Ke nahu nei kāu keiki liʻiliʻi i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe? (Ke nahu nei) - E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēia ʻano hoʻonāukiuki!

ʻAʻohe huaʻōlelo e wehewehe i ka hauʻoli āu e manaʻo ai ke nānā aku ʻoe i kāu keiki liʻiliʻi e hana ana i nā mea nani, ʻeā? Ke holo koke ʻo ia iā ʻoe a ʻapo iā ʻoe, ke ʻakaʻaka nui ʻo ia, ke ʻapo ʻo ia iā ʻoe ke luhi ʻo ia ... ke paila nei ke aloha. Akā ma ke ʻano he makuahine a makua kāne paha o nā keiki liʻiliʻi, ʻike ʻoe me kēia mau mea nani, i kekahi manawa hana pū kēia mau keiki i nā mea e hoʻonāukiuki iā mākou a he kolohe iki. Ke kīkēkē nei, ka uē ʻana, a i ʻole ... ke nahu ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe . ʻO kēia nau ʻana he mea ia i ʻike pinepine ʻia i waena o nā keiki o kēia makahiki. Akā ke ʻike ʻoe iā ia, a i ʻole ke alo ʻoe iā ia, he mea maʻamau nō hoʻi ke hopohopo nui a me ka hoʻonāukiuki. No laila i kēia lā, e kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēia ʻano nau ʻana a me nā mea hiki iā kākou ke hana e kāohi iā ia.

No ke aha e nau ai nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi penei? He aha nā kumu?

ʻO ka mea mua, pono kākou e hoʻomaopopo i ka wā e nahu ai kekahi keiki i kekahi kanaka, ʻaʻole ia i hana ʻia me ka manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole. Ke hoʻomaopopo nei lākou i ke ao nei. No laila, hiki ke loaʻa nā kumu like ʻole no kēia nahu ʻana.

• Ka hoihoi a me ka ʻimi ʻana: Aʻo nā kamaliʻi e pili ana i ke ao a puni lākou ma ke kau ʻana i nā mea i loko o ko lākou waha a me ka hoʻopā ʻana iā lākou. No laila, i kekahi manawa e nau paha lākou no ka hoihoi, me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana, "He aha ka mea e hana ʻia inā nau wau?", e like me ke kau ʻana i kahi mea pāʻani i loko o ko lākou waha.
• ʻEha niho: I ka wā e niho ana, hiki i ka maneʻo a me ka ʻeha o nā ʻāʻī ke hoʻoikaika iā lākou e nau i nā mea a pau a lākou e loaʻa ai. Hiki paha iā lākou ke nahu i kekahi mea kokoke i ka manawa.
• E hōʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo: ʻAʻole ʻike nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi pehea e hōʻike ai i ko lākou kaumaha, huhū, a i ʻole ka hoʻonāukiuki ma nā huaʻōlelo e like me kā mākou. No laila, ke huhū lākou, ke lawe kekahi i kahi mea pāʻani, a i ʻole ke loaʻa ʻole iā lākou kahi mea a lākou e makemake ai, e nau paha lākou i mea e hoʻokuʻu ai i kēlā mau manaʻo.
• E kiʻi i ka nānā: I kekahi manawa ʻike ke keiki e loaʻa iā lākou ka nānā nui mai ka makuahine a i ʻole ka makuakāne ma ka nau ʻana. ʻOiai inā he ʻōlelo hoʻohewa kēlā nānā, hiki ke manaʻo ʻia he "nānā" iā lākou, ʻoiai ke manaʻo nei lākou he mehameha a luhi paha.
• Hoʻohālike : Inā ʻike lākou i kahi kaikuaʻana ma ka home a i ʻole kekahi keiki ʻē aʻe ma ke kula hānai e nau ana, e hoʻohālike pū lākou iā ia.
• No ka pale ʻana iā ʻoe iho: I kekahi manawa, nahu paha ka poʻe i mea e pale aku ai iā lākou iho, inā paha mai kahi keiki i ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o lākou a i ʻole ke manaʻo lākou ua pilikia lākou.
• Luhi, pōloli , a ʻoluʻolu ʻole paha: Inā luhi loa ke keiki, pōloli, a i ʻole kekahi ʻoluʻolu ʻole (e.g., lole pulu), hiki iā lākou ke hōʻike ma ke nau ʻana no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou maopopo pehea e ʻōlelo ai.

E noʻonoʻo i ia mea, i kekahi manawa huhū kekahi keiki liʻiliʻi ke lawe kekahi keiki i kā lākou mea pāʻani, a ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike pehea e hoʻopuka ai i loko o nā huaʻōlelo. No laila, hoʻopuka lākou i ko lākou huhū ma ke nahu ʻana i kekahi keiki. Me he mea lā e kāhea ana lākou, "Ua huhū au! E hāʻawi mai iaʻu i kaʻu mea pāʻani!"

No ke aha kākou e hopohopo ai ke ʻike kākou i kekahi e nau ana? He mea maʻamau anei kēlā?

ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, he mea maʻamau ka manaʻo haʻalulu, hilahila, a huhū ke ʻike ʻoe i kāu keiki e nahu ana i kekahi. ʻO nā mea e like me, "Ua ʻeha anei ke keiki ʻē aʻe?" a "He aha ka manaʻo o ka makua ʻē aʻe?" e hiki mai ana i ka noʻonoʻo. Akā e hoʻomanaʻo, he mea maʻamau ka nau ʻana i waena o nā keiki ma waena o nā makahiki 1 a me 3. I kekahi manawa hiki ke manaʻo ʻia he pae i ko lākou ulu ʻana. ʻAʻole ia manaʻo e nahu nā keiki a pau, akā ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha inā hana lākou. ʻO ka mea nui, pehea mākou e pane ai iā ia a pehea mākou e hiki ai ke kōkua i kā mākou keiki e hoʻōki i ka maʻa.

He aha kā mākou e hana ai ke nau ke keiki? He aha ke ala maikaʻi loa?

He mea nui loa ke ʻano o kā mākou pane ʻana ke nahu mai kekahi keiki. Ma muli o kā mākou pane ʻana e aʻo ai ke keiki inā he mea maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha kēia, a inā paha e hana hou ʻia.

ʻO ka mea mua, e mālie i ka hiki!

He mea maʻalahi kēia e ʻōlelo ma mua o ka hana ʻana. Eia nō naʻe, inā huhū ʻoe a ʻuwā paha, e makaʻu nui paha kāu keiki a hoʻāʻo paha e nahu iā ʻoe e kiʻi i ko lākou manaʻo. E hanu hohonu a hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i kekahi manawa.

E ʻōlelo "ʻaʻole" me ka maopopo a me ka paʻa.

I ka manawa e nahu ai kāu keiki, e nānā pololei aku i kona maka a ʻōlelo aku, ʻaʻole me ka leo nui, akā me ka leo maopopo a paʻa, "ʻAʻole, mai nahu. ʻEha ia." Pono hoʻi ʻoe e hōʻike i kēlā hoʻokaʻulua ma kou helehelena. Akā, ʻaʻole ma ke ʻano hoʻoweliweli.

E makaʻala i ke keiki e nahu ana.

ʻO ka mea nui aʻe, ʻo ia ke hele i ke keiki nāna i nahu a hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou. E ʻōlelo i kekahi mea e like me, "Ua ʻeha ʻoe? E kala mai," a nānā i ka ʻeha. Hoʻouna kēia i kahi leka i kāu keiki e hōʻeha ana ka nahu ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a he mea kaumaha ia.

E wehe i ke keiki nahu mai laila mai no kekahi manawa.

E wehe i ke keiki nahu mai kahi āna i pāʻani ai a i ʻole mai ka hana no kekahi manawa. Ua like kēia me ka "manawa hoʻomaha." Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole pono e hoʻohana ʻia kēia ma ke ʻano he hoʻopaʻi, akā, ma ke ʻano he ala e hāʻawi ai i ke keiki i kahi manawa e noʻonoʻo ai i kāna mea i hana ai a mālie. E ʻōlelo, "Ua nahu ʻoe, no laila e noho wau ma ʻaneʻi no kekahi manawa," a waiho wale iā ia no hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha minuke ma kahi kahi ʻaʻohe ona mea e pāʻani ai a luhi (pono e loli ka manawa ma muli o ka makahiki o ke keiki. ʻO ka maʻamau, ma kahi o hoʻokahi minuke no kēlā me kēia makahiki).

E wehewehe maʻalahi.

E ʻōlelo i kahi mea maʻalahi, kūpono i ka makahiki o ke keiki a me ka pae o ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana, e like me "ʻAʻole mākou e nahu i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Ke nahu mākou, ʻeha ia i kā mākou mau hoaaloha. ʻAʻole ia he mea maikaʻi." Mai hāʻawi i nā haʻiʻōlelo lōʻihi.

E aʻo i nā koho ʻē aʻe

E aʻo aku i kāu keiki i nā ʻano ʻē aʻe e hōʻike ai i ko lākou huhū, kaumaha, a i ʻole ka pono me ka ʻole o ka nahu ʻana. E aʻo aku iā lākou i nā mea e like me, "Ke huhū ʻoe, e ʻōlelo 'Huhū wau,'" "Inā makemake ʻoe i kahi mea pāʻani, e noi aku, 'Hāʻawi mai iaʻu,'" a "Inā huhū ʻoe, e haʻi aku iā Māmā/Pāpā." Hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo aku i kēia mau mea ma o nā mele a me nā moʻolelo .

E hoʻomaikaʻi i ke ʻano maikaʻi.

Ke pāʻani maikaʻi nei kāu keiki me nā hoaaloha me ka ʻole o ka nau ʻana, a ke hōʻike ʻo ia i kona mau manaʻo ma nā huaʻōlelo, e hoʻomaikaʻi iā ia. E paipai iā ia ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kekahi mea e like me, "Ua pāʻani maikaʻi loa kaʻu keiki kāne/kaikamahine i kēia lā. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i nau ʻia, ʻeā? Hauʻoli loa ʻo ia." Ua kapa ʻia kēia he hoʻoikaika maikaʻi .

Mai kapa inoa i kēia mau mea! He aha nā ʻano hana hewa?

I kekahi manawa, ʻo nā mea a mākou e hana ai me ka ʻike ʻole e hiki ke hoʻonui i kēia ʻano nau ʻana. No laila, mai hana i kēia mau hewa.

• Ke nau ʻana i kāu keiki: ʻO ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "I kēia manawa ua maopopo iā ʻoe ke ʻeha?" e aʻo wale aku i kāu keiki he mea hoʻoponopono pilikia ka nau ʻana. E huikau wale aku nō ia i kāu keiki. Mai hana i kēia.
• Hoʻopaʻi koʻikoʻi, hoʻōho ʻana, kuʻi ʻana: E hoʻoweliweli wale kēia mau mea i ke keiki a pale iā lākou mai ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana ua hewa kā lākou hana. Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻoikaika i ke keiki a paipai iā ʻoe e hana malū i kēia mau mea.
• Hoʻohilahila i ke keiki: ʻO ka hoʻohilahila ʻana i ke keiki i mua o kekahi poʻe ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana i nā mea e like me "ʻO kēia ka mea nāna i kuʻi iā Raya. He keiki ʻino maoli" e hōʻino wale i ko lākou manaʻo ponoʻī.
• Ke kapa ʻana i kahi keiki he "maikaʻi ʻole": Ke ʻōlelo ʻoe i nā mea e like me "he keiki maikaʻi ʻole ʻoe," "he kolohe ʻoe," e hoʻomaka paha ke keiki e manaʻoʻiʻo. Pono mākou e kālele i ke ʻano, ʻaʻole i ke keiki. He ʻokoʻa nui ma waena o ka ʻōlelo ʻana "he mea maikaʻi ʻole ka nau ʻana" a me ka ʻōlelo ʻana "he keiki maikaʻi ʻole ʻoe."

He aha hou aʻe kā mākou e hana ai e hoʻōki i ka nau ʻana?

Ma waho aʻe o nā pane koke i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna, aia kekahi mau mea ʻē aʻe e hiki iā mākou ke hana e hōʻemi i kēia maʻa i ka wā lōʻihi.

• E ho'āʻo e ʻike i ke kumu: I ka manawa hea e nau nui ai kāu keiki? Ke luhi ʻo ia? Ke pōloli ʻo ia? Ke nalowale kāna mea pāʻani? A i ʻole ke kokoke ʻo ia i kahi kanaka kūikawā? Inā ʻoe e hoʻolohe i kēia mau mea (E nānā i nā mea hoʻonāukiuki ) , hiki iā ʻoe ke pale aku i kēlā mau kūlana a kōkua paha i kāu keiki i kēlā mau manawa.
• E hoʻolako i nā manawa kūpono no ka pāʻani ikaika: He mea nui loa ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā keiki i ka manawa kūpono e holo a puni a pāʻani, e hoʻokuʻu i ko lākou ikehu. E hōʻemi kēia i ko lākou huhū a me ka hoʻomaha ʻole.
• Ka hoʻomaha kūpono a me ka hiamoe: E hōʻoia i ka lawa ʻana o ka hiamoe o kāu keiki. ʻOiai ke luhi a hiamoe paha lākou, hiki i nā keiki liʻiliʻi ke hoʻomaha ʻole a nau.
• Nā mea pāʻani e niho ana: I ka wā e niho ana, e hāʻawi i kāu pēpē i kahi mea pāʻani niho palekana a maʻemaʻe e nau ai, e like me ke kāloti anuanu a i ʻole ka ʻāpana kukama. Akā e hōʻoia e kokoke ana i ka wā e hāʻawi ai iā lākou i kēia mau mea, no ka mea hiki iā lākou ke hoʻopāpā.
• Ke pāʻani hana:I ka wā e pāʻani ana, e hoʻohana i nā pēpē a i ʻole nā ​​holoholona e hana i nā mea e like me, "ʻAʻole nahu nā hoaaloha, ua maikaʻi mākou penei," a "ʻO kēia ka mea a mākou e ʻōlelo ai i ka wā e huhū ai mākou."
• E heluhelu i nā puke: E heluhelu i nā puke me kāu keiki e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ko lākou mau manaʻo a pehea e launa pū ai me nā hoaaloha.

Āhea mākou e ʻimi ai i ke aʻo lapaʻau?

I ka manawa pinepine, e emi iho kēia ʻano nau ʻana i kona wā e ulu aʻe ai ke keiki a hiki iā ia ke hōʻike i kona ʻano ma ka waha. ʻO ka maʻamau, e nalo ia i ka makahiki 3-4. Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau hihia kahi e pono ai mākou e ʻimi i ka ʻōlelo aʻo mai ke kauka a i ʻole ke kauka noʻonoʻo keiki.

• Inā pinepine a huhū loa ka nau ʻana o ke keiki .
• Inā hoʻomau kēia ʻano ma hope o 3 a 4 paha makahiki.
• Inā kēia nau ʻana ke kumu o nā pilikia no ke keiki a hiki i kahi e pono ai ke hoʻoneʻe ʻia mai ka hale mālama keiki.
• Inā ʻike ʻoe i kekahi mau ʻano e pili ana i nā ʻano a i ʻole nā ​​lohi o ka ulu ʻana me ka nau ʻana, e like me ka lohi o ka ʻōlelo a i ʻole nā ​​​​pilikia pili kanaka.
• Inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kaohi i kēia kūlana a ke kaumaha nui nei ʻoe no ia mea.

E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole ke kūkākūkā me ke kauka. Hiki iā lākou ke kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i ke kumu pololei a hāʻawi i nā hoʻonā i kūpono loa no kāu keiki.

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ʻAe, ke lana nei koʻu manaʻo e kōkua kā kākou mea i kamaʻilio ai i kēia lā iā ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo i kekahi o nā mea nui loa.

• He mea maʻamau ka nau ʻana i waena o nā keiki ʻōpio , akā hiki ke hoʻomalu ʻia. Mai hopohopo.
• ʻO ke ahonui a me ke kūpaʻa ke kī. ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e hiki ke hoʻōki i kēia i hoʻokahi lā. Akā, mai hāʻawi pio. E pane like i nā manawa a pau.
• E kālele i ke aʻo ʻana i kāu keiki, ʻaʻole e hoʻopaʻi iā lākou. E aʻo iā lākou i ka mea kūpono a me ka mea hewa, a pehea e kaohi ai i ko lākou mau manaʻo .
• He pilikia kēia e kū nei i nā mākua he nui. ʻAʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi. Inā pono, e kamaʻilio me nā mākua ʻē aʻe a e kaʻana like i kāu mau ʻike.
• Mai kānalua e noi i ke kōkua. Inā paʻakikī iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i kēia ma kāu iho, e ʻimi i ke kōkua loea.

Ke lana nei ko mākou manaʻo e uhaki koke kāu keiki liʻiliʻi i kēia ʻano maʻamau a e hiki mai ana ka lā e ʻike hou ai mākou i ko lākou ʻano nani!

ʻO ke nahu ʻana, ka nau ʻana o nā keiki, ke nahu ʻana o ke kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi, ke ʻano o ke keiki, nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo makua, ke ʻano o ke keiki