Ke kaumaha nei ʻoe? E ʻike i kēia mau mea ma mua o ka hele ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau.

Ke hele mākou e ʻike i ke kauka, ʻoiai no kahi pilikia olakino noʻonoʻo, poina pinepine mākou i ka mea a mākou e makemake ai e nīnau, ʻeā? ʻOiai he tausani mau nīnau ko mākou i loko o ko mākou manaʻo, ke komo mai ke kauka, manaʻo mākou he hakahaka ko mākou poʻo. He mea maʻamau loa kēia, no laila mai hopohopo no ia mea. ʻAʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi, ua loaʻa i ka poʻe he nui kēia ʻike. ʻO ka mea nui, ua lawe ʻoe i ka hana mua e lanakila ai i kēia kūlana. No laila, e kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka hoʻomākaukau maikaʻi ʻana no kēia hālāwai mua.

No ke aha he mea nui kēia hoʻomākaukau ʻana?

E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ia mea, nani ka maikaʻi inā hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi maopopo i nā mea āpau ma kou manaʻo ke hele ʻoe e ʻike i ke kauka. Inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau āu e pono ai a me nā mea āu e manaʻo ai ma mua, e maʻalahi loa i ke kauka ke kōkua iā ʻoe. ʻAʻole e hoʻonele ʻia kou manawa. No laila, e hoʻokaʻawale i kahi manawa a kākau i nā mea āu e makemake ai e kamaʻilio a me nā nīnau āu e makemake ai e nīnau. He kōkua nui kēia nou.

Nā nīnau e nīnau aku ai i ke kauka

Mai manaʻo ʻoe e haʻi aku ke kauka iā ʻoe i nā mea āpau. E nīnau i nā nīnau e pili ana i kou manaʻo. Inā manaʻo ʻoe e poina paha ʻoe e nīnau, e kākau iā lākou ma kahi ʻāpana pepa. Eia kekahi mau laʻana o nā mea hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau.

Nā mea e nīnau aku ai i kāu mea hoʻoponopono

I kekahi manawa, e kuhikuhi ʻia paha ʻoe i ka lāʻau lapaʻau e ke kauka noʻonoʻo, a e mālama ʻia paha ʻoe e kekahi kākāʻōlelo ʻokoʻa (therapist). I kēlā hihia, hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i kāu kākāʻōlelo i kēia mau nīnau pū kekahi.

ʻO ke koʻikoʻi o ka mālama ʻana i kahi diary

He mea kōkua nui kēia iā ʻoe. E mālama i kahi puke moʻolelo liʻiliʻi no ke ʻano o ka loli ʻana o kou ʻano i kēlā me kēia lā. E kōkua kēia iā ʻoe, kāu kauka, a me kāu kākāʻōlelo e hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe. E kākau i kekahi mau kikoʻī i kēlā me kēia lā.

• Pehea kou manaʻo i kēlā lā? (e.g. kaumaha, huhū, ʻaʻole makemake e hana i kekahi mea, ua ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi)
• He aha kou mau hōʻailona? (e.g., ʻeha poʻo, ʻeha ʻōpū, pilikia hiamoe)
• He aha nā hanana āu e manaʻo ai i hoʻopilikia i kou ʻano? (e.g., kahi pilikia ma ka hana, kahi kamaʻilio ʻana me kahi hoaaloha)
• ʻEhia ka lōʻihi o kou hiamoe ʻana i ka pō nei?
• He aha nā ʻano a me nā ana o nā lāʻau lapaʻau āu i lawe ai? Inā ua poina iā ʻoe kahi ana, e kākau pū i lalo.

E lawe pū me ʻoe i kēia puke moʻolelo ke hele ʻoe i kāu hālāwai mua. I kou kākau ʻana penei no kekahi mau pule, e hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i kahi ʻano i kou ʻano.

Mai poina i nā hōʻailona kino!

Manaʻo ka poʻe he nui he mea kaupalena ʻia ke kaumaha i ka noʻonoʻo. Akā, ʻaʻole ia ka hihia. ʻO nā mea e like me nā ʻehaʻeha a me nā ʻehaʻeha i loko o kou kino, ka ʻōpū ʻeha, a me ka hiamoe ʻole hiki ke lilo i mau hōʻailona o ke kaumaha.

E kiʻi i ke kōkua mai ka ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha.

I kekahi manawa, ʻike nui ka poʻe a puni mākou i nā loli i loko o mākou ma mua o mākou. E nīnau i kahi lālā o ka ʻohana a i ʻole he hoaaloha hilinaʻi inā ua ʻike lākou i kekahi mau loli i kāu ʻano a i ʻole kāu ʻōlelo. Ua ʻike paha lākou i nā hōʻailona āu i ʻike ʻole ai.

Eia kekahi, inā makaʻu a hopohopo paha ʻoe e pili ana i ka hele ʻana e ʻike i ke kauka hoʻokahi no ka manawa mua, e lawe pū me ʻoe i kahi lālā o ka ʻohana a i ʻole he hoaaloha hilinaʻi. E hāʻawi kēlā iā ʻoe i ka ikaika nui.