Asetra mu nhyɛso anaa adwennwen abu so wɔ yɛn nyinaa mu. Nanso sɛ wowɔ adwenemhaw a, ebetumi ayɛ den sɛ wobɛsan afi adwennwen a ɛte saa mu. Sɛ wo dɔfo bi hwere, w’adwuma fi w’adwuma, anaa wogyae aware a, afobu nka a wote ne anidaso a wunni no betumi ayɛ kɛse mpo. Nanso mma ɛnhaw wo, nneɛma bi wɔ hɔ a wubetumi ayɛ de adi tebea yi so nkonim.
"Ɛsɛ sɛ wuhu sɛ wobɛsan ahwe ase wɔ saa tokuru a ɛyɛ sum no mu bio. Saa bere no, ɛsɛ sɛ wosan w'akyi anammɔn biako," nnuruyɛfo ka. "Adwendwene, adwene mu a wobɛda no yiye, nsa a wobɛtwe wo ho afi ho, ne bere a wode bɛtra nnipa a wodwen wo ho ankasa ho no ne nea ɛbɛma w'adwene mu ayɛ den. Ɛnyɛ sɛ wubesusuw ho denneennen sɛ 'Ɛsɛ sɛ meyɛ adwumaden kɛse'."
Ɛmfa ho nea ɛde w’adwenemhaw no ba no, wubetumi adi so. Ɛha yi, yɛbɛka nneɛma bi a ɛtaa kanyan ne sɛnea wubetumi atew nkɛntɛnso a ɛwɔ wo so no so ho asɛm.
Adwuma a wɔhwere
Adwuma yɛ yɛn asetra fã kɛse. Sɛ w’adwuma fi wo nsa a, wubetumi ahwere wo nnamfo ne wo nnamfo nyinaa mpofirim. Nnuruyɛfo kyerɛ sɛ: “Asetra mu tew a wɔtew wɔn ho fi afoforo ho a ɛka ho no betumi ayɛ nea ɛde adwenemhaw ba.”
Woreyɛ dɛn?
Bɔ mmɔden sɛ wubedi tebea yi so kakra. Yɛ wo CV (application) no foforo, nanso bere koro no ara mu no, yɛ nsakrae. Abenfo ka sɛ: “Ebia adwuma hokwan pii wɔ w’adwuma no akyi sen sɛnea wususuw.” Ebia eyi ne bere a eye sen biara a ɛsɛ sɛ wufi w’adwumayɛ kwan a wowɔ mprempren no adaka no akyi na wususuw akwan afoforo a wubetumi afa so ho. Sɛ wususuw nneɛma ho yiye kakra bere a worehwehwɛ adwuma a ebetumi aboa wo ma woate nka sɛ wowɔ wo so kɛse na wuntumi nyɛ hwee .
Pow a wɔpow
Obiara mpɛ sɛ ɔbɛte nka sɛ wɔmpɛ no. Nanso adwuma, adamfo, anaa ɔdɔfo bi a wɔpow no betumi ama nnipa binom adwenemhaw ayɛ kɛse. Eyi te saa titiriw wɔ wɔn a wɔwɔ Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) no fam.
Woreyɛ dɛn?
Fa ɔkwan a wɔfrɛ no "mfaso-hwehwɛ" di dwuma. Sɛ yɛbɛka no tiawa a, eyi te sɛ nea worehwehwɛ "dwetɛ a wɔde akata so." Sɛ nhwɛso no, nhwehwɛmu ada no adi sɛ sɛ nkurɔfo susuw nneɛma pa a ɛwɔ asɛmmɔne te sɛ adwuma anaa abusuabɔ bi a wɔhwere mu ho a, wɔnte awerɛhow pii.
Aware mu haw anaa awaregyae
Abusuabɔ bi awiei yɛ den ma obiara. Ɛyɛ den sɛ ebia wo na wusii gyinae sɛ wobɛba awiei anaasɛ worenwie. Nnuruyɛfo ka sɛ: "Hwɛ kwan sɛ ɛbɛyɛ nea ɛyɛ den kakra, sɛ mpo wɔn na wosi gyinae sɛ wobegyae aware a."
Woreyɛ dɛn?
Ɛho hia paa sɛ wobɛyɛ wo daakye ho nhyehyɛe na woanya ho anidaso. Sɛ wobɛyɛ eyi a, hwɛ nneɛma a ɛwɔ w’asetra mu a ɛma wunya abotɔyam kɛse. Mma wo ho ntwe wo ho mfi w’adɔfo ho da. Ɛho hia paa sɛ yɛbɛkwati sɛ yɛbɛtew yɛn ho afi afoforo ho wɔ awaregyae akyi. Ɛsan nso boa kɛse sɛ wobɛhwehwɛ abusua fotufo mmoa. Obetumi aboa mo ma moakɔ so atra faako, anaasɛ ɔbɛboa mo ama ntetewmu nhyehyɛe no ayɛ nea ɛnyɛ yaw sɛnea ɛbɛyɛ yiye biara.
Abusua mu ɔhaw ahorow
Abusua biara wɔ nea ɛkɔ soro ne nea ɛba fam, nea eye ne nea enye. Nanso ɛnsɛ sɛ wo nkutoo ne nsɛmpɔw yi di aperepere.
Woreyɛ dɛn?
Sɛ́ ɔwofo no, mmeae pii wɔ hɔ a wubetumi akɔ hɔ akɔhwehwɛ mmoa. Abusua afotufo, atipɛnfo akuw, anaa nnamfo ne abusuafo mpo. Eyi te saa wɔ mmofra ne mmerante ne mmabaa fam. "Mmofra a wɔwɔ adwenemyare a eye sen biara no ne wɔn a wɔwɔ sohyial network ahorow a emu yɛ den ankasa ."
Bɔ mmɔden sɛ wubesiw abusua mu ɔhaw ahorow ano ansa na asɔre. Wo ne wo mma nkasa dapɛn biara. Bisa sukuu, wɔn nnamfo, nea wɔpɛ ne nea wɔmpɛ ho asɛm. "Wobetumi ayɛ eyi wɔ dan mu, te sɛ bere a worefi adi akɔnom ice cream anaasɛ worekɔ nantew. Nanso sɛ wo ba nim sɛ wode saa bere no rema wɔn a, ebetumi ayɛ ɔpon kɛse ama wɔn sɛ wobebue wɔn ho kakra na wɔakasa."
| Nneɛma a Ɛtaa Kanyan Adwenemhaw Kɔ soro | Nea Wubetumi Ayɛ |
|---|---|
| Ɔdɔfo bi a ɔbɛhwere no | Ma wo ho bere fa di awerɛhow. Sɛ w’awerɛhow no kyɛ boro asram kakraa bi a, kɔ wo duruyɛfo nkyɛn. |
| Mmofra a wɔrefi fie (Empty Nest) . | Fa adwene mu nsusuwii di dwuma. Fa wo ho ma anaa sua biribi foforo. |
| Wim tebea nsakrae (Winter Blues) . | Apɔw-mu-teɛteɛ ho hia paa. Wo ne wo duruyɛfo nkasa fa hann ayaresa anaa akwan foforo a wubetumi afa so ho. |
| Nsakrae a ɛba nkwaadɔm mu | Hwɛ wo brayɛ ne yare no ho sɛnkyerɛnne ahorow. Bisa wo duruyɛfo no ayaresa ahorow a ebetumi aboa wo ho asɛm. |
Ɔdɔfo bi a ɔbɛhwere no
Ɛyɛ ade a ɛfata sɛ wubedi awerɛhow bere a woahwere obi a ɔbɛn wo no. Nanso awerɛhow ne adwenemhaw yɛ nneɛma abien a ɛsono emu biara. "Awerɛhow a ɛyɛ nnam yɛ nwonwa kakra. Ɛkyerɛ sɛ wubesu bere nyinaa, abubu araa ma wuntumi mfa w'adwene nsi biribiara so. Nanso sɛ wowɔ adwenemhaw a, nnipa pii te nka sɛ wɔn ho ayɛ wɔn hyew ."
Woreyɛ dɛn?
Hwɛ wo yare no ho sɛnkyerɛnne ahorow no yiye. Sɛ wuntumi nyɛ adwuma, wuntumi mfi mpa so, anaasɛ woate awerɛhow nka bɛboro asram kakraa bi a, abenfo ka sɛ, "bere aso sɛ wohwehwɛ mmoa a efi animdefo mu." Hwɛ wo duruyɛfo. Wobetumi de awerɛhow ho afotu ama ansa na wɔahwere no anaasɛ bere a wɔahwere no akyi. Ebetumi aboa wo ma woadi wo nkate a emu yɛ den no ho dwuma. Na mfa asodi nto wo ho so sɛ woka sɛ, "Mindi awerɛhow sɛnea ɛsɛ."
Obi a wahwere no afeda no betumi ayɛ den. Ebetumi aboa sɛ wobɛyɛ biribi ho nhyehyɛe ama saa da no. Ebetumi ayɛ biribi a ɛnyɛ den te sɛ "bere tiaa bi a wode besusuw nea saa onipa no kyerɛ ma wo ho," anaasɛ ebetumi ayɛ biribi kɛse te sɛ abusuafo ne nnamfo a wobɛka abom abɔ onipa no ho asɛm.
Adwennwen a ɛwɔ yare anaa ɔyarefo a akyɛ a wɔbɛhwɛ no mu
Ɛtɔ mmere bi a, adwenemhaw betumi ayɛ yare bi a ɛkɔ so ho sɛnkyerɛnne. Sɛ woyare, anaa sɛ worehwɛ wo dɔfo bi a ɔyare a, ɛnyɛ den sɛ wobɛte nka sɛ woabrɛ wɔ w’adwene anaa honam fam.
Woreyɛ dɛn?
Ebia wubenya nkrasɛm a ɛka kyerɛ wo sɛ "tra adwempa bere nyinaa." Nanso ɛyɛ ade a ɛfata sɛ wobɛte nka bɔne bere a nneɛma bɔne asi no. "Ma wo ho nka saa atenka no nka."
Nanso nea ɛho hia sen saa mpo no, srɛ mmoa . Ka nea wuhia no pɛpɛɛpɛ. Ebia ɛyɛ aduan a wodi nna abien dapɛn biara. Anaasɛ ebia wuhia obi a ɔne wo dɔfo no bɛtra bere a worekɔ apɔw-mu-teɛteɛ no. Mma nte nka sɛ woyɛ adesoa. Mpɛn pii no, nnamfo ne abusuafo wɔ ɔpɛ sɛ wɔbɛboa. Sɛ woka nea wuhia kyerɛ wɔn pɛpɛɛpɛ a, ebetumi ayɛ "akyɛde" ama wɔn.
Awerɛhow a ɛfa wim tebea ho (SAD) .
Nnipa pii nya adwenemhaw foforo anaasɛ ɛyɛ kɛse bere a mmere sesa no. Wɔfrɛ eyi sɛ Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).
Woreyɛ dɛn?
Wo ne wo duruyɛfo nkasa. Ebia ɔbɛkyerɛ sɛ wɔmfa hann nhyɛ mu, kasa ayaresa, anaa nnuru a ekum adwenemhaw. Apɔw-mu-teɛteɛ, anaa apɔw-mu-teɛteɛ nso betumi ama nsakrae aba. "Apɔw-mu-teɛteɛ ne ɔkwan a edi kan. Ebetumi ama nsonsonoe aba ankasa."
Nnubɔne ne nsa a wɔde di dwuma
Nnipa a wɔwɔ adwenemhaw no taa dan kɔ nnubɔne ne nsa so. Afei nso, sɛ wowɔ nnuru a wɔde di dwuma ho yare (SUD) a, ebetumi ama w’adwenemhaw ne sɛnkyerɛnne afoforo asɛe kɛse. Eyi yɛ "abusuabɔ a ɛyɛ kurukuruwa."
Woreyɛ dɛn?
Yɛ nnubɔne a wode di dwuma no ho kyerɛwtohɔ. "Ɛsɛ sɛ nnipa a wɔtaa nom nsa pii, anaasɛ wɔanya ɔhaw ahorow wɔ ɔhaw ahorow a ɛfa nneɛma a ɛma obi yɛ ade tra so ho bere bi a atwam no sie kyerɛwtohɔ bi de hwɛ hu sɛ wɔn asanom no wɔ wɔn ankasa anohyeto mu na ɛnyɛ nkɔanim bere a bere kɔ so no."
Sɛ ɛyɛ den ma wo sɛ wubedi nnubɔne anaa nsa a wode di dwuma no so a, hwehwɛ mmoa a efi animdefo hɔ. Nnubɔne ne Nsã ho Ɔfotufo a Wɔagye Din (CADC) betumi aboa wo ma woadi w’adwenemhaw ne nnuru a wode di dwuma nyinaa ho dwuma.
Nkrasɛm a Wɔde Kɔ Fie
- Nea edi kan no, hu nea ɛkanyan w’adwenemhaw. Te ase sɛ ebia ɛyɛ ɔhaw bi a ɛwɔ adwumam, ɔhaw bi a ɛwɔ abusuabɔ mu, anaa biribi foforo.
- Bɔ mmɔden sɛ wobɛma w’adwene mu ayɛ den. Adwendwene, nna pa, apɔw-mu-teɛteɛ, ne bere a wo ne nnipa a wɔboa wɔn no bɛboa kɛse wɔ eyi mu.
- Ɛyɛ ade a ɛfata sɛ wobɛte nka sɛ wo ho nyɛ wo dɛ. Nanso mfa wo ho nhyɛ saa nkate horow no mu. Nsuro da sɛ wobɛsrɛ mmoa.
- Sɛ ɛyɛ den ma wo sɛ w’ankasa wubedi saa nneɛma yi ho dwuma a, ntwentwɛn wo nan ase sɛ wobɛhwehwɛ mmoa afi oduruyɛfo anaa ɔfotufo a ɔfata hɔ . Ɛyɛ nneɛma akɛse a wubetumi ayɛ ama wo ho no mu biako.
- Kura nhyehyɛe a ɛma apɔwmuden mu. Aduan pa, nna a ɛfata, ne apɔw-mu-teɛteɛ daa ho hia paa ma w’adwene mu akwahosan.
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