He aha kou manaʻo ke lohe ʻoe i ka huaʻōlelo 'mea hakakā no ke kanesa o ka umauma'? (Kanesa o ka Umauma) - E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēia mau manaʻo

Inā ʻoe e pilikia ana i ka maʻi ʻaʻai umauma , ua lohe paha ʻoe i nā mea e like me, "He koa ʻoe," a "E noho ikaika a kaua i kēia kaua." Ua ʻike paha ʻoe i kēia mau ʻōlelo ma nā pālule T a me nā pou pāpili kaiapili me nā lipine poni. Ua manaʻo ʻia lākou e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka ikaika a me ke koa. Akā he aha kou manaʻo maoli ke lohe a ʻike ʻoe i kēia mau huaʻōlelo? Makemake nā kānaka a pau i ka lepili "mea koa"? E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēia me ka ākea iki.

ʻO ka manaʻo maikaʻi ma hope o ka huaʻōlelo "fighter"

ʻO ka mea mua, pono kākou e hoʻomaopopo i ka wā e kapa aku ai kekahi iā ʻoe he "koa," he manaʻo maikaʻi ko lākou ma hope. Ua ʻike lākou i ka paʻakikī o ke ola me ka maʻi kanesa. No laila, hoʻohana lākou i kēia mau ʻōlelo e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka wiwo ʻole, e paipai iā ʻoe, e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi.

E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ia mea, ke nānā ʻoe i nā papahana hoʻomaopopo i ka maʻi kanesa, hoʻohana nui ʻia ka huaʻōlelo "hakakā". Hoʻāʻo ʻo "Hakakā i ke Kanesa" a me "E Kaua Kākou" e hoʻopau i ka makaʻu a me ke kōkua ʻole e pili ana i kēia maʻi a ma kahi o ia mea e hana i kahi manaʻo ikaika a maikaʻi. No kekahi poʻe, he mea hoʻoikaika ikaika loa kēia. Ke ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho he "mea hakakā," hāʻawi ia iā ʻoe i ka ikaika nui e kū i ka lāʻau lapaʻau a hala i nā lā paʻakikī. ʻAʻohe hewa o ia mea.

Akā… no ke aha i makemake ʻole ai nā kānaka a pau i kēia lepili 'koa'?

Eia kekahi ʻaoʻao o ka moʻolelo. ʻAʻole makemake nā kānaka a pau e noho ana me ka maʻi ʻaʻai umauma i ka manaʻo o ka lilo ʻana i "mea hakakā." Aia kekahi mau kumu no kēlā.

• Ke kaomi e ikaika mau: Inā he "mea hakakā" ʻoe, manaʻo ka nohona e wiwo ʻole a maikaʻi ʻoe i nā manawa a pau. Akā, he ʻoiaʻiʻo anei kēlā ma ke ola maoli? Aia nā lā āu e kaumaha ai, makaʻu, a makemake e uē. Lapaʻau (`Aia kekahi mau lā i luhi loa ai ke kino ma muli o ka chemotherapy . Inā manaʻo ʻoe ua nāwaliwali i kekahi o kēlā mau lā, ʻo ia hoʻi ke "nalowale nei ʻoe i ke kaua"? Hiki i kēia kaomi ponoʻī ke lilo i mea kaumaha nui i kekahi manawa.

• ʻAʻole kēia he kaua a mākou i koho ai: ʻO ke kaua he mea maʻamau a kekahi e komo ai ma ke koho. Akā, ʻaʻole like ia me ke kanesa. ʻAʻole ia he mea a kekahi e makemake ai e loaʻa; he maʻi ia e kū mai ana i loko o ke kino. No laila, no kekahi poʻe, ke ʻōlelo lākou he "kaua" kēia, manaʻo lākou ua hoʻokuke ʻia lākou i loko o kahi kahua kaua e kūʻē i ko lākou makemake.

• ʻO ke kumumanaʻo o ka "lanakila" a me ka "nalowale": Me ka huaʻōlelo "kaua" hele mai nā huaʻōlelo "lanakila" a me ka "nalowale." Inā ho'ōla ʻia ke kanesa , ua ʻōlelo ʻia ua "lanakila ke kanaka i ke kaua." No laila, inā make ke kanaka i ke kanesa, ʻo ia hoʻi ua "nalowale ke kanaka i ke kaua"? ʻAʻole anei ʻo ia i "hakakā maikaʻi"? He manaʻo kūpono ʻole a ʻeha hoʻi kēia. Aia ke ola o ke kanaka ma luna o nā kumu lapaʻau e like me ka holomua o ka lāʻau lapaʻau a me ke ʻano o ke kanesa, ʻaʻole ma luna o ka "ʻuhane hakakā" o kēlā kanaka.

• Ke hoʻomaʻalahi nei i ka ʻike: He huakaʻi paʻakikī ka huakaʻi maʻi kanesa . Nui nā mea e noʻonoʻo ai, me ka ʻeha, ke ʻoki kino (e like me ka mastectomy), nā hopena ʻaoʻao o ka mālama ʻana, nā pilikia kālā, ka hopena i ka ʻohana, a me nā haki naʻau. Ke hoʻohui ʻoe i nā mea a pau i hoʻokahi huaʻōlelo, "kaua," manaʻo kekahi poʻe ua nalowale ka hohonu o ka ʻike.

Inā ʻaʻole kēia he "kaua", a laila he aha kēia?

Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i ka lepili "militant," hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe e wehewehe i kou ʻike. ʻO kāu hoʻoholo wale nō kēia. ʻIke kekahi poʻe i ko lākou ʻike ma kēia ʻano.

E hoʻokuʻu i kou mau manaʻo - ʻo ia ka mea nui loa.

ʻO ka mea nui e pono ai kākou e hoʻomaopopo mai kēia moʻolelo holoʻokoʻa, ʻaʻohe ala kūpono a hewa paha e hōʻike ai i kou mau manaʻo.

• Inā manaʻo ʻoe he "mea hakakā," inā hāʻawi kēlā manaʻo iā ʻoe i ka ikaika, maikaʻi kēlā. E hele i kāu huakaʻi me kēlā ikaika.
• Inā huhū mau ʻoe ke lohe ʻoe i kēlā huaʻōlelo, inā kaumaha ʻoe, ua kūpono loa kēlā manaʻo. Loaʻa iā ʻoe nā kuleana āpau e manaʻo pēlā.

E kamaʻilio me kahi hoaaloha pili, ʻohana, a kauka paha e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo. I kekahi manawa, hiki ke kōkua i ka ʻimi ʻana i ke kōkua loea mai kahi kākāʻōlelo. ʻO ka mea nui, ʻaʻole ia e kūpono i kahi lepili, akā e ʻimi i kahi ala e kōkua iā ʻoe i kēia manawa paʻakikī.

Pehea lā mākou e kōkua aku ai, ma ke ʻano he poʻe a puni mākou?

Inā loaʻa i kahi lālā o ka ʻohana a i ʻole hoaaloha ka maʻi ʻaʻai umauma, hiki iā ʻoe ke kākoʻo iā lākou. Akā, pono ʻoe e hana ia mea ma ke ʻano kūpono iā lākou.

• Ma mua o kou ʻōlelo ʻana, "He kanaka hakakā ʻoe," e nīnau iā lākou i ko lākou manaʻo. E hoʻolohe i ko lākou mau manaʻo.
• Ma kahi o ka hoʻoikaika ʻana me nā huaʻōlelo , e kōkua ma ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana . E nīnau i nā mea e like me, "Hiki iaʻu ke hana i kahi meaʻai nau?", "Hiki iaʻu ke hele pū me ʻoe i ka haukapila?", "Pono ʻoe i ke kōkua me nā hana o ka hale?" He ʻoi aku ka waiwai o kēia mau mea ma mua o nā huaʻōlelo lapuwale.
• E ho'ōki i ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "E ikaika," a e ʻōlelo, "ʻAʻole pilikia ke kaumaha, aia pū wau me ʻoe." E ʻae iā lākou e ʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo a pau.

ʻO ka mea hope loa, ʻo kāu huakaʻi kēia. Na ʻoe e hoʻoholo i ka inoa āu e makemake ai e hāʻawi. Hiki ke lilo i "kaua," hiki ke lilo i "huakaʻi," a i ʻole kekahi mea paha. Maikaʻi nā mea a pau.