogama lakhe linguSamantha, ocindezelekile kakhulu emsebenzini. Uhlala ekhathazekile ngezinkinga nabanye asebenza nabo. Ngezinye izikhathi ngokuzumayo uzwa ukuqina kwesifuba nobunzima bokuphefumula, ngisho nokuhlaselwa uvalo . Lokhu kucindezeleka kwenza ukucindezeleka kwakhe kube kubi nakakhulu.
USamantha ucela umphathi wakhe ukuba amvumele asebenze ekhaya izinsuku ezimbili ngesonto. Ucabanga ukuthi kuzomnika inkululeko ethile yengqondo ukuze enze umsebenzi wakhe. Kodwa umphathi wakhe akamthathi ngokungathi sína. "Yileyo ndlela nje," esho, echitha isicelo. Ucela ukuthi alethe incwadi evela kudokotela, kodwa akamnikezi ukwesekwa okudingekayo. Ngemva kwesikhashana, uSamantha uxoshwa emsebenzini wakhe ngezinye izizathu. Ingabe lesi akusona isimo esibi kakhulu?
Kodwa, akuzona zonke izindawo ezinje. Manje ake ucabange ukuthi uSamantha uthola umsebenzi kumphathi osekelayo noqondayo. Ngolunye usuku, umphathi wakhe omusha umbuza ukuthi angasebenza yini amashifu ambalwa ebusuku. USamantha uyazi ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukulala kahle ngokucindezeleka kwakhe. Uma engalali ebusuku, uzizwa ekhathele kakhulu ngosuku olulandelayo ukuba angenza noma yini.
USamantha uthi ngesibindi nangokwethembeka: "Mnumzane, ngingasebenza ebusuku. Kodwa ngenxa yokucindezeleka kwami nokukhathala okungapheli, nginenkinga yokuza emsebenzini ngakusasa. Ngakho-ke kufanele ngiphumule ngalolo suku."
Ucabanga ukuthi kwenzekeni? Umphathi wakhe waqonda wathi, "Kulungile, akukho nkinga, Samantha. Sizokwenza ngaleyo ndlela."
Uwubonile umehluko? Endaweni lapho kukhona ukuxhumana okuhle nokuqondana , ungasebenza ngaphandle kwezinkinga ngesimo sakho sempilo.
| Indlela abanye abakubona ngayo (ukuqonda okungalungile) | Kuyini ngempela? (Uphawu lokucindezeleka) |
|---|---|
| "Uvilapha kakhulu, akakwazi ukuvuka ekuseni." | Ukukhathala okungapheli kanye nokushintsha kwendlela yokulala. |
| "Umsebenzi uyaphazamisa, akukho ukunakwa." | Ubunzima bokugxilisa ingqondo kanye nokuntuleka kwamandla yizimpawu eziyinhloko zokucindezeleka. |
| "Uhlala edabukile, ucasuka ngezinto ezincane kakhulu." | Ukudabuka isikhathi eside, ukukhathazeka, kanye nokuhlaselwa uvalo ngezinye izikhathi. Lokhu akuhlosiwe. |
| "Lezi yizindaba nje zengqondo." | Lezi yizimo zezokwelapha zangempela ezidinga ukwelashwa futhi zibangelwa ukungalingani kwamakhemikhali obuchopho (ama-neurotransmitters). |
Kungani kubalulekile ukubona udokotela?
Uma unalezi zimpawu, ungacabangi nje ukuthi, “Lokhu kuzolunga ngokwakho.” Into engcono kakhulu nebaluleke kakhulu ongayenza ukubona udokotela womndeni wakho noma udokotela wezifo zengqondo.
1. Ukuxilongwa Okunembile: Udokotela kuphela ongahlonza ngokunembile ukuthi unesifo sokucindezeleka noma esinye isimo sempilo.
2. Uhlelo lokwelashwa: Angakudlulisela ezindleleni zokwelashwa ezifanele, njengemithi, ukwelulekwa, kanye nokwelashwa kokuziphatha uma kudingeka.
3. Isitifiketi Sezokwelapha: Uma udinga izindawo ezithile zokuhlala ezindaweni ezifana nendawo yokusebenza, udokotela wakho angakunikeza nemibiko yezokwelapha edingekayo kanye nezincomo. Leli yilungelo lakho.
Ungahlupheki wedwa. Ukucela usizo kuwuphawu lwamandla, hhayi ubuthakathaka. Impilo yakho yengqondo ibaluleke njengempilo yakho yomzimba.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Isifo Sokucindezeleka Okukhulu akusona ubuthakathaka okufanele ube namahloni ngabo, kuyisimo sangempela sezokwelapha esingelashwa.
- Ungesabi ukukhuluma nomuntu omethembayo (ilungu lomndeni, umngane, udokotela) ngemizwa nezidingo zakho.
- Izinto ezinjengobunzima bokuvuka ekuseni kanye nokukhathala ngokweqile akuzona ubuvila, zingaba izimpawu zomzimba zokucindezeleka.
- Unelungelo lokufuna ukwesekwa kanye nosizo emsebenzini. Kubalulekile ukufuna iseluleko sezokwelapha ngalokhu.
- Uma unalezi zimpawu, sicela uxhumane nodokotela ofanelekayo ngokushesha okukhulu.
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