Umsebenzi wasekhaya, umsebenzi wabantwana, umsebenzi wasehhovisi, umsebenzi womyeni, imithwalo yemfanelo yabazali... Uzikhohliwe yini phakathi kwakho konke lokhu? Ingabe uzizwa ukhathele usuku lonke, ungakwazi ukulala ebusuku, futhi ikhanda lakho lizwakala lisinda? Khona-ke awuwedwa obhekana nalokhu. Iningi lethu besifazane lilwa nale nto ebizwa ngokuthi ukucindezeleka nsuku zonke. Ngakho-ke namuhla, ake sixoxe ngalokhu.
Kuyini ngempela lokhu kucindezeleka?
Kalula nje, ukucindezeleka kuyingxenye evamile yokuphila kwethu. Kunezikhathi lapho kusisiza khona ukubhekana nezinselele futhi sihlale sigxile. Zicabange unesethulo okufanele usinikeze, futhi uzizwa ucindezelekile kancane, ngakho-ke ulungiselela kangcono. Kuhle lokho.
Kodwa inkinga iqala lapho lokhu kucindezeleka kuqhubeka. Sikubiza ngokuthi Ukucindezeleka Okungapheli . Ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane, lokhu kucindezeleka kungaba yinto engabekezeleleki ngenxa yomthwalo wokunakekela izidingo zabanye. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokhu kuqala ukuzwakala kuyinto evamile. Kodwa empeleni kuyawuthinta umzimba wakho nengqondo yakho .
Ingabe ukucindezeleka kuhlukile kwabesifazane nabesilisa?
Yebo, sonke sizizwa sicindezelekile, kodwa indlela okuthinta ngayo abesifazane nabesilisa ihlukile kancane. Hlola okunye okutholakele ocwaningweni olwenziwe yi-American Psychological Association.
| Izimo ezibonakala kwabesifazane | Umehluko uma uqhathaniswa nabesilisa |
|---|---|
| Izinga lokucindezeleka | Babika amazinga aphezulu okucindezeleka ngokwesilinganiso kunabesilisa. |
| Ukusekelwa kwengqondo | Kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi bathi badinga ukwesekwa okwengeziwe ngokwengqondo. |
| Izinkinga zemali | Abesifazane bahlupheka kakhulu ngokwengqondo kunabesilisa ngenxa yokukhathazeka ngemali. |
| Izici ezinkulu zokucindezeleka | Banamathuba amaningi okuthi babhekisele emithwalweni yemfanelo yomndeni kanye nobudlelwano bomuntu siqu njengezinto ezibacindezela kakhulu ekuphileni kwabo. |
Abacwaningi bakholelwa ukuthi kunezizathu ezimbili ezingaba khona zalokhu. Esinye yizici zebhayoloji , njengama-hormone emizimbeni yethu. Esinye yithonya lomphakathi , njengokusekelwa esikutholayo noma ukuntuleka kwako emphakathini.
Ziyini izimpawu zokucindezeleka kwabesifazane?
Ukucindezeleka kufana nesitha esicashile. Kungazibonakalisa ngezindlela ezahlukene. Ungase ube nalezi zimpawu, kodwa ungase ungazi nokuthi zibangelwa ukucindezeleka. Bona ukuthi lezi zinto zizwakala zijwayelekile yini kuwe.
| Uhlobo oluyisici | Izibonelo |
|---|---|
| Izici zomzimba | Ubuhlungu bekhanda obuhlala bukhona, ukungakwazi ukulala, ukuqina kwemisipha (ikakhulukazi entanyeni nasemhlane), ukuphelelwa yisifiso sokudla noma ukudla ngokweqile, izinkinga zesikhumba, ukuzizwa ukhathele, isisu esibuhlungu, kanye nokuncipha kwesithakazelo socansi. |
| Izici zengqondo nezingokomzwelo | Ukukhathazeka njalo, ukucindezeleka, ukucasuka, ukuntuleka kwenjabulo, ukuzizwa sengathi konke akusalawuleki, ukushintshashintsha kwemizwelo, imicabango emibi ngakho konke, ukukhohlwa. |
| Izinguquko zokuziphatha | Ukungakwazi ukwenza izinqumo, ubunzima bokugxilisa ingqondo, ukulahlekelwa yisithakazelo kunoma yini, ukuzizwa unesizungu, ukuba nezinkinga nomndeni, ukuzama ukuhlala kude nomphakathi. |
| Izici ezihlobene nomsebenzi | Ukuzikhandla emsebenzini, ukukhathala, izinkinga zobudlelwano emsebenzini, ubunzima bokugxila. |
Yiziphi izimbangela eziyinhloko zokucindezeleka kwabesifazane?
Kungaba nezizathu eziningi, kodwa ngokuvamile, lezi yizona eziyinhloko:
- Izinkinga zezimali: Izinkinga zezimali ziyinkinga enkulu.
- Izinkinga zempilo: Ukugula kwakho noma kwelungu lomndeni.
- Izinkinga zobudlelwano: izinkinga nomndeni, umshado, kanye nabangani.
- Izinkinga emsebenzini noma emfundweni: ukwanda komsebenzi, ukuncintisana.
Ngaphezu kwalokhu, into ethinta kakhulu abesifazane umthwalo wemfanelo wokunakekela abanye . Izingane, abazali asebekhulile, imisebenzi yasekhaya... Ngokwenza konke lokhu, abesifazane abaningi bayakhohlwa ngokuphelele ngabo. Babeka eceleni izidingo zabo, ukuphumula kwabo, futhi bazinikele kwabanye.
Ngezinye izikhathi sicabanga ukuthi kufanele senze konke kahle. Kunzima ukuthi 'cha' uma othile ecela usizo. Siyazamukela lezo zinto yize sazi ukuthi asinaso isikhathi noma amandla. Lokhu futhi kuyimbangela enkulu yokucindezeleka okukhulu.
Kuzokwenzekani empilweni yakho uma lokhu kucindezeleka kuqhubeka?
Kujwayelekile ukuzwa ukucindezeleka isikhathi esifushane. Kodwa uma kuba yinto engapheli, okusho ukuthi ihlala isikhathi eside, kungabangela izinkinga ezinkulu zempilo. Kufana nokwenza umzimba wakho ugule kancane kancane ngaphakathi.
- Ikhanda elibuhlungu kakhulu noma elivame ukwenzeka: Izimo ezifana nekhanda elibuhlungu elicindezelekile kanye ne-migraines.
- Isifo senhliziyo: Umfutho wegazi ophakeme wandisa ingozi yesifo senhliziyo kanye nokuhlaselwa yinhliziyo.
- Izinkinga zesistimu yokugaya ukudla: Izimo ezifana ne-Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), ebangela izimpawu ezifana nokuqunjelwa kanye negesi.
- Izinkinga zempilo yengqondo: Izimo ezifana nokuphazamiseka kovalo, ukuphazamiseka kokukhathazeka okuvamile, kanye nokucindezeleka okukhulu.
- Ubuhlungu bomzimba: Ukuqina kwemisipha nobuhlungu.
- Ukukhuluphala ngokweqile: Ukucindezeleka kungakwenza ulahlekelwe ukulawula imikhuba yakho yokudla futhi ukhuluphale.
- Isifo sohlangothi: Sandisa ingozi yesifo sohlangothi.
- Isimiso somzimba sokuzivikela esibuthakathaka: Kuthatha isikhathi eside ukululama ekuguleni, futhi ugula kaningi.
Asikho isidingo sokwesaba lezi zinto. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ngokulawula lokhu kucindezeleka kwengqondo ngaphansi kwesiqondiso sikadokotela , eziningi zalezi zinkinga zingavinjelwa.
Ngakho-ke uphatha kanjani lokhu kucindezeleka?
Into engcono kakhulu ukuthi kunezinto eziningi ongazenza ukulawula lokhu. Into eyinhloko ukuzibona ubalulekile . Qala ukuzicabangela wena njengoba ucabanga ngabanye.
Zama ukujwayela lezi zinto kuqala.
- Yidla kahle: Yidla ukudla okulinganiselayo. Yidla imifino eminingi, izithelo, kanye nemifino eluhlaza.
- Ukuzivocavoca: Yenza into ekwenza ujuluke okungenani imizuzu engama-30 ngosuku. Hamba, gijima, dansa. Ukuzivocavoca kuyindlela enhle yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka.
- Lala ngokwanele: Zama ukulala okungenani amahora angu-7-9 ngosuku.
- Chitha isikhathi nemvelo: Phuma uyohambahamba ngaphandle. Bheka izihlahla nohlaza. Kuzolile kakhulu.
- Yenza izinto ezizolisa ingqondo: Zijwayeze izinto ezifana ne-yoga, ukuzindla, kanye nokuzivocavoca ngokuphefumula okujulile.
- Zijwayeze ukubonga: Cabanga ngezinto ezinhle empilweni yakho. Jabula ngisho nezinto ezincane.
- Zinike isikhathi sento oyithandayo: funda incwadi, ulalele ingoma, ubukele i-movie, ukhulume nomngane. Beka eceleni isikhathi esincane nsuku zonke sokwenza into ekulethela injabulo.
- Gcina ubudlelwano bomphakathi: Khuluma nomndeni nabangane othembekile. Yabelana ngalokho okucabangayo.
Okulandelayo, cabanga ngenhlalakahle yakho yengqondo.
- Thola imbangela yokucindezeleka kwakho: Bhala phansi izinto ozizwayo nozenzayo usuku lonke encwadini yezenzakalo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzoqala ukuqonda ukuthi uzizwa ucindezelekile nini futhi kungani. Ngemuva kwalokho ungenza uhlelo lokugwema noma ukubhekana nalezo zinto.
- Zijwayeze ukuthi 'cha': Ungasho ukuthi 'yebo' kukho konke. Uma kukhona ongakwazi ukukwenza noma ongenaso isikhathi sakho, yenqaba ngenhlonipho. Zibekele imingcele yakho.
- Bala uye ku-10: Uma uthukuthele kakhulu, esikhundleni sokusabela ngokushesha, suka kuleso simo bese ubala ngokwengqondo uye ku-10. Phefumula kancane ujule.
- Ziphathe ngendlela obungenza ngayo kwabanye: Unomusa kangakanani kwabanye? Futhi yiba nomusa kuwe. Nawe ungenza amaphutha, ungazibeki icala ngalokho.
- Phumula ezinkundleni zokuxhumana: Hlala kude nefoni yakho kanye nesikrini sekhompyutha noma nini lapho kungenzeka.
- Cela usizo: Uma usalwa nokunciphisa ukucindezeleka kwakho ngemva kokwenza konke lokhu, ungesabi ukucela usizo. Kuyinto enamandla ukuyenza. Bona udokotela womndeni wakho. Angakunikeza isiqondiso osidingayo, futhi mhlawumbe akuthumelele izinsiza ezifana nokwelashwa.
Ukucindezeleka kungazwakala njengomthwalo emahlombe akho. Ikakhulukazi njengabesifazane, sithwala isisindo esingaphezu kwanoma yimuphi umuntu angasithwala. Khumbula, akukho okubi ngokucela usizo. Impilo yakho incike kulo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Nakuba ukucindezeleka kuyinto evamile, ukucindezeleka okungapheli kuyingozi emzimbeni nasengqondweni yakho.
- Qaphela izimpawu ezifana nobuhlungu bekhanda obuhlala bukhona, ukuqwasha, ukucasuka, kanye nokukhathazeka. Lokhu kungaba izimpawu zokucindezeleka.
- Kubalulekile ukufunda ukuthi 'cha' emithwalweni nasezidingweni ongakwazi ukuzisingatha. Vikela imingcele yakho.
- Ukudla okunempilo, ukulala ngokwanele, kanye nokuzivocavoca umzimba kuyizikhali ezintathu ezinamandla ekulweni nokucindezeleka.
- Uma ukuthola kunzima ukubhekana nalezi zinto wedwa, ungangabazi ukubona udokotela ukuze akunike iseluleko. Ukucela usizo kuwuphawu lwamandla.
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