Ke makaʻu nei ʻoe e huli pū kāu keiki i nā lāʻau lapaʻau? E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēia hoʻoweliweli weliweli (Nā lāʻau lapaʻau)!

Ke noʻonoʻo kākou i kā kākou mau keiki i kēia mau lā, ʻo ka makaʻu nui loa e hiki mai ana i ka noʻonoʻo ʻo ia kēia ahulau lāʻau lapaʻau. ʻAʻole anei? He mea weliweli maoli ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i kekahi manawa. No laila pehea kākou e hoʻopakele ai i kā kākou mau keiki mai kēia? ʻO ke ala maikaʻi loa a me ka maikaʻi loa e hana ai i kēlā, ʻo ia ke kamaʻilio ākea a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo me kā kākou mau keiki e pili ana i ia mea mai ka wā ʻōpiopio. E nānā kākou pehea e hana pololei ai i kēlā.

No ke aha mākou e kamaʻilio ai me kā mākou mau keiki e pili ana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau?

I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, inā e aʻo kākou i kā kākou mau keiki i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i kēia mau lāʻau lapaʻau a me ko lākou mau pōʻino ma mua o ko lākou kū ʻana i kekahi mau kūlana pōʻino, he kōkua nui ia i ka hoʻopakele ʻana iā lākou mai kahi pōʻino nui. A laila, ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻāʻo wale i nā lāʻau lapaʻau , ʻaʻole hoʻi e hoʻolohe i kā lākou mau hoaaloha a hoʻokomo i ka ʻike hewa i loko o ko lākou mau poʻo. E noʻonoʻo, ʻo ʻoe ke kumu hoʻohālike nui loa no kāu keiki. ʻO ʻoe kāna "hero". No laila, ʻo ke ʻano o kou noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka waiʻona, nā cigarette, a me nā lāʻau lapaʻau, ke ʻano o kou nānā ʻana iā lākou, e pili pololei ana i ke ʻano o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana o kāu keiki iā lākou, a me ke ʻano o kāna pane ʻana iā lākou. No laila, ke kamaʻilio mau ʻoe me kāu keiki e pili ana i nā mea e like me ke olakino, ka palekana, a me nā ʻano maikaʻi, he mea nui loa ia e hoʻolilo i ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i kēia mau lāʻau lapaʻau i mea nui o ia mea.

Pehea ʻoe e kamaʻilio ai me kahi keiki liʻiliʻi e pili ana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau?

ʻOiai inā he ʻōpiopio kāu keiki, e like me 5 a 6 paha makahiki, nui nā manawa kūpono e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i kēia. Kāhea mākou iā lākou he "mau manawa aʻo." E noʻonoʻo, i ka wā e nānā pū ana ʻoe i ke TV ma ke ʻano he ʻohana, inā ʻike ʻoe i kahi kanaka i loko o kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni a i ʻole kiʻiʻoniʻoni e puhipaka ana i kahi cigarette, he manawa kūpono ia e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i ka puhipaka. E ʻōlelo i kahi mea maʻalahi e like me, "E ke keiki, e nānā i kēlā ʻanakala e puhipaka ana i kahi cigarette. Ua ʻike anei ʻoe i ka ʻino o ia mea no kou kino? Hoʻomāʻū ia iā ʻoe a hoʻomāʻeha i kou umauma." A laila, hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i kēlā moʻolelo i nā lāʻau lapaʻau ʻē aʻe, a wehewehe i ko lākou ʻino a me ko lākou ʻawahia i kou kino.

ʻO ka mea nui loa, i kāu ʻōlelo ʻana, pono ʻoe e ʻōlelo mālie, me ke aloha nui, a me ke aloha . E hoʻohana i nā huaʻōlelo maʻalahi e maopopo ai i ke keiki. E ʻōlelo i nā mea e like me, "ʻAʻole maikaʻi kēia mau mea no ke kino, e ke keiki kāne/kaikamahine. Ke lawe kākou i kēia mau mea, maʻi ko kākou kino, nāwaliwali kākou, a ʻaʻole hiki iā kākou ke pāʻani." E wehewehe he mea weliweli loa nā lāʻau lapaʻau, a hiki iā lākou ke hoʻopilikia i nā pilikia he nui ʻaʻole wale no ke kino, akā no ko kākou noʻonoʻo hoʻi. Mai ka wā ʻōpiopio mai, inā hoʻāʻo kekahi e hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi mea weliweli a i ʻole i ʻike ʻole ʻia a lākou i ʻike ai, e aʻo iā lākou e hōʻole ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana, 'ʻAʻole au makemake!' a hele aku. He mea nui loa ia. E noʻonoʻo, inā he mea pāʻani ia, inā hāʻawi mai kahi malihini iā ​​ʻoe, ua like ia me ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "ʻAʻole au makemake, ua ʻōlelo koʻu makuahine/makua kāne ʻaʻole."

Nā mea e hoʻomanaʻo ai i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kahi keiki ma waena o 8-12 mau makahiki

I ka wā e ʻelemakule ai nā keiki, ma waena o 8 a me 12 mau makahiki, ua lohe paha lākou i kekahi mea e pili ana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau. Ma ke kula, mai nā hoaaloha, ma ka papa, a i ʻole ma ke TV, a i ʻole ma ka Pūnaewele. No laila, ke hoʻomaka ʻoe i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, e nīnau, 'E ke keiki/kaikamahine, he aha kāu i lohe ai e pili ana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau, e pili ana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau, e pili ana i ka marijuana? He aha ka ʻōlelo a kou mau hoaaloha?' Akā, i kou nīnau ʻana , mai nīnau ma ke ʻano hoʻohewa a kānalua paha .Mai hoʻoweliweli a hoʻoweliweli paha iā ia ma ka nīnau ʻana i nā nīnau e like me 'No ke aha ʻoe i nīnau ai i kēlā?' a i ʻole 'Na wai i haʻi aku iā ʻoe i kēlā?'. E nīnau mālie iā ia, me ka ʻike ākea, a me he mea lā ʻo ia kona hoaaloha maikaʻi loa. ʻO ia ka manawa e hiki ai iā ia ke haʻi iā ʻoe i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a kaʻana like i kona manaʻo.

E hōʻike i kāu keiki e hoʻolohe pono ana ʻoe i kāna mea e ʻōlelo nei. Pono ʻo ia e ʻike e mālama ana ʻoe i kāna mau nīnau, makaʻu, a me ka hoihoi. Pono paha ʻoe e hana i kekahi noiʻi a me ka heluhelu ʻana e pane i kāna mau nīnau a hāʻawi i ka ʻike maoli. ʻAʻole pilikia, he mea nui ia. Makemake pinepine nā keiki i kēia makahiki (8-12 mau makahiki) e kamaʻilio ākea e pili ana i nā kumuhana koʻikoʻi me ko lākou mau mākua, a pono lākou ia mea. No laila, ʻo ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i kēia i kēia manawa e kōkua i ka wehe ʻana i ka puka no ia e kaʻana like i kona manaʻo me ʻoe i kona wā ʻelemakule iki, ʻo ia hoʻi, he ʻōpio makua .

E noʻonoʻo, inā ʻōlelo kahi nūpepa a i ʻole kahi hōʻike nūhou ua hopu ʻia nā mea pāʻani kaulana e hoʻohana ana i nā mea i pāpā ʻia e like me `(Steroids),' a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i kēlā manawa kūpono e hoʻomaka ai i kahi kamaʻilio. Ma o kēlā, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo i kāu keiki e pili ana i nā pōʻino o nā lāʻau lapaʻau a me nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole e hiki ai iā lākou ke hana. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo i nā mea e like me, 'E nānā, e ke keiki kāne/kaikamahine, he aha ka mea e hana ai ke lawe ʻoe i kēia mau mea. Pono ʻoe e hana ikaika a hoʻomaʻamaʻa, ʻaʻole e lawe i nā pōkole e like me kēia, ʻeā? ʻAʻole maikaʻi ia no kou kino, a e hōʻino ia i kou wā e hiki mai ana.'

Pehea e kamaʻilio ai me kāu ʻōpio e pili ana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau

I ka lilo ʻana o kāu keiki i ʻōpio, ʻo ia hoʻi, ma hope o ka piha ʻana o 13 makahiki, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā manawa e hoʻohana ai kāna mau hoaaloha i ka waiʻona a me nā lāʻau lapaʻau. Eia kekahi, ʻo ia ka manawa e hoʻomaka ai kāna mau hoaaloha e hoʻokele. Makemake ʻo ia e hele i nā pāʻina a hele i nā huakaʻi. No laila, i kēia manawa, pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio me kāu keiki ʻaʻole wale no ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kona mau manaʻo a me kona mau manaʻo, akā , e kamaʻilio maopopo hoʻi e pili ana i nā pōʻino o ka hoʻokele ʻana ma lalo o ka mana o ka waiʻona a i ʻole nā ​​lāʻau lapaʻau .

"E ke keiki kāne/kaikamahine, ʻoi aku ka weliweli o kēia ma mua o kou manaʻo. E noʻonoʻo wale, inā ʻoe a i ʻole kekahi e hoʻokele i kahi kaʻa me ka ʻona, he aha nā manawa e nalowale ai ke ola, e ʻeha nui ai, a i ʻole e nalowale ana kahi lālā? ʻAʻole wale ia, akā aia kekahi mau pilikia kānāwai nui - e hele ana i ka hale paʻahao, e uku ana i kahi uku nui, a ʻaʻole hiki ke loaʻa kahi hana ." E wehewehe pono i kēia mau mea, akā, ʻaʻole me ka huhū, akā me ke aloha.

Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hana i kahi ʻaelike kākau a waha paha me kāu keiki e pili ana i nā lula e hahai ai i ka wā e hele ai i waho a hoʻohana paha i ke kaʻa. Eia kekahi laʻana, e hoʻohiki, "Inā ʻo ke kanaka āu i kuleana no ka lawe ʻana iā ʻoe (he hoaaloha, no ka laʻana) e inu ana a lawe ana paha i nā lāʻau lapaʻau i ke aumoe, 12:00 a i ʻole 2:00 a i ʻole kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, e hele mai wau e kiʻi iā ʻoe me ka ʻole o kekahi nīnau, e kelepona mai iaʻu." E hāʻawi kēia i kāu keiki i ka hilinaʻi nui a me ka palekana iā ʻoe.

I kēia makahiki, e nīnau pinepine lākou iā ʻoe i nā nīnau kikoʻī e pili ana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau.E like me 'He aha ka mea e hana ai inā puhi ʻoe i ka mariuana?', 'He aha ka hau?'. I kēlā manawa, me ka pale ʻole ʻana iā ia, e wehewehe pono i kāu mea i ʻike ai a me kāu mea i ʻike ai. Ke wehewehe ʻoe i kāu mau manaʻolana a me kou kūlana ma kēia ʻano mai ka hoʻomaka ʻana, ua palekana hoʻi ke keiki e hele mai iā ʻoe a kamaʻilio e pili ana i kekahi mea, a e haʻi iā ʻoe inā he pilikia.

He aha hou aʻe kaʻu e hana ai e pale aku i kaʻu mau keiki mai nā lāʻau lapaʻau?

E nānā, hiki i kēia pilikia lāʻau lapaʻau ke hoʻopilikia i kekahi ʻohana, i kekahi kanaka ma kēlā me kēia pae o ke kaiāulu. Mai manaʻo, 'ʻAʻole ia e hiki i ko mākou ʻohana, ʻaʻole ia e hiki i kaʻu keiki.' He mea weliweli kēlā. Akā, inā ʻoe e kamaʻilio mau me kāu mau keiki, inā ʻoe e pili ana i ko lākou ola, inā ʻoe e like me he hoaaloha lā iā lākou, hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua i ka pale ʻana iā lākou mai kēia pōʻino. Eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no kēlā:

H3: Kākoʻo i nā makemake o ke keiki

E paipai i kāu keiki e komo i nā hana leʻaleʻa, nā haʻuki, a i ʻole nā ​​​​​​kalapu e hoihoi iā lākou. Hāʻawi kēia mau hana i ka launa pū ʻana me ka lehulehu, ke aʻo ʻana i ke alakaʻi, a me ke kūkulu ʻana i ka manaʻo ponoʻī . Ke manaʻo maikaʻi ke keiki iā ia iho a manaʻo he waiwai ʻia, ʻaʻole lākou e komo i nā hana ʻino e like me nā lāʻau lapaʻau.

H3: E makaʻala i nā hoaaloha a me nā wahi leʻaleʻa o kāu keiki

He mea nui loa ka ʻike ʻana i nā hoaaloha o kāu keiki, pehea lākou, kahi a lākou e hele pinepine ai, a me kā lākou hana pū. No ka mea , ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana o nā keiki i loaʻa nā hoaaloha e hoʻohana ana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau iā lākou iho . ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo e kānalua ʻoe i kēlā me kēia hoaaloha. Akā, he mea maikaʻi ke makaʻala. Inā hiki, e lawe mai i nā hoaaloha o kāu keiki i ka home, e kamaʻilio me lākou, a e ʻike i ko lākou mau mākua.

H3: E aʻo iā lākou e ʻōlelo 'ʻaʻole' a kōkua iā lākou e hoʻi palekana i ka home

Inā hoʻāʻo kekahi e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i nā lāʻau lapaʻau, nā cigarette, a i ʻole ka waiʻona, e aʻo maopopo i kāu keiki pehea e hōʻole ai. E hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole au makemake, ʻaʻole au e lawe, ʻaʻole makemake koʻu mau mākua." Eia kekahi, inā pilikia ʻo ia, paʻa i kahi hiki ʻole iā ia ke noho, a pono paha e haʻalele, e haʻi iā ia e kelepona a leka uila paha iā ʻoe. E hāʻawi iā ia i ka hilinaʻi, "E hele mai wau e kiʻi iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole au e nīnau i kekahi nīnau, mai makaʻu."

E hoʻomanaʻo: Inā kāhea aku kāu keiki iā ʻoe no ke kōkua, mai aʻo aku, hoʻohewa, a hoʻopaʻi paha iā ia. ʻO ka mea mua, e hoʻihoʻi iā ia i ka home me ka palekana. Ma hope o kona mālie ʻana, e kamaʻilio mālie a me ke aloha.

H3: E hana i kahi ʻano ʻohana mahana a hāmama

ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka mehana, ka wehe, a me ke aloha o ka home. ʻO ia hoʻi, pono kou home e lilo i wahi e hiki ai i nā keiki ke kamaʻilio manuahi e pili ana i ko lākou mau manaʻo, ko lākou mau pilikia, ko lākou mau lanakila, a me ko lākou mau eo. E mahalo i kā lākou mau holomua liʻiliʻi, a kūkulu i ko lākou manaʻo ponoʻī.A laila e hele mai nā keiki e kaʻana like i ko lākou mau pilikia a me nā kaumaha ma ko lākou manaʻo me ʻoe. I loko o kahi ʻano e hoʻohewa ai lākou, hoʻopiʻi, a hoʻohewa i nā mea āpau, hoʻāʻo nā keiki e peʻe a wahaheʻe.

H3: E hoʻolilo i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu keiki i ʻāpana o kāu hana maʻamau i kēlā me kēia lā.

E hoʻolilo i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu keiki i ʻāpana maʻamau o kou lā. E nīnau i nā nīnau liʻiliʻi e like me, "Pehea ke kula?", "He aha ka mea kūikawā i kēia lā?", "He aha kāu i hana ai me kou mau hoaaloha?" E ʻimi i ka manawa e hana ai i nā mea āu e hauʻoli pū ai ma ke ʻano he ʻohana (ʻai ʻana, pāʻani ʻana, heluhelu puke). Hoʻoikaika kēia i ka pilina ma waena o nā mea āpau a kōkua i ka mālama ʻana i ke kamaʻilio ākea. I kekahi manawa makemake nā keiki e kamaʻilio ma ke ʻano hoʻomaha i ka wā e hana ana i kahi mea ʻē aʻe, e like me ke kalaiwa ʻana, ka hele wāwae ʻana, a i ʻole ka hana ʻana i nā hana hale. E hoʻohana pono i kēlā mau manawa.

H3: E makaʻala i nā manawa paʻakikī o kāu keiki.

Inā ʻike ʻoe e hele ana kāu keiki i kahi manawa paʻakikī a inā ʻike ʻoe i kahi loli i kā lākou ʻano, e hoʻolohe iā ia. Malia paha ua kaumaha a kaumaha paha lākou ma muli o kahi hoʻokolohua, kahi pilikia me kahi hoaaloha, kahi pilina aloha, a i ʻole kekahi kumu ʻē aʻe. E hāʻawi iā lākou i ke kākoʻo e pono ai lākou i kēlā manawa, e hoʻomaopopo iā lākou ʻaʻole lākou i hoʻokahi, a e kiʻi i ke kōkua hou aku inā pono (e laʻa me ke kākāʻōlelo kula, kahi pākeke hilinaʻi, ke kauka). Ke manaʻo nei ke keiki mehameha a manaʻo ʻaʻohe mea e hoʻomaopopo iā lākou, ʻoi aku ka nui o ko lākou huli ʻana i kahi mea ʻino, e like me nā lāʻau lapaʻau.

H3: E ʻimi i ke kōkua lapaʻau inā pono.

Inā makemake ʻoe a i ʻole kāu keiki i ka ʻike hou aku a i ʻole ke alakaʻi e pili ana i kēia mau lāʻau lapaʻau, a ʻaʻohe ou mea e kamaʻilio pū ai, e kamaʻilio me kāu kauka ʻohana . Hiki iā lākou ke kuhikuhi iā ʻoe ma ke ala kūpono, hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, a malia paha e hoʻolauna iā ʻoe i kahi kākāʻōlelo maikaʻi. ʻAʻohe mea kēia e hilahila ai a makaʻu ai paha. ʻO ka mea nui loa, ʻo ia ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka wā e hiki mai ana o kā mākou mau keiki.

ʻO ka mea hope loa, nā mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo (Leka Lawe-Home)

ʻAe, mai nā mea a mākou i kamaʻilio ai, pono e maopopo iā ʻoe pehea ka pono o mākou ma ke ʻano he mau mākua e hana me ke kuleana, ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana, a me ke aloha e hoʻopakele ai i kā mākou mau keiki mai kēia hoʻoweliweli weliweli i kapa ʻia ʻo nā lāʻau lapaʻau.

• He mea nui ke kamaʻilio ākea . E kūkulu i ka hilinaʻi me kāu keiki ma ka haʻi ʻana iā lākou i kekahi mea a me ka hoʻolohe ʻana iā lākou me ka hoʻohewa ʻole.
• E lilo i kumu hoʻohālike maikaʻi loa . ʻO ke ʻano o kou noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau, ka waiʻona, a me nā cigarette, a inā paha ʻoe e hoʻohana iā lākou a ʻaʻole paha, he hopena nui ia i kāu keiki.
• E ʻōlelo ma ke ʻano kūpono i ka makahiki o ke keiki . ʻAʻole ke ʻano āu e kamaʻilio ai me kahi keiki liʻiliʻi, akā i kahi keiki liʻiliʻi. Ma ke ʻano wale nō e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻomaopopo.
• E hoʻolohe pono i ka mea a kāu keiki e ʻōlelo nei . E hoʻopau i kā lākou mau nīnau a me nā makaʻu, a e hoʻomaopopo iā lākou ke hoʻolohe nei kekahi iā lākou.
• E aʻo i kāu keiki e ʻōlelo 'ʻaʻole'A e hāʻawi iā lākou i ka leka eia ʻoe ma laila e kōkua inā pilikia lākou, ʻo ia hilinaʻi.
• E hoʻokumu i kahi ʻohana mehana, aloha, a kākoʻo . A laila e kaʻana like kāu mau keiki i nā mea āpau me ʻoe, a e emi ana ka manawa kūpono e hele hewa ai lākou.
• Mai hilahila e ʻimi i ke kōkua loea inā pono . Aia nā kauka a me nā kākā'ōlelo ma laila e kōkua iā mākou.

ʻAʻole kēia he mea hiki ke hana ʻia i ka pō hoʻokahi. He hana lōʻihi kēia a hoʻomau. Akā, me kāu hoʻoikaika ʻana, ke aloha, a me ka hoʻolaʻa ʻana, e hiki nō iā ʻoe ke hoʻopakele i kāu keiki mai kēia hoʻoweliweli lāʻau lapaʻau. Mai hopohopo, ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi, e hana pū kākou no kēia! I palekana kāu keiki!

Nā lāʻau lapaʻau, nā keiki, nā mākua, ke kamaʻilio ʻana, ka hoʻohana ʻino ʻana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau, ka palekana, ke aʻo ʻana