As skul ɔlide de kam nia, sɔm mama ɛn papa dɛn kin plan fɔ sɛn dɛn pikin dɛn na lidaship kamp, skaut kamp, ɔ ɔda program usay pipul dɛn kin de. Na big tin fɔ di pikin in pasɔnaliti divɛlɔpmɛnt ɛn fiuja. Bɔt... we yu tink bɔt fɔ sɛn yu pikin fɔ sɔm dez, yu kin fil bak fɔ fred ɛn wɔri smɔl, nɔto so? "Mi pikin go de in wan de? I go get trobul? I go mis haus and kray?" I go mɔs bi se kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk dis de rɔn na yu maynd. Dis na rili sɔntin we bɔku mama ɛn papa dɛn kin fil.
Dis frayd nɔr kin jɔs apin to yu, bɔt na fɔ di pikin bak!
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, fɔ wɔri na wan tin we mama ɛn papa ɛn pikin dɛn kin tink bɔt we dɛn fɔ separet frɔm dɛn pikin dɛn dis kayn we. Bɔt dis wɔri kin kam difrɛn we dɛn. Lɛ wi luk di men kayn dɛn.
| Di kayn we aw pɔsin kin wɔri | Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan... |
|---|---|
| Fɔ Wɔri fɔ Separeshɔn | Dis na di tin we bɔku pipul dɛn kin du. Di fred ɛn sɔri we di pikin ɛn in mama ɛn papa kin fil we dɛn de fa frɔm dɛn mama ɛn papa we lɛk dɛn ɛn we de protɛkt dɛn ɛn dɛn os. |
| Sɔshial Wɔri | Fɔ fred pasmak fɔ fes nyu soshal ɛnvayrɔmɛnt, lɛk "Will other kids ostracize me?", "Wetin ɔda pipul dɛn go tink we dɛn si mi?", "A nɔ go ebul fɔ mek nyu padi dɛm?" |
| Jɛnɛralized Anxiety we pɔsin kin wɔri | Dis na wae yu de frayd ɔltin in jɛnɛral wae nɔr nid fɔ de, mɔr lɛk wae pɔrsin kin gɛt bad bad tin. Yu de wɔri, de tink bɔt tin dɛn lɛk "A go wund na di kamp?", "Sɔmtin big go apin?" |
Aw di fred we yu de fred kin afɛkt yu pikin
Wan pan di tin dɛn we impɔtant pas ɔl na ya na dat, wɔri kin rɔn na famili. Dat min se if mama ɛn papa dɛn de wɔri, pikin dɛnsɛf go fil am . Pikin dɛn rili sabi fɔ kɔpi di we aw dɛn mama ɛn papa de biev, di we aw dɛn de sho dɛn fes, ɛn di we aw dɛn de tɔk.
Imajin, if yu go fɔ drɔp yu pikin na kamp, wit kray wata na yu yay, ɛn se, "Tek tɛm, bɔy pikin/ gyal pikin... If ɛnitin apin, kɔl mi wantɛm wantɛm...", us kayn filin da pikin de go gɛt? I go bigin tink bak se, "If mama/papa de fred dis, dis fɔ bi ples we denja." So, yu frayd de pas to di pikin we yu nɔ ivin no. Sɔntɛnde, di mama ɛn papa kin wɔri pas di pikin.
Infakt, di big prɔblɛm we de ya na fɔ kɔntrol di mama ɛn papa in wɔri pas fɔ kɔntrol di pikin in wɔri.
So aw una go mek dis joyn bi gladi-at fɔ una ɔl tu?
Okay, so lɛ wi si wetin yu go du fɔ bia wit dis prɔblɛm. Dɛn tin ya go ɛp yu ɛn yu pikin.
1. Tɔk bɔt sɔlv, nɔto fɔ fred
We yu de tɔk to yu pikin, instead fɔ trɛtin am se, "Tek tɛm, yu go gɛt san bɔn," tray fɔ sɔlv di prɔblɛm fayn fayn wan. Aks yu pikin, "Di san kin harsh smɔl na kamp. So aw wi go protɛkt wisɛf frɔm am?" Dɔn dɛn go se, "A go wɛr hat," ɔ "A nɔ go de na di san fɔ lɔng tɛm." Dɔn yu kin se, "Dat na gud aidia. Bɔt i fayn bak fɔ yuz sanskrin . Naw we yu dɔn ol, yu kin mɛmba fɔ yuz am ɛvride." Dis go mek yu pikin gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan insɛf .
2. Bi rial tin.
As mama ɔ papa, i nɔmal fɔ mek yu fred fɔ mek yu pikin sef. Bɔt wi nid fɔ ɔndastand di rial tin. Insay kamp we dɛn ɔganayz fayn fayn wan, di chans fɔ mek pikin gɛt siriɔs aksidɛnt nɔ kin rili smɔl . Yɛs, smɔl smɔl skrap ɛn injuri kin apin. Bɔt dɛn kayn tin ya kin apin na nɔmal layf bak. Nɔ fred we yu nɔ nid bay we yu de tink bɔt bad bad tin dɛn lɛk "Sɔmbɔdi go tek mi pikin?". Ɛksplen dis rial tin to yu pikin bak. Klose to ɔl pikin kin kam bak na os afta dis ɛkspiriɛns gladi ɛn wit nyu tin na dɛn layf.
3. Kip di gudbai shɔt ɛn swit.
We yu go fɔ lɛf yu pikin na kamp, mek di gudbay shɔt as yu ebul. If yu ɔg yu pikin, kray, ɛn tɛl am gudbai wit sɔri we, dat go jɔs mek di pikin fil bad mɔ ɛn mɔ. I kin fil lɛk se i mek big mistek we i lɛf yu. So, smayl, ɛnkɔrej yu pikin, ɛn kɔmɔt de kwik kwik wan, ɛn se, "Go ɛnjɔy yusɛf!" Afta yu dɔn go , yu pikin go jɔyn di ɔda pikin dɛn insay sɔm minit, fɔgɛt ɔltin, ɛn bigin fɔ ple.
4. Yu de giv tins we de mek yu memba haus? Tink tu tɛm.
Fɔ sɔm pikin dɛn, fɔ kɛr sɔntin fɔ mɛmba dɛn na os, lɛk famili foto ɔ smɔl not we yu rayt, dat kin ɛp dɛn fɔ fil fayn. Bɔt fɔ sɔm pikin dɛn, dɛn tin ya kin mek dɛn fil lɛk dɛn os mɔ ɛn mɔ ɛn dɛn kin fil bad. So, dis na sɔntin we yu nid fɔ disayd fɔ yu pikin. Yu sabi yu pikin pas ɔlman. If yu tink se sɔntin lɛk dat go ɛnkɔrej dɛn, gi dɛn am. Bɔt if yu tink se i go mek dɛn fil bad mɔ ɛn mɔ, i bɛtɛ lɛ yu nɔ gi dɛn dɛn kayn tin dɛn de.
Dis ɛkspiriɛns na fayn chans na yu pikin in layf fɔ mek i ebul fɔ du tin fɔ insɛf, fɔ gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan insɛf, ɛn fɔ ebul fɔ bia wit prɔblɛm dɛn. Nɔ tek yu pikin da chans de bikɔs yu de fred ɛn wɔri.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Na nɔmal tin fɔ mek mama ɛn papa ɛn pikin dɛn fil fred ɛn wɔri we dɛn de sɛn dɛn pikin na kamp. Wi kin kɔl dis separeshɔn wɔri.
- Nɔ sho yu pikin wetin yu de fred, kɔntinyu fɔ tink gud wan. Yu pikin go luk ɔp to yu ɔltɛm as ɛgzampul.
- Tɔk to yu pikin bɔt aw fɔ sɔlv am, nɔto prɔblɛm. Gi dɛn wok ɛn abop pan dɛn.
- Kip di gudbai as shɔt as yu ebul. Fɔ lɔng tɛm ɛn sɔri gudbai, i kin mek di pikin in at pwɛl ɛn i kin mek i fred mɔ.
- Dis ɛkspiriɛns na fayn chans fɔ mek yu pikin gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan insɛf ɛn fɔ mek i ebul fɔ du wetin i want. Alaw am ɛn ɛnkɔrej am.
- If dis wɔri de afɛkt yu ɔ yu pikin we yu nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol, nɔ shem ɛn tɔk to yu dɔktɔ fɔ advays.
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