Ke manaʻo nei anei kāu keiki ua mehameha pū kekahi? Eia pehea e loaʻa ai ke kōkua me kēia pilikia ma o nā pilina pili kaiaulu!

Ua lilo ia i mea maʻamau no kā mākou mau keiki ke manaʻo mehameha i kēia mau lā. Manaʻo paha kāu keiki kāne a kaikamahine paha i kekahi manawa, ʻeā? I kēia lā, e kamaʻilio kikoʻī mākou e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka mehameha maoli, no ke aha e manaʻo ai kā mākou mau keiki, a me nā pilina pilikanaka , ʻo ia ka mea hiki ke lilo i hopena maikaʻi loa no kēia, a pehea ko lākou koʻikoʻi i ke ola o nā keiki.

He aha ka manaʻo maoli o ka mehameha?

ʻO ka mehameha kekahi mea a kākou a pau e ʻike ai i kekahi manawa. I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ke makemake kākou e noho pū me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, e pili kokoke iā lākou, e loaʻa i ko lākou aloha a me ka lokomaikaʻi, manaʻo mākou ua mehameha mākou, mamao aku mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a ua kaʻawale . E noʻonoʻo, pehea lā ka manaʻo o kāu keiki inā ʻaʻole i hui pū nā keiki ʻē aʻe me ia i ka pāʻani ma ke kula? ʻO ia ke ʻano o ke kaumaha a me ka ʻole e hele mai me kēia manaʻo o ka mehameha.

Nā kūlana kahi e manaʻo ai nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi a me nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi he mehameha:

Nui nā kumu e manaʻo ai kā mākou mau keiki mehameha. Eia kekahi mau laʻana:

• Ke manaʻo ʻoe ua mehameha ʻoe a ʻaʻohe ou hoaaloha, a i ʻole ke manaʻo nei kekahi poʻe e waiho wale ʻia ana lākou: E noʻonoʻo i ke kaumaha inā ʻo kāu keiki wale nō ka mea i waiho ʻia i waho ʻoiai ke koena o ka papa e pāʻani pū ana. Manaʻo paha ʻoe, 'ʻAʻohe mea e mālama iaʻu, ʻaʻohe oʻu hoaaloha.'
• Ke manaʻo ʻoe, 'ʻAʻole au no kēia wahi, ʻaʻole au kūpono i loko': I kekahi manawa, manaʻo nā keiki ʻaʻole lākou no kā lākou papa, kā lākou hui o nā hoaaloha, a i ʻole ko lākou ʻohana. I nā manawa e like me ia, ua mehameha loa lākou.
• Ke manaʻo ke keiki ʻo ia wale nō ka mea me ka pilikia, nā manaʻo e like me, "ʻO wau wale nō ka mea e loaʻa ai kēia pilikia, ʻaʻohe mea ʻē aʻe e ʻike i kēia, ʻaʻohe mea e hoʻomaopopo iaʻu," ʻoi aku ka noho kaʻawale o ke keiki.
• ʻO ka ʻeha ma hope o ka hakakā ʻana me kahi makua, hoaaloha, a kaikaina paha: ʻOiai kahi huhū liʻiliʻi hiki ke waiho i nā keiki me ka mehameha a mamao aku.
• Inā paha he nalowale ʻana o kahi mea aloha a i ʻole he kaʻawale ʻana: Ke make kekahi lālā o ka ʻohana, kaʻawale nā ​​mākua, a neʻe paha kahi hoaaloha maikaʻi loa i kahi kula ʻē aʻe, hiki i nā keiki ke manaʻo i ka mehameha nui.

Ua ʻoi aku ka mehameha o nā keiki i kēia mau lā?

E nānā, i kēia mau lā, ʻaʻole wale nā ​​​​keiki ʻōpio, ʻōlelo ka poʻe o nā makahiki āpau ua ʻoi aku ko lākou mehameha. No ke aha mai kēlā? ʻO kekahi kumu nui ʻo kēia ao kikohoʻe wikiwiki . Ke hana ʻia nā mea āpau ma nā kelepona, nā kamepiula, a me nā papa, ka launa pū ʻana he maka no he maka, ka minoʻaka maka-a-maka, a pēlā aku, ua emi nā manawa kūpono no nā pilina aloha, nā pilina, a meʻAʻole ia e hana pololei. I mea e pololei ai, no ka pilina maikaʻi a me ka pilina me ka ʻohana e ikaika ai, he mea nui loa ka hui ʻana he alo a he alo a kamaʻilio, e hoʻolilo i ka manawa pū. Ke nele kēlā, manaʻo kekahi mau keiki a me nā ʻōpio i ka mehameha. ʻOiai inā he mau haneli o nā hoaaloha ma ke kelepona, inā ʻaʻohe o lākou mea e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i ko lākou manaʻo ma ke ola maoli, he mehameha nō hoʻi ia.

ʻAʻole maikaʻi ka noho hoʻokahi ʻana e like me kēia no ka manawa lōʻihi no ke olakino noʻonoʻo o ke keiki a me ko lākou olakino kino . Hiki iā ia ke hoʻopilikia ʻaʻole wale i ko lākou noʻonoʻo, akā i ko lākou kino holoʻokoʻa.

Akā, he nūhou maikaʻi! Aia nā ala e hōʻemi ai i kēia mehameha. ʻO ke ala maikaʻi loa e hana ai i kēlā, ʻo ia ka hoʻonui ʻana i nā pilina pili kanaka.

No laila he aha kēia pilina pilikanaka?

I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻo ia hoʻi ka loaʻa ʻana o ka manaʻo pili, ka pilina pili, a me ka pilina me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a me ka manaʻo o 'No kēia hui wau' a 'Ua ʻae ʻia wau e kēia poʻe' . He pono kanaka maʻamau kēia, e like me ka meaʻai, ka mea inu, a me ka hiamoe. E like me ka pōloli ke loaʻa ʻole iā mākou ka meaʻai, ʻo ka manaʻo hakahaka o ka mehameha aʻu i ʻōlelo ai ma mua e loaʻa mai ana ke loaʻa ʻole iā mākou kēia pilina pilikanaka.

No laila, he aha ka mea e hana ai ke loaʻa i kahi keiki nā pilina pilikanaka maikaʻi e like me kēia?

• Ua emi nui ka manaʻo o ka mehameha. ʻAʻole lākou e manaʻo mehameha i nā manawa a pau.
• Inā paha e manaʻo koke lākou i ka mehameha, ua maʻalahi iā lākou ke hoʻomanawanui. Hiki iā lākou ke hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou iho, 'Auē, e maikaʻi ana kēia i kekahi manawa, he kanaka kaʻu e kamaʻilio pū ai.'
• ʻOiai ke manaʻo lākou he mehameha, hiki iā lākou ke ho'ōla koke a hauʻoli hou. ʻO ke ʻano kēia, ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻolilo i ka manawa liʻiliʻi e hoʻopaʻa ana i ke kaumaha.

Pehea e hōʻemi ai ka pilina pili kanaka i ka mehameha?

He mea maikaʻi loa kēia pilina pilikanaka no ke olakino noʻonoʻo o nā keiki a me ko lākou olakino kino. Ke loaʻa i ke keiki nā pilina pilikanaka maikaʻi, ma kahi o ka manaʻo mehameha, manaʻo lākou i nā mea e like me:

• Ua pili loa lākou i nā poʻe o ko lākou ola. ʻO ia hoʻi, ua like lākou me he pilina pili loa a aloha ko lākou me nā poʻe e like me ko lākou makuahine, makuakāne, nā kaikaina, nā hoaaloha, a me nā kumu.
• Manaʻo kekahi poʻe ua aloha ʻia lākou, mālama ʻia, hoʻolohe ʻia, a hoʻomaopopo ʻia. E noʻonoʻo i ka hōʻoluʻolu o kahi keiki e haʻi aku i kona makuahine e pili ana i kahi pilikia, a e hoʻolohe ka makuahine a ʻōlelo, "E ke keiki/kaikamahine, mai makaʻu, eia wau ma ʻaneʻi." ʻO ia ke ʻano o ka manaʻo.
• Manaʻo lākou ua ʻae ʻia lākou me ke kūlana ʻole, ua hoʻokomo ʻia i loko o kā lākou hui, a ua mahalo ʻia e like me ko lākou ʻano. Ma kahi o ka hopohopo e pili ana i nā mea e like me 'He ʻeleʻele wau, he wīwī wau, he momona wau,' ua hilinaʻi lākou 'ua maikaʻi wau e like me aʻu, makemake kekahi iaʻu, a he waiwai wau.'
• Manaʻo lākou e pili ana lākou i kekahi mea.ʻO ia hoʻi, loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi manaʻo e like me, 'ʻO koʻu ʻohana kēia, ʻo koʻu hui hoaaloha kēia, ʻo koʻu hui kirikiti kula kēia, ʻo koʻu kaiāulu kēia.' He mea maikaʻi ke manaʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe mehameha, he wahi kou e noho nei ʻoe.
• Manaʻo lākou he poʻe ko lākou e hiki ke hilinaʻi ʻia, a hauʻoli a maikaʻi hoʻi ko lākou manaʻo ke noho pū lākou me lākou. ʻO ka manaʻoʻiʻo 'ʻoiai he aha ka pilikia aʻu, aia kekahi e hiki iaʻu ke haʻi aku iā lākou, a ʻaʻole lākou e haʻalele iaʻu' he ikaika nui ia no ka noʻonoʻo.
• Manaʻo lākou ʻaʻole lākou i hoʻokahi wale nō, akā he ʻāpana o kahi mea nui aʻe ma mua o lākou iho. Malia paha he pilina ia me ke kūlohelohe. A i ʻole, manaʻo pū lākou i kēia manaʻo ke komo lākou i kahi kumu maikaʻi, kahi lawelawe kaiāulu, a lākou e aloha ai. Manaʻo lākou, 'Ke hana nei au i kahi mea nui no kēia ao.'

Hiki i nā mākua ke kōkua i ka hōʻemi ʻana i ka mehameha o nā keiki!

I kēia manawa ke noʻonoʻo nei paha ʻoe, 'Pehea lā wau e kōkua ai i kaʻu keiki e lanakila ma luna o kēia mehameha? Pehea wau e kōkua ai iā ia e hana i kēia mau pilina pili kanaka?' Nui nā mea hiki i nā mākua ke hana no kēia.

Kōkua i ka hoʻomohala ʻana i nā mākau pilikanaka

ʻO ka mea nui loa, ʻo ia ke aʻo ʻana i nā keiki i nā mākau pilikanaka e pono ai ke kūkulu ʻana i kēia mau pilina pilikanaka.

• E aʻo aku i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e lokomaikaʻi a kōkua: Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka me nā mea liʻiliʻi e like me, 'E ke keiki, inā ua poina i kēlā hoaaloha ke lawe mai i kahi penikala i kēia lā, e hāʻawi iā ia i kāu penikala keu', 'Inā makemake kou ʻanakē ma ka home i kahi kōkua iki, e ʻoluʻolu e hana.' E hoʻomaopopo kēia mau mea i ke keiki ua ʻae ʻia e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
• E aʻo iā lākou pehea e hana ai i nā pilina maikaʻi a olakino: ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e lilo i hoaaloha me nā kānaka a pau, akā he mea nui e loaʻa nā hoaaloha e kūpono me ʻoe, ka poʻe maikaʻi nou, a me ka poʻe e hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe. Pono nō hoʻi ʻoe e aʻo iā lākou e noho mamao aku mai nā hoaaloha maikaʻi ʻole e hoʻonāukiuki.
• E aʻo i kāu keiki e hoʻolohe pono i ka mea a haʻi e ʻōlelo nei (Hoʻolohe Hana), a e hōʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo me ke akahai a me ka maopopo. He mea nui loa kēia no nā pilina maikaʻi. E hoʻomaopopo i kāu keiki i ke koʻikoʻi o ka nānā ʻana i kekahi i ka wā e kamaʻilio ana lākou a hoʻolohe iā lākou.
• E aʻo e hana pū ma ke ʻano he hui a mahalo i nā manaʻo o haʻi. Hiki ke hoʻomohala ʻia kēia mau mākau ma ke komo ʻana i kahi hui haʻuki kula, hui scout, a i ʻole kekahi hana hui ʻē aʻe.

E hoʻokumu i kahi pilina paʻa me kāu keiki i kēlā me kēia lā.

Eia kekahi, e ʻimi i ka manawa e kamaʻilio ai me kāu keiki i kēlā me kēia lā a e hoʻolilo i ka manawa me lākou. ʻOiai pehea kou paʻahana, e hoʻokaʻawale i 15-20 mau minuke i ka lā no kāu keiki wale nō.

Pono ke keiki e hilinaʻi iā ia iho "Ke hāʻawi nei ʻo Māmā/Pāpā i ka manawa noʻu, e hoʻolohe ana i kaʻu ʻōlelo, a aia nō ia noʻu i nā pilikia a pau."

ʻO kēia ko lākou ikaika nui loa. Inā ʻoe e hoʻolilo i kekahi manawa me kāu keiki a kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea i hana ʻia i kēlā lā, e ʻoi aku ka nui o ko lākou haʻi ʻana iā ʻoe e pili ana i ko lākou hauʻoli, kaumaha, a me nā pilikia. E kōkua kēia iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i ka mea e hana nei me kāu keiki, inā paha ua mehameha lākou, a me ke ʻano o ke kōkua a lākou e pono ai. ʻOiai nā mea liʻiliʻi e like me ka pāʻani pū ʻana, ka heluhelu ʻana i kahi puke, a i ʻole ke kōkua ʻana i ka kuke ʻana hiki ke hoʻoikaika i kēia pilina.

ʻO ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i nā pilina pilikanaka o kāu keiki ma kēia ʻano e kōkua iā lākou ʻaʻole wale i kēia lā, akā, no ko lākou wā e hiki mai ana, ʻoiai lākou e ulu ana. ʻOi aku ka nui o ka holomua o kahi keiki me nā pilina ʻohana ikaika i loko o ke kaiāulu.

No laila, he aha nā mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo ai mai nā mea a mākou i kamaʻilio ai? (Leka Lawe-Home)

• He mea hiki i kekahi ke manaʻo i ka mehameha. Mai hilahila iā ia, mai makaʻu iā ia, a mai manaʻo he hewa ia no ke keiki.
• Nui nā kumu e manaʻo ai nā keiki ua mehameha lākou. E makaʻala i kēia a e hoʻolohe i nā loli i ke ʻano o kāu keiki.
• ʻO ka pilina pilikanaka ka hopena maikaʻi loa i ka mehameha. He mea nui loa ia no ke olakino noʻonoʻo a me ke kino o nā keiki.
• Hiki i nā mākua ke kōkua i ka hōʻemi ʻana i kēia mehameha ma o ka hoʻomohala ʻana i nā mākau pilikanaka o kā lākou mau keiki a me ke kūkulu ʻana i nā pilina ikaika me lākou. ʻO ʻoe ke kumu mua a maikaʻi loa o kāu keiki.
• E hoʻolilo i kekahi manawa e kamaʻilio me kāu keiki i kēlā me kēia lā, e hoʻolohe ana iā lākou. E hōʻike iā lākou aia ʻoe me lākou. E haʻi aku iā lākou, "ʻOiai ke aha, aia wau me ʻoe."

Inā ʻike ʻoe ua mehameha kāu keiki, e kamaʻilio me lākou e pili ana i ia mea me ke aloha a me ke akahai. I kekahi manawa ʻaʻole paha iā lākou ka huaʻōlelo e hōʻike ai, akā e wehe lākou i ko lākou manaʻo ke ʻike lākou i kou hoihoi. Inā pono, mai kānalua e ʻimi i ke aʻo lapaʻau , ke kākāʻōlelo kula, a i ʻole ke aʻo loea. ʻO ka hauʻoli a me ke olakino noʻonoʻo o ke keiki ka mea nui ma mua o nā mea āpau!

Mehameha , Pilina Kaiaulu, Nā Keiki, Ola Kino, Nā Mākua, Mehameha, Mākua, Psychology Keiki