Oh, a go ‘fail’? Yu no bɔt dis Atychiphobia (Fay fɔ Fɛil)?

Sɔntɛnde yu kin tink se, "Wetin if a nɔ ebul fɔ du dis wok?" Na nɔmal tin fɔ mek yu fred smɔl we yu want fɔ tek ɛgzam, intavyu fɔ nyu wok, ɔ bigin fɔ du nyu tin. Bɔt wetin yu go du if dis fred kam tumɔs ɛn afɛkt yu wan ol layf? Na da tɛm de wi nid fɔ tink bɔt di kɔndishɔn we wi go tɔk bɔt, we dɛn kɔl `Atychiphobia`, ɔ di 'excessive fear of failure.'

Wetin na dis frayd fɔ ‘fail’, ɔ Atychiphobia?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, `Atychiphobia` na wan ekstrim, abnɔmal fred fɔ fel. I kɔmɔt frɔm di Grik wɔd "atyches," we min "ɔnfɔtunate." Pɔrsin wae gɛt dis frayd kin fil lɛk fɔ avɔyd ɛni kayn tin wae dɛn fil se dɛn kin fel. Tink bɔt am lɛk skul ɛgzam, intavyu fɔ wok, fɔ bigin nyu biznɛs, ɔ ivin fɔ lɛk pɔsin. Sɔm pipul dɛn kin gɛt dis fred bak fɔ mek ɔda pipul dɛn at pwɛl.

Di strenj tin na dat, dis frayd na di rizin we mek dɛn kin rili fel. Tink bɔt am dis we, if yu so fred fɔ fel ɛgzam dat yu nɔ ivin rayt am. Dɔn yu go mɔs fel, nɔto so? I tan lɛk se yu put yusɛf na ol.

Dis frayd fɔ ‘fail’ kin mek yu gɛt bɔrku prɔblɛm na yu maynd ɛn filin.

• Fɔ fil se i de shem
• Pwɛl at
• Wɔri
• Panik Atak dɛn
• Di we aw pipul dɛn nɔ de rɛspɛkt dɛnsɛf igen

Ɔl dis kin afɛkt di we aw yu de lan buk, di we aw yu de wok, di padi biznɛs we yu gɛt wit yu padi dɛn, ɛn ivin di we aw yu de biev wit yu famili.

Impɔtant: `Atychiphobia` difrɛn frɔm `Atelophobia`. `Atelophobia` na di frayd fɔ fil se yu nɔ pafɛkt, dat na fɔ fred fɔ nɔ ebul fɔ du ɛnitin 100% rayt.

Yu tink se Atychiphobia ɛn perfectionism na di sem tin?

Yɛs, pan ɔl we sɔm tin dɛn de we fiba bitwin dɛn tu, dɛn tin ya na tu difrɛn tin dɛn. `Perfectionism` min fɔ tray fɔ du ɔltin pafɛkt wan, we nɔ gɛt ɛni fɔlt. Di tin we dɛn de pe atɛnshɔn pan na fɔ gɛt sakrifays. Bɔt pɔrsin wae gɛt `Atychiphobia` kin frayd fɔ fel, wɔri, ɛn wɔri bɔt wetin go apin if i fel. Sɔntɛnde, if dis `Perfectionism` go pas di limit, i kin tɔn to wan kɔndishɔn we dɛn kɔl `Atelophobia`.

Mek wi tek wan luk pan wetin na ‘phobia’.

`Phobia` na wan sik wae de mek pɔrsin wɔri. Na fɔ fred pasmak, we pɔsin nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol fɔ sɔntin, sɔntin, ɔ tin we apin. Pan ɔl we dis frayd kin tan lɛk se i nɔ mek sɛns ɔ i nɔ mek sɛns to ɔda pipul dɛn, to di pɔsin we gɛt di `Phobia` na rial filin, filin fɔ trɛtin ɔr denja.

Aw kɔmɔn tin wae dɛn kɔl dis sik Atychiphobia?

I at fɔ tɔk ɛksaktɔli aw bɔku pipul dɛn rili gɛt wan patikyula phobia lɛk `Atychiphobia`. Bikɔs bɔku pipul dɛn kin kip dis fred to dɛnsɛf, ɔr nɔr kin ivin no se dɛn gɛt am. Bɔt wi no se, pan avɛj, wan pan ɛvri tɛn big pipul ɛn wan pan ɛvri fayv yɔŋ pikin dɛn na Amɛrika go gɛt wan patikyula fred sɔm tɛm na dɛn layf. Di tin dɛn we de apin na Sri Lanka nɔ difrɛn.

Wetin mek wi gɛt dis fred fɔ ‘fail’? Wetin na di rizin dɛn?

Bɔku tin dɛn de we kin mek pɔsin gɛt `Atychiphobia`. Lɛ wi si wetin dɛn bi.

• Famili histri: If pɔrsin na yu famili dɔn gɛt mental wɛl bɔdi prɔblɛm lɛk `Phobia`, `Anxiety`, `Depression`, ɛn ɔda tin dɛm, yu kin gɛt dɛn kayn tin ya. Sɔntɛnde, dɛn tin ya kin kɔmɔt frɔm dɛn jɛnɛtiks.
• Di bihayvya we yu lan: Yu kin dɔn gro ɔp na say usay dɛn kin tɛl yu ɔltɛm tin lɛk "fɔ fel na bad tin" ɛn "if yu nɔ gɛt at le 90%, yu na pɔsin we nɔ ebul fɔ du am." We yu de ɔnda prɛshɔn lɛk dis frɔm yu mama ɛn papa, ticha, ɔ sosayti, fɔ ‘fɛl’ kin fil lɛk big mistek. Imajin, we yu bin smɔl, ivin we yu drɔ pikchɔ ɔ siŋ siŋ, yu famili go se, "Hmm... yu bin fɔ dɔn du dis bɛtɛ, nɔto so?" If yu dɔn ɔltɛm yɛri tin lɛk "ɔda pɔsin in pikin kin du am bɛtɛ," yu kin fil lɛk se ilɛk wetin yu du, i nɔ go du. Na nɔmal tin fɔ gɛt fred fɔ ‘fail’?
• Ɔda fred: Sɔmtɛm wan `Fɔbia` kin kam wit ɔda `Fɔbia`. Fɔ ɛgzampul, pikin we gɛt `Scolionophobia` (frayd fɔ go skul) kin gɛt `Atychiphobia` bak. Ɔ pɔsin we gɛt `Mysophobia` (frayd fɔ jem ɛn dɔti) kin fil lɛk se dɛn nɔ de klin ɔltɛm, ɛn dis sɛf kin mek i gɛt `Atychiphobia`.
• Tin dɛn we kin mek yu fil bad: If dɛn dɔn ɛva pɔnish yu bad bad wan fɔ we yu nɔ ebul fɔ du sɔntin trade, ɔ if pɔsin dɔn buli yu, yu kin fred se sɔntin lɛk dat go apin bak. Sɔntɛnde, if yu fil se yu nɔ bin ebul fɔ du sɔntin we yu bin dɔn du trade, dat bin mek sɔmbɔdi sɔfa ɔ pwɛl am bad bad wan, dat kin bi bak rizin fɔ dis fred.

A gɛt Atychiphobia bak? Wetin na di sayn dɛm we de sho se yu gɛt dis sik?

Pɔsin we de fred fɔ lɛ i nɔ ebul fɔ du am kin sho sɔm sayn dɛn lɛk:

Di kayn we aw pɔsin de biev ɛn in maynd:

• Fɔ fil se yu de fred fɔ du ivin simpul wok dɛn na yu wokples, na os wok, ɔ na skul.
• Fɔ vɛks ɛn vɛks kwik kwik wan .
• Fɔ wɔri ɔltɛm bɔt wetin ɔda pipul dɛn go tink bɔt yu ɛn if dɛn go jɔj yu.
• Fɔ fil bad ɛn pwɛl at ɔltɛm .
• Fɔ gɛt pessimistic atitudi to layf (ɔltin tan lɛk bad).
• Fɔ de tek tɛm du tin na di abit fɔ put wan wok ɔ wok bifo tɛm we i tan lɛk se i tu tranga.
• Nɔ ebul fɔ kip di rayt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn.
• Nɔ want fɔ admit we pɔsin sho yu mistek ɔ tray fɔ ɛp am.

Di sayn dɛm fɔ wan `Panik Atak` (we yu kin fred bad bad wan wantɛm wantɛm):

`Atychiphobia` kin mek yu gɛt `Panik Atak`. Dɔn yu kin si sayn dɛn lɛk dis:

• Di bɔdi de kol (`Chills`).
• Diziz ɛn layt ed.
• Fɔ swet pasmak (`Hyperhidrosis`).
• di hat rεt inkrεs wan wan (`Hat palpitεshכn`).
• Nɔs (fɔ fil lɛk se yu de vɔmit).
• I nɔ izi fɔ blo, fil se yu dɔn swɛla (Dyspnea).
• Shek, shek shek.
• Bɛlɛ de pwɛl, nɔ de it fayn (Dyspepsia).

Aw yu go no fɔ tru se yu gɛt Atychiphobia? (Diagnosis) .

No patikyula blɔd tɛst ɔ skan nɔ de we go ebul fɔ no kɔrɛkt wan bɔt dis fred fɔ mek i nɔ wok. Yu dɔktɔ kin no dis sik bay we i tɔk to yu ɛn tɔk bɔt dɛn tin ya:

• Wetin na yu sayn dɛm?
• Aw lɔng dɛn sik ya dɔn de?
• Aw dɛn tin ya dɔn afɛkt yu layf ɛvride?

Di dɔktɔ go gɛda ditayli infɔmeshɔn bɔt di fred we yu de fred fɔ mek yu nɔ ebul fɔ du am. I kin aks yu kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk:

• "Yu tink se yu no fit du dis wok fain, so yu no go ivin stat am? O yu go postpon am?"
• "Yu dɔn ɛva fil bad, vɛks, vɛks, ɔ nɔ gɛt op bikɔs ɔf dis fred fɔ 'fail'?"
• "Dis frayd dɔn mek yu nɔ ebul fɔ rilaks, slip fayn, ɔ ɛnjɔy di tin dɛn we yu bin de ɛnjɔy trade?"
• "Aw dis frayd de afɛkt yu os layf, skul wok, ɔ wok?"
• "Aw long yu don get dis frayd fo 'failing'?"

Di dɔktɔ go tray bak fɔ no if yu gɛt ɔda prɔblɛm dɛn wit yu maynd. Fɔ ɛgzampul:

• `Avoidant Pɔsin in Disɔda`
• `Dipreshɔn`
• `Dizayd fɔ it`
• `Illness Anxiety Disorder` (Hypochondria - fɔ fred ɔltɛm fɔ sik)
• `Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)` (tin fɔ tink ɛn du tin dɛn we yu nɔ want) .
• Panik Disɔda
• `Paranoid Personality Disorder` (Fɔ sɔspɛkt ɔda pipul dɛn we nɔ nid)
• Pɔst-Traumatik Strɛs Disɔda (PTSD) .
• Drug ɔ rɔm adikshɔn

Wetin dɛn kin du fɔ trit dis fred fɔ ‘fail’?

Bɔku we dɛn de fɔ kɔntrol ɛn win dis fred fɔ ‘fail’.

• Kɔgnitiv Biɛvhɔral Tɛrapi (CBT): Dis na wan kayn saykotɛrapi we de ɛp yu fɔ chenj di bad we aw yu de tink bɔt ‘failure’. Yu thɛrapist kin ɛp yu fɔ si se sɔm pan de tin dɛm wae yu kin tink bɔt as "failure" na rili chans fɔ lan ɛn impɔtant. Dɛn kin tich yu bak aw fɔ ɛp yu fɔ kɔntrol yu frayd ɛn wɔri, lɛk fɔ blo dip dip wan ɛn fɔ tink gud wan.
• Exposure Therapy: Dis min se yu fɔ de pan de tin wae yu de fred smɔl smɔl. Dis kin ɛp yu fɔ ridyus di fred we yu de du. Fɔ ɛgzampul, di dɔktɔ we de mɛn yu kin aks yu fɔ imajin bak wan tɛm we yu bin fil lɛk se yu nɔ ebul fɔ du natin. Dɛn kin du dis na say we sef ɛn we pɔsin kin sɔpɔt. Dis go ɛp yu fɔ no se if yu nɔ ebul fɔ du sɔntin, dat nɔ rili de mek yu fred ɔ denja.
• Mɛrɛsin: If yu gɛt ɔda prɔblɛm wit yu maynd, lɛk pwɛl hat ɔr wɔri, mɛrɛsin kin ɛp fɔ kɔntrol dɛn sik dɛn de. Bɔt mɛmba se mɛrɛsin nɔto di fɔs tritmɛnt fɔ pɔsin we de fred. Bɔku tɛm, saykotɛrapi na di fɔs layn fɔ tritmɛnt.

Wae de fɔ mek yu nɔr gɛt Atychiphobia?

Bɔrku tɛm, i nɔr kin izi fɔ mek dɛn nɔr gɛt dis sik ɔltogɛda. Bɔt yu kin du dɛn tin ya fɔ mek dɛn nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ trɛnk:

• Bil gud nɛtwɔk fɔ sɔpɔt yu padi ɛn fambul dɛn we yu kin abop pan .
• Nɔ tek kafinɛ, rɔm, ɛn drɔgs. Dɛn tin ya kin mek yu strɛs ɛn wɔri mɔ.
• As yu no se dis frayd wae yu de fil de afɛkt yu ɛvride layf, go to dɔktɔ fɔ ɛp yu.
• Stay aktif as yu ebul, it fayn it, ɛn slip fayn. Dɛn tin ya rili impɔtant fɔ yu maynd wɛl bɔdi.

Yu tink se dɛn go ebul fɔ win dis prɔblɛm? (Prɔgnosis/Autluk)

De gud nyus na dat bɔrku pipul dɛn kin ansa fayn fayn wan to tritmɛnt fɔ dis sik, `Atychiphobia`. Dɛn kin ebul fɔ win am wit saykotɛrapi, chenj in layf, ɛn if nid de, mɛrɛsin. Infakt, stɔdi dɔn sho se `Exposure Therapy` (exposure therapy) kin ɛp lɛk 90% pan pipul dɛm wae gɛt `Phobia` fɔ ɔvakom dɛn kɔndishɔn. Dis min se natin nɔ de fɔ fred, ɛn chans de fɔ win dis.

Wetin na di tɛm dɛn we yu fɔ go to dɔktɔ?

If yu gɛt ɛni wan pan dɛn sayn ya, yu go mɔs go to dɔktɔ:

• Bikɔs ɔf di fred fɔ ‘fail’, yuIf yu nɔ ebul fɔ du di wok dɛn we yu de du ɛvride fayn fayn wan.
• If yu de gɛt sayn dɛm fɔ `Panic Attack` (sɔdɛn ekstrim frayd) .

Us kwɛstyɔn dɛn yu fɔ aks di dɔktɔ?

We yu go to dɔktɔ, yu kin aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk dɛn wan ya:

• Aw lɔng a go nid tritmɛnt?
• Yu tink se Hypnotherapy fayn fɔ Atychiphobia?
• Wetin kin bi di rial rut kɔz fɔ mi fred fɔ ‘fail’?

`Atychiphobia` na wan ekstrim frayd fɔ fel. Pɔsin wae gɛt dis sik kin avɔyd ɔr de prokrastin ɛni chans wae dɛn fil se dɛn nɔr go ebul fɔ gɛt 100% sakrifays. Dɛn kin sɛt gol dɛn we tu ay fɔ mek dɛn ebul fɔ du, ɛn dis kin mek dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ du wetin dɛn want. If yusɛf fil bad bad wan, fred, ɔ wɔri we yu tink bɔt ‘fɔ fel,’ den fɔ tru, tɔk to dɔktɔ. Mɛmba se bɔku pipul dɛn kin ebul fɔ win dis `Phobia` wit saykotɛrapi.

Lɛ wi mɛmba insay sɔmari (Take-Home Message) .

De frayd fɔ ‘failure’, ɔr `Atychiphobia`, kin bi tru tru distressing ɛkspiriɛns fɔ sɔm pipul dɛm. Bɔt di impɔtant tin na dat, nɔto sɔntin we yu fɔ liv wit yu wan, ɛn fayn tritmɛnt dɛn de fɔ am.

If yu tink se yu gɛt dis fred, nɔ shem ɔ fred fɔ tɔk to pɔsin we yu trɔst bɔt am. I bɛtɛ fɔ mek yu gɛt ɛp frɔm pɔsin lɛk dɔktɔ ɔ pɔsin we de gi advays. Mɛmba se fɔ aks fɔ ɛp nɔto wikɛd tin, na trɛnk!

Yu maynd wɛlbɔdi impɔtant jɔs lɛk aw yu bɔdi impɔtant, so tek kia ɔf am.

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