Ɔkwan bɛn so na wo ne wo ba bɛkasa afa nsa ho? Momma yɛnka asɛmti a ɛho hia yi ho asɛm!

Nna yi, ɛtɔ mmere bi a yɛn mmofra nkumaa, titiriw wɔ sukuu mfe mu, kyerɛ sɛ, wɔ ntoaso sukuu mu no, wɔsɔ wɔn hwɛ sɛ wɔbɛnom nsa esiane nnamfo nkɛntɛnso nti anaasɛ esiane sɛ wɔpɛ sɛ wohu nneɛma pii nti. Nokwarem no, yehu sɛ nkurɔfo de wɔn ho to saa nneɛma yi so wɔ mfe a mmara bara no mpo mu. Nanso awofo, mowɔ tumi kɛse a mode bɛtwe mo ba no afi nneɛma a ɛtete saa ho. Enti, ɛho hia paa sɛ wo ne wo mma bɔ saa nsa yi ho nkɔmmɔ fi wɔn mmofraase, bere a wɔrenyin nkakrankakra no.

Wobɛyɛ dɛn akyerɛkyerɛ eyi mu akyerɛ mmofra nkumaa no? (Bɛyɛ mfe 3-5)

Ɛyɛ den ankasa sɛ mmofra a wɔadi mfe yi bɛte nsa ho nsɛm pii ase, ɛnte saa? Wɔpɛ nneɛma a ɛnyɛ den. Nanso wubetumi ayɛ nhwɛso pa . Wo ba no besua pii afi ɔkwan a wofa so de nsa di dwuma wɔ asɛyɛde mu (anaasɛ womfa nni dwuma koraa), kɔ so yɛ nnam, na wudi nnuan a ahoɔden wom no mu. Fa no sɛ wo ba bisa wo asɛm bi fa nsa ho a? Afei bua no tiawa na ɛyɛ nokware . Ɛho nhia sɛ wobɛkɔ akyiri kɛse, ka no wɔ ɔkwan a wobetumi ate ase so kɛkɛ. Sɛ nhwɛso no, wubetumi aka biribi a ɛnyɛ den te sɛ, "Ɛnonom nyɛ papa mma mmofra nkumaa, ɔbabarima/ɔbabea, ebetumi apira wo yafunu."

So yɛne mmofra a wɔadi fi mfe 4 kosi 7 bɛkasa?

Ɔkwan a eye sen biara a wobɛfa so ne mmofra a wɔadi mfe yi akasa ne sɛ wode asɛmti no bɛba bere a efi awosu mu ba no . Sɛ nhwɛso no, fa no sɛ worehwɛ TV. Nsã ho dawurubɔ bi ba. Saa bere no, wubetumi abisa wo ba no sɛ, "Ɔba/ɔbabea, wunim nea ɛba wo nipadua so bere a wonom saa anonne yi?" Ma nsɛm no nyɛ mmerɛw koraa . Wubetumi aka nsɛm te sɛ:

• "Sɛ wonom eyinom a, wo nipadua ne w'adwene nyinaa yɛ adwuma brɛoo kakra."
• "Ɛbɛyɛ den sɛ wubesusuw nneɛma ho yiye, na ebia wobɛhwere wo ho mpo bere a wonam no."
• "Ɛbɛyɛ den sɛ wobehu nneɛma te sɛ sɛnea nsu no mu dɔ anaa sɛnea kar bi reba kwan so no yiye."
• "Ɛno da nkyɛn a, w'ano yɛ huam!"

Ɛtɔ da bi a wo ba no betumi abisa sɛ, "Dɛn nti na ɛnyɛ hwee sɛ maame/papa bɛnom nsa na ɛnyɛ me?" Afei kyerɛkyerɛ mu sɛ: "Mmofra nkumaa nipadua da so ara nyin. Te sɛ afifide ketewaa bi. Saa nneɛma yi a wɔnom betumi asɛe wɔn nipadua ne wɔn amemene a ɛrenyin no. Hokwan kɛse wɔ hɔ sɛ saa nneɛma yi bɛka wɔn ho bere a wɔanyinyin no. Ɛno nti na saa nneɛma yi nyɛ papa mma mmofra nkumaa no."

Momma yɛnka mmofra a wɔadi fi mfe 8 kosi 11 ho asɛm kakra.

Mmofra a wɔadi mfe yi betumi ate nkɛntɛnso a nsa de ba, kyerɛ sɛ, ɔsɛe a ebetumi asɛe nipadua ne adwene no ase kɔ akyiri kakra. Mprempren wɔanyinyin kakra, na wɔafi ase resusuw nneɛma ho wɔ ɔkwan a ntease wom so.

Wubetumi aka nneɛma a nsa de ba bere tiaa bi mu ho asɛm. Eyinom ne:

• Nneɛma a wuhu, nneɛma a wote, ne sɛnea wo nipadua kari pɛ (nhyehyɛe) no yɛ basaa. Worentumi nhu anaa wonte asɛm yiye, wuntumi nnantew yiye, na ebia wobɛhwe ase mpo.
• Nkate ne nkate betumi asesa mpofirim. Ebia wobɛte awerɛhow a worennya awerɛhow, wo bo afuw a worennya abufuw, anaa w’ani begye dodo.
• Tumi a obi tumi paw papa fi bɔne mu, kyerɛ sɛ, tumi a ɔde bu atɛn (atemmu a asɛe) no yera. Eyi ma asiane a ɛwɔ hɔ sɛ wobenya akwanhyia, nsu a ɛbɛtɔ, nneɛma afoforo a asiane wom , ne ntɔkwaw yɛ kɛse.
• Ahome bɔne.
• Ade kyee no, wunya nneɛma te sɛ tiyɛ a emu yɛ den, mmerɛwyɛ, ne ɔpɛ a wobɛfe, a wɔfrɛ no hangover .

Afei nso, ka nkɛntɛnso a nsa a wɔnom bere tenten nya bere tenten ho asɛm . Eyinom ne nea efi mu ba a asiane wom ankasa:

• Mmerɛbo a ɛyɛ yɛn nipadua mu akwaa a ɛho hia sen biara no mu biako asɛe kɛse.
• Wohwere w’akɔnnɔ na wo nipadua no ntumi nwe aduan yiye.
• Metaa nya yafunu mu haw, ɛtɔ mmere bi a yafunu mu yare.
• Asiane kɛse wɔ hɔ sɛ koma ne amemene no bɛsɛe, na ebetumi ama tebea horow te sɛ komayare ne akisikuru aba.
• Bere kɔ so no, nkae nkakrankakra, na ɛbɛyɛ den sɛ yebesua nneɛma foforo.

Mmofra a wɔadi mfe yi taa pɛ sɛ wɔne wɔn nnamfo bɛtra na wɔyɛ nneɛma koro no ara a wɔyɛ no . Ɛno yɛ ade a ɛfata. Nanso, kyerɛkyerɛ wo ba no sɛnea ɛho hia sɛ n’ankasa susuw nneɛma ho na ɔno ankasa si gyinae. Hyɛ wɔn nkuran denam nsɛm te sɛ, "Ɛnsɛ sɛ woyɛ biribi esiane sɛ obiara reyɛ nti kɛkɛ, ɔbabarima/ɔbabea. Ɛsɛ sɛ wunya ahoɔden a wode bɛpaw nea ɛte nka sɛ ɛfata wo ne nea eye ma wo nipadua."

Dɛn na yɛka kyerɛ yɛn mma nkumaa a wɔadi fi mfe 12 kosi 17?

Eyi ne bere a ɛsɛ sɛ woyɛ otiefo pa . Ma ɔpon no bue na wo ne wo ba no mmɔ nkɔmmɔ. Kɔ so yɛ nhwɛso pa . Ɛwom mpo sɛ ebia ɛbɛyɛ te sɛ nea wɔrentie nea woreka no de, nanso nhwehwɛmu ahorow ada no adi sɛ awofo nhwɛso ne nkɔmmɔbɔ nya mmofra nkumaa nneyɛe so nkɛntɛnso ankasa .

Ka ntease pa a enti ɛsɛ sɛ yɛtwe yɛn ho fi nsa ho ho asɛm kyerɛ wɔn. Ntease ahorow bi a nyansahu ada no adi ni:

• Sɛ woyɛ wo su sɛ wobɛnom nsa wɔ wo mmofraase a, ɛda adi sɛ wubenya ɔhaw ahorow a ɛfa nsa ho bere a woanyin no. Ɛno kyerɛ sɛ wubetumi de nsanom ayɛ wo su.
• Mmabun a wɔnom nsa no taa de wɔn ho hyɛ nna mu ntɛm na wɔde wɔn ho hyɛ nna a wɔmmɔ wɔn ho ban mu , a ebetumi de ɔhaw ahorow te sɛ nna mu nyarewa ne nyinsɛn a wɔnyɛ ho nhyehyɛe aba.
• Mmofra nkumaa a wɔnom nsa betumi anya sukuu dwumadi ho haw . Wɔn nkae ade, wɔn adwene so tew, na wɔn ani nnye adesua ho bio.
• Nsã betumi asɛe agumadi mu mmɔdenbɔ . Ebetumi ama wahwere ahoɔden, ahoɔhare, ne kari pɛ.
• Ɛyɛ mmara so bu sɛ obiara a onnii mfe 21 bɛnom nsa. Obiara a wɔbɛkyere no no behyia asotwe.
• Nsã betumi ama nsakrae aba amemene no mu bere tenten . Titiriw wɔ mmofraase, bere a amemene no da so ara nyin no, nsa betumi asɛe saa nkɔso no.

Ɔkasa a wobɛma ne akwan a wɔfa so bɔ nkurɔfo hu wɔ nsa ho no betumi ama mmerante ne mmabaa atwe wɔn ho afi wo ho. Enti nnyɛ saa.

Nanso, ma emu nna hɔ sɛ wompɛ sɛ wɔnom nsa koraa . Sɛ obi a ɔwɔ w’abusua mu anya nsa ho haw, kyerɛ sɛ, sɛ `abusua abakɔsɛm a ɛfa nsa ho haw ho` wɔ hɔ a, ka ho asɛm kyerɛ wo ba nso. Ebia eyi bɛma wɔayɛ asiane kɛse sɛ wɔn nso benya nsa ho haw.

Mmofra nkumaa pɛ sɛ wɔn atipɛnfo gye wɔn tom na wɔn ani gye wɔn ho. Ntease wɔ eyi mu. Enti, ka sɛnea wɔbɛyɛ wɔn ade wɔ tebea horow mu ho asɛm kyerɛ wɔn na siesie wɔn ma wɔn. Nhwɛsoɔ:

• "Fa no sɛ wowɔ apontow bi ase na w'adamfo bi rebɔ mmɔden sɛ ɔbɛma woanom nsa. Dɛn na woka? Wubetumi aka sɛ, 'Mempɛ, mennom eyi.' Anaasɛ wubetumi aka sɛ, 'Dabi, ɔbarima, ɛsɛ sɛ mekɔ adwuma anɔpatutuutu.'"
• "Sɛ adamfo a ɔde wo bɛkɔ fie no abow nsa a, dɛn na wobɛyɛ? Wo ne obi a wabow nsa nkɔ kar mu da. Saa bere no, wubetumi afrɛ me, na mɛba abɛfa wo."

Mommɔ mu nka saa nneɛma yi ho asɛm. Ka kyerɛ wo ba no sɛ wubetumi afrɛ no anaa wobɛma no text message bere biara, wobɛba abɛfa no, na woremma ɔkasa anaasɛ worentwe n’aso . Saa ahotoso yi a wobenya no ho hia yiye.

Dɛn bio na yebetumi ayɛ sɛ awofo?

Awofo nso yɛ nhwɛso pa ma mmofra nkumaa. Enti, yɛ nhwɛso pa denam nsa a wode bedi dwuma wɔ asɛyɛde mu (anaasɛ woremfa nni dwuma koraa), nsa a woremfa nni dwuma sɛ adwennwen ano aduru, na worennom nsa na worenka kar da no so. Sɛ wo ne wo mma bɔ nkɔmmɔ a wofi nokwaredi mu daa a, ɛbɛboa wɔn ma wɔasisi gyinae pa.

Bere koro no ara mu no, sɛ awofo no , ɛsɛ sɛ moma mo ani da hɔ na mohyɛ mmara . Sɛ wo ba no sɔ nsa hwɛ a, ka kyerɛ wɔn sɛ wɔnka ho asɛm nkyerɛ wo nokware . Sɛ wususuw sɛ wo ba nom nsa na ɔnka nkyerɛ wo a, mmu w’ani ngu so . Sɛ wususuw sɛ ɔhaw no mu yɛ den a, wo ba no oduruyɛfo betumi aboa.

Nneɛma foforo bi a wubetumi ayɛ ni:

• Hu baabi pɔtee a wo mma wɔ ne wɔn a wɔne wɔn wɔ .
• Nya ɔkwan bi a wobɛfa so ne wo ba adi nkitaho . Ɛsɛ sɛ wɔde wɔn fon ka wɔn ho, na ɛsɛ sɛ wɔsɔ. Afei nso, fa wɔn nnamfonom nɔma anaa ofie a wɔrekɔ mu no nɔma sie wo.
• Hu wo mma nnamfo awofo na hwehwɛ akwan a wobɛfa so ne wɔn adi nkitaho. Sɛ wo ne awofo afoforo bom yɛ adwuma a, ɛma ɛyɛ mmerɛw sɛ wobɛbɔ wo mma ho ban.
• W’adwene wɔ nsa ho, nea wubu (bu ɛsom bo) wɔ mmofra a wɔanyinyin ne mmofra nkumaa hoKa ho asɛm. Ma emu nna hɔ sɛ wompɛ sɛ wo ba nom nsa.
• Ka mpɛn dodow a ɛsɛ sɛ wɔbɔ wɔn amanneɛ kyerɛ wo mma, kyerɛ sɛ, ``wɔbɛkɔ'', bere a wonni fie no.
• Sɛ wo ba kumaa reka kar a, ma emu nna hɔ sɛ ɛnyɛ papa da sɛ wobɛnom nsa dodow biara na woaka kar . Wubetumi nso ayɛ "apam" bi a mo baanu nyinaa de mo nsa bɛhyɛ ase, a ɛkyerɛ sɛ obiara nni abusua no mu a ɔbɛnom nsa na waka kar. Ma emu nna hɔ sɛ sɛ wubu saa apam no so a, wo ba no bɛhwere ne karka hokwan ahorow.

Awiei koraa no, nneɛma kakraa bi a ɛsɛ sɛ wokae

Okay, enti mewɔ anidaso sɛ woate nsɛm a ɛho hia bi ase afi nea yɛaka ho asɛm no mu. Sɛ yɛbɛka no tiawa a, sɛ yɛpɛ sɛ yegye yɛn mma fi asiane a ɛwɔ nsa mu a, ɛsɛ sɛ yɛne wɔn kasa pefee na yedi nokware mu .

Ɛyɛ papa sɛ wubefi saa nkɔmmɔbɔ no ase wɔ wo mmofraase.

Bere a wo ba no nyin no, kyerɛkyerɛ nneɛma mu wɔ ɔkwan a ɛfata ne mfe a wadi so. Ɛho hia nso sɛ woyɛ nhwɛso pa na woda w’adwene adi kyerɛ wɔn wɔ ɔdɔ, ntease, nanso pintinn kwan so . Kae sɛ wo ne wo ba no ahoɔden a ɛsen biara! Wubetumi akyerɛ wɔn kwan akɔ ɔkwan pa so.

` Nsa, mmofra, awofo, nnubɔne a wɔde siw ano, mmabun, akwahosan, nkitahodi