Ke uē mau nei kāu keiki liʻiliʻi? E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i ka huhū!

Auē, huhū koke kāu keiki liʻiliʻi , uē, a ʻōwili a puni ma ka papahele? I kekahi manawa, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i ka mea e hana ai, ʻeā? He mea maʻamau ia no nā keiki liʻiliʻi, e like me ʻelua a ʻekolu paha makahiki, ke loaʻa i kēia ʻano tantrums, a i ʻole e like me kā mākou e ʻōlelo nei ma ka ʻōlelo Pelekania, "Temper Tantrums". Akā i kekahi manawa hiki i nā keiki makua ke hana ma kēia ʻano, ʻaʻole hiki ke kāohi i ko lākou huhū a me ka hoʻonāukiuki.

He aha kēia mau huhū huhū? E hoʻomaopopo maʻalahi kākou iā lākou!

I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻo kēia mau "Temper Tantrums" he ala ia no ke keiki e hoʻokuʻu koke i kahi manaʻo ikaika (e like me ka huhū, ke kaumaha, ka hoʻonāukiuki) hiki ʻole iā lākou ke kāohi. E noʻonoʻo, ʻaʻole ʻike kahi keiki liʻiliʻi pehea e hoʻopuka ai i kā lākou makemake i nā huaʻōlelo. A laila hoʻokuʻu lākou i ko lākou haunaele i loko ma kēia ʻano.

I kēia manawa, hiki i ke keiki ke hana i kēia mau mea:

• E uē nui ana me ka uē ʻana .
• Moe ihola ʻo ia ma ka honua, e ʻōwili ana , a e hoʻoluliluli ana i kona mau lima a me kona mau wāwae.
• Ke hoʻolei ʻana i nā mea i hiki mai i loko o kou lima.
• Ua hahau lākou iā lākou iho, me ke kuʻi ʻana i ko lākou mau poʻo i kekahi wahi.
• Hiki i kekahi mau keiki ke paʻa i ko lākou hanu .
• Ke ho'āʻo nei e kuʻi a nahu i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe (ʻo ʻoe, kou mau kaikaina).

ʻO ka mea nui, ʻaʻole kēia he mea a ke keiki e hana ai no ka mea he "maikaʻi ʻole" lākou. ʻO ka hiki ʻole i ko lākou lolo liʻiliʻi ke mālama i kēlā mau manaʻo i kēlā manawa.

No ke aha ʻoe e hana hoʻomākeʻaka nei, e ke keiki? He aha nā kumu?

Nui nā kumu e hana hewa ai ke keiki ma kēia ʻano. E nānā kākou i kekahi o nā kumu nui.

I ka wā ʻōpiopio (ma kahi o 1-4 mau makahiki)

ʻOi aku ka nui o ka loaʻa ʻana o nā "Temper Tantrums" i nā keiki i kēia makahiki. Eia nā kumu no kēia:

• ʻAʻole hiki ke ʻōlelo pono: ʻAʻohe o lākou huaʻōlelo e ʻōlelo ai ua pōloli lākou, luhi, pono i kekahi mea, a i ʻole he pilikia. No laila, ʻo kēia ka huhū e hiki mai ana ke ʻike ʻole lākou pehea e ʻōlelo ai.
• Ke hoʻāʻo nei e hana i nā mea ma o lākou iho: I kēia makahiki, ke hoʻomaopopo mālie nei lākou i ke ao nei a ke noʻonoʻo nei, "Hiki iaʻu ke hana i koʻu ala!" Akā, ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hana i nā mea āpau. Penei ka huhū e puka mai ai ke hiki ʻole iā lākou ke hoʻoponopono i kahi mea pāʻani a ʻaʻahu paha i ko lākou mau kāmaʻa.
• Luhi, pōloli, nele i ka hiamoe : ʻAʻole wale nā ​​​​pēpē e huhū ke loaʻa ʻole iā lākou ka meaʻai a i ʻole ka hiamoe lawa, akā huhū pū mākou. He mea paʻakikī loa kēia no nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi e lawelawe.
• Nā mea hou, nā loli: Ke hele lākou i kahi wahi hou, hālāwai me nā poʻe hou, a hoʻololi paha i kā lākou hana maʻamau, hiki iā lākou ke hopohopo koke.

Nā keiki makua (ma hope o 4 mau makahiki)

Hiki i nā keiki kula ke hana i kēia ʻano i kekahi manawa.

• Ka hoʻāʻo palena: Aia kekahi mau manawa e hana ai lākou i kēia e ʻike ai, "He aha ka hana a mama inā wau e hana i kēia?"
• Ka paʻakikī o ka hoʻokele ʻana i nā manaʻo ikaika :Ke aʻo mau nei lākou pehea e hana ai me nā manaʻo e like me ka huhū, ke kaumaha, ka lili, a me ka makaʻu i ka wā e kū mai ai.
• No ka loaʻa ʻana o ka nānā: I kekahi manawa ke paʻahana ʻoe, hiki i kāu keiki ke hana i kēia ala e kiʻi ai i kou nānā.
• Ke ʻano i aʻo ʻia: Inā ua uē a uē kekahi keiki ma mua a noi i kekahi mea a loaʻa iā ia, e aʻo paha lākou, "ʻAuē ... inā wau e hana i kēia, e loaʻa iaʻu kaʻu makemake."
• Nā pilikia ma ka home a i ʻole ke kula: Malia paha e hiki ke puka mai ke kaumaha i hoʻokumu ʻia e nā mea e like me ka pilikia ma ka home a i ʻole kahi hakakā me kahi hoaaloha ma ke kula ma kēia ʻano.
• ʻO kekahi mau kūlana kumu: ʻOiai he mea kakaikahi loa, ʻo nā kūlana e like me ka ``(ADHD)`` (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), ``( Autism Spectrum Disorder )``, a i ʻole nā ​​mea e like me ka hopohopo nui hiki ke hoʻololi i ke ʻano o nā keiki. Inā he kānalua kāu e pili ana i kēia, pono ʻoe e ʻike i ke kauka.

Ua like anei nā hana hoʻopunipuni a pau?

ʻAʻole, aia kekahi mau ʻano huhū like ʻole. Hoʻokumu ʻia kekahi e ka huhū maoli o ke keiki (Frustration tantrums). Hoʻokumu ʻia kekahi e nā huhū ʻimi-manaʻo. I kekahi manawa, hoʻohana ke keiki i kēia hana e loaʻa ai kā lākou makemake (Manipulative tantrums). Hiki i kekahi mau keiki ke ʻike i ka "Sensory Overload" inā piʻi koke ka pae walaʻau a i ʻole inā hele lākou i kahi piha kanaka.

Eia kekahi, ʻokoʻa ka ikaika a me ka lōʻihi o kēia mau huhū mai kekahi keiki a i kekahi keiki. Hoʻomaha kekahi mau keiki i loko o kekahi mau minuke, aʻo kekahi e lōʻihi paha ka manawa.

Pehea mākou, ma ke ʻano he mau mākua, e hana ai i kēia? Pehea mākou e kōkua ai i kā mākou keiki?

ʻAe, ua hiki mai nei mākou i ka ʻāpana koʻikoʻi loa. Pehea mākou e kōkua ai i ke keiki a noho mālie i ka manawa e like me kēia?

1. E ho'āʻo kākou e pale i ka hana ʻino ma mua o ka hiki ʻana mai! (ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka pale ʻana ma mua o ka hoʻōla ʻana!)

• E hoʻokumu i kahi hana maʻamau: ʻO ka ʻai ʻana i ka manawa kūpono, ka hiamoe ʻana i ka manawa kūpono, a me ka pāʻani ʻana i ka manawa kūpono he mea nui loa ia no nā keiki. E kōkua kēia iā lākou e palekana a hōʻemi i ka hopohopo pono ʻole.
• ʻAe i nā koho liʻiliʻi: Ke ʻae ʻoe i kāu keiki e hana i nā hoʻoholo liʻiliʻi e like me, "Makemake ʻoe e inu mai ke kīʻaha ʻulaʻula a i ʻole ka polū?", manaʻo lākou ua kaohi lākou iā lākou iho.
• E hoʻomaikaʻi i ke ʻano maikaʻi: Ke hana kāu keiki i kahi mea maikaʻi, pāʻani mālie, e hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi hoʻomaikaʻi iki e like me, "Auē, maikaʻi loa ʻoe, e nānā i ke ʻano o kāu waiho ʻana i nā mea pāʻani me ka maikaʻi." A laila e hoʻoikaika ʻia lākou e hana hou i kēlā mau mea maikaʻi.
• E aʻo iā lākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā manaʻo: E aʻo iā lākou i nā huaʻōlelo e like me "Ke kaumaha nei ʻoe?", "Me he mea lā huhū ʻoe," a me "Hauʻoli anei ʻoe?" E kōkua kēia iā lākou e aʻo e hoʻopuka i ko lākou mau manaʻo i nā huaʻōlelo.
• E noʻonoʻo i nā pilikia e hiki mai ana ma mua: E noʻonoʻo e hele ana ʻoe i ka hale kūʻai e kūʻai i nā meaʻai. Inā hele ʻoe i ka wā pōloli, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka uē ʻana o kāu keiki a noi i kekahi mea. No laila, e lawe mai i kahi mea e hoʻopiha ai i kou ʻōpū ma mua o kou hele ʻana.

2. Nā mea e hana ai ke hana ʻia kekahi mea kolohe:

ʻO kēia ka ʻāpana paʻakikī loa, akā inā ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo i kēia, hiki iā ʻoe ke kaohi i ke kūlana i kahi nui.

• E noho mālie! ʻO kēia ka mea mua a me ka mea nui loa . Inā huhū ʻoe a ʻuwā paha, e makaʻu nui ke keiki a e hakakā. E hanu hohonu a noʻonoʻo, "Pono wau e noho mālie."
• E noʻonoʻo i ka palekana o ke keiki: E nānā inā pilikia ke keiki i ka hōʻeha ʻana iā ia iho, i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a i ʻole i ka waiwai. Inā pēlā, e lawe iā lākou i kahi palekana.
• E hoʻowahāwahā i ke ʻano, ʻaʻole i ke keiki: Inā manaʻo ʻoe e hakakā nei kāu keiki e loaʻa ka nānā (a inā palekana ke keiki), e hoʻowahāwahā i ke ʻano no kekahi manawa. Akā, mai waiho wale i kāu keiki. E noho kokoke, akā, mai pane aku i ke ʻano.
• E hōʻoia i nā manaʻo: Ke mālie iki kāu keiki, e ʻōlelo i kekahi mea e like me, "Maopopo iaʻu ua huhū/kaumaha ʻoe no ka loaʻa ʻole o ka mea pāʻani." Hōʻike kēia i kāu keiki ua maopopo iā ʻoe iā lākou.
• He hoʻomaha pōkole ('Manawa hoʻomaha'): ʻAʻole kūpono kēia no nā kānaka a pau, akā kūpono ia no kekahi mau keiki. E hāʻawi i kāu keiki i kahi manawa hoʻomaha pōkole e kūpono i ko lākou mau makahiki (e.g. 3 mau minuke no ke keiki 3 makahiki) a waiho wale iā lākou ma kahi mālie a ʻaʻohe mea pāʻani. ʻAʻole pono e hoʻohana ʻia kēia ma ke ʻano he hoʻopaʻi, akā ma ke ʻano he ala e hāʻawi ai i kāu keiki i kahi manawa e mālie ai.
• Hoʻohilahila: Hana maikaʻi kēia no nā keiki ʻuʻuku loa (ma lalo o 2 mau makahiki). E kuhikuhi koke i waho o ka puka makani a ʻōlelo, "E nānā, aia kahi manu nani ma waho!" a i ʻole e hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi mea pāʻani ʻē aʻe.

3. Ma hope o ka pau ʻana o ka hana hoʻopunipuni:

ʻO ka hana nui loa ma hope o ka mālie ʻana o ke keiki.

• E ʻapo a hōʻoluʻolu me ke aloha: E ʻōlelo, "Aloha nui ʻo Māmā/Pāpā iā ʻoe. Aloha mākou iā ʻoe ʻoiai ke huhū ʻoe."
• E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka mea i hana ʻia (ke mālie loa ke keiki): E nīnau i nā mea e like me, "No ke aha ʻoe i huhū ai?", "He aha kou manaʻo?" E hoʻolohe i ka ʻōlelo a ke keiki.
• E aʻo iā lākou pehea e kāohi ai i ko lākou mau manaʻo i ka manawa aʻe: "I ka manawa aʻe e huhū ai ʻoe, e haʻi aku iā Māmā/Pāpā, a i ʻole e helu kākou a hiki i ka 10, a i ʻole e hanu hohonu a hoʻokuʻu mālie."
• Mai hāʻawi aku i ka mea a ke keiki e noi ai me ka huhū: Inā hāʻawi koke ʻoe i ka mea pāʻani a i ʻole ka meaʻai a ke keiki i noi ai ma hope o kona uē ʻana, e aʻo ke keiki, "Auē... inā wau e hana i kēia, e loaʻa iaʻu kaʻu makemake." No laila, he mea nui e hāʻawi koke ʻole i ka mea i noi ʻia, ʻoiai ma hope o kona mālie ʻana.

Mai hana i kēia mau mea!

• Mai hoʻōho, kuʻi, hoʻohewa, a hoʻoweliweli paha i kāu keiki. E hoʻonui wale kēia i ke kūlana. E makaʻu nui ke keiki a nalowale ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe.
• Mai hāʻawi aku i kāu keiki i kāna mea e noi nei i ka wā e pilikia ana ʻo ia. ʻO ka hana ʻana pēlā e hoʻonui wale aku i ke ʻano.
• "Inā ʻoe e oki i ka uē ʻana, e hāʻawi aku wau iā ʻoe i ka kokoleka."Mai hāʻawi i nā uku kīpē e like me "E hāʻawi aku wau iā ʻoe i hoʻokahi." E aʻo aku kēlā i ke keiki i nā mea hewa.
• Mai hoʻohilahila i kāu keiki me nā huaʻōlelo e like me "He keiki maikaʻi ʻole ʻoe" a i ʻole "He naʻaupō ʻoe." E hōʻino kēia i ka manaʻo ponoʻī o ke keiki.
• Mai hoʻohālikelike iā ʻoe iho me nā keiki ʻē aʻe. Mai ʻōlelo i nā mea e like me, "E nānā i ka maikaʻi o kāu keiki kāne, ʻo ʻoe wale nō ka mea e hakakā nei e like me kēia."

Āhea mākou e ʻimi ai i ke aʻo lapaʻau?

I ka hapa nui o ka manawa, e emi ana kēia mau "Temper Tantrums" me ka ʻelemakule. Eia nō naʻe, i nā hihia e like me kēia, he manaʻo maikaʻi loa ia e nīnau i kahi pediatrician a i ʻole psychiatrist no ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo:

• Inā pinepine loa ka huhū o ke keiki (i nā manawa he nui i ka lā).
• Inā lōʻihi ka hana ʻino (ʻoi aku ma mua o 30 mau minuke) .
• Inā hana ʻino loa ke keiki (hōʻeha nui iā ia iho, kuʻi nui i kekahi poʻe, uhaʻi i nā mea).
• Inā hoʻomau kēia mau hana ʻino ma hope o ka piha ʻana o nā makahiki 4-5 .
• Inā e hakakā ana ke keiki, e paʻa ana i ko lākou hanu, e polū ana, a i ʻole e ʻike ʻia ana ua poina.
• Inā hoʻopilikia kēia mau ʻano i nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā a ke keiki (hana kula, pāʻani).
• Inā ua lilo kēia i mea kaumaha nui no ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa , inā he mea paʻakikī loa ia no nā mākua ke hoʻomanawanui.
• Inā kānalua ʻoe he ADHD kāu keiki, Autism Spectrum Disorder, Speech and Language Delay, a i ʻole kekahi pilikia ulu ʻē aʻe.

E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻo ke noi ʻana i ke kōkua ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona o ka nāwaliwali. Hiki iā ia ke lilo i mea hōʻoluʻolu nui no ʻoe a me kāu keiki.

E nā mākua, he mea nui loa ia e mālama pono iā ʻoukou iho!

Hiki ke luhi loa ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā "Temper Tantrums" o ke keiki. Hiki iā ʻoe ke huhū, hoʻonāukiuki, a noʻonoʻo, "He aha kaʻu e hana nei?" He mea maʻamau loa ia.

• E hoʻomanaʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi. He nui nā mākua e hele nei i kēia ʻike.
• E kamaʻilio me kāu hoa e pili ana i kēia a kōkua kekahi i kekahi.
• E kaʻana like i kou manaʻo me kahi hoaaloha hilinaʻi a ʻohana paha.
• E hoʻokaʻawale i kahi manawa nou iho i nā manawa hiki. E hoʻomaha iki, e hana i kahi mea āu e makemake ai.
• Inā pilikia ʻoe, mai kānalua e ʻimi i ke kōkua mai kekahi kākāʻōlelo.

Leka Lawe-Home

ʻAe, ua nui kā kākou kamaʻilio ʻana i kēia lā, ʻeā? Eia nā mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo ai:

• He mea maʻamau loa i nā keiki ke kolohe, ʻoiai i ka wā ʻōpiopio. He ʻāpana ia o ko lākou ulu ʻana.
• ʻO ke ahonui, ka mālie, a me ke kūlike nā ala maikaʻi loa e kōkua ai i kēia.
• He mea nui loa ke aʻo ʻana i kāu keiki e ʻike a kaohi i ko lākou mau manaʻo .
• He mea nui nō hoʻi kou maluhia o ka noʻonoʻo .
• Inā, ʻoiai ke hana nei ʻoe i nā mea āpau hiki iā ʻoe, ke hopohopo nei ʻoe e pili ana i ke ʻano o kāu keiki , mai makaʻu e ʻimi i ke kōkua loea.

Hiki i kēia huakaʻi ke paʻakikī i kekahi manawa. Akā hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kēia! He makuahine/makua maikaʻi ʻoe. E neʻe i mua me ka hilinaʻi!

ʻO ka hana kolohe a nā keiki, ka huhū, nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo makua, ke ʻano o nā keiki, nā pilikia o ke ʻano, ka noʻonoʻo o nā keiki, ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā manaʻo