So wunim sɛnea wobɛka nea ɛwɔ w’adwene mu pɛpɛɛpɛ, wɔ obu mu? Momma yɛnka Assertiveness ho asɛm!

Ɛnnɛ yɛrebɛka biribi a ɛho hia paa wɔ yɛn abrabɔ mu ho asɛm. Eyi yɛ biribi a ɛbɛboa wo ne wo nnamfo, w’abusua, baabi a woyɛ adwuma, baabi a wusua ade, ne tiawa mu no , baabiara. Ɛno ne Assertiveness . Ebia woate asɛm yi. Sɛ yɛbɛka no tiawa a, yɛfrɛ eyi ``Assertiveness`` tumi a wode bɛka nea ɛwɔ w'adwene mu, w'ahiade, ne w'adwene wɔ ɔkwan a emu da hɔ, nokwaredi, na obu wom so , a wompira wo ho anaa afoforo.

Dɛn ankasa ne ``Assertiveness''?

Susuw ho hwɛ, `(Assertiveness)` yɛ ɔkwan a ɛfata a wɔfa so kasa kɛkɛ . Ɛyɛ tumi a wutumi de nokwaredi ka w’adwene wɔ wo ho ne obu mu kyerɛ afoforo. Yehyia tebea horow pii da biara da. Sɛ ɛyɛ ɔpɛ a wobɛda no adi akyerɛ obi, asɛm bi a wobɛbisa ɔkyerɛkyerɛfoɔ, anaasɛ wobɛkasa yie wɔ adwuma anaa sukuupɔn mu nsɛmbisa mu no, `(Assertiveness)` ho hia paa.

Nanso, saa `(Assertiveness)` yi nyɛ biribi a ɛba obiara so wɔ awosu mu. Nnipa binom wɔ hɔ, wɔkasa fɛre kɛse (Too Passive) . Ɛne sɛ, wɔnka nea ɛwɔ wɔn adwenem, na wɔbobɔ wɔn ti de kyerɛ nea afoforo ka. Ebinom nso wɔ hɔ, wɔn style yɛ aggressive paa (Too Aggressive) . Ɛne sɛ, wonnwen afoforo ho, na wɔn ankasa nneɛma nkutoo na wɔka na wɔteɛteɛm. Enti, saa `(Assertiveness)` yi ne mfinimfini kwan pɔtee a ɛda saa nneɛma abien a ɛtra so no ntam.

Nneɛma bi a ɛma woyɛ w'ade ``Assertive`` ni:

• Wubetumi aka nea wususuw, anaa woada nea wote nka adi.
• Wubetumi abisa nea wopɛ, nea wuhia.
• Wubetumi afi obu mu ne afoforo anyɛ adwene .
• Wubetumi de w’adwene ne wo nyansahyɛ ahorow amena.
• Wubetumi aka sɛ "dabi" a worente afobu nka.
• Wubetumi mpo akasa ama obi foforo.

Dɛn nti na eyi ho hia yɛn saa?

Nkitahodi a ɛyɛ katee boa yɛn ma yenya nea yɛpɛ. Nanso ɛnkɔ so nnyae. Sɛ yɛyɛ katee a, ɛkyerɛ sɛ yebu yɛn ho ne afoforo.

Akasafo a wɔyɛ katee de nkrasɛm a ɛkyerɛ sɛ wɔwɔ ahotoso wɔ wɔn ho no mena. Wɔnsuro dodo anaa wɔpiapia afoforo dodo. Wonim sɛ wɔn nkate ne wɔn adwene ho hia. Wɔwɔ ahotoso .

Ɛnyɛ den sɛ nnipa a wɔyɛ katee no benya nnamfo. Wɔde obu ma wɔn ankasa ahiade ne afoforo de nso di nkitaho. Wɔn ho akokwaw nso wɔ ntawntawdi ne adwene a enhyia a wosiesie mu. Wɔn a wobu afoforo no, wɔde obu ma wɔn.

Ɔfɛre ade dodo? Katee dodo? Anaasɛ ɛteɛ ara kwa?

Wobɛyɛ dɛn ahu baabi a wugyina wɔ saa ``Assertiveness`` nsenia yi so? Nhwɛso ahorow bi ni:

Nimali's (Too Passive): Sɛ wo bisa Nimali sɛ sini bɛn na ɔpɛ sɛ ɔhwɛ a, ebia ɔbɛka sɛ, "Minnim, oh... dɛn na wobɛpɛ sɛ wohu?" Ɔtaa ma afoforo si gyinae ahorow no, nanso afei ne bo fuw, na ɔka sɛ, "Oo, mannya nea mepɛ." Ɔte nka nso sɛ ne nnamfo nkutoo na wɔrekasa. Nanso sɛ Nimali bɔ mmɔden sɛ ɔbɛka nkɔmmɔbɔ no ho mpo a, ɔkasa brɛoo paa, na afoforo nso kasa fa ne so a wonnim.

Surekha (Too Aggressive): Surekha nni ɔhaw biara sɛ ɔbɛka n’adwene. Nanso sɛ ɔyɛ saa a, ɔba sɛ ɔyɛ den kɛse na ɔwɔ adwene. Surekha di nkɔmmɔbɔ no so, na ɔtaa twa afoforo nsɛm mu, na ɔntaa ntie nea afoforo ka. Sɛ ɔne wo nyɛ adwene a, ɔma wuhu – nanso mpɛn pii no ɛnam kasatia anaasɛ obi nkate a ɔbɛpira so. Wagye din sɛ ɔyɛ ɔpanyin kɛse na onsusuw afoforo ho.

Chamalge (Assertive): Sɛ wubisa Chamal n’adwene a, ɔbɛka akyerɛ wo nokwarem. Sɛ ɔne wo nyɛ adwene a, ɔbɛka akyerɛ wo – nanso ɛnyɛ ɔkwan bi so a ɛbɛma woabrɛ ase anaasɛ ɛbɛma woate nka sɛ woadi mfomso. Chamal nso ani gye w’adwene ho. Otie nea wowɔ ka. Sɛ Chamal ne wo nyɛ adwene mpo a, woda so ara te nka sɛ obu w’adwene.

Nea ɛba bere a yɛde nea yesusuw no sie yɛn ho (too passive)...

Ebia nnipa a wɔnyɛ hwee dodo no taa te nka sɛ afoforo de wɔn redi dwuma. Ebia wɔbɛte yaw, wɔn bo afuw, anaa wɔn abam abu.

Sɛ wode w’adwene ne wo nkate gu toa mu wɔ wo mu a, afoforo rentumi nhu wo na wɔnte wo ase ankasa. W’adwene ne wo nyansahyɛ ahorow no renyɛ mfaso biara mma kuw no.

Sɛ wufi ase te nka sɛ wɔmfa w’adwene anaa wo nkate nyɛ hwee a, ebetumi atew ahotoso a wowɔ wɔ wo ho so . Ebetumi nso atew hokwan a ɛwɔ hɔ sɛ wobegye w’adwene pa atom na wɔayɛ ho biribi no so. Ɛtɔ mmere bi mpo a eyi betumi ama obi anya tebea te sɛ adwenemhaw .

Kae: wo nne nso som bo. Mma nnyɛ komm!

Sɛ woyɛ biribiara basabasa dodo a, dɛn na ɛba?

Nnipa a ɛte sɛ nea wɔyɛ basabasa dodo betumi ayɛ den ama wɔn sɛ wɔbɛkɔ so akura nnamfo. Ebia wɔbɛhyɛ afoforo so wɔ nkɔmmɔbɔ mu, na wɔada wɔn adwene adi wɔ ɔkwan a emu yɛ den na ɛyɛ den yiye so. Eyi betumi ama afoforo ate nka sɛ wobu wɔn ani gu wɔn so na wonni obu.

Ebia nnipa a wɔyɛ basabasa betumi ama afoforo ayɛ nea wɔpɛ, nanso mpɛn pii no wohu sɛ afoforo pow wɔn anaasɛ wɔn ani nnye wɔn ho. Wɔnnyɛ saaObu reyera.

Adɛn nti na obiara nnyɛ n'ade ``(Assertive)''?

Adɛn nti na nnipa binom kasa ``Assertively'' bere a afoforo nso yɛ passive anaasɛ aggressive kɛse? Ade biako nti a ɛte saa ne wɔn nipasu . Ade foforo nti a ɛte saa ne suban ahorow a yɛyɛ ne osuahu ahorow a yenya. Nanso, yesua sɛ yɛbɛyɛ ``Assertive'', ``Passive'', anaa ``Aggressive'' denam sɛnea afoforo – titiriw wɔn a wɔtete yɛn – yɛ wɔn ade a yɛhwɛ so.

Nneɛma bi a ebetumi ama obi ayɛ n’ade a ɔnyɛ hwee dodo ni :

• Ahotoso a onni wɔ ne ho anaa mfaso a ɛwɔ n’ankasa nsusuwii so.
• Wodwene ho dodo sɛ wobɛpɛ sɛ wosɔ afoforo ani na wopɛ sɛ afoforo ani gye wo ho.
• Sɛ́ ebia afoforo bɛpene w’adwene so anaasɛ wɔbɛpow wo ho a wobɛhaw wo ho.
• Sɛ́ obi bɛte nka kɛse wɔ ɔkasatia ho, anaasɛ wadi kan anya pow bere a wɔansusuw n’adwene ho no.
• ``Assertive'' a wobɛyɛ no kyerɛ sɛ woannya ahokokwaw a ɛho hia.

Eyinom ne nneɛma a ebetumi ama obi ayɛ n’ade basabasa dodo :

• Sɛ́ wubenya ahotoso dodo .
• Obi a obesusuw ho dodo sɛ obedi n’ankasa ahiade ho dwuma na wada n’ankasa nsusuwii nkutoo adi.
• Sɛ́ wunsuaa sɛnea wobebu afoforo adwene anaa wɔn ahiade na wɔasusuw ho.
• Wɔnsuaa sɛ wobetie afoforo na wɔabisa wɔn adwene.

Eyinom ne nneɛma a ɛma obi yɛ n’ade wɔ ɔkwan pa so (`Assertive`) :

• Ahotoso pa a wubenya wɔ wo ho .
• Sɛ obi gye di sɛ n’adwene ho hia a, ne nkate som bo, na ɔwɔ hokwan sɛ ɔda no adi.
• Sɛ́ wobɛtumi agyina ano (kyerɛ sɛ, wobɛtumi adi ɔkasatia, pow, ne akwansideɛ ho dwuma).
• Afoforo apɛde ne wɔn ahiade a wobu.
• Nhwɛsoɔ pa a yɛbɛnya ama `(Assertiveness)`.
• Nim a wunim sɛ wogye w’adwenkyerɛ tom na wɔkyerɛɛ wo ka a woka no denneennen no ho anisɔ bere bi a atwam no.

Yɛbɛyɛ dɛn atumi ayɛ ``Assertive'' kakra?

Sɛ́ wobɛka no pen no hwehwɛ sɛ wode nkitahodi ho nimdeɛ ahorow bi bedi dwuma na woanya adwene a ɛfata. Wɔwo nnipa binom a wotumi ka wɔn ho asɛm denneennen. Afoforo nso hia sɛ wɔde wɔn ho hyɛ mu kakra . Nanso, obiara betumi anya eyi.

Ɔkwan a wɔfa so yɛ no ni:

Nea edi kan no, susuw nkitahodi akwan abiɛsa yi mu nea ɛwɔ he (`(Assertive)`, `(Passive)`, anaa `(Aggressive)`) a wunim no yiye no ho. Afei si gyinae sɛ ebia ɛsɛ sɛ wofɛre ade kɛse, wonyɛ basabasa kɛse, anaasɛ woyɛ katee kɛse sen sɛnea wote fi awosu mu no.

Sɛnea ɛbɛyɛ a wobɛtew passiveness so na ama assertiveness akɔ soro no, yɛ nea edidi so yi:

• Hwɛ yiye wɔ nea wususuw, nea wote nka, nea wopɛ, nea w’ani gye ho. Ɛsɛ sɛ wuhu saa nneɛma yi ansa na woaka akyerɛ afoforo.
• Sɛ obi bisa wo nea wopɛ a, hyɛ no nsow sɛ woka sɛ, "Minnim," "M'ani nnye ho," anaa "Ɛno nyɛ ɔhaw biara." Gyae sɛ wobɛka saa. Fa yɛ wo su sɛ wobɛka nea wopɛ, titiriw wɔ nneɛma nketenkete ho. Sɛ nhwɛso no, sɛ obi bisa sɛ, "Wopɛ nea ɛyɛ ahabammono no anaa nea ɛyɛ kɔkɔɔ no?" wobɛtumi aka sɛ, "M'ani gye nea ɛyɛ ahabammono no ho – meda wo ase."
• Fa yɛ wo ho sɛ wobɛbisa nneɛma. Sɛ nhwɛso no: "Mesrɛ wo, metumi anya spoon?" "Me hia pen - so obi wo foforo?" "Metumi anya nkongua?" Eyi bɛma woanya ahokokwaw ne ahotoso a wuhia na wode abisa nneɛma a ɛho hia kɛse bere a ɛho hia no.
• Ka w'adwene kyerɛ yɛn . Ka sɛ ebia w’ani gyee sini bi a wuhui ho anaasɛ w’ani nnye ho, ne nea enti a ɛte saa kyerɛ yɛn.
• Fa " Me" nsɛm te sɛ "Mepɛ..." "Mepɛ..." anaa "Mete nka..." di dwuma.
• Hwehwɛ nhwɛso pa a ɔyɛ katee – kyerɛ sɛ, ɔnfɛre ade dodo, ɔnyɛ basabasa dodo. Hwɛ sɛ wubetumi asuasua saa onipa no su horow a eye sen biara anaa.
• Kae wo ho sɛ w’adwene ne w’adwene ho hia te sɛ obiara de ara pɛ. Sɛ wunim eyi a, ɛbɛboa wo ma woabɛyɛ ``Assertive.`` Assertiveness fi ase wɔ koma mu adwene a ɛma afoforo som bo na wobu w'ankasa wo ho.

Sɛ wobɛtew Aggressiveness so na ama Assertiveness akɔ soro a, yɛ nea edidi so yi:

• Ma afoforo nkasa kan.
• Hwɛ yiye wɔ nkurɔfo a wobetwitwa w’ano bere a worekasa no ho. Sɛ ɛba saa a, kyere no na ka sɛ, "Oh, kyɛw - woka!" na ma onipa foforo no nwie.
• Bisa obi foforo adwene bi na tie ne mmuae.
• Sɛ wo ne no nyɛ adwene a, bɔ mmɔden sɛ wobɛka w’adwene a wommu onipa foforo no animtiaa. Sɛ nhwɛso no, sɛ́ anka wobɛka sɛ, "Ɛno yɛ nkwasea adwene" no, bɔ mmɔden sɛ wobɛka sɛ, "M'ani nnye saa adwene no ho ankasa." Anaasɛ, sɛ́ anka wobɛka sɛ, "Ɔyɛ onipa a ne ho yɛ hu" no, bɔ mmɔden sɛ wobɛka sɛ, "Minsusuw sɛ odwen nnipa afoforo ho."
• Hwehwɛ nhwɛso pa a ɔyɛ katee – kyerɛ sɛ, ɔnfɛre ade dodo, ɔnyɛ basabasa dodo. Hwɛ sɛ wubetumi asuasua saa onipa no su horow a eye sen biara anaa.

Nnipa a fi awosu mu yɛ katee no betumi anya nkɔso wɔ wɔn tumi mu bio:

• Being ``Assertive`` – kyerɛ sɛ, ɛnyɛ obi a ɔfɛre ade dodo, ɛnyɛ animtiaabu dodo – .Hwehwɛ nhwɛso pa. Hwɛ sɛ wubetumi asuasua wɔn su horow a eye sen biara anaa. (Ebia wubehu sɛ eyi yɛ afotu koro no ara a yɛde ma de boa nnipa a wɔfɛre ade anaasɛ wɔyɛ basabasa. Ɛte saa efisɛ yennyae adesua da!)
• Susuw bere a woka no pen kɛse ho . Ɛsono sɛnea nkurɔfo yɛ wɔn ade wɔ tebea horow mu. Wɔ nnipa pii fam no, ɛnyɛ den sɛ wɔbɛka wɔn ho asɛm denneennen wɔ tebea horow bi mu (te sɛ wɔne nnamfo), nanso ɛyɛ asɛnnennen wɔ afoforo mu (te sɛ akyerɛkyerɛfo anaa nnipa foforo). Wɔ tebea horow a emu yɛ den mu no, bɔ mmɔden sɛ wubebisa wo ho sɛ, "Sɛ me ne me nnamfo paa wɔ hɔ a, dɛn na mɛka?"

Sɛ wokasa denneennen a, ɛkyerɛ sɛ wugye wo ho di. Sɛ́ wubenya asɛm a wɔka no denneennen no yɛ anammɔn biako a ɛbɛma woabɛyɛ onipa a wopɛ sɛ woyɛ, wo ho fã a eye sen biara!

Ade a ɛho hia sen biara a ɛsɛ sɛ wode kɔ fie (Take-Home Message) .

Okay, enti seesei wowɔ adwene pa wɔ nea yɛaka ho asɛm no ho, ``(Assertiveness)''. Kae sɛ eyi nyɛ biribi a wubetumi asesa da koro pɛ. Nanso sɛ wode di dwuma a, akyinnye biara nni ho sɛ wubehu nsonsonoe.

• Wo nkate, w’adwene, ne w’ahiade som bo paa. Mfa wɔn nsie.
• Mma nnyɛ passive, nnyɛ basabasa. Yɛaka abien no nyinaa mu nsɛm ne nea ɛwɔ akyi ho asɛm.
• Assertive kyerɛ sɛ wobɛka w’adwene nokwarem, wobɛkyerɛ obu ama afoforo na woabu wo ho.
• Fa nneɛma nketenkete fi ase. Fa yɛ wo ho sɛ wobɛka biribi a ɛnyɛ den te sɛ, "M'ani gye saa kɔla no ho sen saa kɔla yi."
• Tie nea afoforo ka no yiye. Ɛnyɛ sɛ wobɛka w’ankasa wo asɛm kɛkɛ.
• Sɛ wudi mfomso anaa ɛsɛ sɛ woka sɛ dabi mpo a, nte afobu nka wɔ ho.

Bɔ mmɔden sɛ wode afotu nketenkete yi bɛka wo da biara da asetra ho. Wubehu sɛnea mo abusuabɔ bɛyɛ yiye na mobɛte nka sɛ emu bɛyɛ hare. Wodi nkonim!

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