Yu de fil strɛs bak afta yu bɔn pikin? Mek wi tok abaut 'Birth Trauma'.

Fɔ bɔn pikin na sɔntin we rili spɛshal ɛn we kin chenj in layf na mama in layf, nɔto so? Wi ɔl op fɔ go na os gladi ɛn wɛlbɔdi wit pikin. Bɔt sɔntɛnde, tin dɛn we kin apin bifo dɛn bɔn pikin, we dɛn bɔn pikin, ɔ afta dɛn bɔn pikin kin mek i fil pen ɛn fil bad bad wan. Dis na wetin wi de kɔl ‘Birth Trauma’.

Wetin na dis ‘bɔn trauma’?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, ‘Birth Trauma’ na ɛni kayn pen na yu bɔdi ɔ yu maynd ɔ shɔk we yu kin gɛt we yu de bɔn pikin. Statistikin na kɔntri dɛn lɛk Amɛrika sho se wan pan ɛvri tri mama dɛn gɛt fɔ gɛt dis kayn bad bad tin we kin apin to dɛn.

Tink bɔt am, dis difrɛn fɔ ɔlman. Sɔntɛm if imejensi bin de we kin mek pɔsin in layf de pan denja we i de bɔn pikin, ɔ if di bɔn tek lɔng tɛm pas aw dɛn bin de tink ɔ i bin rili at, tin dɛn lɛk dat kin mek i gɛt ‘bɔn trauma’.

Wan bad bad tin lɛk dis kin afɛkt yu layf fɔ sɔm mɔnt, ivin fɔ lɔng lɔng tɛm. I nɔ jɔs de afɛkt di mama we bɔn pikin. I kin afɛkt yu patna bak, di wan dɛn we de wok na di wɛlbɔdi biznɛs we ɛp yu, ɔ ɛnibɔdi we si di bɔn. I kin mek bak pɔsin gɛt Postpartum Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) ɛn Postpartum Depression .

Wetin mek dis kin apin? Wetin na di tin dɛm wae kin mek pɔrsin gɛt ‘Birth Trauma’?

Bɔku rizin dɛn de we kin mek we pɔsin bɔn pikin, i kin mek i fil bad. Dis trauma kin bi na yu bɔdi ɔr yu maynd. Sɔm pan di rizin dɛn kin afɛkt yu, sɔm kin afɛkt yu pikin, ɔ tin dɛn kin de we kin afɛkt dɛn ɔl tu. Sɔm trauma kin apin we uman gɛt bɛlɛ, ɛn ɔda wan dɛn kin apin afta dɛn bɔn pikin.

Di tin dɛn we kin mek pɔsin gɛt bɔdi

Dɛn tin ya kin gɛt fɔ du wit injury we wi de bɔn pikin, ɔ sɔntin we wi kin si ɔ tɔch.

• Injury wae dεn bכn pikin: Dis nכ kin apin bכku bכt i kin apin. Sɔntɛm yu pikin kin stɔp na di bɔn kanal ɛn i kin wund. Ɔ sɔntɛm yu uterus go brok ɛn yu fɔ gɛt ɔpreshɔn kwik kwik wan.
• Di prɔblɛm dɛn we kin apin we dɛn bɔn pikin: Fɔ ɛgzampul, dɛn kin gɛt fɔ du C-section , ɔ dɛn fɔ yuz fɔs ɔ vaykum fɔ pul di pikin. Dɔn bak, if yu blɔd bɔku (pɔstpartum hemorrhage) ɔ big big vagina tear kin mek yu bɔdi gɛt trauma.
• Imejɛnsi dɛn we kin mek pɔsin in layf de pan denja:Sɔntɛnde, we pɔsin de bɔn pikin, na sɔntin we pɔsin nɔ go ebul fɔ imajin. Pan ɔl we i nɔ kin apin so ɔltɛm, sɔm tin dɛn kin apin we kin mek pɔsin in layf de pan denja ɛn ivin kil. Dɛn kayn tin ya kin rili bad fɔ ɔlman we gɛt fɔ du wit dis.

Saikɔlɔjik kɔz dɛm

Dis na saykolojik, min se na tin wae yu kin fil bikɔs ɔf ɛkspiriɛns.

• Yu pikin kin nid mɛrɛsin: If dɛn bɔn yu pikin wit mɛrɛsin, di dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn kin kɛr di pikin go na di NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) jɔs afta dɛn bɔn am. Bɔku mama dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ si ɔ tɔch dɛn pikin fɔ lɔng lɔng tɛm. "Mi pikin go bi okay?" na big tin we de mek pɔsin wɔri ɛn wɔri.
• Fɔ fil se dɛn nɔ de sɔpɔt yu: We yu de bɔn pikin, yu kin fil lɛk se yu nɔ gɛt di sɔpɔt ɛn kia we yu nid , ilɛksɛf na di mɛdikal tim ɔ di wan dɛn we yu lɛk. Imajin aw i go tan lɛk if yu fil lɛk se nɔbɔdi nɔ de lisin to yu ɔ ɔndastand yu we yu de fil pen?
• Fɔ fil lɛk se yu nɔ bin ebul fɔ kɔntrol yusɛf: Ilɛk wetin yu op ɛn want, tin kin fil lɛk se yu nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol am. Di kayn we aw pɔsin kin bɔn pikin we yu nɔ kin no, kin tranga bikɔs yu nɔ kin ebul fɔ kɔntrol aw ɔ ustɛm i go apin.
• Nɔ gɛt di ɛkspiriɛns we yu bin de op fɔ: I go mɔs bi se yu bin de imajin se fɔ bɔn pikin go fayn, gɛt pis, ɛn rilaks. Bɔt if i kam fɔ bi sɔntin we rili difrɛn, i kin mek pɔsin fil bad ɛn mek i sɔprayz. I sɔri fɔ tink se, "Dis nɔto wetin a bin drim se i go bi," nɔto so?

Udat kin gɛt ‘Birth Trauma’? (Di tin dɛn we kin mek pɔsin gɛt prɔblɛm)

Sɔm tin dɛn de we de mek di risk fɔ gɛt ‘bɔn trauma’. Sɔm pan dɛn na:

• If yu dɔn gɛt trauma we yu bɔn we yu bin dɔn bɔn pikin ɔ we yu bin gɛt bɛlɛ.
• If pikin we bin dɔn bɔn bifo dɔn day, we dɛn bɔn am day ɔ we nɔ gɛt bɛlɛ .
• If istri de fɔ se dɛn dɔn du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit am ɔ du bad to am.
• If yu dɔn ɔlrɛdi sɔfa wit mental wɛl bɔdi prɔblɛm lɛk pwɛl hat , wɔri , ɔr PTSD .

Aw yu go no if yu gɛt ‘Birth Trauma’? (Sayn ɛn Simptom dɛn)

If yu ɔ pɔsin we de nia yu dɔn bɔn pikin i nɔ tu te yet, de wach fɔ sɔm sayn dɛm we kin sho se yu gɛt ‘bɔn trauma’. Pipul dεm we si di bכn (lεk yu patna εn dכkta) kin sho dεn sem sayn dεm ya bak.

Sɔm pan di sayn dɛm fɔ ‘Birth Trauma’ na:

• Yu kin drim bad bad drim bɔt fɔ bɔn pikin, ɔ yu kin tink bɔt am ɔltɛm we kin ambɔg yu. We yu de tink bɔt di mɛmori bak ɛn bak, .Panik atak kin kam, ɔr yu kin fil sɔri ɔr vɛks we yu nɔ go ebul fɔ bia.
• Dɛn kin avɔyd ɛnitin we de mɛmba dɛn bɔt bɔn pikin. Dis min se dɛn fɔ avɔyd di ɔspitul kɔridɔ, nɔ want fɔ si bɛlɛ uman, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn Sɔm pipul dɛn kin ivin avɔyd dɛn yon pikin dɛn.
• Yu kin wɔri, wɔri, ɛn fred ɔltɛm, ɛn yu kin wɔnda se, "Wetin go apin to mi pikin?" Dis kin apin bɔku if yu pikin dɔn gɛt injuri we dɛn bɔn am ɔ i bin gɛt fɔ de na di NICU . Yu kin wɔri ɔltɛm se, "Mi pikin go sik bak, dɛn go nid spɛshal mɛrɛsin bak?"
• Yu fil rili low bɔt yusɛf, de tink se, "Mi na pɔsin we nɔ ebul fɔ du sɔntin, na mi ripɔtabl fɔ ɔl dis." Bɔrku pipul dɛm wae gɛt pwɛl hat afta dɛn bɔn pikin kin gɛt ‘bɔrth trauma’ bak.
• Fɔ tray fɔ rɔnawe pan dis tin , wi kin du bad tin dɛn lɛk fɔ drink rɔm, fɔ smok, fɔ tek drɔgs, ɔ fɔ spɛn bɔku mɔni.

Wetin go apin if dis tin kɔntinyu fɔ apin? (Ifɛkt dɛn we kin apin fɔ lɔng tɛm)

If yu lɛf yu bɔn trauma we yu nɔ trit, dat kin afɛkt yu fɔ lɔng lɔng tɛm. I kin afɛkt yu famili ɛn padi dɛn bak.

Di tin dɛn we kin apin to di mama:

• Pen we nɔ de dɔn: Yu kin avɔyd ɔ delay di tritmɛnt fɔ kɔndishɔn dɛn lɛk we di bɔdi kin kɔmɔt na di bɛlɛ (di bɔdi we kin kɔmɔt na di bɛlɛ) we gɛt fɔ du wit di pikin we i bɔn ɛn we di nerv kin pwɛl.
• Fɔ lɛf yu pikin ɔr nɔr kin izi fɔ yu pikin fɔ gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit yu pikin: Dis trauma kin mek i nɔr izi fɔ yu fɔ gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit yu pikin. Yu kin ivin tɛmpt fɔ blem di pikin. Dis kin mek wi fil gilti mɔ ɛn mɔ ɛn shem. Yu kin tink se, “A nɔto gud mama?” Bɔt mɛmba se, nɔto yu fɔlt, na di ifɛkt we di trauma gɛt.
• Pwɛl hat ɔr de tink bɔt fɔ kil yusɛf: If yu de tink fɔ du bad to yusɛf, yu pikin, ɔr ɔda pɔrsin, duya kɔl ɔr tɛks 988 kwik kwik wan, ɔr tɔk to pɔrsin wae yu trɔst.

Di tin dɛn we kin apin to di pikin:

Trauma we yu bɔn kin afɛkt yu pikin bak. I kin mek di divɛlɔpmɛnt delay ɔr kin mek yu gɛt prɔblɛm wit yu maynd wɛl bɔdi lɛk fɔ wɔri.

Sɔm stɔdi dɔn sho se trauma kin ivin pas tru di jin dɛm . Dat min se trauma de na yu DNA.I kin afɛkt di we aw yu de biev fɔ lɔng tɛm. Dɔn bak, risach dɔn sho se we pikin gro ɔp na os usay di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ pikin kin fil bad, da pikin de kin gɛt prɔblɛm dɛn bak. Fɔ ɛgzampul, if yu de fred ɔspitul ɛn dɔktɔ, yu pikin kin fred fɔ tɛl yu we i sik.

Yu tink se we yu bɔn pikin kin mek yu gɛt PTSD?

Yɛs, i rili ebul fɔ du am. We pɔsin bɔn pikin, i kin mek i gɛt di sik we dɛn kɔl Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) . Pan ɔl we di stɔdi dɛn kin difrɛn, lɛk wan pan ɛvri tɛn pipul dɛn kin gɛt PTSD afta dɛn bɔn pikin.

Wetin fɔ du if yu gɛt ‘Birth Trauma’? Aw fɔ gɛt ɛp?

Fɔ no di sayn dɛm wae de sho se pɔrsin gɛt trauma wae dɛn bɔn pikin kin tranga. I kin at fɔ fɛn sɔlv ɛn aks fɔ ɛp. If yu kin wɔnda bɔku tɛm, "Am I traumatized by birth?", yu go mɔs gɛt wan. Lisin to yusɛf. Nɔ shem ɔr gilti fɔ yu ɛkspiriɛns ɔr aw e de afɛkt yu layf. If yu ayd aw yu de fil ɛn de sik, dat go jɔs mek yu de go tru fɔ lɔng tɛm ɛn wɔs.

If yu gɛt trauma we dɛn bɔn yu, di bɛst fɔs tin we yu fɔ du na fɔ go to dɔktɔ. Sheb yu filin, yu ekspiriens wit dem. Tɛl dɛn us kayn pen yu de gɛt ɛn aw e de afɛkt yu. Dɛn kin ebul fɔ rifer yu to mental wɛlbɔdi prɔvayda we spɛshal pan bɔn trauma ɔ PTSD.

Wetin na di tritmɛnt dɛn?

Di we aw yu kin wɛl frɔm di trauma we yu bɔn yu difrɛn fɔ ɔlman. I dipen pan wetin apin di tɛm we dɛn bɔn yu ɛn aw i bin rili bad. Na sɔm tin dɛm wae yu kin du fɔ bia wit pwɛl hat wae yu bɔn pikin:

• Tɔk to yu dɔktɔ: Yu dɔktɔ kin tɛl yu fɔ advays yu , tek mɛrɛsin, ɔ ɔda tritmɛnt dɛn. Dɛn kin ɛp yu bak fɔ ɔndastand wetin bin apin di tɛm we di bad bad tin apin ɛn wetin mek i apin. Tɔk to dɛm bɔt aw yu de fil, so dat dɛn go ɛp yu fɔ fɛn di tritmɛnt we go fayn fɔ yu.
• Sheb yu stori: Pan ɔl we i kin tan lɛk se i at fɔ tɛl, fɔ sheb yu stori na fayn fɔs tin fɔ mek yu ebul fɔ win di bad bad tin we kin apin to yu we yu bɔn yu. If i nɔ izi fɔ tɔk bɔt am, tray fɔ rayt bɔt am ɔ rɛkɔd fim. Tink bɔt fɔ sheb yu stori as we fɔ mek yu no bɔt di bad tin dɛn we yu de fil ɛn di tin dɛn we yu de tink bɔt.
• Praktis fɔ kia fɔ yusɛf: Fɔ put yu wɛlbɔdi ɛn fɔ rilaks fɔs. Mek tɛm fɔ du tin dɛn we yu lɛk. Fɛn nyu we dɛn fɔ mek yu maynd kol ɛn rilaks. Yoga we dɛn kin duTin dɛn lɛk fɔ waka, fɔ tink gud wan, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn kin rili bɛnifit wi.
• Join wan sɔpɔt grup: Fɛn wan lokal ɔ ɔnlayn sɔpɔt grup usay ɔda mama dɛn we de go tru di sem tin lɛk yu. E kin bi big trɛnk wae ɔda pipul dɛm wae dɔn gɛt trauma wae dɛn bɔn pikin de lisin to yu ɛn ɔndastand yu.

Aw lɔng i go tek fɔ mek pɔsin wɛl frɔm dis kayn tin?

I difrɛn fɔ ɔlman. Yu kin gɛt trauma we yu bɔn fɔ sɔm mɔnt, ɔ i kin tek bɔku bɔku ia. I dipen pan if yu de luk fɔ ɛp ɛn wetin na bin di bad bad tin we apin.

Fɔ wɛl nɔr kin apin di sem we ɔr na di sem rod fɔ ɔlman. Ɛn nɔto ɔltɛm i kin go na wan stret layn. Nɔr fil bad bɔt yu wɛl bɔdi joyn, ivin if e tranga ɔr slo pas ɔda pipul dɛm wae yu sabi.

Aw yu kin tek kia ɔf yusɛf if yu gɛt ‘bɔn trauma’?

Fɔ no aw yu de fil ɛn fɔ aks fɔ ɛp na di bɛst tin we yu go du fɔ kia fɔ yusɛf. Trauma na rial tin, ɛn di we aw yu de fil na tru. Tink bɔt fɔ go to dɔktɔ we de stɔdi bɔt aw pɔsin kin bɔn pikin ɔ pɔsin we sabi bɔt PTSD we go ɛp yu fɔ wɛl. Ivin if pɔsin we sabi du in wok ɛp am, i kin tek tɛm fɔ mek i wɛl afta we dɛn bɔn am bad bad wan. Peshɛnt wit yusɛf as yu de dil wit di we aw yu de fil.

A nid fɔ go to dɔktɔ? Ustɛm a fɔ tɔk?

If di bad tin we kin apin we yu bɔn pikin de afɛkt yu ɛvride layf, mek shɔ se yu go to dɔktɔ. Sɔm tin dɛn we kin apin we pɔsin bɔn pikin, na fɔ shɔt tɛm nɔmɔ, bɔt ɔda wan dɛn nɔ kin apin. Yu nɔ nid fɔ kɔntinyu fɔ sɔfa wit di strɛs we yu de fil ɔ di pen we yu de fil we yu bɔn pikin. Tritmɛnt dɛn de fɔ ɛp yu fɔ fil fayn. If yu de wanda, "A fɔ tɔk to dɔktɔ?" sɔntɛm yu fɔ du dat. Yu kin tɔk bak bɔt aw yu de fil we yu go fɛn yu afta yu bɔn.

I nɔmal fɔ gɛt drim ɛn op bɔt aw dɛn go bɔn yu pikin. Yu de drim fɔ bɔn pikin kwik kwik wan, fɔ bɔn pikin izi wan, ɛn fɔ ol nyu bɔbɔ we gɛt wɛlbɔdi ɛn gladi na yu an. Bɔt fɔ briŋ pikin kam na di wɔl kin rili izi fɔ no. I nɔ mata aw yu want fɔ kɔntrol am, bɔku tɛm tin dɛn we kin apin we yu de bɔn pikin nɔ kin ebul fɔ kɔntrol am. Sɔntɛm yu pikin gɛt injuri we go mek i day. Ɔ sɔntɛm yu bin tink se yu go gladi pasmak we yu mit yu pikin, bɔt bifo dat, yu kin fred.

Bɔku pipul dɛn nɔ kin pe atɛnshɔn to di we aw dɛn de fil ɔ dɛn nɔ kin tek am se natin bikɔs dɛn tink se dat kin mek dɛn tan lɛk se dɛn wik, dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ du natin, ɔ di tin dɛn we dɛn de wɔri nɔ impɔtant. Yu kin tink se na yu wan pɔsin na di wɔl we nɔ de tɛl di stori bɔt aw dɛn bɔn dɛn pikin. Bɔt dis kin apin mɔ pas aw yu go tink.Bɔrth trauma nɔr kin wish away, bɔt yu nɔr de ɛp. Yu kin tɔk to yu dɔktɔ bɔt aw yu de fil ɛn aks am fɔ tɛl yu bɔt tritmɛnt we go ɛp yu fɔ wɛl.

Wan las mɛsej we pɔsin kin kɛr go na os

Fɔ bɔn pikin na prɔblɛm ɛn na blɛsin. Nɔto ɔl di ɛkspiriɛns dɛn kin fayn. If yu de fil ɛni kayn diskɔmfɔt, shɔk, ɔ pen we gɛt fɔ du wit bɔn pikin, duya nɔ ayd am.

• Nɔto yu wan de. Bɔku ɔda pipul dɛn de we de go tru dis kayn tin.
• Di we aw yu de fil impɔtant. Nɔ tek dɛn tin dɛn we nɔ impɔtant.
• Nɔ fred fɔ aks fɔ ɛp. We yu tɔk to dɔktɔ, pɔsin we de gi advays, yu padi we yu kin abop pan, ɔ yu fambul, dat kin mek yu fil fayn.
• I tek tɛm fɔ wɛl, gi am tɛm. Bi gud to yusɛf.

Mɛmba se mama we strɔng nɔto pɔsin we nɔ de ɛva gɛt prɔblɛm, bɔt na pɔsin we de aks fɔ ɛp fɔ dil wit am we i kam. Yu gɛt ɔl wi lɔv ɛn sɔpɔt pan dis joyn!

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