Injabulo yokuletha umntwana ekhaya ayichazeki, akunjalo? Lelo phunga elisha, uthando oluzwayo uma ubheka izandla nezinyawo ezincane... Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, kanye naleyo njabulo, kunezikhathi lapho kufika khona imizwa efana nokudabuka, ukukhathazeka, kanye nesizungu engqondweni. Wake wazizwa ngaleyo ndlela? Eqinisweni, cishe wonke umama omusha udlula kulesi sigameko. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi lokhu kuyinto evamile noma into okufanele siyinake kakhulu.
Ingabe lokhu 'yi-Baby Blues'? Noma ingabe kukhona okunye?
Ngemva kokubeletha umntwana, cishe izingxenye ezintathu kwezine zomama ziba 'ne-baby blues'. Lokhu kuvamile kakhulu. Cabanga ngakho, ukuba nomntwana kuyishintsho elikhulu empilweni yakho. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, amazinga ama-hormone emzimbeni wakho ashintsha ngokuzumayo kusukela ekukhulelweni. Uma konke lokhu kuhlangana, kuvamile ukuzizwa ukhathazekile futhi ufune ukukhala.
Kunomehluko emibili emikhulu phakathi 'kokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha' kanye nokucindezeleka kwangempela kwangemva kokubeletha.
1. Isikhathi ozizwa udabukile ngaso.
2. Yeka ukuthi leyo mizwa izwakala inamandla futhi ijule kangakanani.
'Ukucindezeleka komntwana' kuvame ukuqala ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ngemva kokuzalwa komntwana. Kuvame ukuphela ngemva kwamasonto amabili. Kodwa uma usazizwa udangele ngemva kwezinsuku ezingu-15, ungacabangi ngokushesha ukuthi ukucindezeleka. Akuyona into engalinganiswa ngezinsuku eziqondile.
Umuzwa 'wokuzizwa udabukile' nawo uhlukile kancane. Akusikho ukudabuka nje kuphela, umuzwa wokugcwala imizwa. Ungakhala ngoba udangele, kodwa ungakhala futhi ngoba ujabule futhi uthandana nomntanakho. Yisikhathi lapho uzizwa yonke imizwa isezingeni eliphezulu.
Kutholakala kanjani ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha?
Ukucindezeleka ngemva kokubeletha kuyisimo esibi kakhulu nesihlala isikhathi eside. Kufana nokuzizwa uphansi usuku lonke nokubona konke okwenzayo ngengilazi empunga. Bheka ukuthi unazo yini lezi zimpawu.
| Isici | Ingabe yile ndlela ozizwa ngayo? |
|---|---|
| Izinkinga zokulala | Wonke umuntu uthi, "Lala lapho umntwana elele." Kodwa noma uzama ukulala, awukwazi ukulala ngisho noma uvala amehlo akho? |
| Izinguquko ekudleni | Ingabe wehlisa isisindo ngoba unesithukuthezi sokudla? Noma udla kakhulu ngoba udangele? |
| Ukuzihlukanisa emphakathini | Awunaso isifiso sokuhlangana noma sokukhuluma nanoma ubani? Ingabe kuyakukhathaza ngisho nalapho kufika othile endlini yakho? |
| Angizizwa ngijabule | Ingabe izinto owawuzijabulela ukuzenza (ukubukela i-TV, ukufunda incwadi, ukukhuluma nomngane) azisakulethi injabulo? |
| Ubunzima bokugxila | Awukwazi yini ukugxila kunoma yini? Uzizwa sengathi ukhohlwa konke? |
| Ukuzibeka icala | Ingabe imicabango efana nokuthi “Angisiye umama omuhle” nokuthi “Angikwazi ukwenza lutho kahle” ihlala ifika engqondweni? |
| Ubunzima bokusondelana nomntwana | Ukungazizwa uthandwa ngengane, uzizwa njengomthwalo wokunakekela ingane. Ingabe lokhu kukwenza uzizwe unamahloni futhi unecala? |
Uma unezinye zalezi zimpawu isikhathi eside, bona udokotela wakho ngokushesha bese ukhuluma ngakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna iseluleko sezokwelapha ngokushesha uma ucabanga ngokuzilimaza wena noma ingane yakho.
Ingabe isikhathi semvula siyathinta lesi simo?
Nakuba kungekho into ebizwa ngokuthi "ubusika" ezweni lakithi, kunezinsuku ezinezinkathi zemvula eziqhubekayo kanye nesimo sezulu esimnyama. Uma uvaleleke ekhaya phakathi nezinsuku ezinjalo, isizungu nokudabuka kunganda. Abanye besifazane banesimo lapho imizwa yabo ishintsha khona ngokwesimo sezulu. Sibizwa ngokuthi `(Seasonal Affective Disorder - SAD)`. Lokho kusho ukuthi bathambekele kakhulu ekucindezelekeni ngezikhathi zobumnyama nezingashisi kakhulu zonyaka.
Ngisho noma ungakaze ubhekane nalokhu ngaphambili, ukunamathela ekhaya nosana olusanda kuzalwa kungakwenza uzizwe unesizungu nakakhulu ebumnyameni nasemakhazeni osuku olunemvula. Ucwaningo eFinland luthole nokuthi omama banamathuba amaningi okubhekana nalolu hlobo lokucindezeleka ngezikhathi zobumnyama nezibandayo zonyaka.
Ungahlela kanjani kusenesikhathi futhi uthole usizo?
Uma ingane yakho ikhulelwe ngesikhathi semvula, futhi uvame ukuzizwa udangele ngezikhathi ezinjalo, kuwumqondo omuhle ukuhlela kusenesikhathi.
- Hlela ukuba othile asize: Khuluma nomuntu omethembayo, njengomyeni wakho, umama, udadewenu, noma umamezala, kusenesikhathi ukuze akusize ngemisebenzi yasekhaya kanye nokunakekela izingane.
- Xhumana nabanye omama: Xhumana nabanye omama ohlangane nabo emakilasini okubeletha noma ezinhlelweni zemfundo yokuncelisa. Omama ababelethe izingane ngesikhathi esisodwa bangaqonda ubunzima bomunye nomunye.
Amathiphu ambalwa okuphumula nomntwana wakho
Akudingeki uhlale ekhaya usuku lonke ngoba nje kuyisikhathi sezimvula. Zama lezi zinto ukuze wehlise isisindo osizwayo.
- Hamba kancane: Ngosuku olunelanga, thatha ingane yakho iyohamba ngaphandle. Ukukhanya kwelanga kungomunye wemithi engcono kakhulu yokukwenza ujabule.
- Hamba ngenyawo enxanxatheleni yezitolo: Faka ingane yakho esitulweni sezinyawo bese uhambahamba enxanxatheleni yezitolo noma esitolo esikhulu. Uma ufuna ukuncelisa ingane yakho, ungakwenza lokho ngokukhululeka ekamelweni lokufaneleka esitolo sezingubo.
- Phuza inkomishi yetiye nomngane: Yiya ekhefini lapho kunabantu abambalwa bese uxoxa nomngane oqonda imizwa yakho.
- Thatha uhambo olufushane emotweni: Izingane eziningi zilala kangcono emotweni. Beka ingane yakho esihlalweni semoto, ulalele ezinye zezingoma ozithandayo, bese uthatha uhambo olufushane.
- Xhumana ku-inthanethi: Ngezinsuku lapho ungakwazi ukuphuma endlini, khuluma nabanye omama ku-inthanethi. Ungathola ukwesekwa okuningi ezintweni ezifana namaqembu e-Facebook namaqembu e-WhatsApp.
Kuthiwani uma kudingeka ukwelashwa kwezokwelapha?
Ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukubhekana nale mizwa wedwa. Ngezikhathi ezinjengalezi, kubalulekile ukufuna iseluleko sezokwelapha. Uma ukhuluma nodokotela wakho, uzosikisela ukwelashwa okufanele kakhulu kuwe.
Abanye abantu bangase bazuze ekwelashweni okungeyona imithi njengokwelashwa okulula. Uma isimo sezulu esimnyama sikukhathaza kakhulu, khuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu. Ungase futhi ucabangele ukwelulekwa noma, uma kudingeka, imithi.
"Umphakathi ungase ukucindezele ukuthi ujabule ngoba unengane enempilo. Kodwa uma ucindezelekile, awuzizwa ngaleyo njabulo. Akulona iphutha lakho. Kuyisifo."
Ukucela usizo kukunika ithuba lokuzinakekela wena kanye nomntanakho ngothando obulokhu uluphupha.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- 'Ukuzizwa ukhathele' kuyisimo esivamile, sesikhashana. Kodwa ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kuyisimo esibi kakhulu esidinga usizo lwezokwelapha.
- Uma izimpawu ezifana nokushintsha kwendlela yokulala neyokudla, ukuzihlukanisa nabantu, kanye nokuzisola ziqhubeka, ungazinaki.
- Uma izimpawu ziqhubeka noma unemicabango yokuzilimaza wena noma ingane, xhumana nodokotela wakho ngokushesha.
- Ungabi wedwa. Hlala uxhumene nomndeni, abangane, kanye nabanye omama abasha.
- Ukucela usizo akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka, kodwa uphawu lwamandla. Kuzokusiza ukuthi ujabulele ukuba ngumama.
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