Ingabe ingane yakho encane iyakhala uma ikushiya? Ake sixoxe ngokukhathazeka ngokwehlukana!

Bomama nobaba, kumelwe ukuthi nijwayelene kakhulu nomntwana wenu oninamathele, ekhala futhi ekhala, lapho nilungiselela ukuya emsebenzini noma nimane nihambahamba kancane. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kungazwakala njengokudabuka okukhulu nokukhathazeka, kodwa empeleni kuyingxenye evamile yokukhula kwezingane ezincane. Khululeka, lokhu kuyinto cishe wonke umzali abhekana nayo. Namuhla, ake sixoxe ngalesi simo esibizwa ngokuthi i-Separation Anxiety ngokuningiliziwe.

Kuyini lokhu kukhathazeka ngokwehlukana ezinganeni?

Kalula nje, ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana kwenzeka lapho ingane yakho encane, kungaba usana noma ingane encane, ikhala futhi icasuke uma ungekho kuyo noma ungabonwa. Empeleni lesi yisigaba esivamile kakhulu sokukhula kwengane. Ngokuvamile siqala lapho ingane inezinyanga ezi-6 kuya kwezi-12 ubudala . Kwabanye abantwana, kungaqhubeka kuze kube yilapho beneminyaka engaba mi-3 ubudala .

Uyazi ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka ezinganeni ezincane? Lapho zisencane, azikwazi ukuqonda ukuthi "noma ngabe into ethile ayibonakali, isekhona." Lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi ``(Into Ehlala Njalo)`` . Okusho ukuthi, ikhono lokuqonda ukuthi into noma umuntu usekhona, noma ngabe akabonakali. Ngakho-ke, lapho umntwana engakuboni, angase acabange ukuthi ngeke ubuye. Kodwa njengoba umntwana ekhula, uyaqonda ukuthi uhamba isikhashana nje futhi uzobuya.

Ingabe lokhu kuyinto evamile? Noma ingabe kuyinto okufanele ukhathazeke ngayo?

Kuvamile ukuzwa ubuhlungu obukhulu uma ushiya ingane yakho emsebenzini bese uphuma ngomnyango, ukhala ezinyaweni zakho. Kodwa khumbula, lokhu kungokwesikhashana, kungokwesikhashana nje . Eqinisweni, lokhu kuyisibonakaliso esihle sesibopho esiqinile phakathi kwakho nengane yakho. Kuthatha isikhathi ukuthi ingane yakho idlule kulesi sigaba. Izikhathi ezinjengalezi zingaba nzima kancane kuwe nakumntanakho. Kodwa-ke, ngokujwayela ukuvalelisa ngokushesha nokutshela ingane yakho ukuthi uzobuya nini, unganciphisa ubuhlungu bokuhlukana.

Nakhu okunye okufanele ukuqonde. Ukukhathazeka Ngokuhlukana Nokukhathazeka Komuntu Ongaziwa kuyizinto ezimbili ezahlukene. Kodwa izimpawu zingase zifane ngezinye izikhathi. Ukukhathazeka Komuntu Ongaziwa yilapho ingane isaba futhi ingakhululeki lapho ibona umuntu engamazi. Lokho futhi kuyisici esivamile sokukhula ezinganeni zale minyaka.

Yiziphi izimpawu zengane eziphatha kanje?

Ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana ezinsaneni nasezinganeni ezincane kungafaka lezi zimpawu ezilandelayo:

• Ukukhala noma ukwenza umsindo, noma ngabe uya kwelinye ikamelo futhi bangakuboni.
• Ukumemeza kakhulu noma ukuthukuthela uma uzama ukubashiya.
• Ukubambelela emzimbeni wakho , ungakuyeki.
• Ukukhala uma ubashiya enkulisa noma endlini yomunye umuntu.
• Ukuzama ukukugcina useduze ngenkathi ulele.

Lezi zindlela zokuziphatha zivame ukwehla kancane kancane lapho ingane ineminyaka emi-2 noma emi-3 ubudala . Kodwa khumbula, akuzona zonke izingane ezifanayo . Ingane yakho ingase idinge isikhathi esengeziwe ukuze iphume kulesi sigaba. Lokho kuvamile.

Kunini lapho lokhu kuba yinto engajwayelekile? Ingabe kufanele ngibone udokotela wezingane?

Ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana kuyisimo esivamile esiqhubeka ngemva kokuba ingane yakho iqale isikole samabanga aphansi, ngokuvamile ngemva kweminyaka engu-3. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukucabangela ukuthi ngabe kuyathinta yini ikhono lengane yakho lokuya esikoleni noma lokuhlala esikoleni.

Ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana okuqhubeka ngemva kweminyaka emi-3 kungaba uphawu lwesifo sokukhathazeka ngokwehlukana . Lokhu ukwesaba nokucindezeleka ngokwehlukana okukhulu futhi okungafanele iminyaka yengane futhi okuthinta impilo yansuku zonke, impilo yengqondo, kanye nenhlalakahle yomphakathi.

Kujwayelekile ukuthi izingane ezincane zizwe ukukhathazeka okuncane ngokuhlukana lapho zisesimweni esisha noma zisesimweni esisha. Isibonelo, ngosuku lokuqala lwesikole, ingane yakho ingase ikhale futhi inamathele kuwe, yenqabe ukuhamba. Kodwa ngemva kosuku olulodwa noma ezimbili, kufanele ijwayele isimo esisha futhi lezi zenzo kufanele ziphele. Ngaphandle kwalokho, uma lokhu kukhathazeka kuqhubeka usuku nosuku, isonto nesonto , kungaba uphawu "lwe-Separation Anxiety Disorder".

Uma ingane yakho ineminyaka engaphezu kwemi-3 ubudala futhi ibhekene nokukhathazeka okukhulu noma ukwesaba ukuhlukaniswa nawe , qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nodokotela wakho wezingane ngalokhu. Tshela udokotela wakho lokho okubonayo nalokho ingane yakho ekutshela kona ngokuhlukana. Udokotela angakwazi ukuxilonga isimo bese ekudlulisela ekwelashweni uma kudingeka.

Kungani ingane yami ikhala njalo uma ngihamba? Iyini imbangela yalokhu?

Isizathu esiyinhloko salokhu ukuthi ingane yakho izizwa ingavikelekile uma ungekho. Izingane ezincane, okusho izinsana nezingane ezincane, zithembele ngokuphelele kubanakekeli bazo ukuze ziphephe futhi zivikeleke. Futhi, njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, zisafunda umqondo wokuthi "Into Ihlala Njalo" . Lokhu kusho ukuthi noma ngabe into ethile noma othile akasekho emehlweni abo, abaqondi ngokugcwele ukuthi basekhona. Ngakho-ke, bazizwa bengavikelekile uma ungekho, futhi abaqondi ngokugcwele ukuthi uzobuya, ngakho bayacasuka futhi bakhale.

Singabhekana kanjani nalesi simo? Yini esingayenza njengabazali?

Kungaba yinselele ukududuza ingane ngokukhathazeka ngokuhlukana. Kodwa-ke, ungabhekana nesimo ngokwenza izinguquko ezincane endleleni yakho yokuphila nokugcina ukuvalelisa kufushane futhi kumnandi. Lokhu kuzokwenza izinto zibikezelwe enganeni yakho, futhi kuzoyinika ukuzethemba kokuthi uzobuya. Ngemva kwesikhashana, ingane yakho izozola futhi iphile kahle ngaphandle kwakho.

Nazi ezinye izinto ongazenza ukuze ubeke isisekelo sokuhlukana okuphumelelayo:

• ### Nika ingane yakho isikhathi sokujwayela umuntu omusha.

Ingabe umnakekeli/umnakekeli wengane omusha uza ekhaya lakho? Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe izintambo ngokushesha, vumela ingane yakho ijwayele ukuba khona kwayo. Chitha usuku noma ezimbili nani nobathathu (wena, ingane, kanye nosanda kuzalwa). Dlalani. Ngaleyo ndlela, noma ngabe ningekho isikhashana, ingane yakho izozizwa ikhululekile ngomuntu omusha.

• ### Zama ukwenza ukubhukha okuncane 'kokuzama'

Esikhundleni sokushiya ingane yakho yodwa usuku lonke, zama ukuyishiya isikhathi esifushane, njengehora noma amabili ekuqaleni. Ngisho noma ungenandawo yokuya, sebenzisa leso sikhathi ukuze uzenzele okuthile. Leli yithuba elihle lokuzinakekela nawe! Kuphinde kusize ingane yakho ukuthi ijwayele ukuba yodwa.

• ### Yenza isimiso esivamile bese usijwayela.

Tshela ingane yakho ukuthi uzophinde uyibone nini, futhi ucacise ngangokunokwenzeka ngalokho. Uma ingane yakho ingathemba kakhulu ukuthi uzobuya uma uthi uzobuya, kuzoba lula ngayo ukwamukela ukuvalelisa. Kuyasiza futhi ukukhuluma ngolimi ingane yakho eluqondayo. Bangase bangaqondi isikhathi ewashini, kodwa bazoqonda izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Umama uzofika uma usuvukile embhedeni," noma "Ubaba uzofika uma sesiqedile ukudlala kusihlwa." Ukukhuluma ngqo nengane yakho ngezinhlelo zakho kuzosiza ingane yakho iqonde ukuthi ukuhlukana kuyinto evamile futhi akuyona into okufanele iyesabe.

• ### Gcina ukuvalelisa kufushane futhi kunobungane ngangokunokwenzeka.

Uma uvalelisa ingane yakho, yenza ngokushesha nangenjabulo . Mgone isikhathi eside, ungabukeki udabukile, umomotheke, bese uthi, "Ngizobuya maduze, ndodana/ndodakazi." Uma ukhathazekile, ingane yakho ingase yesabe nakakhulu. Ukuziphatha kwakho okuzolile nokuzethemba kuzosiza ingane yakho ukuba izizwe ngendlela efanayo.

Ekugcineni, umyalezo obaluleke kakhulu kubazali

Ukubona ingane yakho idabukile futhi ikhathazekile ngaphandle kwakho kungaba nzima kakhulu. Kunzima nakakhulu uma ucabanga ukuthi kungenxa yakho. Khumbula lezi zinto mayelana nokukhathazeka ngokwehlukana:

Akulona iphutha lakho lokhu. Ukukhala nokubambelela kuyimikhuba evamile ezinganeni ezincane nezincane. Ungazizwa unecala ngokuya emsebenzini noma ukuya endlini yangasese isikhashana. Ingane yakho izozola ngesikhathi esifushane, futhi maduze izojwayela ukuba khona kwakho.

Kodwa-ke, uma ingane yakho isencane (noma ngaphezulu) futhi ihlala ibhekene nokucindezeleka okukhulu lapho ihlukene nawe, khuluma nodokotela wezingane. Kungaba uphawu lwe-Separation Anxiety Disorder, olungelashwa. Akudingeki ubhekane nalezi zinto wedwa, ngakho thola usizo.

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