Umsebenzi wasekhaya, umsebenzi wabantwana, umsebenzi wasehhovisi, mhlawumbe ukunakekela abazali bakho... Phakathi kwakho konke lokhu, ingabe ngezinye izikhathi uzizwa umthwalo omkhulu kanye nengcindezi enhliziyweni yakho? Ingabe uzizwa sengathi konke kukuwe, "Angikwazi ukwenza konke lokhu"? Empeleni kuyinto evamile ukuzizwa ngaleyo ndlela. Ngoba abesifazane abaningi namuhla baphila nalolu hlobo lwengcindezi. Namuhla sikhuluma ngale ngcindezi yengqondo wonke umuntu akhuluma ngayo, kodwa angaqondi ngempela, okungukuthi, ukucindezeleka.
Kuyini lokhu kucindezeleka?
Kalula nje, ukucindezeleka kuyingxenye yezimpilo zethu. Kuyinto wonke umuntu abhekana nayo. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kucindezeleka kuhle. Cabanga ngakho, uma unesivivinyo, uyafunda ngoba uzizwa ucindezelekile ngakho. Uma unesethulo ehhovisi, uzizwa ucindezelekile kancane, ngakho uzama ukwenza konke okusemandleni akho. Ngaleyo ndlela, ukucindezeleka kusisiza ukuba sinqobe izinselele.
Kodwa inkinga iqala lapho lokhu kucindezeleka kungasabekezeleleki futhi kuhlale isikhathi eside. Ikakhulukazi njengabesifazane, sihlala sicabanga ngezidingo zabanye. Sibeka phambili izinto ezifana nokondla izingane, ukusiza abayeni bethu ngemisebenzi yabo yasekhaya, nokunakekela ikhaya. Ngenxa yalokhu, kunezikhathi lapho singaqapheli nokuthi singaphansi kokucindezeleka okungakanani.
Uma lokhu kucindezeleka kuqhubeka njalo, okungukuthi, lapho kuba okungapheli , kuqala ukuzizwa njengengxenye evamile yokuphila kwethu. Sicabanga ukuthi, "Yile ndlela impilo yami ebilokhu injalo." Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokhu kungathinta kakhulu umzimba wakho nengqondo yakho.
Ingabe abesifazane bazizwa becindezelekile ngendlela ehlukile kunabesilisa?
Manje ungase ucabange, "Ingabe lokhu kuyimi kuphela? Ingabe lokhu akwenzeki kwabesilisa?" Empeleni, nakuba wonke umuntu ezwa ukucindezeleka, kukhona umehluko endleleni abesifazane nabesilisa ababhekana ngayo nakho futhi abakuzwa ngayo. Ucwaningo lwamuva nje luthole izinto ezinjengalezi:
- Ngokwesilinganiso, abesifazane kubikwa ukuthi bacindezeleke kakhulu kunabesilisa .
- Abesifazane banamathuba amaningi okucabanga kunabesilisa , "Ngifisa sengathi ngabe nginokusekelwa kwengqondo okwengeziwe kothile."
- Abesifazane bakhathazeka kakhulu kunabesilisa ngezindaba zemali, okungukuthi, izindaba zomnotho.
- Abesifazane banamathuba amaningi kunabesilisa okuthi imithwalo yemfanelo yomndeni kanye nobudlelwano bomndeni njengemithombo eyinhloko yokucindezeleka empilweni yabo.
Uma kukhulunywa ngezizathu zalokhu, ososayensi bakholelwa ukuthi izici zebhayoloji, njengama-hormone, zidlala indima. Amathonya omphakathi, njengokusekelwa esikutholayo kanye nokuhlukaniswa esikutholayo, nakho kungadlala indima.
Ingabe nawe unalezi zimpawu? Izimpawu zokucindezeleka
Ukucindezeleka kuyinto ethinta wonke umuntu ngendlela ehlukile. Abanye abantu bangase babe nekhanda elibuhlungu, kanti abanye bangase bazizwe bethukuthele. Bheka ukuthi unanoma yiziphi zalezi zimpawu. Ake sizihlukanise zibe izigaba ezimbalwa.
| Uhlobo oluyisici | Izinto ongazizwa |
|---|---|
| Izici zomzimba | Ubuhlungu bekhanda obuvamile, ukungakwazi ukulala, ukuqina kwemisipha/ubuhlungu (ikakhulukazi entanyeni nasemhlane), ukulahlekelwa yisifiso sokudla noma ukudla ngokweqile, izinkinga zesikhumba (njengezinduna kanye ne-eczema), ukuzizwa ukhathele, isisu esibuhlungu, kanye nokuncipha kwesithakazelo socansi. |
| Izici ezingokomzwelo | Ukuzizwa ukhathazekile ngaso sonke isikhathi, uzizwa udangele, ucindezelekile, uthukuthela kalula, uzizwa ungajabule, uzizwa sengathi konke akusalawuleki, uzizwa udangele ngokuzumayo, uthukuthele ngokuzumayo, futhi ushintsha ngokushesha imizwa. |
| Izici zengqondo | Ukukhohlwa konke, ukukhathazeka njalo ngezinto ezingadingekile, ukuba nobunzima bokwenza izinqumo, ukucabanga kabi ngakho konke, ukungakwazi ukugxila entweni eyodwa, ukulahlekelwa intshisekelo yokwenza noma yini, ukuzizwa sengathi impilo ayinanjongo. |
| Izici zomsebenzi | Ukukhathala, izinkinga nabantu emsebenzini, ukungakwazi ukugxila emsebenzini. |
| Izici zomphakathi (Ezomphakathi) | Ukungaxoxisani kahle nabanye, ukuzama ukuba wedwa, izinkinga ezivame ukwenzeka nomndeni, kanye nokuzizwa unesizungu. |
Khumbula, akudingeki ube nazo zonke lezi zimpawu. Uma ubhekene nezinye zazo isikhathi eside, kungaba uphawu oluvela emzimbeni nasengqondweni yakho lokuthi uzitshela ukuthi, "Ngisize, angisakwazi ukubekezelela lokhu."
Kungani abesifazane bezizwa becindezelekile kangaka?
Kunezizathu eziningana ezivamile ezenza abesifazane babe nokucindezeleka.
- Izinkinga zomnotho (Ezezimali)
- Izinkinga zempilo
- Izinkinga zobudlelwano
- Izinkinga emsebenzini noma esikoleni
Ngaphezu kwalezi zinto, abesifazane abaningi bathi bazizwa becindezelekile kakhulu ngenxa yokunakekela kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo yomndeni. Cabanga ngakho, kufanele unakekele izingane zakho, kufanele wenze umsebenzi wazo wesikole, mhlawumbe kufanele unakekele abazali bakho asebekhulile, kufanele upheke ekhaya, kufanele uhlanze... Uyazicabanga wena phakathi kwakho konke lokhu? Ngokuvamile, siyazikhohlwa futhi sigijime sigcwalisa izidingo zabanye.
Sonke sifuna ukwenza konke ngendlela ephelele. Sizama ukuba 'umama omuhle', 'umfazi omuhle', 'indodakazi enhle', 'isisebenzi esihle'. Yingakho uma umuntu ecela usizo, kunzima ukuthi "cha" noma singenaso isikhathi noma amandla. Yingakho sithatha imithwalo yemfanelo eminingi kakhulu kunaleyo esingakwazi ukuyisingatha. Lesi futhi yisizathu esikhulu sokucindezeleka okukhulu.
Kuzokwenzekani empilweni uma lokhu kucindezeleka kuqhubeka?
Izinsuku ezimbalwa zokucindezeleka zingase zingabangeli umonakalo omkhulu. Kodwa njengoba sixoxile ngaphambili, uma lokhu kuqhubeka, okungukuthi, izinyanga noma iminyaka (ukucindezeleka okungapheli), kungabangela izinkinga ezinkulu zempilo.
- Ubuhlungu bekhanda obuvame ukuba nzima: Ikakhulukazi izimo ezifana nobuhlungu bekhanda obuhambisana nokucindezeleka kanye ne-migraines .
- Isifo senhliziyo: Ingozi yomfutho wegazi ophakeme, isifo senhliziyo , kanye nokuhlaselwa yinhliziyo iyanda.
- Izinkinga zamathumbu: Izimo ezifana ne -Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) , ebangela izimpawu ezifana nobuhlungu besisu kanye nokuqunjelwa.
- Izifo zengqondo: Kungase kube nezimo ezifana nokuphazamiseka kovalo , ukuphazamiseka kokukhathazeka okuvamile, kanye nokucindezeleka okukhulu .
- Ubuhlungu bemisipha: Ubuhlungu bomzimba, ukuqina kwemisipha okuqhubekayo.
- Ukukhuluphala ngokweqile: Ukucindezeleka kungabangela abanye abantu ukuba badle ngokweqile, okungaholela ekukhuleni kwesisindo okungadingekile.
- Ingozi yokushaywa yisifo sohlangothi .
- Isimiso somzimba sokuzivikela esibuthakathaka:Lokhu kungaholela ezifweni ezivamile futhi, uma usugula, kungathatha isikhathi eside ukululama.
Kodwa ungakhathazeki. Kunezindlela zokugwema lezi zinto. Uma ukhuluma nodokotela wakho futhi ufunde ukuthi ungaphatha kanjani ukucindezeleka kwakho ngendlela efanele, ungavimbela lezi zimo ezimbi ukuthi zenzeke.
Ngakho-ke uphatha kanjani lokhu kucindezeleka?
Isixazululo esingcono kakhulu salokhu ukuzibeka phambili (ukuzinakekela). Akusikho ubugovu. Kubalulekile. Uma uphilile kuphela lapho unganakekela kahle umndeni wakho nabanye. Nazi ezinye izinto ezilula ongazizama.
Izinto ongazenzela zona
- Shintsha indlela ocabanga ngayo: Esikhundleni sokuzizwa ukhungathekile ngomcabango wokuthi "Kumelwe ngikwenze lokhu," zama ukucabanga ngendlela eyakhayo, "Nginethuba lokwenza lokhu." Ngisho nento encane ingenza umehluko.
- Yidla ukudla okunomsoco okuhle: Faka imifino eminingi, izithelo, ubhontshisi kanye nenhlanzi ekudleni kwakho. Nciphisa ukudla okwenziwe ngezinto ezinoshukela ngangokunokwenzeka.
- Chitha isikhathi nemvelo: Hambahamba egcekeni okungenani imizuzu eyi-10-15 ngosuku. Bheka isihlahla noma iqabunga. Phumula isikhashana usebenzisa ifoni yakho kanye ne-TV.
- Ukuzivocavoca: Yenza okuthile njengokuhamba noma ukugijima uze ujuluke okungenani imizuzu engama-30 ngosuku. Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yomzimba kanye nengqondo.
- Lala kahle: Zama ukulala amahora angu-7-9 ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka ngosuku. Yeka ukubuka ifoni yakho noma ukubuka i-TV ngaphambi kokulala.
- Yenza izinto ezizolisa ingqondo: Izinto ezifana ne -yoga, ukuzindla , kanye nokuzivocavoca kokuphefumula okujulile nokuhamba kancane kunganikeza impumuzo enkulu engqondweni.
- Zinike isikhathi sokwenza into oyithandayo: Beka eceleni isikhathi esincane nsuku zonke sokwenza into oyithandayo, njengokufunda incwadi, ukulalela ingoma, ukudweba isithombe, noma ukutshala imbali engadini.
- Khuluma nomuntu omethembayo: Ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho nomuntu onjengomyeni wakho, umngane wakho omkhulu, umama, noma udadewenu kungasiza ekunciphiseni umthwalo engqondweni yakho.
- Gcina idayari: Ukubhala phansi imizwa nemicabango yakho usuku lonke encwadini kungakusiza ukuthi ukhulule ingqondo yakho.
Amathiphu engeziwe ngenhlalakahle yakho yengqondo
- Thola ukuthi yini ekubangela ukucindezeleka: Bhala phansi konke okuzwayo nokwenzayo phakathi nosuku. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzofunda ukuthi yiziphi izinto ezikubangela ukucindezeleka kakhulu. Ungenza uhlelo lokugwema noma ukubhekana nalezo zinto.
- Prakthiza ukuthi 'cha': Ungasho ukuthi 'yebo' kukho konke. Uma kukhona ongakwazi ukukwenza, kwenqabe ngothando nangenhlonipho. Yazi imingcele yakho.
- Uma uthukuthele, bala ufike ku-10:Uma uthukuthele ngento ethile, ngaphambi kokuba usabele ngokushesha, hlehla bese ubala uye ku-10. Phefumula kakhulu. Leso sikhathi esincane singenza umehluko omkhulu.
- Ziphathe ngendlela oziphatha ngayo kwabanye:
- Phumula ezinkundleni zokuxhumana: Ukuba semafonini ethu njalo nokubuka izimpilo zabanye abantu nakho kungasibangela ukucindezeleka. Kwenze umkhuba ukubeka ifoni yakho kude okungenani ihora elilodwa noma amabili ngosuku.
- Cela usizo: Uma usabhekene nokucindezeleka wedwa, ungesabi noma ungabi namahloni okucela usizo. Ngokuqinisekile bonana nodokotela wakho nixoxe ngakho. Uzokwazi ukukusiza. Ungase uthunyelwe ngisho nasekwelashweni . Lokho kuzokunika amandla amaningi okubhekana nalokhu.
- Kujwayelekile ukuthi abesifazane bazizwe becindezelekile, kodwa akukuhle empilweni yabo uma kuqhubeka.
- Qaphela izimpawu ezifana nekhanda elibuhlungu, ukuqwasha, ukucasuka kanye nokukhohlwa.
- Jwayela ukuthi 'cha'. Ungazithwali wonke umthwalo wemfanelo. Yazi ukulinganiselwa kwakho.
- Ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ukulala kahle, ukudla okunomsoco, kanye nokuzinika isikhathi sokwenza into oyithandayo kubaluleke kakhulu.
- Uma unenkinga yokuphatha lezi zinto wedwa, ungesabi ukucela usizo. Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu.
Khumbula, ngisho noma usendizeni, bathi gqoka imaski yakho yomoya-mpilo kuqala uma kwenzeka ingozi, bese usiza abanye. Ngokufanayo, ungabanakekela kuphela uma uphilile. Yiba nomusa kuwe.
Ukucindezeleka kufana nomthwalo osindayo okufanele siwuthwale. Ikakhulukazi njengabesifazane, sithwala abantu abangaphezu koyedwa abangawuthwala. Ngakho-ke ukucela usizo akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka, kuwuphawu lwamandla. Umzimba wakho nengqondo yakho kokubili kuyigugu. Ngakho-ke zinakekele zombili.
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