Ƒewuiviwo ƒe Dzeɖoɖo Kple Viwò Si Xɔ Ƒe 13-18: Mina Míaɖo Nya Sia Gbɔ

Ðe ɖevi gã aɖe le wò aƒeme fifia, si fia be ɖevi sue aɖe si xɔ tso ƒe 13 va ɖo ƒe 18? Va, ƒe ma nye ɣeyiɣi tɔxɛ aɖe ŋutɔ eye wòsesẽ vie . Le go ɖeka me la, wodze aɖaŋu ŋutɔ, wosrɔ̃a nu yeyewo, eye wodzea xexeame kpɔkpɔ gɔme. Le go bubu me la, wonye ahom gã aɖe le woƒe susu me. Wo xɔlɔ̃woe nye woƒe xexeame. Wozãa woƒe ɣeyiɣi akpa gãtɔ ɖe wo ŋu le suku, dɔ siwo wowɔna kpe ɖe sukunusɔsrɔ̃ ŋu, eye ɖewohĩ wowɔa dɔ sue aɖe. Eyata, ɣeyiɣi si míezãna tsɔ ɖoa ​​dze kpli wo le aƒeme ate ŋu anɔ ʋɛ. Gake abe dzilawo ene la, ele vevie ŋutɔ, vevie ŋutɔ be míaƒo nu na wo vie gbesiagbe, agblɔ woƒe susuwo, eye míaɖo to wo. Ne menye nenema o la, woate ŋu ase le wo ɖokui me abe ɖe wole tetem ɖa le mía ŋu vivivi ene, abe ɖe yewo ɖeɖe le xexe aɖe si to vovo me ene . Eyata, mina míaƒo nu egbea tso nusi wòle be míawɔ be ƒomedodo sia nali ke ŋu, enyoa?

Aɖaŋuɖoɖo aɖewo siwo ku ɖe dzeɖoɖo si ana kadodo nanɔ mia kple viwò sue dome ŋue nye esi.

Enyo, eyata aleke míawɔ alé ƒomedodo nyui, sesẽ me ɖe asi kple ɖevi sue si le adzɔge tso aƒeme ŋkekea ƒe akpa gãtɔ eye wòle agbagba dzem be yeatu ye ŋutɔ yeƒe xexea? Ðewohĩ adze nu sesẽ le gɔmedzedzea me, gake le nyateƒe me la, nu suesuesuewo ate ŋu ana tɔtrɔ gã aɖe nava. Aɖaŋuɖoɖo aɖewoe nye esi:

• Ðo ɣeyiɣi vi aɖe ɖi gbesiagbe, ɖewohĩ le fiẽnuɖuɣi alo hafi mlɔ anyi, be nàɖo to nya siwo viwòa gblɔ kple nusiwo wòwɔ le ŋkekea me. Nu vevitɔe nye be nàna wòase le eɖokui me be èle to ɖom ŋutɔŋutɔ . Tsɔ telefon la da ɖe adzɔge, tsi television la, eye nàlé ŋku ɖe eŋu ne èle nu ƒom kplii. To mɔ sia dzi la, ase egɔme be, ‘Hey, nya si gblɔm mele na Dada/Papa ​​la le vevie ŋutɔŋutɔ.’ Ðo ŋku edzi be mèdi be yeaƒo nuƒo na viwòa o, abe alesi nèle gbɔgblɔm nɛ ɣesiaɣi be, ‘Mègawɔ esia o, mègawɔe nenema o,’ ene, ke boŋ , èdi be yeaƒo nu kplii le xɔlɔ̃wɔwɔ me . De bubu nya si wògblɔ ŋu.

• Nyabiase siwo ŋu woate ŋu aɖo kple ‘ɛ̃’ alo ‘ao’ ko biabia meɖea vi o. Ɣemaɣie dzeɖoɖoa wu enu. Bia nya siwo ana woate ŋu abu tame ahaɖe nu me boŋ. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, le esi teƒe be nàbia be, ‘Ðe suku yi edzi nyuie egbea?’ la, bia be, ‘ Nukae nye nu tɔxɛtɔ kekeake si dzɔ le suku egbea, viŋutsu/vinyɔnu? ’ alo ‘Gblɔ nu yeye aɖe si nèsrɔ̃ egbea nam, nye hã madi be manya.’ To mɔ sia dzi la, anɔ eme be woagblɔ nya si le susu me na wo.

• Mɔzɔzɔ le ʋu, bɔs, alo tasiaɖamfɔ etɔ̃ me nye ɣeyiɣi nyui aɖe na dzeɖoɖo siawo ƒomevi. Bu eŋu kpɔ, elabena menye ŋkume kple ŋkumee miele ŋku lém ɖe mia nɔewo ŋu o ta la, ɣeaɖewoɣi la, wogblɔa nya siwo ŋu woate ŋu awɔ nuvevii wu siwo le woƒe susu me gɔ̃ hã bɔbɔe . Ɣemaɣi la, ɖeko nànye toɖola nyui. Mègadrɔ̃ ʋɔnu o.

• Dze agbagba nàde woƒe kamedefefewo, sukunuwɔnawo, kɔnsɛtwo, kple bubuawo Ƒo fefe aɖe kpli wo, kpɔ sinima, ɖewohĩ nàkpɔ ɣeyiɣi gɔ̃ hã aƒo nu tso nudzɔdzɔ siwo le edzi yim fifia ŋu ahaɖo to woƒe nukpɔsusuwo. Esia aɖee afia be menye ‘amedzro’ koe nènye le woƒe agbe me o, ke boŋ ame si le afima kpli wo le woƒe dzidzɔkpɔkpɔ kple nuxaxa me.Woase le wo ɖokui me nenema. Ne wonya tu kakaɖeamedzi ma ɖo ko la, anɔ bɔbɔe be woaƒo nu kpli wò.

Aleke woƒe dzeɖoɖo ƒe atsyã trɔna le woƒe ɖevime? Ðe míese nya ma gɔmea?

Le ƒe sue sia me, zi geɖe le sekɛndrisuku ƒe ɣeyiɣia me lɔƒo la, ɖeviwo ƒe nuƒoƒo ƒe ɖoɖo kple nyawo zazã tsina wu ame tsitsiwo. Ne woƒe susu me tsitsi le dzidzim ɖe edzi la, woƒe gbegbɔgblɔ zazã va le sesẽm ɖe edzi. Woate ŋu aƒo nu tso nusiwo me susu mele o ŋu ahase wo gɔme , si fia be nukpɔsusu siwo ŋu asi mate ŋu aka asi o eye susu koe ate ŋu ase wo gɔme (e.g., lɔlɔ̃, dzɔdzɔenyenye, ablɔɖe). Aleae wòle le kpɔɖeŋunyagbɔgblɔ hã gome. Kpuie ko la, menye gɔmesese si le nyawo ŋu tẽ koe woate ŋu ase o, ke woate ŋu ase gɔmesese kple gɔmesese siwo de to wu siwo woɖena fiana hã gɔme.

Bu eŋu kpɔ ko, míezãa nusiawo le gbesiagbe nuƒoƒo me. Ðevi suewo sea nu siawo gɔme eye wodzea wo zazã hã gɔme:

• Nyagbɔgblɔwo abe "ƒo ɖa ɖe ta" ene: Ne ègblɔ be "ƒo ɖa ɖe ta" la, le nyateƒe me la, mèdi be yeatsɔ akplɔ aƒo ɖa o. Èbe "egblɔ/wɔ nu nyuitɔ tututu." Ne ègblɔ be "le tsikpe tsɛwo dzi" la, efia be "nɔnɔme si me afɔku le me nɔnɔ." Wosea nyagbɔgblɔ siawo tɔgbe gɔme.
• Kpɔɖeŋunyagbɔgblɔwo: Ne ètsɔ nu ɖeka sɔ kple bubu, abe ‘dzadzɛ abe notsi ene’, ‘sesẽ abe nyitsu ene’, ‘ayetɔ abe akpɔkplɔ ene’ ene la, wosea susua gɔme.
• Kpɔɖeŋunyagbɔgblɔwo: ‘She’s a night owl’ fia amesi dɔa alɔ̃ le zã me. ‘Teƒe ma nye lãwo dzikpɔƒe’ fia teƒe si toɣliɖeɖe le ŋutɔ, si me zitɔtɔ le. ‘Ɣeyiɣi nye ga’ fia be asixɔxɔ le ɣeyiɣi ŋu ŋutɔ. Wosea nu siawo tɔgbe gɔme, evɔ womegblɔna tẽ be ‘abe’ o, ke boŋ woyɔa ɖeka be evelia.

Eyata ne woɖe nane me gɔ̃ hã la, wodina be yewoazã kpɔɖeŋunyagbɔgblɔwo, le mɔ si metso tẽ o nu vie, tsɔ wu be yewoagblɔe tẽ. Esia nye woƒe nunya ƒe tsitsi ƒe dzesi . Ele be woate ŋu ase nyagbewo ƒe gɔmesese si de to wu gɔme, nya vovovo siwo me wozã wo le, alesi woazã nuŋɔŋlɔmedzesiwo gɔ̃ hã, eye woate ŋu ase nyagɔmeɖegbalẽ ƒe ɖoɖo sesẽwo gɔme ahazã wo , si nye alesi wotsɔ nyawo ƒo ƒui be woawɔ nyagbe didi siwo ŋu gɔmesese le. Esiawoe nye woƒe gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe ŋgɔyiyi ƒe dzesiwo.

Gake menye nyawo zazã kple wo gɔmesese dzro koe dzeɖoɖo nye o ɖe, alo? Nu bubu geɖewo hã kpɔa ŋusẽ ɖe edzi. Vevietɔ ale si ɖevi suewo bua wo ɖokui, wo xɔlɔ̃wo, kple ale si wobua ŋusẽtɔwo abe nufialawo kple dzilawo ene.

Ðo ŋku edzi be le ɣeyiɣi sia me la, wole agbagba dzem vevie be yewoanɔ yewo ɖokui si tso yewoƒe ƒomea gbɔ, be yewoazu yewo ŋutɔ yewoƒe ame. Woawo ŋutɔ ƒe amenyenye.Wole agbagba dzem be yewoatu. Nyabiasewo abe ‘Amekae menye? Nukae medi?’ le woƒe susu me. Azɔ hã, ne wodze tamebubu gɔme le susumanɔmee la, wova tsɔa ɖe le agbenyuinɔnɔnyawo me le xexeame – le kpɔɖeŋu me, nuwo abe hadome madzɔmadzɔnyenye, nyui kple vɔ̃, ahedada – eye wodzea woawo ŋutɔ ƒe nukpɔsusuwo xɔxɔ gɔme. Esiawo katã kpɔa ŋusẽ ɖe ale si wobua tamee, ale si woƒoa nu kpli mí, kple ale si wobua tame la dzi tẽ. Eyata, ele vevie be míase vovototo sia gɔme ahaɖe mɔ ɖe eŋu le wo me.

Ɣeaɖewoɣi la, kpekpeɖeŋu ate ŋu ahiã: ɣeyiɣi ka ƒomeviwoe?

Mí katã míedi be mía viwo ƒe lãme nasẽ. Gake ɣeaɖewoɣi la, kadodo alo nusɔsrɔ̃ me kuxiwo ate ŋu anɔ wo ŋu. Le nɔnɔme siawo tɔgbe me la, ele vevie be woaɖe afɔ nyuitɔwo vɔvɔ̃ manɔmee.

Ele vevie be nàƒo nu kple viwòa ƒe nufialawo edziedzi tso woƒe gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe ŋutetewo kple ŋgɔyiyi le suku ŋu. Nufialawo zãa woƒe ɣeyiɣi akpa gãtɔ ɖe viwòa ŋu. Woate ŋu ade dzesi tɔtrɔ suetɔ kekeake gɔ̃ hã le viwòa ŋu. Ɣeaɖewoɣi la, nufialawo ate ŋu asusu be gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe nusɔsrɔ̃ ƒe kuxi aɖe le viwò ŋu , si nye nusɔsrɔ̃ ƒe kuxi si tso gbea gɔmesese alo zazã sesẽ gbɔ. Ne ɖikeke sia do mo ɖa la, ahiã be woawɔ dodokpɔ deto aɖewo atsɔ anya nusi tututu kuxia nye eye woana kpekpeɖeŋu si hiã ɖevia.

Zi geɖe la, dodokpɔ siawo ate ŋu anye:

• Tosese dodokpɔ – elabena ɣeaɖewoɣi la, gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe kuxiwo hã ateŋu ado mo ɖa le tosese ƒe kuxi aɖe ta.
• Susuŋutinunya ƒe dodokpɔ: Esia nye ŋkɔ si me kɔ vie, gake ne míagblɔe bɔbɔe la, ebia be woada ɖevi ƒe nusɔsrɔ̃ ƒe atsyã tɔxɛ kple alesi woƒe susu ƒe dɔwɔwɔ le dɔ wɔm to dodokpɔ si woɖo ɖe ɖoɖo nu me. Esia ate ŋu akpe ɖe ame ŋu wòade dzesi ɖevi ƒe ŋutetewo kple gbɔdzɔgbɔdzɔwo.
• Nuƒoƒo kple gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe dodokpɔ: Esia doa alesi ɖevia ƒoa nui, alesi wòyɔa nyawo, alesi wòtua nyagbewoe, kple alesi wòsea gbea gɔmee kpɔna.

Le kpɔɖeŋu me . Enye eŋutinunyala bibi si daa nuƒoƒo kple gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe kuxiwo kpɔna eye wònaa atike si hiã, kamedede, kple bubuawo. Zi alesi wode dzesi nu siawo kaba la, zi nenemae wo dada nɔa bɔbɔe.

Azɔ hã, gbea ƒe tɔtrɔ, le kpɔɖeŋu me , gbe ƒe ɖiɖi , gbɔgbɔtsixe , alo gbe sesẽ si me kɔ (raspiness).Ne gbeɖiɖi ƒe nyonyome ƒe nyawo le ŋuwò la, mègaɖe wo ɖa ko be ‘nusi dzɔna ne ètsi’ o. Anyo be nàdo toŋutinunyala alo ENT eŋutinunyala aɖe kpɔ le atikewɔnyawo me . Ðewohĩ susu aɖe li si tae. Gake zi geɖe la, wokpɔa gbegbɔgblɔ kple nuƒoƒo ƒe kuxiwo le woƒe ɖevime, hafi wova ɖoa tsitsi alea, eye wodzea atikewɔwɔ si hiã la gɔme. Ke hã, nu aɖewo hã ate ŋu ado mo ɖa emegbe, eyata enyo be nànɔ ŋudzɔ.

Zi geɖe la, dzilawo susuna be ɖevimenɔɣi sia nye ɣeyiɣi sesẽ ŋutɔ eye masɔmasɔ kple yewo viwo. Ame aɖewo bunɛ gɔ̃ hã be ‘esɔ’ be yewoatsɔ nya ɖe yewo dzilawo ƒe nukpɔsusuwo ŋu, atsi tre ɖe ƒome ƒe sewo ŋu, eye yewoate tɔ ɖe yewo ŋutɔ yewoƒe nukpɔsusuwo dzi le ɣeyiɣi sia me. Enye woƒe mɔzɔzɔ be yewoakpɔ ɖokuisinɔnɔ ƒe akpa aɖe. Gake nenɔ susu me na wò be ne viwò ƒe nuwɔna le tɔtɔm vevie le ƒomea ƒe ŋutifafa kple gbesiagbedɔwo me , alo ne wole amesiame si le aƒea me dem nyaƒoɖeamenu me ɣesiaɣi la, ɖewohĩ manye ƒewuiviwo ƒe aglãdzedze si sɔ alo ‘ɖevi ƒe vodada’ ko o. Ne èse le ɖokuiwò me ŋutɔŋutɔ be ƒomedodo si le ye kple viwò dome koŋ le agbagba dzem, eye nèse le ɖokuiwò me be yemate ŋu akpɔ esia gbɔ le ye ɖokui si o la, ƒo nu tso eŋu na wò ƒomea ƒe ɖɔkta alo ɖeviwo ƒe susuŋutinunyala/tagbɔdɔdala . Ŋukpe aɖeke mele kpekpeɖeŋu biabia me gbeɖe o, enye alesi gbegbe nètsɔ ɖe le eme na ɖevia ƒe dzesi.

Eyata gbedasi vevitɔ kae wòle be míatsɔ ayi aƒemee tso nusiawo katã me? (Gbedasi si Wotsɔ Yi Aƒeme)

Eyata, mesusu be esia akpe ɖe wò, nye, kple mí katã ŋu míase ɖevi sue siawo ƒe xexeame gɔme nyuie vie. Dzeɖoɖo kple dzeɖoɖo si nèwɔna kple viwò si xɔ ƒe 13 va ɖo ƒe 18 le aƒeme la menye nya ɖɔliɖɔli yi ŋgɔ kple megbe ko o. Ele be wòanɔ abe mɔ si dzi mɔ eve le ene . Ele be nàƒo nu eye nàna woaƒo nu. Ele be nàɖo to eye woawo hã naɖo to wò. Dadasɔ ma le vevie.

Ne nya siawo le susu me na wò la, wò hã àte ŋu ado ŋusẽ kadodo si le mia kple viwò suea dome:

• Ðo to dzigbɔɖitɔe kple susu ʋuʋu: Ðewohĩ nya geɖe anɔ wo si woagblɔ ahagblɔ. Eƒe ɖewo ate ŋu anye nu yeye na mí, eye ate ŋu ato vovo tso mía ŋutɔwo ƒe susuwo gbɔ. Gake ne míeɖo to dzigbɔɖitɔe kple ʋɔnudɔdrɔ̃ manɔmee la, woaʋu woƒe dzi me aƒo nu. Na woase le wo ɖokui me be ‘danye/fofonye sea nu gɔme nam.’
• Bia nya siwo ŋu kakaɖedzi le be nàde dzo dzeɖoɖo me: Yi ŋgɔ wu ŋuɖoɖo siwo nye ‘ẽ/ao’ eye nàdze agbagba ase woƒe tamesusuwo, seselelãmewo, mɔkpɔkpɔwo, kple vɔvɔ̃wo gɔme. Bia nyawo abe ‘Nukae nèsusu tso ema ŋu?’ ene. kple ‘Aleke nèse le ɖokuiwò me ɣemaɣi?’
• Ɣeyiɣi zazã ɖekae sɔ kple eƒe kpekpeme le sika me:Aleke kee vovo mele ŋuwò o, di ɣeyiɣi vi aɖe gbesiagbe, zi ɖeka le kwasiɖa me gɔ̃ hã, nàtsɔ akpɔ ɣeyiɣi ɖe wo ŋu awɔ nane si doa dzidzɔ na wo ahaɖo dze. Ate ŋu anye nu bɔbɔe aɖe abe sinima kpɔkpɔ, mɔzɔzɔ kpui aɖe yiyi, alo board game ƒoƒo ene. Ɣeyiɣi ma si wotsɔ nɔa anyi ɖekae ye tua kadodo ɖo .
• Se egɔme be tɔtrɔ nye tsitsi ƒe dzesi: Ne wole tsitsim la, woƒe tamebubu, nuƒoƒo, kple nusiwo dzɔa dzi na wo trɔna. Ema nye dzɔdzɔme nu. Ðe mɔ na tɔtrɔ ma eye nàdze agbagba ase egɔme. Mègakpɔ mɔ be woanɔ abe alesi wonɔ esime wonɔ sue ene o.
• Ne èhiã kpekpeɖeŋu la, nunya anɔ eme be nàxɔe: Ne èse le ɖokuiwò me anukwaretɔe be dzeɖoɖo, nusɔsrɔ̃, alo nuwɔna ƒe kuxi sesẽ aɖe le viwòa ŋu la, mègatsi dzi ɖe eŋu eye wò ɖeka nàkpe fu o, gake mègahe ɖe megbe gbeɖe be yeabia kpekpeɖeŋu tso nufialawo, ɖɔktawo, alo eŋutinunyala bibi siwo ŋu nya ku ɖo gbɔ o. To mɔ sia dzi la, viwòa axɔ kpekpeɖeŋu nyuitɔ kaba .

Mlɔeba la, wò lɔlɔ̃, wò nugɔmesese, kple wò kpekpeɖeŋu maʋãmaʋãe nye ŋusẽ kple yayra gãtɔ kekeake si le viwòa si be wòazɔ sɔhɛmenɔɣi sia si me kuxi sesẽ gake wònya kpɔ, si me nuwo le nyuie la dzidzedzetɔe kple dzidzɔ! Mègaŋlɔ be gbeɖe be yeanae o.

Ðevi suewo, kadodo, vihehe, gbegbɔgblɔ ƒe tsitsi, susu ƒe lãmesẽ, nusɔsrɔ̃ ƒe kuxiwo, ƒewuiwo