He 5:30 p.m. Ke hoʻi mai nei paha ʻoe mai ka hana mai. Ua hoʻi wale mai kāu kaikamahine a keiki kāne paha mai ke kula mai. Akā he aha kā lākou hana ma ka home wale nō? Ke hele wale nei lākou me kā lākou mau hoaaloha a hana i kahi mea kūpono ʻole? Aia kekahi o kēia mau makaʻu a kānalua paha i loko o kou manaʻo? Inā manaʻo ʻoe pēlā, ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi. He pilikia kēia e kū nei i nā mākua he nui i kēia mau lā.
I ke kaiāulu o kēia au, hana nā mākua ʻelua. I kekahi manawa hoʻokahi wale nō mea mālama i loko o ka ʻohana. No laila, hoʻi pinepine mai nā keiki i ka home ma hope o ke kula me ka nānā ʻole ʻia e ka makua. Ke kamaʻilio nei mākou e pili ana i nā keiki ʻōpio. No nā keiki ʻōpio, nui nā hana a me nā papa ma hope o ke kula e komo ai. Akā no nā keiki ʻōpio ma waena o nā makahiki 12-18, he kakaikahi loa nā papahana kūpono a hoʻomau iā lākou.
No ke aha lā e pono ai iā kākou ke noʻonoʻo nui i kēia?
He ʻoi aku ka koʻikoʻi o kēia ma mua o ko mākou manaʻo. Ua ʻike ʻia nā noiʻi like ʻole he nui ka pilikia o nā keiki ʻōpio e hoʻolilo manawa mehameha me ka nānā ʻole ʻia e ka makua i ka hana hewa .
E noʻonoʻo i kēia: Ua ʻike ʻia kahi noiʻi a ka American Academy of Pediatrics ʻo nā keiki 8 makahiki e hoʻolilo ana ma mua o 10 mau hola i ka pule hoʻokahi ma kahi o 10% ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau e like me ka mariuana. ʻOi aku ka pālua o ko lākou puhipaka a inu waiʻona ma mua o nā keiki e mālama mau ʻia ana e ka pākeke.
"ʻO ka waiho wale ʻana i nā keiki me ka nānā ʻole ʻia he kumu nui ia o ka pilikia no nā mea e like me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau a me ka hāpai ʻana o nā ʻōpio," wahi a Philip B. Cunningham, MD, he polopeka o ka psychiatry ma ke Kulanui Lapaʻau o South Carolina. "No laila, inā waiho wale ʻia kāu keiki ma hope o ke kula a hiki i kou hoʻi ʻana i ka home, ʻoi aku ka nui o ko lākou pilikia o ka pilikia."
No laila, he aha nā hopena e hiki ai iā mākou ke loaʻa i kēia pilikia me ka ʻole o ka haʻalele ʻana i kāu hana a noho ma ka home? E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana.
ʻAʻole ia ka mea a kākou e hana ai no kā kākou mau keiki, akā ka mea a kā kākou mau keiki e hiki ai ke hana no kākou!
Pono kākou e hoʻololi iki i ko kākou manaʻo no kēia kumuhana. Ma kahi o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana, "Pehea lā e hiki ai iā kākou ke mālama i kā kākou mau keiki?", ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻomaka ʻana e noʻonoʻo, "He aha ka mea hiki i kēia mau keiki ke hana no kākou, no ke kaiāulu?"
I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻo ka hoʻouna ʻana i nā keiki i ka lawelawe kaiāulu he hopena maikaʻi loa ia. E noʻonoʻo wale, hāʻawi kēia i kahi manawa kūpono e hoʻohana pono ai i ko lākou manawa kaʻawale.
- Kōkua i kahi hale mālama ma kahi kokoke.
- E hoʻokomo iā lākou i kahi hana maʻamau ma ka luakini, hale pule, a i ʻole ka luakini.
- Inā makemake kāu keiki i nā holoholona, e paipai iā lākou e hana manawaleʻa ma kahi hui e kōkua ana i nā holoholona.
Ke komo ke keiki i kahi mea maikaʻi e like me kēia, ua emi nui ka manawa kūpono o ko lākou hele ʻana i ke ala hewa. Eia kekahi, hoʻomaka ke keiki e manaʻo i ka waiwai ponoʻī a me ke kuleana.
ʻO kekahi manaʻo maikaʻi ʻē aʻe, ʻo ia ka hui pū ʻana me kou mau hoalauna a hana i kahi hoʻonohonoho liʻiliʻi. Eia kekahi laʻana, hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi aku i nā mākua ʻē aʻe, "He makua hana wau, akā hiki iaʻu ke hoʻolilo i ʻekolu hola i ka pule e hana ana i kekahi mea me nā keiki ma ko mākou kaiāulu." Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā i nā keiki, he kōkua nui ia i nā mea a pau.
E wehewehe hou aku kākou i kēia ma ka papa ma lalo nei.
| Hana Pōpilikia | Koho ʻē aʻe maikaʻi |
|---|---|
| Hoʻonele i ka manawa, ka launa pū ʻana me nā hoaaloha hewa. | Ka hoʻolaʻa ʻana iā ia iho i kahi haʻuki, ka hoʻokani ʻana i kahi mea kani, nā hana noʻeau, a i ʻole kekahi hana leʻaleʻa ʻē aʻe. |
| Ka hoʻonele ʻana i ka manawa me ke kumu ʻole ma ka Pūnaewele a i ʻole nā pāʻani wikiō. | Paipai i ka lawelawe kaiāulu, ka hana manawaleʻa, a i ʻole ka hele ʻana i ka hale waihona puke. |
| Ka hoʻowalewale ʻia i nā lāʻau lapaʻau, nā cigarette, a pēlā aku. | Ke ʻike ʻana i nā talena o ke keiki a me ke kōkua ʻana iā lākou e hoʻomohala iā lākou. (e.g. ʻoihana liʻiliʻi, hana lima) |
| Mehameha mau a kaumaha hoʻi. | Kōkua i ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi pilina me kahi kanaka makua hilinaʻi (kumu, mea hoʻomaʻamaʻa, hoahānau). |
Ke koʻikoʻi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu keiki
ʻO ka mea nui loa ma luna o nā mea a pau, ʻo ia ka mālama ʻana i ka kamaʻilio maikaʻi me kāu keiki .
"ʻAuhea kāu keiki? ʻO wai ko lākou mau hoaaloha? He aha kā lākou e hana nei?" Me he mea lā he mea 'kolohe' iki ka nīnau ʻana e pili ana i kēia mau mea, akā na nā mākua ke kuleana. ʻO ke ʻano o nā keiki liʻiliʻi ke hoʻāʻo e hoʻokuke i kēlā mau palena. Pono kākou e hoʻomaopopo i kēlā a alakaʻi iā lākou me ke aloha.
I ke kamaʻilio ʻana me nā keiki, mai hoʻolilo mau iā lākou i mea lapuwale, weliweli, a i ʻole hana hewa mau. Akā, e kamaʻilio me ka hilinaʻi "hiki ke hāʻawi ʻia ke kuleana i kēia keiki, hiki iā ia ke hoʻomaopopo i ka pono a me ka hewa." Eia kekahi, inā ʻoe e haʻi aku i kāu keiki ʻaʻole e hana i kekahi mea, he mea nui loa ia e hoʻokumu i kahi kumu hoʻohālike ma ka hana ʻole ʻana iā ʻoe iho.
Nā mea ʻē aʻe hiki iā ʻoe ke hana:
- E ʻike i nā hoaaloha o kāu keiki: e ʻike i ko lākou ʻano, ko lākou wahi e noho ai, a me ko lākou mau mākua. Inā hiki, e kamaʻilio pū me kēlā mau mākua .
- E nānā mai kahi mamao aku: E hoʻomohala i kahi ʻōnaehana e nānā i kāu keiki i kou wā e hana ana.
- E hoʻonoho i kahi manawa kikoʻī e hoʻi ai i ka home.
- E noi iā lākou e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi c ALL ke hoʻi ʻoe i ka home.
- E noi i kahi hoalauna hilinaʻi e nānā i ke keiki inā ua hoʻi mai ʻo ia i ka home.
Me he mea lā he pilikia kēia mau mea, akā e hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻohe mea ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ka palekana o kāu keiki a me ka wā e hiki mai ana.
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- ʻOiai he ʻōpiopio kāu keiki, pono nō iā lākou ke kiaʻi a me ke alakaʻi a ka poʻe mākua. Mai haʻalele loa no ka mea "ua nui ʻo ia i kēia manawa."
- Mai hoʻonele i ka manawa kaʻawale o kāu keiki. E kuhikuhi iā lākou i nā hana maikaʻi e like me nā haʻuki, nā leʻaleʻa, a me ka lawelawe kaiāulu.
- E kamaʻilio pinepine me kāu keiki. E mālama iā lākou me ka mahalo, e hoʻolohe i kā lākou mau nīnau, a e hana i kahi lewa ma ka home kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio ākea.
- E ʻike i nā hoaaloha o kāu keiki a me ko lākou mau mākua. He mea nui loa kēia no ka palekana o kāu keiki.
- Inā ʻike ʻoe i kahi loli nui i ke ʻano o kāu keiki (e laʻa me ka huhū nui, ka noho mehameha mau ʻana, ka haʻalele ʻana i ka hana kula) āu e hoʻomaopopo ʻole ai, a inā paha ʻoe e manaʻo nei e hoʻohana ana lākou i kahi mea e like me nā lāʻau lapaʻau, ʻaʻole loa e lohi ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ia mea. He mea nui loa ka ʻimi ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aʻo mai kahi kauka hilinaʻi.
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